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Well my ex bf broke up with me about a month ago. Before we started going out we knew each other and he liked me once b4 (which was about a year ago). We went out this year for 44 days. I fugured out the real reason he dumped me is cause he wanted me to do it with him and I'm not like that at all and he knew that. Well and now I have a bf who i have been rele good friends with since the begining of the school year. Well i went walking on the beach and i went there with my ex and all the memories with him came back to me and i think i might still love him but i dont want to go back to him and having him try raping me but he can b rele sweet and just a great guy and i dont want to ruin the great friendship i have with my bf i have right now. Please help!!! (link)
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I disagree with the previous comment. i dont know how old you are but from what i got out of it, you're pretty young. Too young to be thinking about sex (This coming from a 16 year old which is still to young in my oppinion.). You have your whole life to have sex. I really think you should forget about your ex. If he is trying to make you do things that is something you don't wanna do and he knows it, he doesn't really care about you and is just using you. However you current bf i can imagine is a better person. Just wait and stay with your current bf and see how things goes.
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So me and my boyfriend were together for almost 2 years and through most of our relationship he was addicted to pills. I didnt know this for like 6 months so I was already in love with him and thought me being there would help him get through things. when he was doing pills hed cry and say I deserve better, I would get frustrated that he was dumpimg me and leave him alone and he would come back 3 days later cryimg and sayimg he missed me and made a mistake. Hes been about a month clean but a week and a half ago I broke up with him because hed say he wanted a relationship but never really acted like it. Like hed just go on these random sprees where hed ignore me. I really love him and I know he hasnt relapsed but I feel sad because he seems perfectly fine from what I hear. Like im barely making it through the day, I dont do anything because we have a lor of mutual friends so I feel embarrassed and pathetic hanging out with them while im so sad and hes fine. Hes been going out a lot and it is just so hard to think the guy that always talked about marriage and how I was the perfect girl from him is never gonna come back and has moved on fine. Any help, advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Ive never been so heartbroken. (link)
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Well, I think you should sit him down and talk to him about it all. If he really loves you, he will come back to you... and if not then you might need to move on. I'm sorryy.
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my boyfriend wont let me near his phone. he gets paranoid if i ask to see it and watches my every move. he sleeps with it in his pocket or under his pillow. should i be worried? (link)
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Honestly if it were me, i'd be worried, but i'm a verrrryy jealous person and worry about everything. I'd be worried he's hidding something. But it could be that he's just protective over his phone or doesnt want you getting any of his friends numbers and talking to them. Maybe you should ask him why hes so protective over his phone, if it takes him a while to answer you or looks around at something else, fiddles with his hands, or covers up his mouth when he talks then more than likely the reason he says, is a lie. Goodluck!
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how to show sum body you truly love them (link)
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Tell them how much they mean to you and how much you love them. And Commit to them.
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ok my question envolves 4 people. i was with my ex bf for 2 years. about a year in the realtionship i slept with a ex co worker of his which was our friend. and stayed sleepin with him through the rest of the relationship. to this day i still am. so for a year i cheated, but hey i enjoyed it. after a month of cheating i began to gain feelings for this guy. this guy also has a girlfriend that he has had for 6 years. so for 14 months we both cheated with eachother. i had my bf and he had his gf. neigther one of our partners kno whats goin on. i feel that i now have loved him for a while, he tells me he loves me also. he says he gets jealous when i talk to another guy. i kno i want to be with him but his gf is blockin that from happening. oh by the way i am 22 and the guy is 37. i believe he really cares about me but i cant seem to win him over. he is only with the gf because she has insurance for his 2 kids. like i said i love him and i kno i do and i cant just give up on him. not after a year of this has been goin on. my question is do you think i should give up when i kno there is a chance of winnin him over or should i keep up with my heart? he is all i think about, i have been singel for 6 months now (other than him) and everyone i talk to.. its not the same and when he finds out it hurts him. i cant really get involve with anyone because when i talk to someone or hold someone i see him not the new person. but like i asked what should i do? stay with him or give up? (link)
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Well, i'd just like to point somethin out to ya, If he is with his gf now, and is cheating on her with you, then if you two ever got together, what would stop him from cheating on you with another girl too??? I'm not saying he will do that, im just saying he could. I say give up. I know it'd be hard since you have true feelings about this man. But i think the best choice would be to give up. More than likely if he is still with his girlfriend now, he will continue to stay with her. But it's your choice to make on what to do. I wish you best of luck!
-J
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Im 20 and so is my boyfriend, we have been going out for a year and 5 months. Well in the beginning everything was great but about 5 months into the relationship he would say things about girls in the street like "Oh id fuck her" or "Id do her" infront of me, like seriously you can think it but dont say it infront of your girlfriend. So from then on I was self concious about not being good enough for him and thought he was with me because maybe he thought he couldnt get anyone else.
Well time went on and we argued about the things that he said (and he doesnt say things as much anymore) but things still play on my mind, like he would say he would fuck a girl infront of me so what would he do behind my back....
When he says he is going out for a lads night out I feel sick like he would cheat on me, although he has said he wouldnt and gets moody when I suggest that he might. I mean I hear things about lads cheating on 'lads nights out' and when they are drunk. It just frightens me.
Also he added my old best friend on facebook and refuses to delete her although he doesnt know her and has seen her twice but didnt speak to her, I dont talk to her anymore so I dont see why he has her on facebook but we get in arguments because I want him to delete her as I think he fancies her and he says he doesnt but if it causes arguments then why wont he delete her? ALSO he had her number in his phone!! I have her number and he either copied it from my phone (which is probably the case) or he got it from her (I looked through his contacts to ring my sister and saw her name so i deleted it but didnt mention anything to him). It really bugs me as he fancied my other friend from college and actually told me about it and it took arguments and breaking up for him to delete her from facebook. He adds girls he doesnt know just because he thinks they are good looking. I dont do that if I think a guy is good looking!! I just dont know what to do because I do love him but he is sometimes distant towards me, I try and kiss him and he pulls away, I have to ask for cuddles, I have to text and ring him first, he picks on me for being fat and says things about my ginger hair and it hurts although its a joke to him it hurts me and I tell him but he doesnt listen and carries on.
What do I do, I want to stop feeling jealous when he looks at other girls and stop feeling this way. (link)
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Gooooood grief! Ok, so im only 15 and i've been with my bf for about as long as you have, a bit longer though, and he is the exact opposite of your bf. Mine is commited. Yours however... is not, no offense. I don't think your relationship is that great. I wouldn't put up with that at all. It'd hurt me too much and idk how you can handle it. You have every right to be jealous and upset. That is not right for him to do that. I think you deserve better. I know it would be hard to end your relationship considering how long you been dating, but i think it would be best to do it. It might take a while to get over him but in the long run it'd be worth it. Find someone that will treat you right and loves you no matter what. I wish you luck!
-J
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i have this friend who might have used me to get to another ex friend they did go out at one point but after me and her stopped hanging out we werent that close so i decided to stay away from him well that and being friends with him just got me into problems it was working but then i noticed he kept getting closer to me like always saying high sitting with me and i would ignore him untill one day he was with my brother drinking i was in my room i dont think he was that drunk laying down seeing a move he came over to my room and asked for a hug i gave it to him but then i moved he followed and layed next to me he asked to give me a kiss i said what and he just gave it to me on the cheek i kept looking on the tv then i told him my head hurt and he asked would it feel better if he gave me a kiss on the lips i stayed quite he asked again next thing i know where kissing i pushed him away then we were just laying there my brother came for him the rest of the night he kept comeing back kissig me on the cheek and calling me sweet cheeks the next day its like it never happened he didnt talk to till the following day i have no idea if he likes me or not oh yeah he has a girl friend i dont know what to do sholud i stay away (link)
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Yes i say stay away. Wait till he is single before you do anything. Which honestly i dont think you should date him or anything, cause think about this, If he was kissing you while he was drinking and all this stuff, then what will stop him from doing it to another girl behind your back if you ever date him? Just sayin. And plus in my oppinion, a person drinkin leads to bad things. Not all the time, but most of the time. Just dont want you to get hurt or anything. Well i wish you best of luck! If you have any other questions, just mail me.
-J
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Since april, my best friend has been grounded for his grades. He's not allowed out, he's not allowed on the phone, or to use the computer. He became my boyfriend in June, while he's still grounded. It's been tough going out every weekend with my friends watching them hook up with guys, but never have I considered cheating or breaking up w/ him.
he's my best friend and i really don't want that, i just need to get through this. school's ending, which means that i won't see him every day anymore. He's still grounded (he was even grounded on his 16th birthday) and i don't think things are gonna get better this summer. (He was grounded cause he wasn't 'doing as well as he could' in school, grade-wise.)
He was on a computer today and we talked for less than an hour. I felt as if important conversation had to be forced, like there was no time to joke around, we had to talk about something interesting otherwise the time wouldve been wasted. He began tellnig me something personal about his past involving the cops, but it didnt hit me the way it SHOULD hit a best friend/girlfriend. I was thinking.. "okay, it feels like a kid i barely talk to is telling me his life story and i don't care."
I hate feeling this way. his parents don't care about his social life, obviously. I hate the distance, and i hate what they're doing. They're ruining us and i don't know how to cope much longer without going insane, without losing him as my best friend.. we're not as close anymore.. we barely just TALK.. it's just really depressing. and he's the first person i've felt so intensely about since i broke up with my boyfriend of a year, so i know he's important. i can't let him leave, but we're being fucking torn apart. how do i cope?
(oh & he just turned 16 and i'm about to turn 16.) (link)
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Luckygirl7 is totally right in my oppinion. Sometimes in a realationship you just gotta do some waiting. Like my realationship.... and im 15. I can kinda relate to how you feel cause when my boyfriend and i started dating over a year ago, and i told my parents, they didnt totally like the idea of us and forbid me to talk to him or see him. And he doesnt quite go to my school so i never seen him much anyway, and they end up taking my phone away and stuff. So i couldnt see him or talk to him for a month or two... It was hard but we got through it. I hope i kinda helped some. I'm sorry, and goodluck
-J
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Hey :) well I'm 13 and I need help me and my bf have been going out for 8 months were still virgins but we had conversations about havinq sex together should I ? I realy think he is the one ... Oh and sory another question I have gotten fingerd befor but I'm not sure if I still am a virgin am I?? I did not feel much niether did I bleed. My bestfriend told me that mabey it ddnt go all the way in to make my chery pop is sh right?? I need help I need answers please help :)
With love, gata :) (link)
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Whoah. Sex at 13?? Ok... I'm 15 right now, and when i was 13, i didnt wanna have sex! Idk what the world is coming to. And you wanna know something else, i still dont wanna have sex today. I see everywhere around me at my school pregnant girls. Even at my age!!!! I hear people talking about how they had sex and stuff, and it disgusts that someone that young is having sex already. I have a boyfriend too, been dating for over 1 year, and i dont plan on having sex till im married. and even if you did have sex, what if you became pregnant??? What do you think your parents would say??? Instead of having sex, focus on school. Education is more important at 13. Wait till you're married, or atleast mature enough, please. I'm sorry.
-J
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So, to make this short there is this boy who my friend dated while ago, prolly over 5 months ago. She got over him, and she now has a boyfriend. Well, her ex, "Paul" and I have been talking quite a bit, and have been harassing each other for a long time. We both decided that we didn't want eachother, and that we were just friends because ALL of our friends said that we acted like we were dating. So, I went over to his house, and he and I kissed, and it was like a fire was lite in my stomach! I was in a state of euphoria for about 2 days after we kissed, and it was just amazing. He agreed and said that it was equally as amazing. Now here is the hard part, he keeps going all weird. Like, not talking to me and acts like he wants nothing to do with me. We dated for a day, and he said he couldn't do it becuase he was still in love with my friend, his recent ex. So I said, fine I respect that, and then he said he really likes me, so we are "complicated". He keeps wanting sexual things, to which I say NO, and he is persistant! Its annoying, but I like him SO much I dunno what to do. Do I just wait and go with the flow? Or do I assume he just wants me for sex? If you need anymore info, just comment and I will fill in any holes! Thanks! (link)
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In my oppinion Lilz is right. He claims to be in love with your friend still so he doesn't want to date you but he wants to do sexual stuff with you? That doesn't make no sense. If he still loves your friend he shouldn't want to do that stuff with you. So Basically i'm sayin he's just trying to use you. I understand that you really like him but it might be best to stay away from him. It's good to know that you're saying no to the sexual stuff. Good job! Goodluck on everything
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been having some problems before but it has gone way too far. I don't know what to do anymore because I love him but I found out that our whole relationship has been based on a lie. I was suspicious of him one day and checked him one email and found pictures of girls in their bra and panties and bathing suits that he had been talking to. He had a wouldyouhitthis.com account when we first started dating and promised to close it. All this time I thought it was closed and I tried to get over the whole email thing. But today I just found that he has had his account open since at least July 24,2008 and has been flirting, looking at, and talking to these girls on the sex site. I don't know what to do anymore. He lied to me this whole time and told me his account was closed except he randomly opened it before christmas but then closed it. He lied, he didn't open it around christmas, he had it open since at least July 24,2008. Two days before my birthday... what a great present and I didn't even know it. He has been talking to girls still too. He said he was done after that sex site thing but then started talking to a 14 year old girl. He's 25 years old. Am I wrong for thinking that's disgusting and wrong? He was calling her hot and asking her if she would date him regardless of his age and asked her what panties she was wearing. What should I do? Nothing will change will it? Should I just move on? (link)
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Good grief! He's a jerk!! (No offense) If I were you I'd dump him. I mean that is wrong. I know breaking up with him will be hard but it'd be worth it in the long run. That is not a healthy relationship. You deserve someone that will treat you better and not do things like that. If you choose to stay with him, no things wont change. If it was going to change it would have already but instead he lied to you about that. You should do your best to move on. But make sure, if you decide to move on, your best friend is ready to do her best to cheer you up. You'll for sure need it. Ending a 3 year relationship would be the most toughest thing you'll do. I'm sorry and hope things get better for you. :(
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I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I can't seem to stay in any relationship. Every time I like someone and end up going out with them, I just suddenly don't like them anymore, and break up with them. What's my problem? It's not just that I like the chase, because I don't. I honestly don't do much chasing (I'm a big flirt, with everyone, whether I like them or not, but that's it). It's not likely that I like attractive people but realize I don't like their personality. Personality is one of the major reasons I would have a crush on someone. Is it just that I'm not ready for a relationship but not willing to admit that? (It's not a great thing for a 16-year-old girl to admit today). I feel so confused, because I legitamately like guys, but can't stand being in a relationship with them. Can anyone explain this? (link)
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This could be because they're just a small crush and after a certain period of time is goes way. Or you liked just a guy for his looks and you're taste in looks changed. Maybe the guys personality wasn't what you were looking for. Try and get to know a guy you like more before you date him. See if he is right for you and you like his personality not just his looks. A good relationship shouldn't be based on looks in my oppinion.
(i'm a year younger than you so if you don't agree with this i'd understand. Goodluck!)
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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on??? (link)
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Just depends on what type of girl she is. If she is one of those people who doesn't want to feel selfish and likes to take responsiblity, like me, then she may not like you paying for stuff. Sometimes in some girls, if you pay for something for them, it makes them feel selfish in a way or bad because you're having to spend money on them instead of on something else that you may need.
Hope this helped you some. Goodluck!
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Ok my friend katie likes my boyfriend when we were going out. and then we broke up and she didnt even wait 1 week to go out with him. should i tell her off or just suffer? (link)
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Don't tell her off. No matter how much you want to. It'd be immature and you could lose her as a friend and it wouldn't be worth it. And i'm not saying it wasn't wrong for her to do that, cause it was. But if you dont want to lose a friend i'd keep what you have to say in. Try writing a note to her and say whatever you feel like saying to her face and tell her off but rip the note up when you're done. It will make you feel a little better about things.
Plus, you aren't hurting anyone.
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