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so theres this boy..


Question Posted Sunday September 18 2005, 11:12 pm

Ok.. im sorry if this gets long and confusing, but i really need help & ive got a lot on my mind.. so this will get long!!

So theres this boy, and i like him so much! the thing is.. we went out before.. and he was so great! then we broke up about 2 months later because his feelings werent as strong for me as he thought. but i still like him. we talked about going out but he didnt think it was a very good idea, but he did like me. ( we go to different schools, by the way. ) we see each other every monday, wednesday, and friday. and i think thats good enough? ever since we broke up we've been best friends.. and that makes me like him even more. about 4 months after we broke up, he asked me out again. he said for sure his feelings were strong. so i said yes, because i was madly in love with him!! he had a dance at his school, he asked me to go but i couldnt because of cheerleading practice. so i came home and checked my messages on my cell fone and one of my good friends that goes to his school called me. i called her back right away. she told me so much stuff! like the boy danced with another girl.. that didnt really bother me. but then she said they made out and he went to her house afterwards. i was crying so much!! i called his cell fone and the GIRL answered. [ to make it all worse, it was the girl i hate because she did the same exact thing with my old boyfriend. ] so me and the boy talked and he denied everything. i could not believe him. this was about 2 weeks ago. but i still love him so much!! see, thats the thing. after all he did and after all the pain i went through.. i keep on loving him. i keep on begging for him! it sucks =( i cry so much about it but theres nothing i can do.

so my question is :
what should i do!? follow my heart and still crush on him.. or give up on him?!

I LOVE HIM SOOOOO MUCH <33.

please please please please please help <33

*sorry for the length =)*


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Additional info, added Sunday September 18 2005, 11:14 pm:
if it helps.. were both 13..

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mooch789 answered Wednesday September 21 2005, 7:27 pm:
I say give up on him because obviously he can't decide. Find another boy who'll stick with you no matter what. Hope I helped!

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Xfoxcutie09X answered Monday September 19 2005, 7:10 am:
well its like this since your only 13 i think you should get to know other guys and go out with them. obviously this guy doesnt really want to be with you right now. go out with other guys then if you still cant geet over him then talk to him and let him know how you feel. i hope i helped.

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Swe3ti3boO answered Monday September 19 2005, 4:34 am:
I've been through this exact situation. Your still young and trust me baby girl, even though you may argue against it, its not "love" its more along the lines of infatuation. When you and this boy (I'll call him Mike), when you and mike were to together I'm sure it was new and very beautiful to you. In fact, I bet you were completely confused as to why or how you thought it was so great between you two but he thought in his own way, it was lame. However, maybe he wasn't sure of the type of person you were and in those 4 months of friendship, he got to real recognize you for you.
It seems as if he wants a chica he can come back to, but because he goes to a different school, he seems to think he can do as he pretty much pleases. You let him know chica, "Nuh-uh, I'm too good for this, either your with me because you truly care about me and don't want noone else, or you say its over right now." You have to have the strength to let him know, you won't put up with the hurt any longer. If you stay with him, the hurt he continues to inflict on you, you will only deserve. But see chica, you don't deserve to be hurt and crushed at such a young age, you need to experience things. Love at this age shouldn't be one of them unless this boy deserves your love. I know it hurts like hell, but if he can't respect you, then theres truly no sense in having him. You don't want to be continuously hurt and have your self-esteem dragged down. Save yourself sweetie, because when I didn't, my heart was ruined and it was so hard to trust any guy afterwards. If you stay, it'll only screw you up. Best of luck, sweetz! *MuaHz*

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ChOcOLoLo answered Monday September 19 2005, 1:27 am:
hey there! i really think that you should still be friends with him, but give up on him and you being together, because after all of this, and knowing that you really liked him, turned around and did this to you. this guy only seems to be playing on your feelings, just trying to see how far he can get while knowing that you like him, but maybe not having the same strong feelings. there are many other boys out there, and look you're still 13, so you should still go on living, and know that your special someone will come in time. Don't set your heart on this one person when you're still very young because you never know, and for sure this guy is not the best one for you.

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