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There's this guy I have a question about. He is a very close friend of mine, and the two of us have had some "liking one another" things in the past. What does it mean if he always: looks into my eyes, gets close to me, touches me, leans on me sometimes, flirts, talks to me a lot, and walks with me a lot? Does he like me? Or not? By the way, I am 12 and he is 13 if that helps any. A lot of people think me and him make a good couple and they think he likes me. But I really have no clue and I need an opinion from someone I don't know. (link)
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It sounds to me that he likes you, but at your age, it's probably best to stay close friends for now. See if later your friendship doesn't turn into something really special! Good luck to you :)
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i have been dateing my bf for 2 and a half months now and we still havent kissed! last week i almost kissed him, but then i chickened out! a friend of mine(who i like to refer to as my own personal spy) said that he told her that he came close to kissing me but was to nervous. he will put his arm around me and hold me close. but how do i get him to not be that nervous and kiss me? we've talked about kissing but it never happened. (link)
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Honestly, patience is key. When you two are comfortable enough with each other that he's okay with going in for a real first kiss then it will happen! No use rushing things.
There are pieces of advice I can give you though: Eat chocolate or a mint first, and lean in close to his face locking eyes with him when you laugh at something funny he may have said. It makes it clear you want physical contact and is also mood-lightening. Hold his hand as well! Eye contact is tell-tale; if he looks scared, don't pressure him. If he looks willing but hesitant, just come straight out and be like, "So babe, are you going to kiss me?" And totally smile like you mean it.
Your first kiss with a new person (and in general) should be genuine and meaningful. Make it something you'll remember :)
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Help!!!
I REALLY luv this guy, and he says I'm the luv of his life. But I want to kiss him! He said he wants his first kiss to be with me, but I don't know if he wants to...yet. I've caught him staring at me a lot lately, so should I make a move towards ME kissing HIM?!
Signed,
Needs Help MAKING UP HER MIND!!! (link)
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I'm just wondering how old you are. I would never say there is too young a time to be in love, but I'm wondering if you're serious about that or just overly excited? Anyway, my advice to you is to wait and let him do it when he's good and ready. If he actually wants you to do it, he'll probably bring it up or stare at you really hard for a long time practically screaming in his eyes for you to take the plunge. But honestly, it's most effective to keep the ball on his side.
Keep it coming if you have more questions :)
Mayya
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Okay here's my story.
I've bee nfrineds with this guys for like over 11 years. We've always gotten along very well and we have a lot in common. We're like best friends.
Anyways I've noticed that we've become closer towards each other. And for the past 4 years I've liked him. I've always given him hints that I liked him and he's done nothing about that. Then at my graduation party he finally figured it out that I like him.
And he told me he just liked me as his friend even though he clearly gives me signs that he likes me more than a friend.
I guess I need advice on what to do. I mean to me we seem really close. And usually guys are easy to read about what their thinking and if you plan to make a move you can figure it out how they would react but not this guy. I really really really like him and I'm just not sure what my first move should be or should I wait for him to make the first move. What's your advice for me? (link)
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My advice is that you watch out for this guy. He may be interested in just one thing. Even if he is your friend, most guys are just plain stupid and will like, be so happy you're into them and just want to get in your pants. Now, maybe he's a nice guy and it ends up not being like that and he's just trying to protect his feelings for you by being dishonest about it, but either way, you gotta watch out for yourself and how you deal with him! Tell me if you have any other problemoss. Take care
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i met some girls a few months ago. i got to know them pretty good. i have much in common with both of them. i liked 1 of them so i told her how i felt, but she has a bf. after she said that i said it's kind of awkward talking to her. she said not to worry and she'll forget about it. i'm ok with that because i wasn't deeply inlove with her anyway. but now i think i'm starting to like her friend, she seems real nice and always calls me cute and i say the same to her. is it too sudden to say i like her? note: she doesnt have a boyfriend (link)
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Aw, sweetheart. It's too bad the one you liked has a boyfriend. Sorry for that, but about this other girl... I'd just like to point out that if you're "starting to like her" then it may not be anything you have to jump on right away because it's better to take more time and know that you're sure you like her. I'm not so much worried that the girl would not respond in a positive way, but I am in fact more worried about how unstable the relationship could be if you told her too early. My advice is to wait until you honestly have your feelings sorted out and then tell her exactly how you feel, but don't take this to mean wait for ever! No! Because at some point, you may lose something that could turn out to be extremely special to you in the long run if you wait too long =)
Until that time, keep up the flirting! Girls like it as long as it's not vulgar.
If you have any more questions, contact me!
--> mayya
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ok so i like this boy and he likes me....we like eachother a lot..and i don't want to be his gf but i do! and he wants to be my bf.. .his friends asked me" so do you want to be "" gf" and i say not yet...but inside i totally want to say yes..then his friends tell him and he aslways sais " its ok ..thats fine..i will just wait" and i think that is sweet and all but ...well i don't know what to do...help fast! (link)
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That sounds so familiar =) what i did, and the only thing i can tell you is to just play it out. stay comfortable around this guy and be yourself! of course, you have to tell him exactly how you feel and hearing what he says to his friends makes him sound like a very sweet boy so you don't have to be afraid to tell him that you really do like him.. you're just not ready for a boy friend yet. i think he'll understand and it will be good for him to hear it coming from you! if you have any questions, just im me =)
mayya
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Hey I'm 14/m and i still haven't ever kissed a girl outside my family.... I feel kinda out of place here because I'm already in high school and ive never kissed.... is there something wrong with me? (link)
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Okay, there is NOTHING wrong with u. By the sound of it, u just haven't found a girl worth kissing. It's very sweet actually, if that special girl whom u will find eventually, knows u haven't kissed anyone but who will be her. My point is, don't stress about it, and if u find a girl u like, ask her out! Maybe things will happen ;-) IM me if u have any problems :-)
*Mayya
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What's the difference between Taking a break and breaking up! I always saw taking a break as just an easy way of breaking up with someone...like just a nicer way ya know!
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I used taking a break as an excuse to get my own space.. But it was never to break up with my boy friend.. he just took it really badly.. Then cheated on me *shrugs* o well.. Breaking up is when u cleanly say, I son't think we should date or I think we should just be friends. Taking a break, in my eyes, is soo different then breaking up because I've had experience with those words and I'm still hurting :-) but you're okay. Just remember, no matter wat a guy says, he's only true if he marries u, and if there's a divorce, than the marriage was false ;-) Stupid test answers...
*Mayya
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how do you know when a guy wants to kiss you? (guys and gurls answer this!) what are some signs and if i can tell he does should i just make the move or wait for him to? give me some help on kissing! muah** lol thanks! (link)
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I remember I had this same question myself, but I didn't know of this site, and sadly, I'm a columnist.. But, anyway.. back to the subject.. You know if a guy wants to kiss u if he keeps looking into ur eyes and u can feel a warmth even when he's not looking straight into ur eyes. The way u know he's not sure if he wants to kiss u is if he looks at ur lips first. But once a boy looks straight into ur eyes, make the first move if he doesn't do it for 10 seconds. Make sure ur eyes "lock" and just lean in! You could also just ask the guy if he wants to kiss u, just to be silly, but if he does he'll say yes ;-) Hope this works!
*Mayya
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(I'm 14) I've been going out with my bf for awhile, and I always knew that he USED to smoke pot, and stopped like 6 months ago,and sometimes drinks a lot because of family problems...Well about 3 weeks ago he left a voice message saying he wouldn't be able to call because he got grounded because he "got caught doing something...very bad" and wouldn't tell me what it was, well his parents disconnected his phone and I found out yesterday from his friend justin (i had to practically beat it out of him...because he was afraid i'd go off killing my bf or something...) that his parents caught him smoking (which explains why he cant run 2 miles anymore) and that he used to have a big stash of cigs in his room, but that he quit after his parents caught him...then he asked if i was gonna break up with him, i said "i have no idea" And i haven't talked to him because he's grounded, and as selfish as it is, it pisses me off..
I dunno what to do, should I break up with him or not? I know all my friends will say I should, because I'm in the "good" group of friends, a lot of them go to church and have very strong beliefs and have never done any of that stuff,(we live in a small town in farmersville u.s.a so that stuff is a big deal) I'm in with them...but barely (my family is screwed up) it's like i'm teetering on the edge of good and bad...and i always fall for the messed up guys, and I know my bf is messed up..but i love him, and I don't know...he's never pressured me or ANYTHING, he's not like that, but I know dating someone with that many problems isn't good and will lead to problems, because drugs and alcoholism run in MY family too..but no matter what he does i can't hate him
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Okay, my EX boyfriend, whom I still love to this very second (2 years now) is starting to smoke and do drugs and drink.. it's a slap in the face when u hear loved ones are doing that type of stuff. The worst thing u could do right now is break up with him, or hate him, both for urself and for him. Now, ur bf seems very special to u and also seems like a good person who just may do some bad things to himself, but never to u. However, if u should get to talk to him, I think u should tell him that u love him, but he actually ISN'T just hurting himself by getting in trouble and doing bad things, but he's also hurting u by not being able to go out, being scared for his health, not talking to him, etc. If u don't get to talk to him, I think he's parents may puit him in rehab for a while, cuz I think that's wat he needs, so it may be a while, but hold strong, and u guys can make it through. If u don't it just wasn't meant to be: Love will find it's way, and if it's meant to be, it will happen. And remember, no matter how bad life gets, ur being weak by turning to things like drugs and alcohol because u're running from life. It's better to just take it because in a quote I read, which is TOTALLY true: "anything in life that doesn't kill u, will only make u stronger." I hope u and ur bf make it, and stand fast my dear :o)
*Mayya
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i had 3 girls ask me out and i only like one what should i tell the other 2? (link)
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If u really only like one of them, and don't want to go on a date at all with the other two, just tell them. They may be hurt, but it's way better to tell them then to leave them hanging.. or leading them on.. even worse idea, but don't tell them u want to go out with someone else, that's really mean, just say u're not interested in them that way, and would like just to be friends! Hope things workout for u :-)
*Mayya
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Around January i started likeing this guy named chris. We started talking and he told me liked me but that he couldnt go out with me because of everyone always getting into his business and trying to ruin things for him. Well he sortof stopped talking to me and it hurt me really badly. I liked him for the rest of the school year and then for 2 months he was only on my mind once in awhile. We'll in the beginning of July i started thinking about him again. He now wants to go out with me because he says that he didnt go out with me before because he didnt want me to get hurt and all this crap. Well last night we went skating and me and him hung out the whole time and i just wanted to hold his hand so badly but i knew that i couldnt. So around 10 he was like something about me goin out with him or something and my friend said aww are you askin her out and he said yeah and i said well how come now and he said just never mind megan and he said i try to be nice to you but you always seen to be mean in ways that you dont mean to. And so i just whatever chris. and then at the end of skatin ring he have me this really big hug and picked me up. The only problem is that there is a guy that has liked me for a really long time and he is like my best friend and he would never talk to me again if i went out with chris. What should I do in the situation? I really need some help so..b nice and ill rate you thank you! (link)
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OMG!! JERK ALERT!! Do NOT go out with this boy!! He is a loser,a dn only is saying that to maybe get back wat he didn't have b4!! If u like ur friend, it's better to go out with him then Chris. You guys have probably known each other for a looong time, and the best friendships are wat make great loves. If u don't like him like that, still, find another guy. There are plenty other guys that I assure u are better than what I imagine this creep as. Sorry if I hurt ur feelings about Chris, but it's only for the best sweetheart! You and every other girl deserves better!
I reeally hope everything turns out good. Remember, DON'T BREAK UR BESTFRIEND'S HEART! U won't forgive urself! Trust me!
Lots of luck!
*Mayya
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I've had a huge crush on this guy for almost a year now. He know's I like him, but he tries to ignore it like most guys do. He's in with the "popular" croud, but he's still acts really sweet and out-going and doesn't care what other people think. He waves at me a lot, he stares at me a lot, he plays with my hair and asks me to do stuff with him (in school, i.e. be his partner), and he also talks with me a lot more then other people. And just little stuff like that.
I know that a lot of people say "If you like someone, you automatically think they like you back", but I really think he likes me. But that's just me, and my friends think it's stupid to talk about, so does anyone have any adivce? Does he like me? o_O;
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I am almost sure ^_^. Lucky gal. But, u have to be subtle with these things. U don't want to scare him off!! Just be urself and flirt back with him because that is exactly wat he is doing, whether or not he notices. After a little time, maybe u'll get his phone number -- or maybe u already have it -- or vice versa, and u can call him and tell him exactly how u feel instead of him hearing it through the grapevine. U never know WHAT a boy thinks until he tells u, and it is the same with them until U tell them. Boys are stupid, and must be talked to with direction. So, take some action, girl! My instincts tell me u're doing good! :O)
If u have any other problems, just ask me!
*Mayya
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Ok my boyfriend and me had been going out for about...2 months...we had been pretty close friends for like 5 months before that. Well, he really was a sweet guy, but I kinda cheated on him with this dude...well not exactly, the guy kissed me. anyways, my boyfriend forgave me. but today he was like, "i think we should take a break. im not breaking up with u exactly, but i just think we should take a break for a while. i will probably want to get back with you in the near future." what do i do? wait for him??? im just confused right now. (link)
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I know how he feels, even though I'm a girl because I did that to my ex.. In my case, I really was in love with him.. like.. totally completely, I fell into a hole, and until now, I can't get out, all b/c I said the same words ur boyfriend did. Girl, it would break my heart, and his SURELY, if u didn't wait. My advice to u is that if u really like him, just wait for him.. Keep the door open until he really does tell u to close it, or else u may lock it forever from both sides.. Keep love alive!
Tell me how things turn out!
*Mayya
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ok...i've like this kid for almost a year now. he's my friend, but he might like me, i don't know. yesterday was the first day of school, and i couldn't open my locker. After 3rd period i went up to him and one of my other guy friends and said "help me beat up my locker"...so we went to my locker, and he offered to open it for me. he got it open, so i gave him a hug, cuz i hadn't been able to open the damn thing all day. after that, he asked me if i had lunch then, i said yes, and he said "cool." so we walked outside, and i tried not to follow him like i do sometimes, but he sat where i did. we hung out at lunch again today...do you think he might like me? (link)
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It seems as if he maaayy be warming up to the idea. But DON'T push it. Keep being urself and keeping emotions checked. Maybe u'll hear through the grapevine that u got urself a guy
;-) Hope it turns out the way u want!
*Mayya
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SORRY THIS IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP Me and my boyfriend broke up on the first on August at night of course I cried I liked him but I was over him the next day I wasnt like in love with him Its just that I have a lot of time on my hand and have nothing to do I have to watch my little brother from the morning till 4 b/c my parents are at work then the rest of the day I dont do anything I just stay home for some reason and when I hang out with my bff she always acts like shes soo wonderful and perfect gets annyoing you know Im just wondering how can I like not think of him and just get over him and not feel bad that I dont have a bf and keep myself busy throghout the whole day? I mean this is really bugging me I dont wanna feel like I have a bad life I dont I just need some things to do to like keep me busy and not feel bad that I dont have a bf so please please please someone help me I mean really really help me thank you soo much and if you want me to rate then Ill rate if that will get me some answers thank you neone...sorry it was long but I really want to feel better and some ideas better then watch tv or get online please help me. ThankS (link)
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Okay, u r sooo totally frustrated and stressed. Wat u can do is take niiiice hott bubble baths, write poetry, write music, just write in general... draw something, PLAY with ur brother, not just "watch" him. Go outside and play a sport, go SHOPPING, or eat ice cream forever :-) There are SOO many things to do besides thinking of him. There are plenty other guys out there, so just keep searching if u reeeally think u just CAN'T live without a boyfriend, but I'm SURE u can sweetie cuz u're writing for help! :-)
Hope things turn out alright!
*Mayya
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theres this guy that i really really like. we had every class together last year, he's just the funniest, sweetest, most caring guy ever! i couldn't imagine anyone more perfect for myself. i dont want to say i love him cause im probably too young to know what love is (im 15), but i care about him like i have never cared about anyone else before. but i get so nervous when im around him, im shy as it is but when he's around i get super super shy! ugh i hate it but! but he talks to me alot and my friends think he might like me. but i really dont think so! anyways i dont know i should tell him? or what i should do cause its hard for me just to talk to him, i know ur gonna say just be myself but its way more easily said then done, trust me! and what i can do to keep in touch with him if we have no classes together this year? i like him sooooooo much! and all my friends say they can see us together and we would make a cute couple and stuff! i just dont know what to do, should i get over him?? ahh its so confusing i wish u could just read guys minds lol well if u could help id really appreciate it! thanks so much! (link)
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Love is NOT restricted by age. It is how u feel about another human being and deciphers wat u would do for them. If u 2 are really meant to be, something somewhere will FORCE u to tell him. Or, he will tell u if u're lucky ;-) But u're right, he may not like u, however, u NEVER know until u try it urself!! I know it will be scary and it could break ur heart, but believe me, if he doesn't like u, he's not for u. Not now, and probably not ever. Just talk to him. I know u can do it!
*Mayya
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OKay i really like this guy .. i mean like i love him n he loves me..! I just got out of this whole real love relationship n i truely loved him but i got hurt a bunch of times within that relatinship so he dumped me! Then this guy i like was going out with my best friend so my best friend dumped him n went out with my ex i was talking bout.. so now i like her ex! [[i know its confusing but try to help]] but see i dont wanna go out with him n hurt her like she hurt me.. but i like him alot! WHAT DO I DO! I RATE HIGH! (link)
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There is an unwritten law that says girls should NEVER date any guy that was involved with their friends.. Ur girl just broke that rule. That doesn't mean u get back at her though; good for u deciding that, however, the guy u like could be just a symbol for wat u used to have. I took a break from my serious boyfriend of 6 months, and then, he cheated on me before I could tell him I'm alright and I love him. That ended and I liked my friend Rob for eight months! Once it REALLY caught on he didn't like me, I noticed me liking Rob was a ploy and I was still really hurting. It's been 2 years now. I'm still bleeding, but I'm almost good as new. U owe it to urself to find another guy, but I don't advise u to keep going with this one.. I think u should wait a bit and see wat life throws directly at ur head. That's wat I did.. And I have a great boy now to prove it!
:-) Hope that helps! If u've got questions, contact me!
*Mayya
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This question has to do with my boyfriend again. We've only been dating for 4 days, but have known each other for about a month. We talk even before we were dating every night for like 3 hours on the phone. So far, he treats me so great and I dont have any reason not to trust him. Let me add now that he is friends with my father and alot of my Dads friends. Well, he sometimes talks about marriage, which scares me a bit, but I honestly could see myself marrying him. Anyway, to get to the point, I was told tonight by 2 different people, my ex boyfriend and my best friends sister that I hate & she hates me, that my boyfriend has probably already cheated on me & that I need to keep an eye on him beacause he likes to cheat. Im really scared because, what if they are right. But considering the people that told me I dont know if I should believe them. I really like this guy am Im scared that if I say anything about what I heard that he will be pissed at me. What should I do? Should I say something to him & if so, what? Please let me know ASAP, I need to figure this out before he calls me later on tonight!!! (link)
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I think later on, u should talk to him about wat u heard.. but DON'T accuse him of anything. Just tell him that a former friend of ur's said this, and u positively don't believe her.. but u do have a little doubt.. He should understand u, and if he's worth marrying, he'll tell the truth!
*Mayya
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my neighbor is a 13 year old female and im a 14 year old male. she stalks me and she likes but id ont like her like she likes me wat do i do? (link)
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I think u should simply tell her that u don't like her like that.. Gently please! u don't want to hurt her! But, u can also give her a chance to show how much she likes u.. and who knows? She could grow on u :-) Hope it works out!
*Mayya
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