im curious to know how it is to have sex without a condem. i hear it feels a whole lot better. i knoww this is a risky thing..but is it ture first of all? and second..if i try it on the last day of period..will that be ok? or is it a myth that ththats the safest time. birth control info is also greatly appreciated. can i get it without parents knowing?
l0lz, well theres a bunch of questions for ya;; on your first question, it feels wonderful without a condom (trust meee). Second of all, every chica is different. You can still have you period and be able to get pregnant, so if you do decide to go without a condom, make sure your both clean, healthy and if he decides to bust a nut (in other words - cum) then be sure to have him pullout. This however does NOT protect you from pre-cum that is automatically ejaculated from the penis when it is aroused, yes - you can still get pregnant from pre-cum. Third of all, you can go to the nearest "Planned Parenthood" around you, have an exam done and get birth control, depending on where you live however. Or you can go to your nearest drug store/drug pharmacy, Rite-Aid for example.
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Ok... here's the situation...
I'm a senior in high school (17 female) ...I have a crush on one of my teachers (25 male) ... hes cute and funny and all that... we're really good friends and many of my close friends seem to think he likes me back... but im not sure ... to get to the point ... my question is that would it be considered un-ethcial for us to go out after i was to graduate?
l0lz, chica, unless your in school and dating your teacher, THEN it would be unethical. But obviously you got your head in the right place and know when the steps should be taken. After graduation is perfectly fine, he wouldn't be your teacher anymore for one and for second, the correct term would be "he WAS your teacher". l0lz, good luck for you sweetie! I wish you the best *MuaHz*
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okay well, i have a boyfriend who has had a lot of expierence with making out and i want to make out with him. but i have no idea how. don' say "just go with the flow" because that doesn't help. pleaseee helppp meeee. i rate 5's to anyone who tries!♥
Heyz,
Usually all chicas are scared and maybe even a little intimidated if they have a boyfriend who has more or even more advanced experience in that "sexual" way, no matter if its actually doing the deed or kissing. For most people though, whether they hold the skill or not, kissing comes easy when/once they're in a comfortable and pleasing enviroment. Here's a site that should help you: http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm
Best Kisses!
*MuaHz*
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School has started an I'm totally warped. I have been with my boyfriend for about three and a half motnhs. Only problem is, I think his brother likes me. I'm not retarded I kno when a guy is interested. he walks down my hallway just to see me because i know for a fact that his class is on the whole other side of the school. on top of that before lucnh, hes in my lunch, but anyways, before lunch he'll walk in with me with his arm over my shoulder or holding my hand. when i'm sitting or walking across the lunchroom i can feel his eyes on me and if i glance at him hes looking at me and then looks at something else, I've caught him quite a few times doing this. you know how u can just tell? its crazy. on top of this and you might be a little mad, but I kind of like him too! I don't know what it is because I really care about my boyfriend and then heres his brother!
Ohhhhh chica, this is a BIG BIG BIG NO-NO!!! I can understand that your diggin this guy but then you also have to understand if hes trying to make a move on you WHILE your going out with HIS brother, look at not only how disrespectful that is, but realize how much that would seriously fuck up your boyfriend and his brother's relationship. Its not worth the drama chica, no one can help who their attracted to, however they can help their actions. If you go for this guy (no matter how tempted you are), it will really screw things up. Its obvious he's diggin you too, but then again he has to remember if it weren't for his brother he wouldn't have met you or got to know you like he does now, and last but not least, your his brother's chica. Not his. Going with him is the ultimate LOWEST thing you could do to your boyfriend and the LOWEST he could do to his brother. Chica, don't do it. You have to make a decision, is it worth the drama or does your boyfriend mean more to you than anything.
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ok i really like this really hot guy and i used to think he was an idiot. i have now realised he isnt an idiot and actually has a lot in commen with me. i think he likes me because not only does he always look kind of pleased when i laff at his jokes but he sometimes tries to hard to make it look like he doesnt like me. like, i will ask him what he got on his math test and he will say "96" or something and i will be like, i got 100 and he just sas "i dont care what you got" like he is being defencive. i tell another guy what i got on the same test and he will be like, omigosh you got 100!? he has a kindof hard imige where you dont let annything out but he told me he sometimes watches sunsets off his deck and i should see it. i have never asked a guy out before but theres a first for everything so i was wondering if you guys could help me know what to say? thanx i rate high
Try taking it extra slow chica, so it gives him space (incase he's scared) and also gives you time to figure him out... instead of asking him out on a date, do a variety of activities that you both would enjoy. Halloween's coming up, try making a "dummy" together. Plan a little pizza party between you and him with your and his little brothers/sisters, or even your friends, as long as both of you are comfortable with it. Try getting a movie you both would like to watch, invite him over or go over his house to watch it. Play against eachother in a game of basketball, ask him to go to the store with you or say your trying to tone out your body and ask him if he would like to walk with you... hope this helps... good luck chica, *MuaHz*
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Okay. Well I recently got back together with my ex. He asked me back out and said he had missed me and all of this stuff. And that he was happy we were back together. He was all like, "I regret breaking up with you." Lalala.. You get the picture. Well, now that we're back together... he never calls or anything. He has a cell phone, he could call any time he wasn't busy (which he is a lot... he juggles work and school and the crap his parents make him do.) Well what I don't understand is... if she cares about me the way he says he does... wouldn't he at least call sometime??? or I mean, geez... I dunno. I'm just confused. Is he secretly trying to say, "Hey, I don't think this is gonna work?" or do all boys do this? Lol
He could be seriously busy or he could also be handing you the cold shoulder. Your best luck is to call him, if you don't call him or talk to him to see whats goin on, it could cause misunderstanding, hurt feelings and anger. He could be too busy and too tired to feel like talking, or he could be too busy and just doesn't want to let you go but knows he can't give you the attention you deserve therefore, he's trying to avoid the situation where he knows he'll have to break it off in giving the best interest for you... try calling him chica. As a matter of fact, stop reading this right now and get the phone. I hope all goes well... *MuaHz*
p.S. let me know what happens!
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my so called friend knew i liked this boy, she was even talking about me liking him to somebody else. and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
i dont understand why she didnt want to tell me to see how i feel about it
and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him
she was saying to me the other day she's moving to california after her degree
help please i am hurt and confused
Obviously this chick that didn't even bother getting the heads up from you on this guy is a childish brat. Don't let her beat you down, yeah you might like this boy, you could try looking for another one, right? However, when you have to deal with the rumors and constant drama about it, you only become more competitive about it. If you really dig this guy, see how things go between your friend and him first, if there is about the slightest problem between them, move in quick, though this could take a day or could take months to years if your the desperate enough to wait. Or you could even try talking to him about what she's doing, that may take some courage but it just might make him realize that he's seriously going out with the wrong chica. While talking about it, mention things about you that can make him get to know you without over doing yourself or making it a little too obvious. Be careful, some guys can be dogs, but if you really want this one, go for it. Gotta take risks and fight for what we want right? However, if you don't want to make a big deal out of it, its better off just dropping it and leaving it alone.
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this guy i've just met he jokes around a lot. he told me that he loved me but i think hes jsut jokin around but hes like i really do oh yeah but he don't really kno me yet. what should i do?
Just plain out tell him that those worlds have a big meaning and if you don't feel those words, then they obviously don't mean anything. Let him know that if/when you want him to say them you want him to actually mean them instead of thinking love can be replaced by attraction. If he doesn't know you and he's saying those words, he obviously doesn't know the true value of love. You can't love someone you hardly know, love is about knowing a person who and what they are, inside and out and actually accepting them for them and not at all want to change any of it....
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ive been crazy about this one guy for 3 yrs! THREE YEARS! well my feelings have been on and off but i usually like him. i mean i only dated my ex to get him jealous (i know thats mean = \ )
anways this guy, nick, always says we'll get together and stuff but just leads me on and plays games. im fed up with it. should i just stop talkin 2 him completly? i want to so i wont get hurt anymore.. but i dont because hes a REALLY good friend = \
what do you think? thanks!!
Honestly chica, you should really drop him no matter how crazy you are about him. Your feelings are more important to you and your life than a guy who wants to lead you on and play games with your head. This type of thing is SOOOOOO hard to accomplish just because that drive to have him and that attraction for him is so strong, however, this is something you have to overcome. Play the game before the game plays you, you being in this and your vulnerability in this only leads you to playing your own self... best of luck and hopefully my words were words of encouragement... *MuaHz*
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Ok I was planning to go to school about an hour away from my girlfriend, but in a last minute effort I decided to stay at home and go to school with her. I was transferring to play ball and this is my second year sitting out. I feel like I'm missing something. I can go without thinking about playing, but sometimes I think about what it would be like to be on my team and what would it be like to play college basketball. My question is simple, Should I get in contact with my coach and try to go away? I really don't want to leave her, but I miss ball so much. We just got back together after we broke up for about 3 weeks. I don't want to jeopardize anything right now. I really don't know what to do...
In the long run, you and your girlfriend have to sit together and talk about this. You miss playing ball so much and I am 100% sure, if you don't take this chance now, you'll regret it. Your girlfriend on the other hand needs to be supportive and understanding. I know you feel as if your having to choose between your "career/future" or the girl you care about so dearly. It is possible to have both, although it will be hard, but in the end, it'll strengthen your guys relationship. If you and her are ment to be, you and her, will stick through it. No you may not want to jeopardize anything, but like I said, you can always have both. It may be difficult in the beginning but you'll get use to the fact that if what you and her have is real, it'll last through anything.
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Ok last night was my cousin's 14th birthday party.I had no idea ta ll that my cousin invited my ex boyfriend. It was weird at first, but then we started hanging out and he started hitting on me. Then after awhile this kid Brandon started hitting on me too! Well I have a boyfriend, and what happens when you think you like your ex again and you know he may like yoy, and all your friends want you to hook up and even your cousin!(Doesn't happen very often for me)
Will rate high for good answers
The whole situation relies on how much you want your ex-boyfriend and how much do you care about your current boyfriend. Even though he's your ex and you still have feelings, you have to remember the reasons as to why you guys broke up in the first place. Most guys don't like this, but try to see which one your most compatible with. Most likely, your going to say your ex because he's more familiar to you and so on and so forth, however, look at every option you have before you make a decision.
Furthermore, don't follow through with it if your being pressured by those around you. Figure out how strong your ex's feelings are for you and then see where to go from there. But remember, if you decide to stay with your current boyfriend or go back to your ex, either way, you may regret it or someone is going to get hurt. Like I say "Following your heart can lead to a broken heart, so while following your heart, also use your head." Best of luck chica! *MuaHz*
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Ok.. im sorry if this gets long and confusing, but i really need help & ive got a lot on my mind.. so this will get long!!
So theres this boy, and i like him so much! the thing is.. we went out before.. and he was so great! then we broke up about 2 months later because his feelings werent as strong for me as he thought. but i still like him. we talked about going out but he didnt think it was a very good idea, but he did like me. ( we go to different schools, by the way. ) we see each other every monday, wednesday, and friday. and i think thats good enough? ever since we broke up we've been best friends.. and that makes me like him even more. about 4 months after we broke up, he asked me out again. he said for sure his feelings were strong. so i said yes, because i was madly in love with him!! he had a dance at his school, he asked me to go but i couldnt because of cheerleading practice. so i came home and checked my messages on my cell fone and one of my good friends that goes to his school called me. i called her back right away. she told me so much stuff! like the boy danced with another girl.. that didnt really bother me. but then she said they made out and he went to her house afterwards. i was crying so much!! i called his cell fone and the GIRL answered. [ to make it all worse, it was the girl i hate because she did the same exact thing with my old boyfriend. ] so me and the boy talked and he denied everything. i could not believe him. this was about 2 weeks ago. but i still love him so much!! see, thats the thing. after all he did and after all the pain i went through.. i keep on loving him. i keep on begging for him! it sucks =( i cry so much about it but theres nothing i can do.
so my question is :
what should i do!? follow my heart and still crush on him.. or give up on him?!
I LOVE HIM SOOOOO MUCH
I've been through this exact situation. Your still young and trust me baby girl, even though you may argue against it, its not "love" its more along the lines of infatuation. When you and this boy (I'll call him Mike), when you and mike were to together I'm sure it was new and very beautiful to you. In fact, I bet you were completely confused as to why or how you thought it was so great between you two but he thought in his own way, it was lame. However, maybe he wasn't sure of the type of person you were and in those 4 months of friendship, he got to real recognize you for you.
It seems as if he wants a chica he can come back to, but because he goes to a different school, he seems to think he can do as he pretty much pleases. You let him know chica, "Nuh-uh, I'm too good for this, either your with me because you truly care about me and don't want noone else, or you say its over right now." You have to have the strength to let him know, you won't put up with the hurt any longer. If you stay with him, the hurt he continues to inflict on you, you will only deserve. But see chica, you don't deserve to be hurt and crushed at such a young age, you need to experience things. Love at this age shouldn't be one of them unless this boy deserves your love. I know it hurts like hell, but if he can't respect you, then theres truly no sense in having him. You don't want to be continuously hurt and have your self-esteem dragged down. Save yourself sweetie, because when I didn't, my heart was ruined and it was so hard to trust any guy afterwards. If you stay, it'll only screw you up. Best of luck, sweetz! *MuaHz*
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I am 13 Male
When my best friend (a girl a have a crush on) asks me a question about if she should go out with a certain boy whose side should i be on...
should i be on her side and say " Oh ya definitaly go out w/ him.
Or should i be on my side and be like "uh No you should stop looking at a ever other F ing boy but me.
Im sorry if this ? Seems dumb but i need advice hense me coming to this website
I rate Fives
PLEASE i am desparate
Well lil chico, this is where you need to stand up and give her a hint that "yeah, I like you". If your not sure on how to do this or want to put this off until you know for sure she's ready for it and doesn't have feelings for any other boy, your best bet is to mention any flaws you see in the boys she likes. However, if she's a real sweetheart, she'll say "she'll accept them for who they are." This is the moment when you have to say something.
You say she's your bestfriend, and to us females, friendships are practically the most imporant things to us. She may see you as only a bestfriend, and you have to, no matter what, accept this.
Your not asking how to talk to her, your asking or trying to figure out a way to get her to quit looking at other guys, however, she's looking at other guys and not you because your very special to her. Your one of her bestfriends, she most likely doesn't look at you like that.
Try what I said, and get back at me when your ready or think its finally time to amount to letting her know how you feel.
Most likely, you expressing yourself will scare her or shock her, be careful.
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okay i have a friend who liked me since he met me which was elementary and i liked him to but i never knew he liked me so i never told him so years later i found out he liked me and he still likes me so i was so happy it was like a dream come true but then he had a girl friend and he just blew me off after telling me he was in love with me this whole time so i moved on and met this other guy and fell in love with him and so my friend dumped his girl friend and started calling me and told me he sees him getting married with me when he gets older and that he will never for get me and boom he asked me out sayin he loves me but i said no i mean i like him but i already moved on and now i told him lets just be friends but some part of me really wants him but hes the type of guy where he will like you and then he will like someone else so yea well he calls me and tells me that still but then he tells me he like is in love with 3 or more other girls i mean what is with that i told him hes a player and he said no but now he just calls me talking about another girl and i still like him i need some help badly....
Well, this boy is obviously confused and has no idea what he's doing. At any chance he may think he has, he'll take. For some girls, yes, this is a good thing, however for other girls, example: your case, this isn't so good. Ask yourself truly, what is he doing? Are his actions speaking louder than words? Or are his words falling down flat as his actions say otherwise? My best advice to you, I know you like this boy, but understand in the long run, would it truly work out between him and you? He seem's like the type to get bored easily, if you ended up falling head over heels in love with him, would he push you to the side? No one can help who their attracted to, if it were that easy, "true love" would practically be extinct or be too over-rated. Chica, its gonna be hard, but you have to cut him off.
Take it step by step, when he calls, say your busy or about to go somewhere. When you see him, just say you don't have time to talk. Eventually take it to the next step to where you don't ever answer his calls and you can walk passed him without looking even once. He'll get the clue. Just please don't sacrifice your relationship and your feelings for someone who has no idea what in God's name those things even are. Good Luck, Chica! *MuaHz*
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