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I recently got out of a relationship just to find out that im pregnant and he has a girlfriend already. For some reason i cant stop txting him and i know that i need to b/c he was a dog and is not good enough for me! he has treated me 100 times worse since he found out about the baby. i just dont know how to move on! I need some advice! (link)
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First off, taking care of the baby needs to be your first priority, you've basically got three options: adoption, keeping it, or abortion.. But I don't advise putting him in your decision. Do what you think is best. You need to get him out of your life completely. He seems like nothing but trouble to me. Best wishes!
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. He seemed like he regretted it afterwards, he made the decision quite abruptly and didn't actually think it through.
We spoke here and there a while afterwards but then I cut contact. He still text me now and then saying he still loved me, missed me etc. I asked him whether that meant he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't sure.
I haven't spoken to him for over a month, but I do check his facebook (bad I know) and he puts lyrics to our favourite songs all of the time. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he always puts things like I wanna make you mine..or lyrics to songs we used to sing to eachother. Does this just mean he misses me? (link)
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My assumption is yes, but I wouldn't take him back so soon.. He needs to know that rash decisions cause rash consequences.. If he wants you back, he needs to confront you not leave little hints on his Facebook. He's the one that decided he didn't want to be with you anymore. Keep your options open, something better might come along. (:
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hi, i have a bf who while we were broken up met this girl, he first lied about how he met her (i saw her on her contacts and he said she was an old friend ) then weeks later when we were kinda getting back together he told me the truth (supposely) he said that he met her at a train station when he had no money for the ticket and she offered nicely to pay so they chatter a little she "found him" on facebook and added him there, on blackberry messenger and on skype (which is rare cause he doesnt have any of this information on his profile so theres no possible way that she would do this without him giving the number and usernames since on facebook he doesnt even has a picture of himself and he has a very common name ) so i was thinking maybe HE added her and they exchanged numbers which is more liley what happened since tbh he is not a skype user either other than talking to me thats all he uses it for so its strange someone added him on there ...anyway ..he said he has stopped talking to her (apparently deleted her from facebook which i have no way to prove cause he has his friends hidden and IM NOT even one his friends there anymore )i deleted him from facebook cause he was extremly jealous i figured that would be better so i cannot add him back and if i did i wouldnt see much cause no one can post on his wall he only gets messages by inbox and his friend list is hidden..
he said he had deleted her off blackberry messenger and skype, BUT the girl keeps sending messages like
"i hope you're ok i dont know why you stopped contacting me i dont know why that day really affected me " (which im wondering ,,,did they go out ?? did they slept together/kissed or whatever more than just chatting at the train station?) he said nothing more happened than they speaking on facebook for like 2 days after meeting then when she started saying she liked his smile etc and flirting he stopped contacting her
shes been callling him NONSTOP and texting him, messages on facebook and everywhere else he wont take her calls or reply to his messages but shes still sending messages like
one day he shared his skype screen and a message from her came up saying "i hope you had fun today :)" (not even a hello or whatever...he said it was kinda like "i hope you have a good day " but to me sounded like as if they were out together and shes saying like i hope you had fun after them hanging out ) he denies it but its all very suspiscious like
"i hope you're ok etc etc i dont understand why u stopped talking to me "
1- why would a girl keep messaging a guy who she only spoke for like 3 days
2-why would she be insisting so much after he hasnt taken her calls? (seriously why cant she think like maybe he doesnt wanna talk to me or whatever)
ANYWAY im so tired of it and i cannot move on cause i wanna be with him but i dont feel safe having her trying to contact him so desperatley, i know he thought she was hot etc so i dont want him getting tempted so ive added her and im thinking about asking her NICELY to stop emssaging him but i want it to look in a way so she wont message him saying like your gf contacted me etc or something, asking him to tell her to stop trying to comunicate isnt an option he says just to drop the issue and move on and i cant so WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS? i was planning on telling her something like (not to offend her of course cause this is as much his fault not only hers she might not even know he has a gf )
hello im sorry that ive added you i really havent ever done this and i dont wanna come out rude or anything, but i'd like you to be honest with me about something..
can you tell me what really happened between you and (bf's name without saying my boyfriend )? because i can't understand why you would be insisting so much in contacting him..
if she doesn't wanna tell me then i don't know what would i do
then just say something like : i really don't wanna be rude or anything cause more likely you didn't knew he had something going on so im gonna just ask you in the nicest way as possible if you could stop trying to contact him?
(then hopefully she won't answer agressively or deffensive ...) I KNOW you probably will say just trust him but tthis is not as easy as that since i wont rest my mind until i really know what happened and i REALLY DIDNT wanted to ask her to stop messaging him but shes been calling almost every day for like a month and texting and he hasnt taken her calls
just please tell me your opinion and im sorry this is way too long (link)
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I understand completely why you do not trust your 'boyfriend', something is fishy if he lied to you about her in the first place. It would be stupid of you to just 'drop the situation', because something had to of happen.. I mean, like you said why would she have all his information, and why the hell would she keep contacting him? I think you trying to get to the bottom of the situation would be pointless. To me, dropping him would be your best option whether you wanna be with him or not.. If he wanted to be with you, he would of been honest with you. Either the girl wants to get a rise out of you, or she just doesn't even know he has a girlfriend. You're better off without him. Hope you take my advice.
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I am a 15 year old boy.I have a penis that is 4 1/2 inches non erect,and 6 1/2 inches erect.I have a girl friend that is 1 month younger than me.she has had sex 4 times.Idk know if any the boys are older than me,but i beleive at least 1 was.I wanna show her im like the best and make her feel good,but i think she might have did someone that has a penis bigger than mine.Does anyone have any advice on how i can grow my penis? (link)
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Your penis size is not smaller than normal. If your girlfriend has more experience than you then ask her what she likes. Confidence is key, but it would also be smart to not be arrogant.. Just have fun!
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There's this girl I hang out with a lot. We've known each other since we were little kids. We grew up together and we're both 15 now. For 4 years now I've fallen for her hard. I daydream of her all of the time. I dream of her at night. I can't get her out of my head. I love everything about her from the way she smiles to the smell of her hair when I'm close to her. I always seem to find myself making excuses to see her more often. I feel like I'm obsessed because my feelings for her are so strong I can't have a proper girlfriend (I always end up being distant to them, not really wanting to date them, and dumping them early on because of my lack of interest).
I've kept these feelings a secret but sometimes I think I should tell her. I'm afraid she won't feel the same though, and I'll end up ruining the friendship. I know I sound like such a wuss here but the emotions are so intense and I've kept them in so long.
What's the best thing to do in this particular situation? Should I tell her and risk everything? Should I keep this stuff bottled in? (link)
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When I was younger the same situation happened to me. I think the best way to go is let her know. Because you can't really have a friendship with someone you are in love with anyways. I wish you the best, and good luck!
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My bf is really controlling. He always has to know where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with, and everything. He controls like everything. If I end up being like 10 minutes late from when he told me to call him (like if I go out shopping and was suppose to call him at noon, but I call him at like 12:10) then he gets all angry and yells and screams and tells me I'm a really, really bad gf. I know this isn't healthy but I LOVE HIM. When he isn't mad at me then we have a really good time together. Is there something I can do to make him not controling and better understanding? Do I HAVE to dump him, because all my friends say he's just abusive and it'll get worse but he's everything to me. Help, please! What do I do? (link)
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This boy seems to have a little bit of a trust issue. I also agree with your friends. I think it can only get worse... So, for your well-being I would probably get away because you can find another boy that "you can have a good time with".. Get away before you're in too deep.
Good luck!
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Less than a week ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. He was devastated, and he still keeps calling me and obsessing about what happened between us. I have no interest of getting back with him and i just want him to leave me alone. For about a month now, i've liked this other guy. We've been friends for a while, but we've gotten close and i really really like him. I found out recently that he likes me too. I want to be with him, but i just got out of a long relationship myself, and im not ready for another commited relationship. But i really like him a lot and i dont want to lose him, but im not ready for a relationship just yet. Its not fair to him but its also not the right time. I feel like he's getting screwed over and i feel so bad. What should i do?!? Thanks so much :] (link)
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Just keep ignoring your ex- boyfriend, sooner or later he will give up, as for the new boy just tell him you want to be close to him and him not talk to other girls the way he's talking to you, tell him you wanna be with him without the label for right now, because you like him but you don't wanna rush into things.
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my bf is 5 yrs older than me and has totally different views on waiting for certain things than i do.. he keeps trying to moves us fwd and it keeps making me madder every time. what should i do?
also: anytime i mention the words "break up" he flips out and becomes all emotional...
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If you aren't ready for certain things that he thinks needs to happen, that is definitely a reason to break up in my opinion. Your boyfriend needs to be understanding.
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15f i love my girlfriend very much and i know she wouldnt hurt me or leave me and i know tha shell always be there for me but for some reason i dont believe her and i think shes gonna leave me like alot of other people have i also suffer from paranoia which doesnt help i dont want my past relationships to ruin my relationship with her what do u think i should do??? any advice would be deply apriciated (link)
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You two should sit down together and have a long heart-to-heart. Just to make sure you want the same things, because you might want something she is not ready for. Make sure honesty is at the top of her list. Also, I would look at her track record (what she has done to boyfriend's in her past). Be open minded, because if you don't, you'll regret it, she could be the best thing that ever happened to you. I hope you let your guard down, good luck! (:
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I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only? (link)
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Well, my best advice to you is keep your eyes open until he proves that he's different.. Since you just got out of a year relationship, I wouldn't rush into anything anyway, so just keep things simple and unofficial, don't go too fast either. Hang out with his friends with him, and trust your gut. Just remember if something feels wrong, it usually is.
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boyfriend left me for another girl, one month before our one year. i can't eat, i can't sleep. i know in time i'll be better but i sincerly do love him with every ounce in my heart. so my head tells me to fucking never talk to his ass again, but my heart screams his name every time it beats in my chest. I know i'm only 17, before him i had another boyfriend for 3 years. Yes i'm young, but i know that i want a loving boyfriend, because my moms marriage is horrible hes abussive and not the man she married. How do i move on? How do i possibly breathe and not think about him.. (link)
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I always handle my break ups with having one good night to cry, and then letting go. The best way to not think of something is to stay busy. Hang out with your friends, learn something new, get involved with your school, or get a job just do something to make you not think of him. I know this sounds bad, but sometimes even rebounds work. Just live by this quote for right now: "Never regret something you once smiled about."
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Want to tell this guy how he makes me feel but don't know how to.he has been hurt before (link)
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I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, and at the beginning it was VERY hard because he was afraid of getting hurt. The best way to show someone your feelings is being there for them all the time.. You telling them is not going to make the difference, at least it didn't with my case. You can tell someone something so many times, but they have to see it to believe it. So just be patient, and try to be there for him as much as you can without pushing him away by being overbearing.
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I've been in relationships since late 2008. It being mid 2010, I'm EXTREMELY used to having a boyfriend all the time. I've been single for about a month now, and I'm over the ex and everything, I just miss having soemone there. I'm a junior in high school and I know a relationship especially now is just asking for disaster, but I love having a boyfriend... it keeps me happy and balanced. So, I'm trying to stay away from boys because of the constant heartbreak. What are some GREAT advantages of being single? I'm NOT used to this at all and I miss the idea of a boyfriend so I just need to be more confident about it. Thanks :) (link)
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What I've found out about not having a boyfriend is you obviously get to focus on yourself more. Having a boyfriend is nice, but once and a while, you need a break. Think of it this way, more time to hang out with your friends, family, find new hobbies, and learn more about yourself. The right boy will come along when you're least expecting it, so just have fun and enjoy the ride. (:
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So a little bit about me... I'm fifteen and a sophomore. I have a boyfriend, seventeen, junior. I LOVE cheerleading and tennis I dedicate a lot of time to both of them. My problem is I feel like my boyfriend is overprotective. He gets really worried about me when I'm out of town for cheer and stuff. He's also always telling me to eat more or be careful or remember a jacket... I know he does it because he cares but it feels like he's trying to be my dad anddd my boyfriend sometimes... haha and that's just weird! He's also really protective when it coems to other guys. One year at our county fair a guy grabbed me and took me off behind a ride, he tried to take off my shorts but I got away before anything happened. When I went this summer my boyfriend wouldn't let me out of his hold the entire night. I feel suffocated sometimes. It also makes feel kind of... down. He's always bringing up how small I am and how much I need to be proteced... And yeah... I know. I'm 5'4 100 pounds... I know I'm small, you don't have to make me feel even more tiny and pathetic. I just don't know what to do. I KNOW he cares and I love him to death but I've told him to back off and he doesn't get it. How can I make it more clear?? (link)
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Some boys have to be in control, and they also take advantage of that. You have to make sure that one day he won't use that power against you if you're a tiny girl.
You also have to know when your breaking point is, if you can't deal with his controlling personality then you shouldn't be with him, you can't change someone to fit you. If you say to him "Hey, I would like to have a little more space and be independent" and he doesn't understand, there should be a red flag for you that it's time to get out of the relationship.
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