'allo!! My name is Helen and i'd very mucho love to answer your questions. chances are i don't really know the answer, but i like to pretend i do. just drop a question in my inbox and i'll answer it whatever it is. i have the unfortunate and unpleasureable duty to inform you that... nevermind.
about me??? oh..k
i'm 14, 5"7, hazel eyes, stawberry blond hair, errr...
i love the strokes (julian v. v. v. hot...
wouldn't you agree? too bad he's getting married...sigh), weezer, coldplay, maroon 5 (kind of), switchfoot's pretty good, reading, and writing.
(oh, and i'm a level 1 moderator)
"Be content with what you are, and wish not change; nor dread your last day, nor long for it"
~Marcus Valerius Martailis
"I believe in imagination. What i cannot see is infinately more important than what i can see."
~adreane rich
"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and to be loved in return" -the moulin rouge
"But that's not how it works, is it? And maybe its better that way. Because some things are never meant to be anything more than a moment."
~Lucas, by kevin brooks
"A friend will overlook your broken down gate and admire your flowers in the window box."
~unknown
"People don't like it when they don't know what you are. They don't like things that don't fit. It frightens the,. They'd rather have a monster they know, than a mystery they don't."
~Lucas, by Kevin Brooks
"Because he's my friend. Because I know where he stands, and where I stand with him. Because I think he'd die for me, and- and i think i'd die for him." ~allana, by tamora pierce
"The difference between possible and impossible lies with the person's determination"
~ Tommy LaShond
"Being different, being against the grain of society is the greatest thing in the world."
~ Elijah Wood
"A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you could invent."
~ William Blake
"Never let your feet run faster than your shoes." ~ Scotish proverb
(does anyone know how i can get that effing picture out of here? my brother put it there and i can't get it off!)
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Ok, say your friend with the coolest most cool girl in the entire world, and her name is...um...for the heck of it, let's say Olivia. Say she invites you to join the most cool thing in the entire world and it's called....hum....let's say TBC. Say you really really really want to join it, so you do. So say you get to your first competition, and you totally blank out, what do you do? i was thinking dance like a chicken, but i don't know if that would work?!! (link)
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you just sit there and let all the other people answer the questions. if you don't know the answers, don't pretend you do. just sit back, relax, and let leah do all the work. you'll still get first place. with her and jordan together (i'm just choosing random names of people to represent folks on your team) you'll be ahead of everyone else. heck, you might even get 4th place overall after your team only having started after the first 2 competitions. let me know how it goes.
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hey my name is sami and im 14. i really like my guy friend. he used to like me too at the begininng of summer but now that school has started i dont know anymore. i try hinting that i like him in my AIM profile and stuff and then he trys to guess who it is. and when he guesses himself i just say no. im too embarassed to say yes cause i dont wanna make our friendship too akward if he doesnt like me too.. ive asked my friends and they dont think i should tell him. i dont know im crazy about him but what should i do? thanks in advance. -sami- (link)
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sorry, but the only way he's gonna know if you like him is if you tell him, or have someone else tell him you like him. one of the best ways to let him know is to have one of HIS friends tell him.
another good way is just to treat is as a joke for a little bit. give him a hug at the end of the school day with a 'see you tomorrow'... and if you're close enough friends, you can say 'love ya' like a FRIEND! no offense or anything, but guys get the point from smaller things sometimes more than other things. i mean, give him a candy wrapper tomorrow. it might sound stupid, but it works. you gotta stop lying to him though. he'll get confused by that when he finally figures out you like him. he'll say 'then why did you say you didn't like me on IM' or something. keep dropping little hints. go out to a movie with some of your friends and some of his friends, and invite him too. go as a group. if you still need help, just IM me
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ok well heres my situation . im in high school and ive known this guy since i was in 3rd. grade , weve always been friends , we talk a lot . and i think i like him more then just a friend . well i hav , since 5th grade . and i dono if i shuld tell him cuz like im not that close of a friend to him but like i mean i wana tell him but i dono how . he's so cute!! im afriad he'll say no . im really afraid to ask . and he's since school started ( 1 week ago) and like wen i walk into class he'll b like " hey ___ sit here" or lik in class he'll smile and i'll turn to see what he's doin and he'll look away and he'll bring up lil things and like hit my chair to get my attention. whats this mean , shuld i tell him??? help! (link)
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by the sound of it, he likes you. not nessecarily(or however you spell it) love, but he likes you more than you think he does. if he's always paain you winks, and wants to talk to you, that means that you're at least one of his moderately good friends. just let him know with little hints that you're interested. he'll catch on in a few weeks, THEN ask him out, after he knows you like him so that he's not too surprised. people have a tendency to say 'no' right away if they're surprised.
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We've been going out for 2 years and her birthday's coming up. What should i do? (link)
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i suppose you could do the boring go out to a movie thing, but really what to do?
take her out for coffee at some local place, and then go to your house and force yourself to watch a chick flick for her (princes bride, sweet home alabama... etc) she'll like it... i almost promise.
it really matters how old you are here, and what she likes.... ehh... really just hang out, just the 2 of you, if she's athletic, go play tennis or volleyball or something.
and if you want to buy her something? get her a necklace or a pair of earings or something... even if she's not that girly, she'll still like it, i'll bet.
if you need anymore i ideas, PLEASE email me or IM me or something,
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Me and my gf broke up and like a week after we broke up she wrote this really sweet note in her journal to my future gf telling them basicly that they should never let me go and that i was this really sweet and awsome guy. was it wrong for me to break up wit her sometimes i get confused. (link)
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i dunno if it was WRONG to break up with her, it's obvious that she still likes you though. if you're over her, don't get back together... you'll regret it, but if you DO still like her, yes, ask her out pronto, she sounds like a sweetie.
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ok,i've been having these wierd dreams. ever since i heard the word "rape",i always dream about it. after i dream about me getting raped, i dream that me and my ex bf (who i still luv 2 death) are making out on a cloud. sry if i confused people. can you tell me what it might mean? pleez helpp! thanx (link)
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it probably means nothing. i mean, last night i had a dream about the coca cola bear giving me a life long supply of coke. like that's gonne happen.
you often dream of things you just did, or saw, and often what you fear. dreams can actually really toughen you up. they can make you face your most prominent fears, they can confuse the heck out of you (which is usually the case), and they can tempt you.
last i heard that someone's dream meant anything was in the bible... i don't think you should worry about being raped or anything.
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Is it nice having a boyfriend or are boyfriends annoying? I'll rate really good, thanks so much! (link)
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it matters. your boyfriend can become your best friend... like a husband, but not, if you get my drift. you can hang out with him, do stuff you would do with your female friends. its just... closer than friends. and it matters who you're going out with. you may like him for a bit... love him, even, but sometime, you may get... i dunno... sick of him. you might need someone else to be real close to. and he's just not in your greatest interests anymore.
so basically, if you really like him, even love him... go out with him. but make sure he knows you don't want to be nagged. if he persuades you to start doing stuff (and i don't mean just sex and kissing and stuff... things you just don't feel like doing [i.e. peer pressure]) then you're gonna get sick of him faster, and you'll want to move on.
but let him get close... become friends...
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Okay im gonna give you two guys and you decide which you like best okay? PEYTON:sweet,kinda best friend,hot,kinda talk to,wants 2 keep relationship secret,football playa,beatiful eyes, charming,shy,can protect me,and sweet! ADAM best friend, hot, always, talk 2, sensitive,wants to tell every1 about relationship,baseball playa charming,and sweet! Plz answer as soon as possible!! .
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if you're asking to see which one you should date, i can't help you. it's totally your choice. personally i like peyton, but that's just because i'm most like him. adam sounds pretty awesome(an i love baseball) but YOU need to choose... not me. does it really matter who knows that you're dating? i wouldn't parade it around, but hey, again that's just your choice. you have to think about who's gona stay with you the longest, who are YOU gonna love. again, i would choose peyton cause you said adam is your best friend.... when/if you and adam break up, you probably won't be best friends anymore, you'll be close, but not as much as before.
i hope i helped, but if you still need some advice, PLEASE drop a question in my inbox, talk to me online, or email me so i can help you.
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at what age should you get a boyfriend/girlfriend? what if you are interested in girls and you are a girl.....when should you tell someone? (link)
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if you think yoiu might be a lesbian, you ahould only tell someone if you're ready. lots of people who are homosexual are freaked out of what others will say when they find out... so i'd have to say, don't tell anyone till youu know you won't care what they do when they find out. otherwise they might really hurt your self esteem without ever knowing.
as for the boyfriend/girlfriend thing, it's your choice. i mean, i wouldn't suggest it till you're in like, 7th grade or something, then you and your gf/bf can actually go out and do stuff, as opposed to just having the title of "and item" at school or whatever, but again, it's your choice. my sister's going into college this year and she's only dated once (but then all her best friends are guys anyways...).
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this is me again can yoy help fast??? (link)
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help with what? are you the person who sent me the question about kissing? cause if you are, i've already answered it, and if you didn't send that to me, i hve no idea what you're talking about.
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how do you kiss and when? it would help if you gave me an example when you kissed or some one you know help please and fast (link)
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you want the whole story?
it's kind of sentimental, isn't it?
oh well. it's kind of simple.
when: when you feel like it. when the modd takes you. and when you both are ready for it.
how: you be the smart guy. unless you want to french, it's pretty simple isn't it?
here's a definition:
ahem... kissing: the romantice meeting of lips between two people of the opposite sex... (obviously there's more than one definition, but there you are)
you want to know about MY first kiss?
oh boy.
it's just how you see other people do it, or in movies or something. you put your lips on his and BANG! you've just kissed someone.
lots of girls (and guys) are really nervous about their first kiss, but really, if you like him/her, you'll be fine.
have fun with it!
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hey i like this guy but i dont think he likes me how can i find out? (link)
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basically, you just gotta straight up ask him. tell him you like him, or at least drop little hints about what you feel for him. if he responds in kinda the same way, chances are that he likes you, if not, well... try in a few months.
if you really think he likes you though, maybe you should just try and tell him. see what happens. there's nothing to be lost (except a moment's pride) and everything to be gained (him!).
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My boyfriend has smoked cigarettes and gotten drunk just a few times. I hate it SO much! He's only 15 almost 16 years old, why in the hell does he need to smoke? It makes me mad but his friends tell me to get his nipple out of my mouth (referring that I'm a baby) and that he is old enough to do what he wants and its not bad... I'm just looking out for the love of my life! Do you really think I'm acting like an overprotective mom? (link)
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no, you're not. you're doing the right thing. you can get as mad as you want about it, and there's nothing THEY can do about it. i think it's awesome that you're worried for him... it means that you really care about him and what he doing to his body. you are perfectly in line to be worried about him.
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im 14 and well ppl always tells me im pretty...but yet no one likes me...i mean if im so pretty why doesn't n e one like me? i mean i don't get it...and i have friends...so it must mean im not awful or weird...i think im nice...plzz help! i just really really dont get it....so could you help me please!?
~Melissa (link)
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alright. it's something that happens to everyone. for somepeople about 2 a day. and its called a crush. plenty of guys may have crushes on you... but you don't know. don't feel bad or anything.
in fact... if you're ever feeling up to it... tell YOUR crush how you feel about him, and see what he answers back! you may be surprised.
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everytime I get a bf my friends think he's too ugly and that I need better, but it hurts him whenever i tell him what my friends think about him and makes me feel bad. I know how he feels because they dont know what hes like. I told them to stop but they keep at it. and my bf dosnt feel like doing any thing when im around bc of what my friends say. how do I get them to stop???? for me and him (link)
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m'dear, this is a common thing, and it's called peer pressure. you shouldn't care a damn what your friends say about your boyfriend. in fact, go tell them right now that what they said is extremely rude. if you lke him, that's enough. it's totally their problem if they don't like him. guys don't have to be hot for you to date them. secondly, don't tell him what your friends say. if someone tells you you're ugly, that doesn't make you feel good, it just brings you down. same with him.
hang onto him. treat him like your best friend. don't let others bring him OR you down.
aka: it doesn't matter what he looks like. as long as you like him. and he likes you. that's all that matters.
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okay so ive liked this boy for the longest time and now he told me that he likes me back and he says that he wants to have sex with me but im scared cuz it will b my very first time and i don't knoe if i want to loose that respect for myself this early in my life im only 13. and this boy is kinda a player but ive liked him for a long time and now that i knoe he likes me back i don't want to do n e thing that will ruin this. please help me
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even if you like him a lot, you probably shouldn't have sex yet. you said he just told you he liked you... and then he asked for sex right away? you guys should get to know each other first. if you're even in a little bit of question about losing your virginity, DON'T DO IT! you have the rest of your life ahead of you.
but then, it is your choice. you have to do what you think is best.
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I really, I mean really like this guy.He is my age and he is 1 of my bro's friend's brother.He goes to school with me.The last few weeks of school me and him were becoming really close.Im scared that next year he won't remember me remember me anymore.What can I do? (link)
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if you say that he and you were getting really close... there's not a very big chance that he'll forget you. and you have to do stuff! grab some friends and invite him to come too... just do the regular stuff (movie, and playing sports helps a lot i've found) not like a date... but with some other people. he won't forget you, though.
do something before the end of the summer!
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I broke up w/my b/f of 8 months almost a year ago. He was heartbroken at first, but then got over it and now is going out with another girl. I haven't found anyone who's like him, and I miss him so much. But he's over me, and I still need him. Help!!
~Kat (link)
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that's not a very good reason to break up. you guys would have gotten over the shy stage in time.
if you really still do like him, you gotta tell him. he's never gonna know you still like him if you don't tell him. if you're kinda nervous, the best placce to tell him is online... but hey, it's your choice.
if he won't have you back though, you just have to leave it at that. it might have taken a while for him to get over you, and then you're all the sudden saying you like him... he might not be too willing to take you back after you hurt him.
but really, just tell him. see what happens. maybe nothing. maybe he'll break up w/his other gf... you'll never know unless you tell him.
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so my good friend jack is going out w/ my x-girlfriend and they are IN LOVE. well me and his gf Liz are still good friends and we always tell each other that we look good if we do. well yesturday @ my bday party i texted her saying she looked really good....cuz she did. well Jack read that text and now hes really mad @ me. but he knows thats how we are so i dont see why hes mad. someone help! please!
*text guy* (link)
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lemme get this straight. jack has TWO girlfrinds? isn't one enough for him? (you should tell him that). just tell him outright that you guys are just good friends and don't really want to go out (do you?) he might not believe you, but there's not much else you can do, and he'll figure it out sometime.
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I'm 15 n my bf's 17.Earlier we used to speak about a lot of topics but now we feel at a loss of words.We simply don't know what to speak about.Could u please give me some topics to speak about?(Besides school)
-Butterfly004 (link)
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aight. first you want to talk about him. talk about what he likes to do, his family, his friends, ect. then turn it to you and him: stuff you have in common, things you like to do together, funny memories, ect... then swing the conversation around to you and keep it there until you think of something else to talk about.
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