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16/f
I have alot of stuff on my mind lately. A little over a month ago, me and this guy (we'll call him Ed) broke up. We were together for 5 months. They were best 5 months of my life, but at the same time the worst. I've tried for a whole month to get over him and move on. I was "talking" to this other guy (we'll call him Bob). Four days ago, I had sex with him. Now it turns out, at the same he was "talking" to me, he was "talking" to two other girls. Now, this other guy (we'll call him George) wants to go out with me and I think I may have led him on. Not purposely. See, i thought I was finally ready for "commitment"..an actual boyfriend. But I'm not. I just want to have fun. I'm almost positive I'm in love with Ed, and I'm never going to forget Bob. I need to stop hanging out with Bob because he's been lying to me. But I can't, it's like I'm addicted to him. I have feelings for him but in a different way. It's like I just want us to be "friends with benefits". Tonight, George is supposed to come over but I'd rather sit at home alone and think about everything. So I have to tell him I don't want a boyfriend. I need advice (obviously). What should I do about Ed? Should I stop hanging out with Bob or just talk to him about it? How do I tell George I don't want to be with him, or anyone..for a long time? If someone could give me their AIM screen name, that'd be appreciated. I need someone, other than my friends, to talk to. (link)
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ok listen i would definitly move on just talk to both of them tell them you are not ready to have a boyfriend yo thought you were commited to having one but unfortunately your not and tell ed that when you guys broke up you couldnt get him off your mind but tell him that doesnt mean you still have him on your mind you just want to be friend with both of them. Try that and let me no how it works
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hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!- (link)
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of course i would never sneak. I am going to tell you to talk to her i mean tell her she really needs to lighten up. But dont be mean say it in a nice way
TRY THAT
~advice girl
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26/m
i don't know what to expect from this but here goes.
everytime i really start liking a woman i always end up being "like a brother", this last time seemed to have taken the life out of me to the point where i start feeling resentfull towards woman and sociaty in general.
I really want a girlfriend, and always try to be just myself, but nobody seems interested, EVER. i've never had a girlfriend, i really can't believe that i'm such a big loser.
I really don't know what to do anymore :( (link)
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Listen just keep being yourself and girls like the sweet guy but dont throw yourself towards them. They wouldnt like that.
-Advice lady
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this is going to be long and i will need serious answers. okay, so i like these 2 boys. like, i realllyy like them. so anyway. lets call them m and p. so i went out with m before and i really liked him and then it ended , but that was a year ago. and we have classes together and we see eachother and we sometimes hangout and i like him. but i kinda don't really wanna go back to him because i feel that would be a mistake..but i really like him. and then theres p. we've talked all of twice but i get this crazy feeling that i like him so much. and i mean before school i stand with people in which he stands too and i just completely fell for him and i dont understand why. so basically i'm asking two questions:
1. if you were me, who would you choose?
2. if i were not to choose m, the one i dont really wanna go back to, and i chose p, how could i start to talk to him online or kinda build up a friendship. oh, and like how to make it completely unawkward if i just randomly imed him online.
P.S. They are both on the same basketball team? if that helps. could i start a conversation with p about basketball? or would that be weird? (link)
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if i was you then i would choose P i think that you should start out new. Stay friends with M. Start to build a friendship with p. When you stand with that group stand next to him talk about basketball but dont start to get to obsessed with it because it might sound to him like you are weird.
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Alright so I know people ask this a lot but hey help me out too. So there's this guy who we can call Joe and we were both at a party last night. Well I got really tired so I decided to go lie on the couch and he was there so I used his arm for a pillow. Well, I gradually got more comfortable and so did he and he had his hand on my stomach and he was playing with my arm all cute and stuff and we were holding hands (with the one that was on my stomach) and everytime hed get up hed come back and get in the same position again. We're friends and that's just not how our friendship is like if I give him a hug in the hall hes like "Oh hey Susan." and its just a brief hug. Do you guys think he likes me as more than a friend? I think I like him as more than one so I don't want to get my hopes up.
Thanks
PS when I was asleep on him he whispered to my friend and asked her if I liked him if that means anything (link)
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That could mean something. ASk him to go to like the movies or something with you go on a few dates and that could soon turn into something more than being JUST FRIENDS!!
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okay. 15/f. so ive been in a tangle of relationships latel. my boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me less than 2 weeks ago. so just last weekend i thought okay. im getting over you so im going to go out and have some fun. well. he did the same thing. i didnt care at all but he called up one of my friends all mad bc i was out with another guy. i explained to him he cant tie me down nemore bc we arent dating. well get got mad at me. so then this tuesday he got a new girlfriend. againg. i dont even care. and hes trying to make me jealous!! because i was with the other guy. is there anyother weay i can tell him im not going to get jealous of him and his new girfriend and he cant get mad at me for being with another guy, because ive tryed talking to him and ignoring hiom. but it didnt work. AND hes been spreading rumors about me. and its making me hate him. ive tried being nice but its not working.(he thinks im trying to get on him when im nice) ive tryed ignoring him. but he just gets mad. ive tryed being mean back but then he spreads rumors. and tells people everything ive told him. SO IM JUST SICK OF IT AND DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT ALL THE DRAMA HES CAUSING.
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Well it is very good that you are not jealous. That is definitely the mature thing to do. I think you should go up to his girlfriend, and i think you should ask her to talk to him. Tell her what he is doing see what she can do about it if there is nothing she can do let me no. I will give you some more advice.
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i have this amazing boyfriend who i love talking on the phone with for hours and i love him now i no this is going to sound shallow but whenever i see him i think ew how ugly cause he got pimples should i break up with him or what i need help cause i am seeing him in like 2 weeks 13/f >3 (link)
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well i no this might not help but just go with your instincts i mean if he is ugly with the pimples and you dont think he is attractive then break up with him..
TRY THAT
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Okay so theres this guy(we'll call him M.S)....and i really REALLY like him, like he's all i think about. But i don't think he likes me. I mean i told him n he didn't really say n e thing but if he liked me he would have done somethin right? Well, a couple of days ago i found out that this other guy liked me (we'll call him C.C)Well me n C.C are pretty good friends n we hang out n the classes we have together, but i don't kno if i really see him as a friend. People say that I should give him a chance n stuff n i really don't wanna hurt his feelings but i just can't get over the other guy. What do i do?
~Helpless~ (link)
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Well I suggest you choose neither because then its just heartack for one guy and guess what HEARTACK FOR YOU!! you cant go through that and if the other guy really likes you he should tell you just go with neither find someone that is really commited to love!! There is no real cure for true love!
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Okay.....how do you get over a guy you really like? Do you go out with someone else to get ur mind off him? Or do you just let things be n see what happens? Help Please!! (link)
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i think you shouldnt get another guy then you might think that the guy you liked likes you and he might be jealous so i suggest not getting another guy theres no real cure for true love!
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im 16/f and i met this guy during my summer job. and up till this day ive been thinking about him none stop. before my job ended i gave him my number, well sort of. im not going to get into major detail but basically he got my number but he might of gotten the impression that i didnt want him to have it. but now somebody gave me his email address and i dont know if i should email him because i keep thinking if he wanted to talk to me he would call but he hasnt yet. but then again hes a great guy and i dont want to loose touch of him. we liked eachother through the summer but never hooked up because hes like 8 years older than me. so should i email him or just leave it alone?? thanks yall i'll rate high! (link)
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In my opinion, i say go for it and dont go for it. I say go for it because it could be a good experience. But the reason i say dont go for it is because if he is much older then you then you dont want to waste your time on trying to get a guy that might not have even wanted you.
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So; I'm gonna try and make this short but its kind of a long story. So I've liked this guy since the beginning of the year and i havent really talked to him much. Well my friend rides his bus and was talking to him one day about the upcoming dance. She asked him if he liked anybody and he said no, so she told him she knew of someone who liked him. Somehow his friend Chris found out and told him and I didnt know any of this until the next day. The next afternoon when my friend was riding the bus she was like so you know who likes you? and hes like yeah. and shes like well do you like her and hes like I dont really know her. Than like a week later once I had made up my mind that I didnt like him anymore, she asked him again. And he replied.. I dont really know her. Its kind of awkward now knowing that he knows I like him, otherwise I would start a conversation with him. But I've been noticing lately that he pays more attention to me. Maybe he wants to find out what I'm like but hes too shy to talk to me too? (he doesnt talk much) I dont know. Then there's another boy whom I sort of like. He's a grade younger than me so I don't see him much in school but when I do he always picks on me and I usually talk to him online. He used to be really easy, if you know what I mean, like like any girl who likes him so I thought it would be pretty easy. But than I realized I wanted him to actually like me or not like me at all.. but hes not like that anymore. I just don't know how to get him to notice me like that esp. since hes like some of my friends in the past =/ (link)
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i say just be yourself and i am sure one day he will come to his senses and like you back! you need to have some confidence in yourself. One day you will find the right guy and you will forget about all the other guys and only think about HIM.
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What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true? (link)
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yes it is true because if you are exactly the same its not going to work out! opposites attract because you dont know about each other and they will attract because they will want to no more
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so I've told the guy I like that I like him, but we only really talk online now, because I dont really see him at school.. & we were never like, REALLY good friends or anything, but we would talk before our classes started last year, because we had a few classes together, but this year I dont even have LUNCH with him.. but now I just want to hang out with him sometime, but I dont know how to ask him, or get to where we can hang out. I dont want him to think i want to hang out with him to like, do something, i mean, I have never had a bf or been kissed or anything like that. I just want to hang out with him for a little while, so he can actually see what I am really more like outside of school, but in person too! I dont know how to do it..
please help? I just want to hang out with him now, but he seems to be busy, & we are only freshmen, but he has all these upperclassmen friends.. i mean, juniors & seniors, so I feel like, i am just another random, freshman that he talks to sometimes. its just wierd, & I want to hang out with him sooo bad, & maybe teach me how to play guitar. hes the best at that. omg. sorry. but please help!! (link)
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ok, you need to get the courage and ask him because if you dont then there really is no chance for you to. If you dont do it now who knows when you will ever find someone you like and you have to find out one time or another if he thinks of you as a friend or more then a friend and i think, if you want to play guitar and him teach you would be a great way for you to to bond!!!
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ok, so it was just last night that I had my first slow dance ever. & it was with just who i wanted it to be with, my crush. & he knows i like him, most people say it was a bad idea telling him, but i think its good, we talk way more now!!.. but anyways, we danced to this song that was like "you cant tell me its not worth fightin for" & I thought it was sooo true in my case. but anyways, the whole time we were dancing he was talking to this other girl, who is way skinnier & prettier than me :( & I felt soo bad because I was just thinking, "whats the point on dancing with him. its just breaking my heart more.. does he even care how i feel?" & when the song ended, ((luckily it was the 2nd to last song of the night)) I just sat on the wall & cried, because, it broke my heart more dancing with him but still knowing that I can never have him! what should I do?! I want to be with him so bad, but it seems like he doesnt care that much. I cant let him go, & I dont want to. I want to hang out with him, & get to be better friends, but I dont know how! please please please help!! (link)
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well you should have talked to him when you slow danced with him in the hallway find him and if you have any classes with him walk with ask him to hang outnd soon you will find out more about him and he will find out more bout you and will soon like you as much as you like him!
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ok there is this chick and she hates my guts cuz she thinks i was saying stuff about her bestfriend!(i didnt)!and she absoulutley hated this one guy but as soon as she found out that i liked him she was all over him an dnow they r going out and she doesnt even like the guy!wat should i do do i tell him that she is just using him!(now all her friends are rubbing it in my face that the 2 of them are going out)wat do i do
plzz answer asasp!!!
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tell him. let him no that she is just using him she doesnt really love him he shouldnt have someone who will use him he needs someone who will love him for him!
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im 14 and my girlfriend is 13. we have been going out for 4 months. she told me that she wants to make out with me. part of me wants too but the other part says no because we kissed for the first time last night at a dance. do you think i should make out with her now or not? if not how long should i wait? (link)
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i think just wait for alittle while longer till your just a tiny bit older. Too young to start. Just think what might happen if you give her the wrong idea
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a week. I'm not really into him like I thought I would be so I'm going to break up with him. However, he's getting me a christmas present. What do I do? If he gives me the present before I get the chance to tell him its over what do I do? I feel guilty cause he's probably already bought my present. I'm also pretty scared to break up with him cause he really really likes me, and I feel bad for not feeling the same. Please Help. (link)
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breaking up is hard to do... we all no that but i think you should wait till after christmas see what happens maybe you will change your mind about him... if you do then stay if this doesnt help please let me no
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Is it weird that im in 7th grade and havnt had my first kiss yet?? i mean, so many people in my grade have been kissed. Am im like, a freak or something? (link)
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no your not a freak one day you will find the right guy and one day when the time is right he will kiss you it might not be today it might a yeaar but u will get ur first kiss believe me!!
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Every guy that I like only thinks of me as a 'good friend'. What should I do? Should I act different, telling them that I like them doesn't seem to make a difference. I don't like being just everyone's friend,...I want more than that... (link)
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just be yourself one day a guy will like you more than a friend
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lately me and the boyfriend have been having a lot of problems...a lot of which are over things that shouldn't matter. we've been together for almost four years, and all of this tension is finally getting to me.
my question to you is what do you think i should do? we've tried resolving these arguments and learn from them but there hasn't been any success. it's just like deja vu all over again. i've tried talking to him numerous times, and in the end, everything just turns out the same.
i love the guy, but sometimes i think that it's logical to break up with him. he says to me that he can't handle a "break", so what am i to do? i want to stay and work it out, but it seems sometimes that i'm the only one putting effort into improving this relationship... (link)
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of course you know that bf/gf fights and just tell him that you are really serious about the relationship and you really want it to work out and tell him you dont think it can work out if you guys dont settle these fights
let me no how it worked out
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