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my quote-- "The past is the past and there is nothing i can change, The only thing i can do is help you with the future" I hope my advice helps you. In the future i want to become a Psychiatrist. My answers might not always be 100% correct but i try my best. && i would help anyone i could possibly help before i would even think of helping myself.
My name is Amy and iam 14, But i am very wise for my age. Just because im 14 does not mean i can not give good advise. I am COMPLETLY honest and if i think your acting like an idiot im going to say it whether you want her hear it or not. i dont care what people think about me, i have been though to much to. I dont beleive in lying to friends or people who need help && i ALWAYS speak my mind.
I have suffered through Depression, stress, and i keep all my feeling a secret so know one will find out or know im not stong or brave. I am always willing to help someone who feels the same. I've have/had mental breakdowns, suicidal moments, family problem, friend problem, & boy friend problems. im pretty sure that i am bipolar and ADD or ADHD, but i am afriad to tell me parents because i know they will not believe me. I am also all my friends, both guys and girls- and for ages 9-50, personal Psychiatrist so i know it all. I don't like stupid Drama and i am for the most part used to it, but I that how my life is. I LOVE reading about mental illnesses, i know its kind of odd- but thats me. && i love getting to look up and learn about something NEW!
If you have any thing you would like to talk to me about you can IM me. my Aim is xxTimesxChange or you can e-mail me at bballmonkey1993@yahoo.com
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okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months and counting. and first off, i want to say that i love this boy, i realllly reallllly do. this isn't just a "fling" like my other relationships have been. he cares about me the same way that i care for him, and i know it. we're the perfect couple and everything. at the beginning of our relationship, i did treat him bad. no i never cheated or anything, i would just be mean. so one night we broke up and he ended up kissing a girl which really hurt, but that's in the past now and i've forgiven him. i can talk to him about anything and everything so he's basically perfect. we've had a rough spots and we broke up again about 3 weeks ago and got back together again. we're doing great so far and i plan on hanging out with him tomorrow but for some reason i feel wierd.. yesterday i didn't really feel like saying "i love you" as much. i told him that and he told me it was fine and that whenever i wanted my space or just to do my own thing for a day it was perfectly fine. anyways, today i felt wierd again and he keeps asking why i'm always mad at him and sometimes i do joke around where he thinks i'm mad, but i'm really not. i tell him i'm not mad. but he keeps urging it and yeah, IT DOES MAKE ME MAD. so he's hanging with his bestfriend who i don't like and who doesn't like me, long story, and me and my boyfriend got into a lil fight. i don't know if i should call him or just go to sleep... PLEASE HELP I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS FEELING. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE EVERY REASON TO BE HAPPY. i don't know if it's just because i haven't seen him in a week, and he would be the first to tell you everything's better when we're together, SO PLEASE HELP, THANKS!
maybe you should just call him, realationships are differnt between everyone you have your ups and you have your downs. sometimes also when you see someone to much you tend to get a little more annoyed at they. maybe you should take a break from him and just hang out with your friends..
and maybe if your ready quezze in that little i love you..if your ready.
hope this helped and have a happy holiday
wow this is the closest thing i've ever written to a journal haha sry its mad long..please help
Ok to begin with I am 17/m and there is a freshman girl I have liked since arouund christmas and um basically i cant tell if she likes me or not..at first i thought she did so i told my friends until one dumbass friend went and told her and since then she hasnt said anything on the subject and im too shy to ask her and the only place i see her is in drama class or right before school ends if she passes by my locker to go to her bus..
i have been making fun of her in class since the beginning of this year (2007) cause..i dunno im kinda scared i guess haha i've tried to talk to her before and she will usually just give me a look and say "hi" and i'll say "whats up" and she dosnt respond ..and sometimes she just ignores me..im thinking maybe she's a little mad cause i make fun of her almost every day. she says she doesnt care but i dunno..girls say they dont care for a lot of things :P
she's kind of shy in class but sometimes when i pass her in the hallways she'll be yelling her ass off and she has 231 friends on myspace (none are bands i checked) and after school she's always on her cellphone..and she plays 3 sports and also she's REALLY smart..like seriously she got all a's on her midterm, has a 101 average in our drama class, and she's like in all honors classes..insane
girls are so confusing haha
so i dunno..i guess my question is what is she thinking..does she like me? because i know that i can talk to her if i know she likes me but i dont want to embarass myself because ive embarassed myself more than once for this girl..i am seriously head over heels for this girl
thanks for reading
Well their is no real way of knowing whats on her mind because i am not her. Girls dont all think the same, some guys actully think that. lol.
sorry im honest, i know it hurts but someone has to say it.
Well she could have liked you in febuary, But guess what your friend messed up, and so did you. You dont make fun of a girl if you like her, you should relaly stop it because she will have no respect for you and she wont like you. No one likes to be made fun of, and she probabaly thinks your just a jerk for making fun of her. How is she supposed to get the hint you like her if your acting like a jerk? Its pretty darn hard.
Be nice to her and SLOWLY go back to flirting with her and talking to her. And after a couple weeks of maybe proving that your not really a jerk ask her how she feels and tell her why you were acting like that. Write a note and leave it in her locker if you are to embarassed to say it to her face, but saying it to her face is actully a better idea and it shows that you have balls. Its better to be try and be regected then to spend your life wishing you had tried and always having a crush on her. At least you would know she has no intrest and you can move on with your life, i know thats not always easy but things get better with time. I promise. If you need anymore help feel free to ask. Hope this helped.
-Amy
for everyone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend i have a favor to ask, please list everything you love about them and why you decided to be with them. as many things as you can think of! thank you.
Well me and my boy friend have known each other since we were six. We always had secret crushs on eachother, and we have kind of been dating off and on because my parents hate him. Its not him its just my parents are asses. I can honestly answer im in love. My boyfriend is honestly a one in a million guys, and i am so greatful. The main thing i love about him is he is honest, no matter how embarrsed he is or how badly he thinks i will react. He is trust worthy, i know no matter what is bothering me i can go to him no matter what! He is willing to listen to ANYTHING i have to say, even girl problems- some guys cant stand that. He can always make me laugh not matter what kinda of mood i am in, and i can get very depressed. He is full of life, always smiling. But most of all he loves me, he always puts me first. He is very caring and always telling me i am beautiful and how much he cares about me. He is very understand with everything i go through and he knows i can not be wtih him alot because of my parents. But he trys to see me every second possible. He is amazing.
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Give me so more information about this guy or girl you are going out with/ you wanting to go out with and i will try and help you. I would rather help you then brag about my BF. lol.
Just because the girl/guy you like is not the same does not mean he/she is not a good boy/girl friend. It depends on who you both are.
hope this helped though.
-Amy
i just wrote to you about having a crush on that boy but there is a problem with telling my friends- one of my friends like him too and my friends will think i am just liking him cause she does which is so not true i liked him before i knew that.
first, sorry it took me so long to answer, I have not been on for awhile.
To be honest if your friends would think that they are not true friends and they dont really know who you are. If they think you would like someone just because you are copying another friend thats just idiotic. Most people dont like people just because there friends do.
Maybe you can trust one of your other friends that would not tell the girl who also has a crush on the boy. Not all of your friends should think would you like someone for that reason, im sure there is atleast one person you can trust.
I have been in alot of siduations that one of my friends said i was copying her, and i was just being me, there is nothing special about that. And yeah she was mad at me for a lil while, But she got over it. She did not Dwell on something completly stupid, and yeah i explain to her that what i di dwas just me, its not my fault we do alot of the same things. Its just who we are. And personally if she did not except me for that i would have said forget about you and moved on with my life.
Its important to know who your true friends are and the friends you can trust with things like this. hope this helped.
-Amy
i have this crush on this kid in my class- at least i think i do. i dunno if i really like him sometimes i really feel like i like him but other times i feel like we are just friends. but i think i might just be pushing this thought that i like him out of my mind because i am scared because i do not know what to do if i like him or how to let him know (i dont want to let him know). i only had one other crush besides this and i dont ever really get this feeling.nobody knows about this either i am afraid to tell one of friends. What should i do? should i just give up?
The same thing has happened to me. Maybe you should try talking to this boy a little more. It might help you find out more about him and you will have a better idea on whether you truly like him or not. If you think you have a cruch on him then dont push it out of your brain because their is a good change that that thought is in your brain for a reason. You should tell one for your friends and if they truly care about you they will not judge you, they will try and help you figure out if you truly like him or not. You dont have to tell the kid you like him, You can keep it a secret from him if you want. Sometimes boys freak out over nothing, lol. But stay true to your self and how you think you feel. Hope i helped.
-- amy
Okay so my names Ella and i went out with this guy named David for a long time like a year.....and we broke up and now he wont leave me alone like i dont think he gets the message that i just want to be friends please help
Ella
The only thing you can do is sit him down and tell him stright out that you doing like him like he likes you and you just need to be friends right now. Its not right for you to too go out if you both do not feel the same about each other && you have made up your mind about your feeling for him and thats not goign to chance.
yes, i have a bf but i also have this friend who like watches every move i make i can never do things at my own pace cas she always gets hers and her bf's nose in everything...i really love my bf but i want to go at my own pace not hers....wht should i do???
try to tell your friend how you feel in a polite way. Not everyone can move at the same pace in a relationship, some people just have to go slow then others. She will never know how you feel unless you tell her. If she is your friend she will understand. hope this helped.
my ex is really mean hes mad at me and not his friend dylan me and his friend dylan are going out and hes not mad at him and hes been telling stuff mean about me and his dad has been calling and telling me im ganan go to court if i talk to him
I would try to stay away from him best i could, because actully trying to deal with this could just ruin your life or your relationship, just ignore your X and if he is doing this he is not even worth saying hi to. From what you said your X is pretty much a loser and he is just really upset because you were to go for him and he wants to get you back. He does not feel his friend it any wrong and you were the one to blame. __or he could just be phyco__ you never know, he may have a mental problem that he never told you about, lol. I would not worry about him just go on with your life, he 2 are over and he should be able to deal with that. If anything you can try having your bf talk to him and make him stop.
&& if his dad is just RANDOMLY calling you saying he is going to take you to court for not dating his son that is just gay, and he is basically an idiot. If anything you can always talk to your parents about that phone calls because the police may say it is a threat and you maybe to take them to court. That is if your not the one calling the house first. Hope this helped.
Can anyone tell me? just keep them laughing.
You can talk about funny past experences that way the girl will learn more about you and then she may share things with you. You can always say little things about how you dont like the other loser in your class because most girls like to talk about other people, you know boys do it to. lol
hey my name is danielle and i went out iwththis guy for about 10 months. i reli loved him and we didnt end things on the best note but it was needed. he lied to me and there has always been a problem with his ex shes the reason we broke up. they got togetehr after us but now they are broken up and i reli think that i will never ever get over that its been 6 months since we have broken up and i still lvoe him i was with this other guy recently liek going out and i had to end it because iw anst beign faire to im because i loved guy #1. i dont know wat to do i reli love him and i feel we shoudl be together maybe not now but later and i kno that we both think about eachother its one of thsoe relatinships that u just know.and weve been throough alot and i dno. wat shoudl i do. iw ant to get over him but i cant. i cant talk to him about it because then he will feel like he has my emotions inthe palm of his hand. id ont kno wat to do
if he broke up with you then maybe he was just using you to make his X jelious, and if so he is not worth it. If he left you for his X then he does not really care about you and he does not deserve you to care about him either. You should find another guy who will truly care about you. If he left you once for his X what tells you that he wont do it again. If you take him back you will always be worried whether to trust him or not and that is honestly not worth it. A relationship is built on trust and if you can not trust him there is no hope.
If you still don't feel you can do that try talking to one of his friends, that you can trust, to see if he still has any feeling for you.
Hope this helped.
I have a problem i have never had a boyfriend before and i going into high school everyone i know has had at least one boyfriend. and all the guys at my school are single but idiots i mean idiots i mean they are so shallow- i would never consider going out with any of them. i have a feeling i will never have a bf and if i do i am so inexperienced with bfs i would have no clue how to act how much afffection to show if i am acting too needy.. i wont know what to do when the time comes when a boy likes me. am i ever gonna have a boyfriend? how am i gonna be ready?
Dont worry, you will have a boy friend soon. Not all girls have the first boy friend before they go to highschool and some girls are still unexperienced with boys even after having a boyfriend. Some guys just dont know how you show their feeling yet and it would help if you become better friends with the guys you know and get to know more about guys. You can also try a little flirting with some of the guys you like out of school, but dont be to obvious. All guys are different and some guys take longer to tell you how they feel about you, same has girls. You just never know who will have a crush on you.
Don't freek out about not having a boyfriend yet because your time will come. it is only the beggining of highschool and will have plenty of time to have a boyfriend later. hope this helped =)
im 16 and my bf is 19. we want a baby so badly. but thats only what we want. my mom would kill me and him. but what if it happens soon.
I would wait because at 16 you are honestly not ready. My sister-in-law had a baby at 16 and her parents honestly disowned her. She went through a rough time trying to rasie the baby and she had to stop her own life. You dont just have a baby because you want someone to love you because a baby can not honestly love you at first because they have to be taught love.
You have to have the money to raie the baby and know how. you have to be pateint and know that nothing will be about you anymore you life will basically be over and you with have to deal with your baby and making sure it is being cared for and happy. The best thing to do is wait till after highschool because once you have the baby you will most likly have to drop out. And in this world today you have to finnish collage unless you want to work and walmart all your life and live in the cheap run down apartment.
Fisrt you need to beable yo have a home and food of the baby and yourself. You never know if there will be anything physicaly or mentally wrong with a baby before it is born so you better be ready for everything. Your baby might have to have a sergery right when it is born and if you dont have the money you are screwed.
Hop this helped.
well i think i like this guy im not really sure... thats my problem.... everytime i think of him i get exited and i smile and stuff... but im always afriad to hang out with him... this is the situation... he likes me im positive about that... but i didnt like him.. and i think im now starting too... but i think i might be afriad to like him because of what other people think... cause everyone i kno hates him.. so why do i like him? should i like him? i dont kno what to do... and im afriad hes gunna ask me out and im not gunna kno what to say...
I know how your feeling i have felt the same way.
If your friend honestly care about you they will support you know matter what you do. && It does not matter what they think anyways it is your life and you deserve to be happy. He may not be himself around other people so thats why they dont feel the same about him. He may open up to you a little more because you mean something to him and he wants you to feel the same about him. You will never know if you truly like him unless you take a chance and you will feel a lot better knowing at least you tryed. Hope i helped.
I'm not quite expecting an answer but I feel so depressed all of a sudden and I think I need some kind of help.Well at school there's this girl I like and no one knows about it.Well I'm a freshman and new to my highschool.I wanted to tell her how I feel but some how I couldn't. She's my MySpace friend along with some new ones I got. But then everything changed...she was absent for like a week and I was concerned but then today I heard she is transferring and being home schooled for now on. I don't know what happened but I heard from my art teacher she wasn't happy here and also from a student people were making fun of her well cause she was bisexual.She was in only 3 of my classes and I barely got a chance to know her.And I don't care what she is just as long there is happiness.But mine is..gone. Now I'm never gonna see her anymore or even get a chance to talk to her. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm sad,heart broken and some how mad. Why would anyone want to make fun of a person like her anyways?!?(A-hole idiots..)I also can't believe something like this happened...And she's like the only one for me I do see other girls that are way hotter than her but I don't have any interest in them she is like the one for me but now it's not going to happen.I miss her already even though I don't know her. I just don't know why though. I feel a pain in my heart and my head hurts...I'm not really good with feeling emotions. I...just can't believe it...
You can just do the simplest things.
You can asker her out of lunch one day,
she would love that someone actully care because of what she is going through at the moment.
And if you care about her as much as you say you need to just keep trying. Trying to forget about her and blocking her out might hurt you even more and you might not get a chance.
You have to take a risk for what you want even if you look like an idiot, you at least have to try or you will regret it. Hope this helped.
i have a couple of guys that are my best friends. one of them has a girlfriend that i know he loves very much, but he tells me that he loves me too. is this normal for guy/girl friendships? i dont know if he's joking around, or if he really loves me as a good friend or if he loves me more than that.
The Best way to find out something like this is to ask. If he does love you more then a friend and you dont not feel the same you need to explain this to him and tell him you do not want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend.
You also have to take in to consideration that he might mean he loves you just as a friend, but again the best way to ever find out is to ask. If he is your best friend then you should not be to nervious asking a question like that.
I reallly want to hook up with my CRUSH(let's call him CUTIE)! I always get jealous when other girls like talk to him. I donn know why. But then I'm starting to like my best friend's EX-BOYFRIEND(lets call him JACK). He's not all cute but then I start to talk to him a lot and I think he likes me. Rumor has it at my school that he's gonna ask me to the dance.If he does I dont wan't CUTIE to feel bad because I love him more. I also don't want Jack to get hurt if I say no to him. My friend is OK that I kinda like him and the same with him. But I just feel so wierd that i like 2 guys at the same time. It kinda makes me feel like a slut at the same time. I don't want to live my life wondering if I picked him what would have happened? Please help me.
You have to find out which guy you honetly like the most and why. Sometimes you like a guy, but then realize it was all for the wrong reasons. You should try and be less worried about the boys being hurt and focuse more on what you feel is right. You should not pick to go out with one of the boys just because he will be hurt if you don't choose him; you have to follow your heart. Also you can not have both boy and you know that. Try and think which one relates to you more and who you feel more comfertable talking to about more subjects that are life realated. If you can only talk to one of the boys about sports, then maybe that boy is not the right choice.
You also have to nicly explain to the other boy you do not choose that you dont feel it would be right and you just want to be friends. You can also state that maybe in the future something might happen but at the moment you are not sure. You never no what the future can bring.