well im 14 years old im from chicago Ill, im a kinda shy person but sometimes i can be loud to. Im in the 8 grade love music, and love to sing im a great friend and always listen to people whenever they have a problems im always there.
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this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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From what i can tell you is this. Move one, forget about him, if he dont want you or dont want to have nothing to do with you theres nothing you can do about it. If you said everything to him and he still act the way he act then just forget it. I understand how it feels to love someone so much and you just cant forget bout them. But if thats the only choice you got then you gonna have to take it. And plus, no guy is worth the pain you been through you need to wake up see the main point here. If he put you through all this pain then he aint worth it. IF he got a girlfriend then leave them be. As i read through this i could see you been through alot, going to counceling, getting panic attacks, failing you dont need all that. You still young you have your whole life ahead of you. There are other boys out there, but what you really need is to stop thinking about him and get your life together before its to late. And another thing im not trying to blame you for yall break up but what you did was wrong. Cheating on him then thinking it was okay knowing how he felt about you. All i can say is just move on live your life dont let no boy control your life or get the best out of you.
Good luck :)
let me know how things goes!
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What are some signs that a guy likes you? Preferrably a guy you're friends with/talk to a lot in school? I've never had a boyfriend and no one's ever liked me as far as I know so I don't know this stuff too well lol. (link)
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Well sometimes when i aguy likes you, they will find excuse to talk to you. And when they do talk to you they would probaly try to flirt with you, smile at you alot. And maybe you should pay attention to there friends see how they act around you. They probaly would of make lil comments when you around, or smile at the boy as a way saying whoooh look who here. But just see how he acts around you.
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Okay I probably sound like really lame and immature or something but i'm going to say this anyway. Okay so theres this chatroom that I go on. I met this guy and we talked a lot(we'll call him D). One day he told me he liked me, and I like him too. We're not going out or anything, but we would like to meet in the future and see where things go. He's joining the marines so he's gone right now for bootcamp. Since he's been gone things have been a little tough and I really miss talking to him. We used to talk everyday for hours on end. Well I started talking to this other guy(we'll call him J). I've grown to like him a lot. I can't figure out if it's just because D is gone and everything or if I really do like him. The strange part about it is, is that it's almost like a need. I'm not quite sure how to explain it. J is just really amazing, and I like him a lot, well as much as you can like someone without meeting them in person. J has a son who's a year old. The story with that, is that his girlfriend and him broke up during the pregnancy but she didnt want the kid, but he wanted it. So he's a single parent, still in high school (he's 17), and just really sweet and amazing. I love kids and would love to have kids young. I think that's one of the things that attracts me to him is that he has a kid. He said the youngest he'd date is 16, which kind of sucks for me since i'm 15. I like to think i'm pretty mature for my age. Most people say I am, so I guess it's true. D is really sweet and amazing as well, but there's just not that attraction that there is with J. D is 18 by the way. Anyway I just wanted to get some opinions about this. Like what do you think about the situation? What would you do? By the way I hope you don't think i'd meet either of these guys by myself or without knowing their not pedophiles are anything, because I wouldnt. (link)
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Well i think you should go for the one you have the most feelings for. The one you feel comfortable talking with and your feel right with. Plus i dont wanna sound all mothery on you lol but D is a lil to old for you anyways. Even though age aint nothing but a number you really should think about it. But really you should just go for what your heart is telling you. And it sounds like this J guy is a really good guy and you cant find that many good guys often.
hope i helped:)
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well heres a summary of the last few months with me n a guy named jack.
june 2008- we had known eachother for about a year but only became good frends at this time.
august- became best frends and started hanging out everyday.
september 2008- we were best friends but started to notice maybe we were a little more than that.
october- started to realize that we really liked eachother more than just best frends.
november- started hooking up n realized that we loved eachother more than anything.
december- got in alot of fights because of the fact he was with other girls yet he sed he loved me so much. but it wasnt a deal breaker because we werent actually dating. we acted just like we were dating except for the other girls involved with him. after a big fight he sed he was gonna stop talking to other girls and that he loved me and wanted me and only me. so we started dating.
january 2009- everything seemed to be going fine then one week he started acting like he was in a really bad mood but he wouldnt tell me why. i asked n asked then figured id just leave it alone. he basically was ignoring me half the time so i figured we needed to talk.
yesterday january 15th- he told me he wasnt mature enough for a relationship so i didnt even know wat to say. this guy who i love more than anything was basically breaking up with me. he sed he wanted our relationship to be the same but without the title. so basically still hooking up and hangining out everyday and tellin eachother how much we love eachother. which is the same as december except for the girls. so he sed he wasnt gonna get with other girls n i agreed the same. he sed that the title was putting pressure on our relationship n that he didnt think we would make it. his exact words were- " i just think that since we started dating uve stopped speaking ur mind because your afraid of what i will say and the only thing i want is for you to be completely honest with me".
january 16th today- i was really upset about what had happened n im terrible at hiding my feelings but jack came up in the foyer n hugged me but it was an awkward 1 arm hug n no words were exchanged. In the hallway in between classes we hugged a few times but never sed anything. at the end of the day i gave him a hug n asked if he was ok n he nodded n went to class.
i dont know what to do because i cant even imagine him not being in my life and i love him so much but i hate us being like this. i want everything to go back to normal but i dont undersatnad why he wants us to have the boyfrend girlfrend relationship but without calling it boyfrend girlfrend because he says theres too much pressure that way. i do speak my mind to him even though at times he thinks i dont n i want things to be good between us. what should i say to him?
thanx sooooo soooooooo much 4 the help! (link)
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You should tell him how you feel, like everything from the begining to the end. Tell him how much he means to you and how you feel about him. And maybe this guy need to take some time to figure out what he wants and also maybe you should do the same to. If he messing around with other girls than he might not be ready to make a relationship commit. All i can tell you is that both of yall need to sit down and talk to eachother about how yall feel towards one another and go on from there. See what happens.
Good Luck!!:)
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Okay,
I have no idea why the question comes up now, (It's been almost 8 months) I guess I'm just curious.
My exboyfriend and I dated for five years, I left him in May (I do not wish to discuss why) during our relationship we were miserable. One time while we were dating he mentioned we should get to know other people and he mentioned one girl that he liked back in high school, (He mentioned he liked her 5 years later by the way) meaning that he has no idea where she is etc. However I didn't think anything of it at the time because we were in a 5 year relationship and I always thought it would be impossible for him to cheat on me anyway seeing he NEVER left his apartment. Okay, Well I recently found him on Facebook and he is in a relationship with antoher girl and it's the same girl he mentioned while we were dating?!?!?! Not that I care really I don't, I moved on also but the fact that it occassionally crosses my mind... I wanted to know if he cheated on me. During our relationship he used to always say mean things to me like (I don't think this is working out, We don't have anything in common, We are two different people, We should move on etc) However, He never had the guts to leave me...and I eventually got fed up with him and left him.
What do you think? (link)
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Well it could be that he did cheated on you, or it could of been the fact that he didnt cheat on you, he wanted to break up with you but didnt know how to tell you and prbaly didnt want to hurt you . Maybe he had this gurl on his mind and as soon as yall broke up he went straight to her. Im not saying thats what happen but it could be a possiblity.
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back in december, me and my boyfriend ray broke up. it was totally my fault. i got really really fucked up. i ended up cheating on him with one of his old friends. i felt so bad i had to tell him. he says that we can still be friends cause we were best friends before we started dating. but then he tells everyone else he hates me and shit. im ok with that, i understand how he feels. i would be the same way. he talks so much shit about me. but i understand. i was going to break up with him anyway but i wasnt in the right. well ray has this friend nick, whose been one of my boys for a while. well me and nick have been hanging out for a little bit and i am really starting to get feelings for him. and he's the same way. but idk what to do because of ray. if he ever found out he would flip. and nick doesnt want to ruin his friendship with ray. (link)
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Well i think you should just go for it. You and your ex are over so you shouldnt have nothing to worry about. He just got to accept that. And if he was really a good friend he wwould understand about it. I mean he cant stop you to from going out.
good luck!
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alright well this kid is like my life okay? i love him so much.but it seems like he doesn't like me at all.like when we're talking on aim..he doesn't talk much unless we're talking about his ex,or if we're talking about something he's going to do today or something like that.and when i bring something up and then go "oh nvm" he's always like "tellll meeeee" and it makes me think he cares..but he does that to everyone.even people that he hates.because hes just a curious person.what do i do? (link)
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Well for one thing you should tell him how you feel and maybe he will feel the same way, you never know unless you try.
good luck!
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wat if you like someone but the boy you like said they dont want you on their myspace and lets say he didnt tell you exactly someboy dat was talkin to him said he did but then again he doesnt add u! wat does that mean
thanks! (link)
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well either they dont like you or if they dont know you and maybe dont want nobody that they are not close to or dont know that well but you need to ask thats persn why.
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Do i really need love? I mean all my friends have at least kissed one guy and I haven't kissed, hugged or made physical contact with any of my past bf's. My first bf only touched my leg. My 2nd one was too creepy to do anything. My 3rd one never talked to me. How can i get a good boyfriend? HELP. I'm not enjoying being single much anymore. Please, i need emergency dating tips! PLEASE! I want ot date again. Sure my first experiences sucked, but still... Not all guys are shallow, right? HELP! (link)
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you know wat being single aint alwayz bad but then again it is but no matter how many boyfriends you have there always a right person for somone and you just got to wait for that.one day you will find ur special person and you will love them and they will love you for who you are but untill then you are young and you are experience alot of things but hey thats part of life and part of growing up and you will keep on experience boys untill you find the right one and you will know.
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i reallyreally like him
i talk to him everyday
but yesterday was the first day i didnt talk to him
i commented him yeterday and was like hi.. we barley talk anymore=/
cuase the past few days our conversationts would be like dead and idk whats going on
hes the type of guy that would get with any girl for action cuase hes always horny like that
and he commented me back saying thats too bad vagina? and im like um no. then hes like penis and im like noo. ill just stop talking and he never commented back
and he does weed so i think he might of been high at the time or it was his friends saying that
i dont know what to do. cusae i realllly wanna talk to him
but i dont know if he feels the same way?
i dont know if i should text him..or just give him space and let him come talk to me?
but im sure if i give him space he will just forget about me and go get with another girl
and im sure everyne reading this is like wow just leave him hes not worth your time
but he is worth my time becuase i want this to last becuase i like him alot.
so any advice? (link)
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well maybe you should try and talk to him tell him whats been goin on between yall two cuz it seems like to me that he is one of those guys that think they can get any girl they want and know how to make a fool out of them.You need to tell him how u feel about him and ask him if he feels the same way, and it maybe hard but you have to give it a try somehow.But im goin to tell you this that those kinds of guys are not good for you and aint worth it espaclly if they do drugs and stuff they will try to get to you and use you. But hey thats your business so yea but like i said just talk to him and see how things work out. good luck and tell me how it go.
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kay so i like this guy and i am not sure that he like me back.and i have liked him for a year and a half. do i give up and move on or wait a little longer and see what will happen.pleezzee help!!!! he hasnt said that he likes me but he also hasnt said he doesnt (link)
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then you should make a move then and tell him that you like him or ask him out or somthing and maybe he might feel the same way.
good luck!
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ok well im 15/f and my ex bf is 16. WE broke up before my birthday which was april 11th. He called me to wish me a happy birthday and ever since then we have been talking. He asked me what would i say if i we went back out. I told him i would think about it. Well one of his best friends said that lately he has been doing drugs for the past month and stuff. I asked him about it and he said that he does do drugs now and he sells it now too. Well thats just not cool to me but i love him alot i mean hes the one who broke up with me i didnt want to lose him. I dont know wat to do i want to go back out with him but im not sure if thats a good idea?!? i need help thinking of the pros and cons of me going out with him if hes going to do this. Im not sure why he does this i mean he has money he doenst need any im the one that doesnt have hardly any money ever! i just want him to stop doing that shit but he told me that he wasnt and he told me that i shouldnt care because i do that shit too but i dont i told him i dont and i never will. I need HELp! please help me anyone i would like to hear alot of people's opinions and ideas. thanks :]
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well all i can say is that maybe you should just forget about him, if he does drugs and sell them then you dont wan to be around someone like that because they can put you in danger.It might sound stupid but its true i mean think about it what if he slick somting iun your pockest or whatever and then the police found about it.And to me he dont sound like a guy you want to be around with but all i can say is just leaving if he broke up with you the first time aint no doubt he might do it again. hope i help and good luck.
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Theres this guy I have like since first grade. I really really like him; I was always hoping I would see him outside of school or whatever. Well, I never stopped liking him. He is in some of my classes. The only thing is, I think he does drugs. I know he smokes something or other. He gets in trouble all the time and stuff. I know I really really DONT want to go out with him, but for some reason I find myself going over there to say hi to him. I CANT make my self stop. Any advice???? (link)
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well if he smokes do drugs or any of that stuff than he aint good for you.you dont want a guy thats not good and hang in the streets all the time.I think its oka to say hi to him but if you really want to go otu with him then you should think about it first.
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okay here's the prob. there's this boy i like and i really dont know him but i see him most of the time and he knows me a lil bit. i dont know if he likes me because i dont talk 2 him because im shy towards boys. anyways wat do u think i should do? (link)
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well i think you should make a move, go talk to him and stop being so shy.make the first move and if he know who you are than maybe it might be easier.All i have to say if make that freaking move now! or someone esle will and you wil be crying like a lil baby.
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4 days ago she started to feel sick the same time she ate a meat lovers pizza, and now she always throwing up and sick, all the signs or being pregant, but she gets that 3everytime she eats meat. so is she or does she just have food poison btw, a comdum brokke in her about two weeks ago though she is on the pill and the condum had spermicide (link)
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well one to see if she really is pregant maybe you should go to a doctor or watever to take a test and see. Second it might be food poisoning or somthing that she might be allergic to anyhow i just think yall should go to the doctor and see.
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okay, i just realized that my boyfriend can be really controlling at points.
like earlier today, i was on the phone with him and i was on myspace too, and he asked me if i was on myspace and i told him i was and he got mad because i have a bone disease in my wrist and so it like makes it worse when i type and so he got mad and he was like you didnt tell me that you were gonna get on the computer. and he does that constantly.
and he sometimes treats me like his dog or pet or something.
like at church if i just stand there and dont follow him, he'll like yell at me and say something like get your butt over here! or why aren't u coming with me? and he'll say it with an attitude and it seems like hes the one on his period.
but i just dont know what to do about it.
should i wait a couple of days and see if it gets worse or talk to him about it???
please and thank you. (link)
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oka one controlling boyfriend are a pain in the ass dont take that shit form him at all.And when yall talk on the phone and he ask what you doin you dont have to tell him everything you doing its really not his bussnies just say notihing just chillin or watever.Second talk to him tell him how you feel about what he doing to you,and dont be afraid to tell him.And third having a controlling boyfriend can lead to somting worse like abruse or somthing somtimes sometimes not but you really need to talk to him straight form your heart of how you feel
good luck.
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well theres this guy i like and i dont know if he likes me or not i mean we dont really talk that much but i really really like him. also there his a school dance(middle school) coming up and im wondering if i should ask him or not? should i? is it okay for a girl to ask a guy to a dance or should he ask her? im mean what if he doesnt like me would it be akward then? sshould i ask him? (link)
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i think you should ask him if you really really like him and if you dont do it right away then someone else might will.
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I'm a 21 year old female. I live in Pennsylvania. I met this guy about two weeks ago off of a dating website. He lives in Canada. I know two weeks doesn't seem long, and to fall in love with someone you've never physically met is stupid, but this guy stole my heart. I instantly fell in love with how much of a gentleman he was, how much he cared about me, and how sweet he was. I'd never felt so happy in my entire life. People actually commented me on how happy and alive I seemed. We got into some sort of argument over something, and he told me that he felt as if we were too incompatible. And the distance. I told him I'd move to him and everything. The thing is, I just can't get over this. I cried the hardest i've ever cried before in my life last night. I didn't sleep a wink, I got up for work at 5:30 this morning feeling like a zombie. I sat at work for three hours just staring into space, not doing anything, feeling like I didn't even exist. I haven't had anything to eat since 7:00 last night... the thought of putting food near my mouth just makes me sick to my stomach. I came home from work at 11:00 because the pain was just too much to handle. What should I do? I don't know how to cope with this at all. (link)
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i can see waht you going through of course i never had my heart breaken by someone but i never fell in love with someone. But i can tell you is that i know its hard getting over someone especailly someone you care about. So the best thing you could do is tey doing things that make you feel better you know, like shopping, or goin out with friends, have fun and party.Dont cry over someone everyday because its not healthy for you i mean its ok to cry a coupl of times just dont do it to much. Just try to forget all your problems do things that you enjoy and maybe that get your mind off things and him. good luck.
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I am 13/f and my best friend just talked to my bf and he said that he was going to kiss me this weekend. This will be my first kiss and I have never really been more nervous for anything. LOL!I was just wondering if anyone had any tips on first time kissing. Any would help. ( I really don't want to hear that it comes naturally, or just relax and it will be fine, I really want good tips) Thanks so much x0x0x0x0x0
Love,
Im almost to the point of having a break down. lol
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well i kinda understand what you mean i remeber my first kiss and i would ask quetions like how should i kiss him and how does it feel and stuff like that. but it aint really that bad it jusr depends on how you kiss him i mean thereis lot of ways to kiss a guy but if u really nervous about it take it slow like the first kiss can be like a lil kiss no tongue or you know just a kiss like you kissing your mom or somtin . just relax and it want be so bad trust me.
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