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Was I out of line?? What do I do now??
So tonight one of my guy friends (weve been tight for awhile) was being a huge a$$ to me. We were at a party and he wanted to dance with me, which was totally fine and all but then he started getting a little too handsy and a little too into it and I have a boyfriend so I wasn't too comfortable with it, nor do I like him like that. I told him I was thirsty, and done dancing and I went off to go find my bf. My friend followed me, grabbed my wrist and pulled me (not in like a vioent way) up to him. But then he started whispering in my ear about how much he wanted me and that we should go to his car and I was stunned. I have NEVER led him on or EVER given him that kind of impression. Yes, he was a little bit under the influence but this party had like, a tiny tiny tiny bit of alcohol, most people weren't drinking so I don't think he was that drunk... and I tried to push him off of me and said very clearly "Let go, stop it" but he wasn't letting go and he actually grabbed my other wrist and was pulling me towards the door. Then he put both of my wrists in one of his hands and started sliding the other hand to my crotch so I kneed him in the nuts... He fell to the floor and I just walked off, competely pissed. I haven't talked to him but it was like an hour ago and I asked my boyfriend to take me home, and I told him about it and he was kind of pissed at the guy but he sounded shocked when I said I kneed him. I don't know what kind of shocked it was... like that it was bad I did it or if he was just suprised I did it cause this kid is like my good friend... or was... My question was, was this out of line? I mean he had my arms restrained so I coudln't really hit him... and he wasn't listening to me! And I just got so mad! But he did look like he was in a lot fo pain... he's okay, one of my other friends said they saw him leave a little later. But I do feel a little bad... but still angry. what do I do??? I'm seventeen, female.
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Sounds like someone had too much to drink. Luckily for him, he wouldn't have felt too much pain... alcohol numbs the senses!
You were not out of line. He was. You need to have a conversation with him (both of you sober this time) and discuss what happened. Let him know that you'll peg it on the alcohol this time, but you won't allow a repeat. He's your friend and only your friend.
You have to make some allowances for alcohol's role in things. I've had guy friends behave like total jerks when drunk when they'd never think of it when they're sober. My response is always to tell them that I won't hang out with them if they're drinking more than a few beers. When I see them getting drunk, that's my cue to leave.
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No you were absoloutly not out of line when it came to this. He had no right to touch you or act the way he did towards you. If there was no way you could get you hands free, and he wasnt listening to you, then you had to do something about him. And the way he tried to touch you was in apropriate. Good for your!
Let him know this tomorrow, he could have been more intoxicated then you thought but then again he could be just coming onto you. Make sure you find out what happened that night. Although it might be a good idea to have your boyfriend with you just incase he tries to get a bit hansy.
HOPE IT WORKS OUT! LET ME KNOW IF YOU NEED ANYMORE ADVICE ABOUT HIM OR OTHER GUYS!
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