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ok so i like this boy, right? and he is really hot and sweet and i talk to him sometimes in spanish class. i really wish i could speed up the process of becoming pals...friends...and hopefully bf/gf. I dont want to seem to desperate or weird during this process. Do you have any tips to catch his eye or say to him?
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well best advice is to go over and engage in the ever powerful conversation... talk to him till he talks back ;)
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My boyfriend & I broke up over a month ago. We haven't talked alot and he has moved on already with a new girlfriend. I've still been trying to get myself back together over the breakup and I have started flirting with guys & getting back in the game. I'm just still hung up on my ex and it feels horrible to know he moved on so quickly. How am I supposed to let him go and finally be able to let myself be happy with my life? He was the only serious boyfriend I had & we were together over a year. I really need to move on. (link)
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You just haven't found anyone to get you over it yet... best advice hang out with your girlfriends more and try and get involved in other things. Some people move on in a week some in a year, if he's the week kind and your the year kind, it can seem crazy frusterating and depressing, but it's not because he didn't care about you, it's that he either found someone, or couldn't stand being a lone, think of it this way, most likely he's just on the rebound from you and this new girl probably won't last, nor mean as much. It's ok to feel bad, you just need to keep doing what your doing, try to move on and re adjust to being single, that is why friends are a must... Learn to have fun on your own again... enjoy having no commitment for awhile!
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I'm a girl, and here's my situation... Okay, I like someone, but he all ready told me he just wanted to be friends. Later, he didn't talk to me for a long time, and got a girlfriend. I dunno what it means when he says that he just wants to be friends, and then he all of a sudden doesn't talk anymore to me, and only gives me a slight head nod when I say hi; no more high-fives or anything. I mean, he seems like the same guy, but he acts so different around me. Recently he broke up with his girlfriend, and I'm not so positive if he's going to act that way around me still. I really love this guy, but I'm just getting unsure of what he's doing. He's not the shy type I don't think, and I dunno how I can approach him with this kinda stuff. He probably knows I like him, still.
HELP! (link)
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Ok, basically you have to understand that "I just want to be friends" is a glorified rejection to your advances. Most likely him saying that, did not mean, "ok you're my new best friend." or "I want to see you all the time." He was being nice in saying no to you... Him "disapearing" from you is not wrong or abnormal, its pretty common. The girlfriend had nothing to do with it, your intrest made him feel maybe a bit awkward in being around you so he probably avoids you to avoid the feeling. He's moving forward, and on with his life, and you'll just have to accept that he's not the one for you, if he was he'd be with you. If you really want to be his friend then well go out of your way to talk to him instead of noding back at him or saying "hi"... let it go, or make an effort don't ponder what went wrong...
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what should I do if I have a bf but I kinda like another guy and I always have!But I want the other guy to like me cause if he does I wanna dump my bf what should I do to get his attention right now he currently has a gf!!!! And I have been hrt ackin what should I do to get his attention and to get him to notice me !!!??
Truley,
ME! (link)
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Ok, first break up with the person your with now... really, if you'd leave him for another man then how fair is it to him to stay with him till you get something "better" when it would be just as easy to end it and move on... Also, if you're not single, then why would this other guy want to show intrest, there is a 10 times greater chance of rejection and everyone fears rejection, so break up with your boyfriend now, tell him things have changed and you need a change, then talk to this other guy, and if you're really bold ask him out, but when you're single, not with your boyfriend now...
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How do I win back my ex boyfriend that cares for me and I care for him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now? I mean we flirt, cuddle, play around,and hug.I'm very confused. (link)
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Sounds like a classic case of fear of commitment... her wants the love but he wants it no strings attached... It's like a way to cheat without really cheating of getting around you since your not really together, its not a good situation to be in and you probably will end up hurt, it will continue this way unless you say something, you need to tell him strait up you’re sick of it! If he cares about you then cut the crap and make it official if not then it has to stop... it might end it for good which I know you don't like the idea now but in the long run that heartbreak now will save from more heartbreak latter...
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I am confused because I like this kid and I think he likes me but i can't tell how do i know? (link)
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Well I suppose once more the only sure fire way is to ask him and well if he's shy he too might lie, so I would suggest hinting r telling him strait out you like him that way if he does like you he should feel confident in saying it... you could also just plain ask him out if he says yes there you go... if he flirts a lot. if he is near by ever chance he gets, if he laughs with you or tries to make you laugh, then most likely he does, but once again the only way to know it to either ask him out or tell him you like him and see what happens... good luck and remember if he doesn’t like you back the world will not end nor will your life always be miserable…
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theirs this boy named Dorian I really like him but he doesnt want a relationship and when he does he's confused and I really want it to work and dont know what to do Should i keep trying or give up what should I say to him (link)
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He needs to figure out what he wants before he can work in a relationship. Why not be his friend, developed that type of relationship while he's trying to figure things out in his head, and that way. should he decide he's ready for a girlfriend you’re right there, close to him already; the perfect candidate...
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Ok, so I'm still hung up on my ex boyfriend. And he has a new girlfriend. But, everyone tells me not to give up on him. (There's a lot of reasons why they say this.) And it would be so easy to make him jealous, but I don't really want to do that...and I don't want to use and hurt another person in the process. Does anyone have any ideas on what I should do? Thanks. (link)
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You should either wait it out but hold on to your hope... you could flirt with him, or strait out tell him how you feel... I commend you on your morals that’s great to hear... this is a common and tricky problem... you need to follow your heart, if its meant to be then it will be... I know it's hard to deal with but if your patient and virtuous you stand a better chance of getting a second go at it... good luck...
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ok my xxbf sed i kissed to rough and my lasted xbf sed i kissed to low like on his lower lip! i wanna be a GR8 kisser.... soo how do i do it?? my xbf was SUCH a good kisser and left me breathless but how do i kiss then?? HELP!! me!!!! thnx
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What was it that made your ex such a great kisser? Try and think about what he did that you liked and try and do the same, lips are often better than tongue (there are nerves in your lips that when you kiss are stimulated or should be) very speed and intensity from light with just lips to passionate with tongue and lips, let him lead as well as you follow what he does… move your tongue (rapidly but lightly run it back and forth on his tongue), and don’t think that the more tongue I his mouth the better, that doesn’t do much other than gag him…. To review: do to your partner what you like to be done to you, lips more than tongue, very intensities, “roll” your tongue, Let him lead, don’t shove your tongue down his throat, do that and you will most likely improve your kissing styles, relax! Do what feels natural the more you get uptight and worry about it the less its “quality” will be…
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ok here we go:
my boyfriend told me I don't kiss him back
the problem is he's really aggressive with the kissing and I like can't move my lips
well scratch that
I have no idea what I'm doing.he's the first person I've kissed and gahh I'm so insecure now about my kissing. someone help me..
what do I say to him and how can we solve this problem??
thank you =) (link)
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Well it sounds like he's a bad kisser, aggressive is not the best, lips can be as great as tongue, you have to step very careful around this so as not to hurt his self esteem, but you have to let him know you like it when he kisses you lightly, say it nonchalantly sorta like "wow your great, but you know what would make you even greater? I love it when you kiss me gently... you can also do things to slow him down get him to ease up, push back at his tongue with yours, then try and slow down the rhythm, you can make it even a sort of game a few quick kisses look at each other kiss again, add a little passion then quick ones again... this makes him think about it and gives you not only a break from aggressiveness but a way to "kiss back"...
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I like him and he ignores me now after i told him that i like him. Why does he ignore me now? (link)
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Perhaps he doesn't know what to think... He's avoiding you because he feels award he doesn't know how to face you, or what to say... this could be good or bad... it is a common happening so you aren’t alone... anyways best thing you can do is give him time to adjust then try and act as if you never said anything, you might come to find he likes you back and if he doesn't at least your friendship is maintained...
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I like this guy... and i have told him that i like him and hes sooo nice to me but he hasnt told me if he likes me... so i want to kno and i dont wanna scare him i just wanna become more than a friend to him what should i do? Should i harass him until he tells me? ASk his Best friend? jsut leave it alone??? TY (link)
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If you want to know then find a good time preferably in private and well you could ask him if he likes you or you could just plan ask him out, not the will you go out with me, but more of a want to come over sometimes go see a movie... its a good road to travel down to lead to more than friends... Good luck.... If you harass him he could just decide you are annoying... if you ask his friend, he might not have even told him... if you leave it alone then you might never know... perhaps he's not sure if he likes you or not so why not do what you can to tip the scales in you favor... spend time with him one on one...
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Ok this is going to be a semi-novel but I'll try to make sense. I'm 15 and at the beginning of September I met a guy(whom we'll call Bob).We were friends for a little over a month,and around the middle of October we kissed for the first time;he asked me out very soon afterword.our mutual friends had been bugging Bob to ask me out because it was obvious he liked me.He made the announcement to our them that he asked me out and it was understood that we were a couple.so from that day on, tho we never went anywhere(lack of money and transportation played a major role )but we still managed to kiss at every opportunity(including behind the school at lunch)and took every opportunity we could to be together. One day, we were talking and I mentioned that a friend of mine who(that I have known since childhood was jealous)that we're a couple; he says "well you know, i only see us as friends and plus there's this girl i'm interested in.she lives in maryland" and I go "but i'm here.she's there and I'm here" and he goes "well I've known her since july.plus i helped her through a serious breakup..." and I go "so why did you ask me out?why do you kiss me if we're only friends?" he goes "I don't know" so we weren't talking much for about a week and then suddenly we started up with our old routines. We have been doing this everyday since. My friends tell me that I need to get rid of him. Should I? Thanks… (link)
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Get rid of him? he sounds like a dick with commitment problems, you tie yourself down with that, and it will be nothing but headaches... he's the type of guy that will probably end up a cheater or player later in life... If he doesn't care about you as much as you do him and whenever something pretty rolls around you become just friens he's not worth it! Why put yourself in that situation... your pretty much like his alternate or his toy... you deserve, and can do better... you have plenty of time, and I know for a fact much better are out there...
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Hey I am going out with this guy i like and then i have all these other guys i like and i want them to I really dont wanna break his heart cuz i love him to death But theres these other guys that i have been out with and they Like me and i like them to I love them what am i to do (link)
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Well I'm guessing your young, if you care about this guy your seeing then wouldn't it be better to break up so you don't end up cheating or something similar? It's understandable, this type of thing happens all the time, and if you feel like this I don't think its fair to you or him to tie yourself half heartedly down... "Browsing" is normal but really wanting to "shop" when you already "bought" is not good... Your young its ok to end it and see what else is out there if you really want to. That’s better for some people, and probably better for him to...be fair to him and yourself, if you really want these other guys then perhaps that’s the way you should go...
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Hi..you answered my question about my ex watching me. You said that I should flaunt it and make him realize what he's lost is far better than what he has now. And I was just wondering, if you had any ideas on how I should flaunt it? hehe. Thanks.
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Yikes! Why on earth would you want to be a "home wrecker" if he really lost that much than why not just blow up the other girl? I mean she sure would be out of the way... how do you flaunt it anyways? You broke up for a reason and even if he does end up with you again that "flaunting you" is not you... a relationship needs respect and how are you giving him that by screwing up his current relationship... really if your all that and he's really missing you then it will end with his new girl and he'll end up with you... i look at boys doesn't mean i like them or even want to be with them...
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My boyfriend will not be getting me a chritmas gift this Christmas. I have already purchased his gift and given it to him because he needed it early (an expensive snowboarding coat). I am trying not to be upset. Times are tough, money's tight, the problem is he spent $200 on his mom's CD player, and bought his dad a forutne in hunting gear and we went out all weekend and he had no money problems then. Sunday we went shopping and he mentioned that he looked at his account and he's going to have to write a bad check so that he get his sister a gift. I told him not to worry about me, he says he's really sorry (he's really beating himself up over it) and that he'll get me something great the next paycheck, which won't be until January 5th. Am I being stupid and girly because my feelings are hurt? (link)
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No that’s normal, you got him something and even though it was his family he spent the money on you probably feel less important, less of one of his priorities, but before you get to upset wait and see if he will come through with his Jan 5th paycheck, try and understand that family comes first weather you like it or not... what your feeling is fine just don't get too upset till the situation pans out...
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One of my friends at college, let's call him Try, seems to have developed feelings for me. Isn't that great? Well, not really. As much as I'd like to see him happy, I like another guy, Catch for the purposes of this excersize.
I made a post on a messageboard implying I had feelings for a guy. I was referring to Catch. I didn't figure there was any way anyone could interpret it as being anyone BESIDES Catch.
Part two. I sign up for livejournal so it's easier to talk to Try while he's back in Taiwan, halfway across the world. Consequently, I can now see all his private posts on HIS livejournal. Turns out, Try was hoping it was HIM I was talking about. And there were also random outbursts about how it was [female name, let's say Throw] all over again. Now, I know of his history with Throw, and I don't want to be another Throw.
Now I feel like I know stuff I shouldn't, and I feel bad about making Try feel bad, and I still care about Catch more than anything. It's a mess.
RuntimeException! What's a girl to do? (link)
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To be honest even if you wanted to, having a long, long distance relationship would be so hard. What you need to do is let him know, you know he has feelings for you, and as flattering as that is tell him the truth, your interested in someone else, let him know you’re sorry, and he's a great person and friend, tell him there is someone out there that will make his world complete, you just don't feel it's you, and that you hope to be a friend to him, and you love him as friends love each other, but you don't see your feelings for him changing anytime soon... It will be hard he will feel bad and he might try and haggle with you to give him a chance or not, it depends on him. You just need to be strong and honest, consider his feelings, and do what you can to be clear to him it won't work out... Good luck I know from experience this is never easy but you and him both can move on once its done, why make him live with a false hope its not fair to him or you...
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Ok, I still really like my ex boyfriend. But, he has a new gilfriend, that he supposedly really likes. *Rolls eyes* But, my friends and I have caught him SO many times staring at me while I walk in the halls at school. And I wrote my friend this hilarious note, and he read it and laughed. Like, a lot. But, he doesn't make any effort to talk to me or anything. My friends think he still has feelings for me, but he's with this other girl and he's afraid to pursue anything with me. My friends also think I should try making him jealous and "flaunt it". Any ideas on how to do that?
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I remember this question before and as I said then and will say now... let it be with him... if things are meant to be with you to than they will be but why purposely go out and be the "home wrecker" if you did that to me i certainly wouldn't want to date you after! Good luck with that...
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ok last night i went to the movies with my friends peter and jules we saw the return of the king well all threw the movie i would talk to peter and stuf but forget a bout jules (i was siting in the middle of them) but i like this kid sean and then my sister is haveing her bday party today and her friend brian came over hes my age (14) and he had his girl friend with yhim and i was jelouse can any one tell me what this means
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Well at your age your hormones start to kick in and you start to be drawn to boys. It's natural and you will find yourself drooling over any boy that looks good, and you also want there attention back... just don't go to crazy on what you do to get there attention...nothing wrong with being boy crazy now... good luck with that
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he talks, not directly to me. . and he syas dumb things and it just is hard to explain... u wouldnt understand ur not in my posiion (link)
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*is confused* well ook... I'm sure if they’re not in your position now they could have been in the past, and even if they’re not, people know and understand things that they never went through sometimes better than those that have...
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