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I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.

We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.

I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.

He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.

He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.

We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.

I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time?

It seems to me that he has commitment issues. This can be very hard for the other person in the relationship (you.) Ultimately the decision is up to you. If you are okay with being in a relationship without the label then stick around and see what happens. But if you can see yourself wanting to be married and have kids one day, then maybe it's time you should date other people and devote your time to someone who is willing to give you their full attention. It sounds to me that he is not ready to be tied down and that he is wanting to have your attention along with other female attention. This is something that I personally would not be okay with. Especially when you have been in a relationship with him for that long. It would be all or nothing but I would not be okay with watching someone that I love date someone else. This, like I said, is completely up to you. I am telling you from the outside that you deserve better and someone one day, will want to spend time with you and call you their own. But, you're young. So if you want to run wild and free and date a variety of people; more power to you! It really is just your preference and an unfortunate necessity to growing up. Just try to not let it break your heart. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else.

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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant?

No, precum on your finger would not impregnante her. You would have to ejaculate inside of her.

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My ex texted me out of the blue a couple of weeks ago. We were supposed to meet up and then something came up and I texted him to let him know, he seemed fine about it and texted me a few days later. I was busy that day and he told me to text him when I was free, I told him to text me instead because I forget. I haven't heard from him in a week?

In my opinion, if he is an ex, he is an ex for a reason. If you want to fire up the relationship again; that is up to you. Just remember to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. If you think it could work out, try texting him.. If you want any relationship to work friendship or romance you both have to put in some sort of effort. Good luck and inbox me if you have any other questions.

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I met my girlfriend a year ago at school and we both had a crush on each other, one time around the end of the year we dated for two weeks then she left me. Then about a month or two later she came back to me and we started dating again, and she left me again. I went through depression twice now, and me and this girl are really in love, but I'm not sure if she's leaving me because of her bipolar disorder, she isn't on medication but if she came back to me again I was gonna talk to her about going on medication with her parents. I'm not sure though if she is leaving me because her bipolar disorder or what I need help to know what I should do and why she's really leaving me and if it is because her bipolar how can I make the relationship last where she doesn't keep leaving me because we both like each other.

Sit her down and talk with her. Ask her the reasons why she has left you in the past and see what you can both work on together to make it last. Also, make sure that she wants to make it last. Let her know that you can't handle the break-up, make-up game and you can only make this work if she is serious. Bringing up her bipolar disorder may be a touchy subject. Most of the time people are not on medication because they do not want to admit that they have the disorder. If you do, bring it up gently and lightly. Let her know how you feel. Think about yourself and your feelings first. You can only handle so much! Good luck :)

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High school girl, sophomore and I weigh 253lbs. I'm told all the time that I look far older than I am and that my weight balances out pretty well and that I don't look as big as I actually am. Gym class this last year was torture for me because most of the guys were making fun of me the whole period for being fat. I've been made fun of since kindergarten. No one's really ever liked me. I've been in a new school for two years now and no one here likes me too much. Most guys avoid talking to me at all costs. So I wanna hear it from the guys, does anyone even like big chicks??? In the last three years, I've gone from being outgoing and bubbly to being too afraid to walk to the other end of the cafeteria just to dump my freaking tray because I'm paranoid and feel like everyone is watching me. Just wondering. Thanks in advance!

My first piece of advice is beYOUtiful! You are beautiful and it is all about what is on the inside and not always the outside. Let people stare, but have enough confidence in yourself to not let it get to you. I had confidence issues for a long time and it takes a lot of work with yourself.
Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are beautiful and pretty. Do your hair differently or your make-up. Just things that make you feel better! I found that for me running helped me. It got released all of my frustrations and made me feel accomplished. Try to not care so much about what other people think. To be honest in a couple of years you won't see or talk to 90%of them and who are they to tell you that you aren't beautiful? You will find a guy, the right non-creepy kind of guy one day. Just be patient. Smile because you're you and there is no one else like you!

Good luck :)

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So...my 8th grade boyfriend who I haven't spoken to in three years randomly messaged me on Facebook last night. He wasn't even on my friends list. He just popped up in my messages. He wants to hang out on Sunday and said that he wish we never broke up and wants to start over again. Since I've never had a true, genuine relationship before, I don't know what to do. I really like him all over again. What should we do starting Sunday?

Was it a healthy relationship? Think about why you two split in the first place. If you got a long and were truly happy during the relationship; I would say see how it goes. If it was an un-healthy relationship where you were fighting all the time and you we're un-happy you have already had time to heal and I wouldn't open an old wound... Good luck! :)

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Hi, Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. I was pregnant and was having a tubal pregnancy so they removed it this Sunday. Before my pregnancy we weren't together but once i got pregnant with him he came back. I told him the only reason he got back with me was because of the baby. he keeps telling me thats a lie. well anyways yesterday i told him to go to my house. He couldn't because he was at a party, so he told me he would come the day after. so I called him today and he was sleeping almost the whole day. I go on Facebook and i see hes at the movie theater with his friends and a girl that's likes him a lot. im so dissapointed. After I told him to meet me at my place he does something else. I keep texting him but no reply because hew in the movie theaters. I have a bad feeling specially with this girl at the movies. i don't know what to do anymore. I feel like im the only one fighting to keep the relationship going. What should I tell him or do? please help me out . Sorry this is long :(

If he is lying to you and ignoring you and going out with another girl you deserve so much better! I know that you probably care about him a lot but that doesnt mean you should sit back and have to deal with this. He needs to grow up and get his priorities straight! The best thing for you to do is go out and have fun! Don't let him see that it is bothering you. Maybe he will realize what you guys had and straighten up... if not then you need to find someone who will treat you right! I hope this helps(:

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Will a guy want u more if you ignore him

It depends on the guy! Some guys like the chase and some guys will just give up! He may think your not interested or that you are just stuck up. Be careful guys minds don't work the same way as ours. If you want to keep him around don't back off too much! Hope this helped:)

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how to make him love me more and get attracted to me ?

Truth is, you can't make someone love you. If you try to hard to get him to fall in love with you; you might just push him away. Just be yourself. Have fun and be flirty. Do all of the things you usually do together. Love comes with time and it depends on the person. If you show him you care he will most likely show the same feelings back.
Hope this helped!(:

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18/f
Okay so I'm seeing this guy and we slept together once. Now, I don't want to do that (and he knows) . The farthest I wanna go is making out, but it makes me SO wet. How can i get the most of making out and not go back on my word about sleeping with him?!

It may be hard but have some self control. Just kiss him and if things get too heated, stop. Just cuddle or talk. If you give in it will turn into you guys having sex everytime you see each other. If you change your mind down the road, let him know. But make sure that is what you want first! Hope this helped!

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First off call me ice. Ok so today i broke up with my bf,nathen, and he actually seemed HAPPY about it! And plus i think he was flirting with my ARCH ENEMY, a lying mean girl! Ok so maybe he doesnt know that im arch enemies with the girl he was flirting with. But ive warned him about my enemy a lot... WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!

From a grieving Ice

You broke up with him, therefore he is not doing anything wrong by flirting with "your enemy" You guys are obviously better off without each other. Whatever you do dont let him know that it is bothering you.

Hope this helped!(:

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Hi!!I'd like to know how to trust someone you love again when you have realized that they keep on lying to you. THANKS

Trust is the number one thing in a relationship. If you dont have trust it wont work out. You can try your best to trust him again, but the question "what if they are lying to me again?" will always be in the back of your head. If a guy lies about something big once; he is most likely to do it again. If you really care about them; give it a shot, but if they lie again i wouldnt suggest trusting them.

Good luck!

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I just started to talk to this guy and he keep's going me hints that he likes me but i don't like him, how do i tell him i don't like him but i would like to stay friends...what should i do?

When he asks you to go on a date or says something flirty, just say something along the lines of "name, i think we are really great friends and i hope we can stay that way; i wouldnt want anything to ruin our friendship" If that doesn't work then your going to just have to come out and tell him that you dont feel for him that way. Some guys will get it the first time around, some guys wont.

Good luck!

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HOw do you flirt?

For a lot of people it comes naturaly when you like someone. Just smile and laugh, joke around. Just be playful and fun.

Good luck!

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hi ya, i want the advice from guys please. my boyfriend says, ''we don't need a baby yet as we don't have a enough money to look after and we just can not afford the baby yet, he says.'' is he not want to,'never' or what does he thinking actually? we've been together for two years now. cheers.

I am not a guy but I can give you some advice... babies cost a lot more that most people think. He knows both of your financal situations and does not think you can afford it. Talk to him and see if he wants to have a baby any time soon, and if he does, maybe you guys could set up a bank account to save for a baby. When you both feel you have enough you can plan to have a child.

I hope this helped and good luck!

Sami

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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?

If a guy is with a girl and ashamed of her then he shouldnt be with her in the first place. If he still sticks around the girl should leave him. She needs someone to be proud of her and want to show her off like she deserves!

Hope this helped, if you have any other questions feel free to message me personally.

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im 18 years old and a dude.
how do i heal from a heartbreak? ive dated this girl for a year, and now we broke up. how do i get better? it sucks honestly, but any tips?

Go out with your friends. Do anything you can to keep your mind off of her. I know it is easier said than done but if you stay busy it helps. Don't go places you two went, put anything that you have from her and put it away in a box, and put it in the attic. If you kept her for a year you can find someone else i promise! You don't have to start dating right away but call some old girlfriends of yours, or go out and get some cute girls number.

Hope this helped! if you need anything else feel free to message me personally(:

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My ex boyfriend (who broke up with me 3 months ago) text me saying he still loves me and can't get over me. But he isn't sure what he wants. He apologised for how he's treated me since we broke up and the day later he text me again saying he did mean what he said yesterday.

I'm so confused :/ What does he want? Attention?

Well he obvously cares about you just isnt sure what he wants. You need to talk to him and tell him that he needs to decide what he wants because he cant just keep dragging your heart around like this. He either wants to be with you or he dosnt. End of story. If he wants to be with you, he will. If not you guys either need to stay friends or quit talking period. But it is really up to both of you.

Hope this helped!(:
If you need anything else feel free to message me personally!

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I like this guy... but I can't help comparing everything about him to my ex. And I mean EVERYTHING. I don't know how to stop. It's making me think about my ex constantly when I don't want to. My ex is a douche who betrayed me and hurt me over five months ago... Yet I can't stop thinking about him recently... he's moved on, he moved on quickly. But I still miss him.. But I dooo like this new boy, a lot. He's not as attractive as my ex in my opinion though I've heard people disagree with that. I just don't feel the same spark with this new guy physically... And I know what most of you are going to say. "You need to forget about you're ex because he hurt you, and its in the past. You need to focus on this new guy because he's nice and wonderful and you'll regret it if you lose him. I KNOW that. I don't know HOW to do that. Does anyone have specific tips or experience of this happening?? That's what I need. Help!

Im sorry to tell youm but you were in love with your ex. You are not the first person to do this. Actually i bet if you asked around most people who have been in love and didnt work our compare people to their exes. I still do it. It isnt really anything you can control. When you find yourself thinking about your ex, dont think of the good times you had together. Think of all the wrong things he did to you, how badly he treated you and that you deserve better and this new guy deserves a chance to show you that he is better than your ex! This is obviously easier said than done; and im not telling you to completely forget about your ex because i know and you know that will never happen. You may still think of him occasionally but this is normal so dont worry!

I hope this helped!(:
if you need anything else feel free to message me personally!

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