16/female -- him: 18/male
So me and this guy have been best friends for years and years and years. He's my rock. However, we've always felt extremely physically attracted to each other and recently weve started hooking up (not sex, everything but). I am NOT looking for a relationship and neither is he and we both made it clear that we did not like eachother or even wanted it be a "talking" (like pre-dating situation or dating without the title) none of that. (also, he didn't want anyone to know about us hooking up because he didnt want anyone else treating our relationship differently)z But I still wanted us to be friends and when we started hooking up he started getting a lot meaner. He's always teased me and his personality is not the kind to ever be serious or mushy but it felt different. Before when we hung out and he'd constantly make fun of me I liked it and it seemed harmless and funny. But now I can't even be around him without feeling awful about myself. He calls me stuff like worthless, helpless, stupid, and that's just not okay with me.
So that's when it started to go downhill. One of my friends found out we were hooking up and told all the rest of my friends (she saw my texts to him) so I was like well shit what am I gonna do so I just told them not to tell anyone. But he still found out they knew and he got so angry at me. I found out he had been showing his friends our conversations saying shit like "look how annoying she is, she acts like we're dating" WITHOUT telling them we hook up, making me look like some crazy desperate idiot. It was then that I told him how sick I was of how he treated me yadayadayada. I tried to tell him I didn't wanna hook up anymore but he convinced me it would work. And we worked it out. But then the next day he's like: "I changed my mind I don't wanna hook up anymore cause you told people about it" even though I explained to him what happened and he understood an we were fine about it? I was like wtf okay... And Idk why that pissed me off so much but it did. Cause then two days later he asks me to come over to "hang out" obvi we hooked up. But of course, when I asked him two nights ago he replied with a straight up "no." and then Didn't text me back te rest of te night.
I hate this. I just wanna be friends with him, hook up, and not feel any of this shit but I honestly feel like I've been dumped? I HATE looking stupid and I feel sooo stupid. It seems like he doesn't even wanna be around me... like he's embarrassed by me.. Even though when his friends found out what we do they were like damn that's impressive we never thought you'd get her. And he's gotten better about being nice but he still makes me feel pretty shitty sometimes. He found out I was considering hooking up with my ex and he called me a stupid slut. Like why am I still wasting my time with someone who makes me feel awful more than he makes me feel better? He says he cares about me but I know if I tell him I don't wanna talk to him anymore or anymore I feel like he won't even give two shits. And that would hurt most of all. So PLEASE someone help me??:(
Guys like this want nothing but a hook up. Him calling you names is probably his way of making himself feel all bad-ass, when really it just makes him look like a terrible person. You need to stop hooking up with him, and if you want to still be friend with him, you need to talk to him about what he's doing and how it's making you feel. No friend should ever make you feel worthless, otherwise they really aren't your friends. Another issue that hadn't been addressed is the fact that I think you also should talk to your friends. I'm sure they didn't mean anything by it, but I think it would benefit you if you told them not to go around talking about your personal life behind your back. It's not fair to you. Anyways, back to the guy, if you talk to him and he ends up saying he doesn't want to be friends anymore or something, keep your chin up. Just hold onto the thought that he wasn't really a friend if he treated you that way and then just left when you finally stood up for yourself. I hope this helped you in some way, and I really wish you luck!
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so ive been chatting this kid that goes to my friends school and we were supposed to meet up but we couldnt. and the next time i see him i want to wow him or whatever. i think he likes me he thinks im pretty and shit. and i rly dont want to be single anymore. i am really god at giving advice to my girlfriends on how to get a guy and go out, and it alwayd works. so for me i know them but if you guys know any tips can you say them please thank you. Also just in general what are some ways guys get attracted to girls and like them. Just some tips thanks
I've had alot of friends ask me this kind of question, so I'll give you the same advice as I gave them. Hang out with the guy, and see how it goes. If you want to wow him, maybe dress up a little bit, but only in what you're comfortable with. If you want a guy to like you, be yourself. Because if you're not yourself, and he starts like you, he won't know the real you and you won't actually be happy. And if you're being yourself and he ends up liking you, then you know he likes the REAL you, not just the you he'd hope you like. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Hey, im a guy in hs. And theres this girl in my class who is soooooooooo hot... i mean, oh my god. I dont know why, but i cant keep my eyes off her, and i dont know how the other guys in class dont even look at her. she is a cheerleader, perfect, tanned ass, legs, nice stomach, big tits. I just want her so bad and i want to do her.
But she is so hot that i just wanna go crazy and do something nasty to do, like grab at her outta nowhere. Dude, wtf, like, should i? or what. Damn.
Smack her in the face or no?
You honestly want to know what you should do? Stop oggling her and try getting to know her. Then if you guys hit it off, ask her out. Then you'll have a reason to look at her all the time.. but if she catches you staring, she might get nervous and creeped out. I know that's what happens to me. So, again, just try getting to know her and go from there! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Theres this girl in my class... who has... the most... perfect ass. Like it is literally a work of art. And to all of you guys, im telling you, ITS A M A Z I N G. Like no joke. I wanna go up to this girl and ask if i can grab it, or if she can sit on my face. Should i ask her or no?
I'm sorry, but is this actually a serious question? DEFINITELY NO!!! And for future reference, don't ever think of just asking a girl to grab her ass or it WILL earn you a slap in the face.
~RF
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I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months. I'm 20 and he's 25, so there's a bit of an age difference. He is also a college graduate and I'm not even in school right now. It's been going alright in that I really like him and I think he enjoys my company, in some way. The only thing is, i've been really shy from the beginning, basically. I'm so afraid to talk or to be myself, especially around someone whose opinion matters to me, especially around him.
Anyway, that just isn't cutting it for him. He's been silently pulling away, and I asked him why. He said that he doesn;t know me and he doesn't know my dreams or aspirations, he thinks I must be too laid-back to take hold of my life and go for it. He doesn't like my job. He wonders if we are too far apart in age, at different stages in our lives.
I answered him telling him basically that I'm afraid to open up, and that I haven't really felt comfortable around him (which is more about me than him) and probably a bunch of other stuff--I don't even want to read over what I said, it's too embarrassing.
He says that he wants to meet for coffee or something, but I'm afraid to. I don't want to face him. I feel pathetic, and I know that I can't hide it. I can't hide any of this anxiety anymore, but I don't want to put myself out there like that. I don't want him to know that i'm sad and alone and that I'm afraid of the world. I feel like i'm just feeling sorry for myself by telling him these things, and I worry that he pities me. I feel like this relationship will go nowhere because of my issues. Should I just face my fears and open up more about it? I really just want to say that this whole relationship doesn't feel right and that we should just move on, but i'd feel like a coward. I really just don't know what to do in this situation...part of me is angry at him for saying the things that he did.
Honestly? I think you should meet up with him. Tell him you like him, and just explain to him that you're just nervous around people you like. I'd suggest talking to friends or something so you can start opening up, and maybe you'll be able to become a little happier with yourself. Just let the guy know you ARE interested, and you understand where he's coming from, but that you're trying to sort your life out. You're still young. I'm 19, and I don't even know what I want to do yet. It's not the end of the world. Hope this helps a bit! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Okay. So heres my ordeal. Im gay, 17 years old, and i have been crushing on this guy for a while now. I have just this far been dropping subtle hints, but he is the type that its hard for me to read his feelings. I dont know if he has the same feeling for me. Im guessing he is, but im not for certain. I dont know what to do, either give up and find a new guy, or tell him about my feelings and hope that he likes me back. Im very confused. so any advice at all would be great. thanks.
I definitely say go for it! When it comes to having a crush, it's better to let them know. If you give up, you'll always wonder what would've happened if you had told them. So just give it a shot, and worst comes to worst, he'll say no and then just ask him if he'd still like to be your friend. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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I'm not sure but I'm thinking about having sex with my bf. But i don't want my parents to find out. What if I'm at the doctors and the ask if I'm sexually active and my parents are there for some weird reason. How do I keep them thinking tht I'm a virgin
First of all, to be brutally honest, if you're "not sure" about having sex, then you're not ready. It's a HUGE thing to do, and you need to be completely ready for it, and when you are you'll know. Second, you don't need to lie to your parents, just don't mention anything about it. However! That being said, if you ever think you might be pregnant or may have gotten an STD, then I suggest you tell them right away. Parents are great supports for things like that because they've been there and know through experience. They may be a little upset at first, but parents are usually very understanding. But I do still think you should wait untill you're absolutely sure you're ready for that and realize all the different things that can happen because of having sex. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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So theirs this guy who ive been talking to since march 2, (im not a stalker i just remeber the day)i really like him and when we see each other at school we hug, he tells me i look beautiful and abunch of other sweet things. i really like him and when we text he calles me baby/babe. if were not together than please give me some ideas to like hint that i want him to ask me out, im 13 and hes 13 to, hes a pretty boy, so hes like a majer player please help!
Sweetie, he didn't reject you. He just said he could see you two dating, just not yet. Just give it some time. If he really likes you, it'll happen, and if you two talk way more, I don't think you'll have to wait TOO long. Maybe just get to know eachother a bit first. Stuff like that never hurts. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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one of my stupid friends told him i liked him and then he texted me and told me he liked me to but the next day i found out he had a girlfriend and now we dont really talk and thats the reason i didnt want him to know because i thought it would mess up r friend ship i think i should just try to move on (in a way i dont want to)but my friends think i should wait to c if him and his girl friend break up what should i do
I agree with Jasmine, but I'd also have to say don't really wait around. If he wants to be with you, it'll happen, but don't sit and wait for it because, sorry to say, it might not happen and you don't want to think you've wasted your time. So my advice? You can still hope for it, but don't let it get in the way of meeting new people. You never know. And also, if this guy stopped talking to you, it could be because he's a good enough guy that he doesn't want anything to happen while he's still taken, which would therefore make him a cheater. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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im 18 years old, a guy, bout to graduate HS.
Anyways, i know its hard to understand, but my ex is a freshman and also a cheerleader, and she recently broke it off with me.
She said she wanted to be single and "experience" AND even though she kinda broke my heart, i still care for her. Every goddamn thing reminds me of her, driving, things around my house, things around school, everything. and i cant stop thinking about her.
But the thing is, she is kinda super hot and has alot of friends, and im worried that throughout high school she might turn into a slut, like one who goes to parties and drninks and hooks up with random guys. Even though i was her first kiss, she is innocent right now. But im wondering, is there a chance she might become a total slut ? and it worries me, because i still care for her.... for some reason and i know it is weird, i know, but it bothers me so much that i literally wanna force myself to erase her from my life so that i wont have to worry about her becoming a bad person. Help me?
Sorry, but first of all "slut" is a very derogatory term, though I understand what you mean. Anyways, it IS possible, but it has nothing to do with her looks. Every woman has the potential to want to sleep with alot of people. However, what I think you need to realize is it's her choice. I know you care about her, but if that's what she wants to do, there's nothing that will really stop her. If you hear about it from random people at some point, maybe ask her about it? Tell her you're worried. But don't pry into her personal life because otherwise it would just seem.. odd. I know you feel like you want to erase her from your life, but let me be the first to tell you it won't happen, and you shouldn't let it even if you could. She was a part of your life, and you don't want to forget that. So, I guess long story short, only approach her if it starts spreading around, because that's when it might be a problem.. and if you do find out, just go to her and say something like "Look, I don't mean to pry or anything like that.. but I've been hearing this around and I thought you should know.. that way if it's not true, you might be able to set things straight" or something like that because then it shows that you care. Hope this helped. Goodluck and keep smiling!
~RF
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okay so my aunt has a boyfriend, and he has 4 kids. my aunt has 2 kids. one of them being my age. (i am 15 and so is my cousin) than my aunts boyfriend's son is 14, but he looks like he's 19. I find him super attractive, for some odd reason, and he tells me that he finds me attractive. Everytime him and i are alone we kiss. And we have hooked up one nightt (but there was no sex..only because neither of us could find a condom)but the other night he told me that he has a huge surprise for me. soo i was waiting till i saw him so he could tell me. he told me. he wants to take me to the movies just him and i. it was cute, and it deffinetly was a surprise. just ... i want to hear outsiders voices on this situation. Like, is it totally awkward that to the point that him and i shouldnt even be doing anything. Or is it kind of okay, because we're not blood related. (and btw my aunt and her boyfriend have only been dating for a few months) but my step mother said it wasnt weird, because we're not relatedd. but i just want to see what you guys think. thankyou!
I can see why you'd ask, but I honestly think it would only be awkward if you make it that way. I think the only way it would be weird was if you were blood related, but since that's not the case, I think it should be fine. So just don't think of the situation as awkward, and it shouldn't become awkward. :)
~RF
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