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my first slow dance
ok, so it was just last night that I had my first slow dance ever. & it was with just who i wanted it to be with, my crush. & he knows i like him, most people say it was a bad idea telling him, but i think its good, we talk way more now!!.. but anyways, we danced to this song that was like "you cant tell me its not worth fightin for" & I thought it was sooo true in my case. but anyways, the whole time we were dancing he was talking to this other girl, who is way skinnier & prettier than me :( & I felt soo bad because I was just thinking, "whats the point on dancing with him. its just breaking my heart more.. does he even care how i feel?" & when the song ended, ((luckily it was the 2nd to last song of the night)) I just sat on the wall & cried, because, it broke my heart more dancing with him but still knowing that I can never have him! what should I do?! I want to be with him so bad, but it seems like he doesnt care that much. I cant let him go, & I dont want to. I want to hang out with him, & get to be better friends, but I dont know how! please please please help!! <3
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well you should have talked to him when you slow danced with him in the hallway find him and if you have any classes with him walk with ask him to hang outnd soon you will find out more about him and he will find out more bout you and will soon like you as much as you like him!
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Oh man. Your first slow dance ever and with your "dream guy," and it didn't work out the way you had fantasized. I'm really sorry that happend. I know it must have felt like the pits and I'm so sorry that you ended up crying your eyes out. ¡Pobresita! I feel for you, but believe me, we've all gone through something similar if not the exact thing. It may have felt like the end of the world, but it wasn't. Read on:
I don't know if this guy was just being rude, or if he was being rude (he probably had no idea he was being this way) and he's the type of guy who just chats it up with all sorts of people any chance he gets. He's either a guy who doesn't get too serious with anyone; tries to pretend like he's maybe serious about too many girls; or, he just doesn't get into slow dancing like you do. (A lot of girls find slow dancing way more romantic than guys. And some guys get a little scared of that romantic notion. They don't know how to act.) Whatever the case, he was insensitive to you whoever you are to him. But especially since you told him that you like him, he was even more insensitive. Though, again, he may not have even realized that. He could just be the type of person who doesn't get all that serious and likes to just have fun whenever he's around a lot of people.
Please, please don't get into comparing your looks to other girls (or women, later in your life). I'm sure you're just beautiful and you sound like a sweetheart. You really have no idea why he was talking to this other girl. But if she was dancing with someone, then I doubt that he was flirting with her while he was dancing with you and she was dancing with someone else. That would be pretty stupid.
Why do you think he danced with you to begin with? I'd think about that. My guess is that he wouldn't have danced with you if he wasn't interested in you in some way. OK, maybe as a friend, but knowing that you like him, I'd bet he was thinking of you as maybe more than a friend. Most guys don't dance with just anyone.
It sounds as though you are wearing your feelings on your sleeve right now - feeling vulnerable because you told him somethng so special and personal. Because of that (and it is very understandable to feel that way especially if people are telling you you shouldn't have told him anything), then I think you may be taking things a little too personally and misreading him. You say that ever since you told him that you like him you guys have been talking a lot more. That's great. So, you two are talking more AND you danced together. Wow! Both of those things are good indicators that he probably likes you too.
Try not to read into things so much and just go with the flow right now if you can. That means that you might want to take it a little easier and slow down a bit. Don't talk about how much you like him to all sorts of people. He may find that scary eventually and not know what to do. Give him some space and just see where things lead. Do NOT ignore him to give him space. Just don't crowd him if you know what I mean. Try not to be clingy.
If for some reason this guy is the type of guy to flirt with all sorts of girls and doesn't commit to any relationship, or he doesn't seem to be giving you the respect you deserve, then you will need to work on doing what you said you can't and don't want to do: let go. As hard as that sounds, you CAN do it and it may be the best thing for you so that you don't feel hurt all the time. But I would suggest that you not write this relationship off just yet. Get to know him better and CONTINUE talking to him like you guys have been doing. Don't bring up the dance and simply act like all is well between the two of you because I'm betting all IS well. Don't push him away by acting jealous and hurt. You guys have barely started anything and I think you need to relax and enjoy this friendship that may indeed turn into something more.
I'm sorry you felt so bad and that you're feeling a little desperate right now. But take a deep breath, try not to assume anything, get to know this guy better, and don't give up yet! Keep your chin held high and show some dignity by trying to gather up some self-esteem. You did nothing wrong by telling him that you like him. I bet he thinks you're sweet for telling him that. Just continue being your sweet self. You'll be okay, I promise. Good luck. You never know what may happen...
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awww...i feel so bad. Boys are like that..he obviously knows that you like him so he'll play hard to get and go flirt with other girls just to get you jealous and want him more. Dont put yourself down and complain about how ugly you are compared to that girl because no boy is worth crying over. My advice would be is to just play hard to get and act as if you dont like him anymore by not really talking or caring for what he says..im sure this boy isn't worth the drama..NO boy is! hope i made sense!
~ANGELA~
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