Gender: Female Location: Canada Occupation: Student Age: 15 Member Since: April 15, 2011 Answers: 50 Last Update: February 23, 2015 Visitors: 4614
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Sorry sweetheart if you were looking for an answer from me telling you how to convince your boyfriend to have sex with you, you've come to the wrong place. I understand that at your age your hormones are going bonkers on you and getting physical seems like a "logical" and "mature" next step to take in a relationship but you aren't ready for that yet. You are barely out of puberty and have your entire life to have sex and fool around with guys but you should wait until you are older and more mature to handle something like that. And when you finally do have sex it should be with someone you care deeply about and you know he feels the same way back. I'm not saying wait until marriage or you are in love because that's not always realistic but make sure you are educated and safe. Especially someone as young as yourself should learn the risks of having sex too young or really at any time you decide to get intimate with someone , like pregnancy, std's etc.
If you still have strong sexual urges there are other ways to satisfy yourself (and trust me sometimes these way are a lot more skilled then the men you'll sleep with) such as with a vibrator or electric tooth brush (which you can buy at any store like walmart or shoppers) Please just think long and hard about what you are doing and with who, sometimes mistakes likes these can haunt you for life.
If you need anymore advice please feel free to message me :) hopefully I've helped.
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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed) (link)
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It all depends. Everyone has their own idea of what virginity is, some say yes you are a virgin still because he never penetrated your vagina where as others say that you are no longer a virgin once you have any form of sex (oral, vaginal, anal). So it's up to you how you define virginity. In my opinion though, I believe anal or vaginal sex is losing your virginity. But like I said it's how you see it that matters.
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled (link)
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Alright so first off id just like to say that I'm very sorry for this to be happening to especially at a time like this with exams, as I know how a situation like this can effect a persons life. In all honesty I think you deserve so much better then this girl whether or not you are in love with her. I think that your best bet is to straight up break up with her. She doesn't have any right to treat you the way you say she does and to be using you to get her RP, just to turn around and leave you for this other guy is some serious bullshit. You should take her to a place where you know you guys will have time to talk it through and where you feel safe if she was to react badly (hostility can sometimes occur). And there sit her down and let her know that you are aware of her unfaithfulness and her plans to abandon you when she has had her fill. Then tell her that you are breaking up with her because you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them and whatever else you think is necessary to include. You don't owe this girl anything and if does mess her up that's her own damn fault for doing what she has. Stay strong my friend and don't let her guilt trip you into anything. As a girl I know that some women will break down crying and telling you how much they need you and how they never realized how good you were to them before but that's just crap. She will most likely try and feed you some sob story but please stand your ground you will be so much better off in the long run even though it'll hurt now. Dump her ass and let her be the other guys problem.
I really hope you find someone who will treat you as well as you have treated this women. Hope I've helped, feel free to message me if you need anymore advice. Good luck lovely :)
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Its been almost 3 years and they have had there good times and bad times but today i didnt talk to her because I didnt want to fight and when we spoke she kept fighting with me... I feel like dying because she is my life and i am so stressed out, what should I do? (link)
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Your best option here is to talk to her. Find a time when you both can just sit down and discuss everything that needs to be discussed. Tell her how you feel and that you don't want to continue to fight and that you want to try and find a way to fix it. If you never talk to her then she'll never know how you are feeling which will just make it worse in the long run. Hopefully I've helped xoxo if you have any other questions feel free to message me
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I have a question and its for both guys and girls. Would you date someone or be with them if they've had sex friends before?
Ive only been with one girl before and i waited till i was in love and saw a future and all that stuff but now (im in college btw) it seems like EVERYBODY is with a f buddy. Im all for love but sometimes it just takes too long to find it; so im asking girls and guys that have been in loving serious relationships would u date someone thats had f buddies before? Please put gender and age, thank u (link)
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Female/16,
At my age every guy I know is pretty much having sex, whether it be with a girlfriend or as you called them f buddies. But honestly it doesnt bother me much. As long as they realize that once your in a relationship theres no f buddies on the side or anything. And sometimes for us girls your not getting any from us for a while. So in conclusion yes, as long as they are commited to the relationship they're in.
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What can I use for masterbation?
14/f (link)
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Go into the shower and aim the shower head in the middle of the tub. Then lay on your back spread your legs and vag lips. The pressure from the shower feels sooo good. It bmight also work if you have a shower head that can be removed and aimed right between your legs
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Hello I like this boy on my street andi know
He likes me back he told his sister and his
Sister told me herself and everyone teases
Him! But Im starting to have feelings for him
And he's only 8 months younger than me I
Don't know what to do!!! (link)
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What are you waiting for! If he likes you go for it, the age difference isnt even close to something you should worry about. He's not that much younger than you, so go ahead talk to him. Go for it give it your best shot and hope it all works out!
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So I was on the phone with my friend and she said that I was naive and that's why guys like "messing" with me.(And no messing isn't used in a dirty way it's just another form of joking around I guess). Anyways I'm actually confused what does she mean by I'm naive and that's why guys "mess" with me.
And what does she mean by me being naive about everything (link)
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I dont really agree with the rest of the post because i think your friend is looking out for you. She is saying this as a warning...like your very guilable and believe people easily because you see the good in people. Its a good quality to see good but it means your not really seeing when people are trying to hurt you with the jokes. Or you believe guys that dont always have the best intentions. I think she is talling you this so you dont get hurt. your naive with guys so be cautious...if your really concerned ask her about it. Hope i have helped...if you need anything else inbox me.
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could i hurt my vagina by masterbating with a dildo? (link)
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Depends...yes it is possible. As if your a virgin or the dildo is too big when penetrated the device could very well tare the lining of the entrence. Also by sticking in it to far you could 'pop your cheery' as it is said. Which is only breaking your hymen. this however isnt painful or harmful to you. Its just a layer of inner tissue. If this happens you will bleed like a period however it should only last from an hour to a day. If your concerned check with a doctor (if this goes on for longer). As long as the dildo is properly lubricated you should be fine...especially if you have apperienced sexual acts. Hope I helped if you need anything feel free to inbox me!
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Me and my bf have been going out for a year and I want to have our first serious date. I love to camp and so does he should we go camping? Or is that too dramatic/romantic? I need advice! (link)
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Yes, camping is a great idea for you two if he likes camping too. It would be romantic but you would be able have lots of fun doing different activities
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should i commit sucide (link)
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No!!!! You should never even think of killing yourself! Nothing can be solved by killing yourself. Any problems you have can never be fixed by dying. I dont know exactly what are the problems, but there are many people would be said if you werent in this world. Considered how much people really care for you, even if you dont realize they do. Please inbox me again if you need help with your problems, just dont kill yourself. I would love to help you through them, or even if you just need someone to talk to.
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18/male i am gay and for awhile ive been feeling lonely and lately ive had some one night stands with guys but i don't want to live like that anymore i want to find a boyfriend someone to settle down with and fall in love buy i haven't found anyone i had a boyfriend over a year ago but we broke up i feel lonely sometimes what do i do and how do i find the perfect guy? (link)
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My advice would be to stop all one night stands because all your doing is hurting yourself. To find a great guy, you have to look for them in the right places. I would suggest going out to coffee shops, and small social gatherings. Refrain from going to bars and night clubs, because the guys their are most likely just looking for someone to hook up with. To find someone you really need to put yourself out there. Get out more and try and find that special person. But if your looking for "the perfect guy" you have to be careful that your standards arent too high, but its good to have a criteria. Honestly for a good relationship you need to take time. try going out to mixers and singles nights, where people want a relationship like you. Also if you are feeling lonely you should find a friends to hang out with. Someone you can talk to and have a great time with. Whether this is a boyfriend or just a best friend. Good Luck, and if you need any more advice feel free to inbox me. Hope you find the one your looking for ;)
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Well, I should start by saying I'm an 18 white British girl who grew up in a very middle class background.
Anyway, I have never had a boyfriend before and have been seeing this guy for about 5 months, I only see him on weekends because he lives in the rougher city area and I am in the country side (I should also point out in England countryside is 95% white while inner cities are more 40-50%). He's from the Caribbean originally and came to England a few years ago, so obviously, he is black. He loves me and his family love me too but my family is against whites and blacks being together, my Nana said people see a slut when they see me now.
Is it honestly so bad to see white and black people together? (link)
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Absoloutely not! There is nothing wrong with two people from two different cultures, or races being together. As long as you love that person, or have strong feelings towards each other, thats all that matters. However, I know there are a lot of people like your family that are against inter reacial couples. It usually has to do with up bringing and cultural beliefs. You should talk to your family about this, explain that you deeply care for this man and you really wished they would support your decision. they may not like it but they should at least be able to deal with the fact that you guys are together. Hopefully they can understand this. Also, what your grandmother said is not true, seeing someone of another race does not make you a slut. Anyway, you are 18 and legally old enough to make decisions on matter like these. Hope if all works out for you. Inbox me if you have any other questions. Good Luck!!!
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I was unsure about my sexuality i'm male almost 16
i thought i liked girls at 14 i went out with a girl a couple of times but i wasnt really into it so i ended it and for some time now i do think that i'm gay i was unsure but ive become more and more attracted to guys looking at guys turns me on i havent told anyone yet and ive become really close to this guy we talk a lot hang out together and now i have feelings for him i feel good and more comfortable being with him i'm not sure if he likes me that way i'm a little nervous to tell him how i feel i do want to be with him so what do i do? do i tell him how i feel? (link)
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It depends on how you want to approach the situation, I have had a few gay friends and each one would take it from a different angle. If you want to come out and tell him, thats great. If you are going that way, I would suggest going up to him and pull him aside, so that no one is around to hear (since you are still "in the closet" so to speak, which is also fine). Let him know that you want to talk to him about something. Then just go for it, but make sure you get out what you want him to hear before he answers you. But that doesnt mean you want to rush it. Find a quiet place, even a bit romantic if you want, i find that way they you really understand your feelings.
On the other hand, you may want to wait and see if he is into you (if you are unsure if he is gay or his feelings towards you). Try asking him to hang out, just the two of you,some place a bit more date like. Slowly increase the way you act towards him, maybe getting a bit closer to him and adjust your actions according to his reactions. Then when the time is right you would tell him. This plan requires more patience and time, this is good if your willing to wait.
But if you know he is gay, I would suggest just laying your feelings on the line and let him know. Make sure however, if the feelings arent mutal, you continue to act the same around him, still friends. That is the most important thing. Besides if your still his friend then he may grow to have feelings towards you. This isnt to say that he will say no or anything (these are just those 'in case' situations).
I hope everything works out with him, and you guys can get together. Wishing you the best, and feel free to inbox me anytime that you need advice. Good luck!!!
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19/m
I am gay, and I cannot find a good guy. I have had some decent boyfriends, but we always brake up because we end up being too different. I am not a party boy, I don't smoke (or do any kind of drug for that matter, legel or illegal), I dont drink. I just want a guy I can be myself with, and not have to worry about growing apart from. How can I meet a guy like that? My last boyfriend was so amazing and so sweet, but he wanted to party and drink and I told him that I wouldn't be able to date him if thats what he wanted to do, so we broke up. I just want to know how I can meet a nice, gay guy who is like me. And please, do not suggest any online dating websites (I tried online stuff before, and it was a disaster). Any ideas on how to meet a guy like that? (link)
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Arent we all looking for a man like that ;). Honestly, to find someone like that, you would need to look at the previous places you have found your bf, and try to avoid places that would preduce a more party type of guy. No bars, pool halls, or parties, because they are all party aholics. Try going to a coffee shop or internet cafe, lots of people go to those places where people are calm. Also look for any small social gatherings like a fair, carnival or a mixer. Something along the lines of a single's gathering where you can talk to a bunch of people and make a decision from there. School is another major place, but you've probably already tried there. Hope I have helped. Inbox me if you need anymore advice. GOOD LUCK!!
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My boyfriend is awesome. I love him sooo much. He says he loves me2 and he tells the world that he loves me, but sometimes he drops hints like, "So my friends was like 'so when are you & Brianna gunna start f******.' & I couldn't think of an answer."
I couldn't think of an answer either. I sort of want to wait til I'm married because it'll be more special 2kno that I saved myself for the best, but since I am teenager & the hormones are retarted, I usually get sorta kinky around him I really want him!!! I don't kno wat 2do. Should I let him bust the cherry now or after the I do's? I do kno thoe that he doesn't just want me for that because I just kno him when I look in his eyes that he wouldn;t do that.
I'm 13 & female (link)
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If he loves you the way you say he does then he wont mind waiting. Whether you choose to wait till marriage or not, you shouldnt give him your v-card at such a young age. Your too young to do something like that. You may be feeling it sexually but someone your age isnt old enough to understand the emotional side of it. What would happen if he got you pregnant? You wouldnt be able to take care of a baby. Srry to go all mom like on you but its the truth. So just wait a couple of more years like till your 16 or so when you can really make that decision. Good luck, and whatever you decide make sure you think it threw and understand what consequences come with it.
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hey what is the greatest love song. . i want to sent it to my boyfriend who im absolutly in love with.
thanks :) (link)
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THat is hard but here is a list of songs I love about love:
Love like this - Amy Pearson
Are you gonna kiss me or not - thompson Squaer
Two is better then one - Taylor swift
Everytime we touch - Cascada
GRavity - Sara Bareilles
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So i have dated this boy for 3 months, until he went to Florida, and texted me breaking up with me. When he got back he got another girlfriend right away. He started texting me "i love you, i miss you" and songs, and quotes, anything sweet. But i didnt want any of that, i was trying to get over him. But then one day he texted me telling me to f off, and to stop texting him, when i never did. I showed his new girlfriend the texts, and she started crying. This has been a pattern with him, he's done this to basically all of his girlfriends. I feel cheated, and unloved. And i honestly have no idea what to do with myself, im in desperate need of help :( (link)
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Kick his ass to the curb! It seems like this boy really has no sence of guilt, and with boys like that they need to be told it is not acceptable and they cannot push women around like that. My advice for you is to ignore him, hopefully the girlfriend will be smart enough to tell him off and dump his sorry ass. You shouldnt have to put up with that kind of crap. You need a MAN not a boy like him, someone who will treat you the right way and would never make you cry or hurt you. Good luck with him.
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So tonight one of my guy friends (weve been tight for awhile) was being a huge a$$ to me. We were at a party and he wanted to dance with me, which was totally fine and all but then he started getting a little too handsy and a little too into it and I have a boyfriend so I wasn't too comfortable with it, nor do I like him like that. I told him I was thirsty, and done dancing and I went off to go find my bf. My friend followed me, grabbed my wrist and pulled me (not in like a vioent way) up to him. But then he started whispering in my ear about how much he wanted me and that we should go to his car and I was stunned. I have NEVER led him on or EVER given him that kind of impression. Yes, he was a little bit under the influence but this party had like, a tiny tiny tiny bit of alcohol, most people weren't drinking so I don't think he was that drunk... and I tried to push him off of me and said very clearly "Let go, stop it" but he wasn't letting go and he actually grabbed my other wrist and was pulling me towards the door. Then he put both of my wrists in one of his hands and started sliding the other hand to my crotch so I kneed him in the nuts... He fell to the floor and I just walked off, competely pissed. I haven't talked to him but it was like an hour ago and I asked my boyfriend to take me home, and I told him about it and he was kind of pissed at the guy but he sounded shocked when I said I kneed him. I don't know what kind of shocked it was... like that it was bad I did it or if he was just suprised I did it cause this kid is like my good friend... or was... My question was, was this out of line? I mean he had my arms restrained so I coudln't really hit him... and he wasn't listening to me! And I just got so mad! But he did look like he was in a lot fo pain... he's okay, one of my other friends said they saw him leave a little later. But I do feel a little bad... but still angry. what do I do??? I'm seventeen, female. (link)
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No you were absoloutly not out of line when it came to this. He had no right to touch you or act the way he did towards you. If there was no way you could get you hands free, and he wasnt listening to you, then you had to do something about him. And the way he tried to touch you was in apropriate. Good for your!
Let him know this tomorrow, he could have been more intoxicated then you thought but then again he could be just coming onto you. Make sure you find out what happened that night. Although it might be a good idea to have your boyfriend with you just incase he tries to get a bit hansy.
HOPE IT WORKS OUT! LET ME KNOW IF YOU NEED ANYMORE ADVICE ABOUT HIM OR OTHER GUYS!
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Name key (fake names):
Me: Annabeth
Boyfriend: Jaysyn
I'm 16, a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend, Jaysyn, is a senior, 18. He's really sweet, and it didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. I met him last year when I was a freshmen and he was a junior, and we started dating one month later. He was always very sweet and understanding about the whole sex thing: he wanted it, but every time I tried, I told him the truth--I'm no where near being ready for that, even if I might want it. Every time I said so, he was really sweet, saying he understood and wouldn't dream of making me do anything I wasn't ready to do. Lately, he's been going back on that promise. He's been getting kind of physical about it, too. Pushing me and shoving me and stuff; a couple of months ago we were at his house watching TV in his room because he gets free movies on his XBox through netflix, and he started kissing my neck and touching my leg and stuff. He was getting really touchy, and pushed his hand away and told me to stop, and he got really mad and he raised his hand as if he was going to hit me, but instead he just pushed me away from him, and I almost fell off the couch. I left when he did that and I went home. He called me five times an hour all night after that, and almost ten times the next day. Since then, he's been getting more violently, and touchy feely and rough, and when I deny him sex he gets really pissed. Last night I got up to leave and he grabbed my arm so hard I thought my wrist would break. Then he pushed me and I fell into the table--my knees are bruised. He called me a whore and a tease and told me I was being a bitch, and I left. This morning we had a date, and I didn't expect or want to go on the date after last night, but he showed up at my house right on time. I told him to go away and started to close the door, but he forced his way into the house and apologized for last night and got my oat from the closet and we went out and actually had a good time. He was really sweet, and he acted as though last night never happened. What do I do? (link)
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I get that you like him and all but you have to get out of the relationship befor eit gets worse. Guys like that dont learn they expect girls that like them to do whatever they want when they want. It doesnt end untill he either gets what he wants (sex, whether your willing or not)or you leave him. It is important that you have someone with you for when you dump him and for the next couple of days so he can cool off. A good suggestion would be a close guy friend or parent/teacher. The most important thing is to get out of this relationship before he gets to violent. PLEASE BE SAFE. AND HOPE THIS HELPS!
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