About me, hhmmm. I guess I would have to say that my favorite thing in the world is my family. They are my inspiration in all that I do. My 2nd favorite thing is POKER. I love helping people. I love poetry. I love horror films, comedies, and the occasional "chick flick". I find myself liking anything the critic's hate and hating what they love. I like listening to alternative music. My favorite bands are The White Stripes, The Gorillaz, and Eric Clapton. Know you may be wondering what makes me a love specialist? Well nothing really. All I know is that I keep my wife very happy and she tells me on a regular basis that I am the best man she has ever known. Her words not mine. Looking back I would have to say that I have never broken a women's heart. I would also have to say that I have been in love and in love with many times. It aggravates me to read questions from guys who are just trying to get into a girls pant. Sometimes I think I am the only 23-year-old with values and morals. I know that is not true though. I do feel I have a pretty good idea of what women want in men, and honestly any man can fit the description. Any man can be any women's type. I just think that some men show it better than others. Just so everyone knows I don't have a huge ego. I am actually really shy around women. I am kind of like an old football couch. I can't really play then game, but I do know how the game should be played.
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ok like i reallly hate my life. But i live in a semi good neighborhood with a good famliy (mom, dad and sister) in a good house and everything but like nothing ever goes my way. Like i dont think im that pretty.. im 14 and only had 1 boyfriend (which only lasted 2 weeks ) and all my other friends have had manyy boyfriends and like all my friends that are girls are prettier than me in my opinion. and i dont really have a bestfriend. i used to but now someone else is her bestfriend. So now i just have like friends, but only like 4 really close friends. I'm naturally a very nice person.. but you know what they say: nice people finish last. Also, im a bit of a pushover. People sometimes just "walk all over me" and i cant really stand up for myself. I am very self-conscious about myself and im not that confident.
But then i think about the poor people or homeless people who probably have 20 times worse life than me and it makes me feel bad that i complain about my life when i should be thankful. So my question.. do you think my life is good or bad? is there anything i can do to improve my life? or should i be thankful instead? (link)
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WOW, if this website was around 10 years ago i would have been writing the same thing you are. i warn you know this could be a very long responce. when i was 15 i was the exact same way. if this site was around maybe i would have made better decessions. you see i didn't have alot of friends either. and i hung out with the kids who didn't have alot of friends. as we got older we found more friends that didn't have friends. the reason they didn't have friends is because they wanted to smoke pot instead. so thats what we did. we smoked pot, we stole to pay for pot, our grades dropped and we almost didn't graduate. well some of us didn't. actually i was the only one who changed my ways and stayed in school. i couldn't tell you were half those guys are today.
any way what changed me was my family. i stopped and notice that my brothers were heading down the same path i was. one of them (now 20) spent 6 years in adult prison for stealing cars.(he went in when he was 14) my parents started to not care what i was doing with my time. and that hurt. after i changed everything changed. i couldn't take it anymore.
after all that changed my way of thinking. i made new friend(abandoned the old ones) got a girl friend( who i am now married to.(we've been together for 8 years tis may.) changed my whole life. i am closer with my parents than i ever was. in my senoir year i was voted class treasured. do you get it? I WAS FINALY POPULAR. it was awsome. better than any hi.
your probably asking "how does any of this help me"?.....i am not sure. maybe someone else can learn from my mistakes. i am just trying to tell you that it is not as bad as you think. it is waht you make it. i don't care what you look like. Confidence is beutiful. dwelling on the bad and ignoring the good is not. i dont mean to sound "preachy" but you should also find God.
good luck, sorry if i put you too sleep.
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What is the best possible way, form, time, and place to ask a girl to be your girlfriend? Well, maybe not the BEST, but a pretty good way. I have a feeling that this girl I know and talk to a lot likes me, and I like her. I'm 15/M, and she's 14/F. Thanks! ^^ (link)
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what NINAB said is a really good idea, but instead of a not you should give her the flower and tell her these things. i know that it is hard and that you are nervous, but trust me what is the worst that could happen. unless she is a cold beast of a woman its not like she is going to laugh at you and turn you down. (if she does i am so sorry) but girls really think it is hi class of a guy to express your feelings in actuall words. she may even mist up and you get extra points. if not the letter is a good idea too. good luck.
p.s not a rose. roses are boring and un origional. show her you have style and get something eregular. don't get daiseys though. as pretty as they are they look cheap. tulip. yah one tulip. now thats class. go for it.
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I'm a 27 year old female involved with a man of 34 years old for almost 2 years now. He was married before and have a little boy of 6 years old. I have the feeling that this guy is also lying to me regardig his ex wife in various ways. It feels as if he is always taking her side, etc. I want to know: Am I wasting my time with this guy? Will we ever get married? We were engaged for almost a year and he broke the engagement because of a incident that happened between me and his ex wife. (link)
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he has kids with another woman. if you marry this guy you may as well consider yourself married to this woman. she is that kids mother. she is a permanant part of your life if you marry him. i say leave him.
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okay well i have a bf and hes gone for about 2 weeks so i wont be able to see him and i barley get to talk to him. but the thing is wen hes not gone we dont talk (well barley anyway)) and the thing is im started to like this other guy. and i dont want to but then again i do becuz hes not shy unlike my bf and idk what to do im so confused right now. please help me. (link)
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your bf brought this on himself. it would be unfair to stay with him and like another guy. dump him. ps i am a guy and i agree that shy mates suck.
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hey umm theres this guy that i like and my friend was iming him and sh asked him if i asked him out if he would say yes and he said yes, so now i want to ask him out but ive never had a bf so i have absolutley NO clue how to say it...please help asap!!! btw im 13/f if it helps (link)
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just write him a letter. when i was younger i couldn't talk to girls. so i always wrote letters. it breaks the ice and get your question across. good luck.
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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help (link)
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How old is this girl? Is she close to your age or a little younger? If she is a little younger she may not see you that way. If she is close to the same age the reason all these guys are hanging out is because she is starting to see other guys in the same way that you see her. Your body is maturing and you are starting to look at girls in a different way. She is doing the same thing. You just may not be one of the guys on her list. I can’t tell you how to avoid losing her brother as a good friend. If you pursue this that is probably what is going to happen. A brother’s protectiveness over his sister is inevitable. I can tell you how to pursue this girl if you want but chances are your friend is not going to approve of the relationship. Are you ready to take that chance? Another thing to think about is that if this doesn’t work out between you and this girl you run the risk of losing both friends. Are these risks you are willing to take? I need you to answer these questions if I am going to be able to help you. Also, if you could give me some names it would help. They don’t have to be their real names it is just easier to explain if I know the characters of the story. Let me know, I really want to help with this one.
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my boyfriend wants me to things (not sex) that i dont really wanna do but i want him to be happy. what should i do? (link)
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i am not sure how long you and your bf have been together, but it doesn't sound like long. (i say that because this is a problem that is usually resolved pretty quick) so let me get this right. he want to go see one movie and you want to see another, or he wants you to go with him to get his haircut and you don't want to? or is it more difficult, like he wants you to smoke a joint with him and you don't want to? i will adress both just to be safe.
1) it is ok if he wants to do things that you don't. make compramises though. go do what he wants then get him to do what you want. you can't always go do the opposite things though. then you are friends not a couple. be a little more open to the things he wants to do. and he will be more open to what you want. as for wanting him to be happy. trust me he probably doesn't mind if you don't like the things he likes. my wife is always trying to make decesions that would make me happy. i have a hard time convencing her to do what she wants and i will be satisfied either way. a guy in live is always happy. i know.
2) know if he is trying to get you to do something that is wrong and you are the only one making the right decesion.(like smoking pot or keeping lookout while he steals a car, i know thes are extreme examples, but your question is vague on "things")Then you really don't eant anything to do with this guy. he is going to drag you down with him if you are not careful.
3) i just thought of a 3rd way he trys to get you to do things. like if he is always bossing you around. "go get me a drink" "make me a sandwich" or whatever then this sounds like a guy who doesn't respect you and you shouldn't take that.
i would really like to answer your question better. explain it and i will be more help.
if i already did help then goodluck.
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Ok well I'm m/14/bi,my bestfriend got a girlfriend recently and shes all he talks about and well I like him a lot. Whenever he talks about her I get depressed and upset and sumtimes in a horrible mood. Well he doesn't know I like him should I tell him? (link)
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i am not against bi or homo relations so don't take this the wrong way.
i would not tell your friend how you feel unless he knows you are bi. you are not only looking at losing a good friend. you are talking about a potential life-long enemy. not me, but some guys can get really defencive about that kind of stuff. without telling him you like him i would try to let him know you are bi though. if you don't now it is going to be alot more awkward later. not to mention if you tell him that and he is cool with it then later you can tell him how you feel.
good luck. hope i helped.
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Can you guys like write a romantic story like making out under stars or something because it`s cute lol. (link)
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what exactly do you need a romantic story for? is it for a special someone or what? because if it is then it should really come from you. that is what makes it special. i could write you hundreds of love letters, but what use is it if it didn't come from your heart. know if you just wanted to read something romantic let me know and i can put something together. its kinda my thing.
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Does anyone know how i can ask the following q's to a girl in away that wont make girls wonder why im asking it.Can you give me a sneakier way of asking the following q's
What do you like to find in a friend?
what kind of guy do you like?
Who are your friends?
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How can you find out stuff on a girl? Not like gossip but more like her fave movies and bands, ect.
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It's called a date. Just ask her out. Is this a friend of yours that you would like to make more than a friend? Or is this some girl who your not even sure knows you exist? Because if she doesn't know you then it is going to seem wierd to her that you are asking all these people about her. don't worry about what her type is. what moveis she likes, what bands she listens to. when you find out you are going to try to be interested in the same stuff. that means you are going to try to change for her. don't. be yourself and "YOU" will become her type. She will learn to like what "YOU" like. Listen to the bands "YOU" listen too. or you can be like me and my wife. completly opposite, but madly in love for 10 years know. If your styles clash then your attraction is only skin deep. i don't know much, but i do know women. TRUST ME.
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I'm a 16 year old girl who's been dating this guy I'm fully in love with for around 7 - 8 months. We're both still virgins but we've talked about losing our virginity to each other. Neither one of us has EVER did anything sexually with another person, so I'm pretty sure neither of us have any STDS or AIDS. So far, we've experienced everything but sex with each other. We've considered all the risks & have thought long and hard about this, but mind you, we are prepared and we do have a brain unlike half the teenage population. We both know that we are fully ready to do this in our minds & hearts. But, I have a question. Even though, we aren't married & we're gonna lose our virginity to each other.. and though we've been together for a while & are planning on beging together for a long time after this (possibly even marriage later on, but you never know what may happen).. do you think this is okay? Like sometimes it worrys me because I know in my heart that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but we've talked about it & with our friends as well, and we all figured out that if you ask God for his forgiveness, he will accept it. I just want opinions on this.. do you think it's okay to have sex at 16 if you're mature & ready enough? I mean, what's the point in waiting until you're married? I know one reason is because it can be a sin and then another is because there's a possibility of having a baby, but if you're sexually "safe" with condoms & birth control, then you're chances are very slim to none for having a child. So any opinions or thoughts is welcome on this.. don't be afraid to express how you feel, it won't bother me. Thank you all very much! :) (link)
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you sure sound more mature than most 16 year olds i have met. i have to say that their is nothing stopping you. if you are 100% sure that this is a good thing with a good person i say go for it. just curious though. You have talked together and with friends, have you talked with you mother maybe? i know that most mothers would freak and i think that is too bad. my mother and i were best friends and i told her everything. maybe she could give you some insite on the topic, maybe point out some things you have failed to think of ((i can't imagine what)) Either way you sound like a cute couple and i think you should make a very special event out of it. a long personal date in a very romantic atmosphere... but i am a softy. Good luck
m/23/kansas
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