Hey so the names Jenna ... i can help with pretty much everything...I'm a recovering anorexic, and a survivor of an abusive realtionship ... um yeah... so ask away ... but I have a tendancy to TELL THE TRUTH... so if you don't want to hear it ... don't ask ...
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Do you think it is ok to ask a guy if he likes you. I mean like like you? (link)
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Yeah if you both like eachother but he's just a little shy you should go for it ... It my not happen otherwise ;)
good luck
Pheobe
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if a guy older than you who you like is pressuring you to have sex or oral sex and you are not going out and are only friends is he only in it for sex? btw im 13 hes 16 (link)
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YES!!! don't do it! The age thing is not such a big deal but sex of any sort should be for two people who are in love...
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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Hello, i'm new to here...
well I've been an airline pilot for 2 years and me and my girlfriend are talking about marriage and stuff. Generally speaking she is pretty attractive and hot...but if we get married, I will always think that she will cheat behind my back when I'm off to work...(usually for a few days)
What should I do? I'm not good at love relationship at all, i mean I can fly a big jet, but hey, i'm not good at this kind of stuff... (link)
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Ok... if she agreed to marry you then she is agreeing to be faithful as well. It sounds like she loves you, and if she hasn't cheated on you yet, its doesnt sound like she will. Its natural to be parinoid, but don't let it get the best of you, and end the relationship because of something you think could happen.
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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It's almost my boyfriend and I's 2 month anniversary... do I get him something or just ignore it? If I should get him something what should it be? (link)
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If you feel like you should get him something then go for it ... but it shouldnt be anything big, just something cute and maybe sentimintal.
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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im m 17 and im going out with a girl who is 15 we have been going out 5 months 18 days now and we use to spend every minute we could together and we both say we love eachother alot (which i am sure i do) but recently shes been wanting more time with her friends but thats not wat bothers me, wat bothers me is that now even when i make plans with her, l8r on if her friends make plans with her shell jsut skip mine and her plans and jsut go off with her friends, ive talked to her about it last night and i believed everything was alright again she said she wanted to c me i said i wanted to c her so i told her not to make plans for sunday cause wed do something she said ok then she had to go so she said shed call me today(saturday), but it seems she didnt call me and she has gone off with her friends again, and she has plans with her friends tomorrow aswell totally making me feel insignificant compared to her friends like she has mostly this week. earlier on in the week i was talking to her and she could come up with anything to say all she said was "then y dont u just dump me, i dont want break up but if its really that bad then....?, i need to know is she leading me on?, is this a test?, she says she loves me still but how do i know shes telling the truth?, wat do i do? i love her so much but i dont know how much of this i can take, wat should i do? (link)
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i know 2 years may not seem like the biggest age difference but at this point there is a huge difference in maturity levels. Think about when you were 15, you weren't lookin for any type of serious relationship, you wanted to spend time with friends, where as now that your older, you want someone closer, who you can spend more time with. To really get to the point, i don't think she is leading you on, or giving you a test. I think for the most part she doens't even realize how much she is hurting you. You both have entirely different ideas of what love is; and how you want to spend you time. Just give her some space. If she really does love you, she'll realize it and come around. If not, well then it just isn't meant to be...
GOOD LUCK!!
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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ok here's the deal.......me and my boyfriend have bin going out for 5 months now and it would have bin 6 if we hadn't we hadnt bin waiting to make sure thats what we wanted and going out with the same guy for that long is a recorde for me lol anyways i know i'm totally and completly in love.....my question is......am i stupid to think this guy is the one......some people say i am because i'm only seventeen but my mom described to me when she met my dad she just knew and thats how i feel like i just know he's the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with......what do you think?
thanks in advance (link)
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Of course you can be in love after only 5 months ... and it is true that when you find that " one person" often you can feel it , you just know ... but that doesnt mean you should rush into anything... not that it sounds like you are going to ... or would ... but being in love tends to lead us to do stupid things ... take it slow ... and good luck !
*hope I helped*
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okay lets say im dating a boy right.
and..... stuff and we are only in 7th grade.
and..... is it possible for people to date in 7th grade to stay together forever like.. get married i mean i know we are young but can it happen? (link)
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yeah its possible and it does happen ... but don't rush into anything ... have fun with your life!
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putting this in \"love life\" might be pushing it, but whatever.
okay, so theres this kid, he\'s in my grade (12th) but i\'ve never talked to him in person. i think one time in like the 8th grade he got ahold of my screen name and he was like whats your name? and i told him (i knew he went to my school) and he was like \"hold on, i\'m going to look you up in the yearbook\". haha, that still makes me laugh. we were like in middle school though. but yea... i\'ve always known his name and who he was (after that point) but i never talk to him. and then this year, i think he has like a mini crush on me or something (but still, no talking in person). for example, theres two ways to get to the student parking lot(and neither one of us has a 6th period). i go one way, which is closer to my class & i know what class he has 5th period (because i have that class 4th and i\'ve stayed in there to ditch my 5th period) & theres a closer way to go from his class, but he goes the way i go (i wouldn\'t blame him though if he likes me... i would have done the exact same thing to my crush of three years). and he parks in the same row i do, but in order to get to my car i have to pass his car first and there have been a few times when i would walk by and he would like glance at me or whatever. honestly i don\'t even know what kind of an expression i give back... i think i just glance @ him. then he eventually requested to be my friend on myspace. even though i\'ve never talked to him, i added him anyways... he does go to my school so why the heck not? then he commented on one of my pics & said \"cutie\". haha. that was interesting. and still, every day he pretty much walks the same way i do... sometimes he\'s in front of me, sometimes he\'s in back of me, sometimes he\'s with friends and sometimes he\'s alone. oh, and even when we leave the parking lot, we both take the same main street so he\'ll like be driving along side of me or something, haha. or in front of me, or in back, etc. but yea. still i\'ve never talked to him! and then a few nights ago, he sent me a message through myspace and it said \"hey you. whats up?\" i didn\'t get it right away, i think i was on at the time and then i signed off or something... but i got it like an hour or two later. i didn\'t respond though, because what am i supposed to say? i don\'t want to be like \"hey\" or \"hey...\". i don\'t know... its totally wierd though, because i do see him like everyday (plus he\'s friends with two kids in my class and guys that i sometimes hang out with at lunch, but he doesn\'t hang out with them during lunch... he hangs out like 400 ft away from us, haha). its like, if you want to be my friend, then talk to me. its kind of awkward when you send a message like that through myspace. whatever. he does seem cool, but its kind of wierd and awkward. i was going to send him a message back and be like \"waddupp, fool?\" but...yea. i think that would be a little funny & more friendly and less serious/awkward/flirty (yea, you can probably take \"hey...\" and turn it into a flirty way). but then again, \"waddupp fool?\" can make it seem like \"oh yea, i know you we\'re friends\" when we really aren\'t in real life. what should i do about this whole situation. because i still see him everyday... and i feel bad i ignored his thing, but i don\'t want to just go up to him and be like \"hey!\" what would you do if you were shy and in this situation. i don\'t think i really have a crush on him back. i don\'t know him and i probably wouldn\'t mind hanging with him or anything, but yea. what would you do?
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ok... mini-crush is the exact way to describe this. He may be AIMing you or myspace messaging you because hes too shy to talk to you in person. So message him back sayin something like " hey ... whats up?" something nonchlant. You said you wouldnt mind chillin with him so if he asks you to habg out say yeah but mention something along the lines of " but just as friends rite?"
that'll get your point accross w/o really hurting his feelings. that way you can become friends with him but if you don't like him you dont have to go out with him.
hope i helped!
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ok i have dated this girl for 2 1/2 years. we have been through a marine corps deployment and came out even stronger. she has been asking me to help out with the bills and each time i got paid i just gave her good lip service and never helped. i agree with the reason she broke up with me i just dont know what is going on now. she kick me out but did not take my key back. has not asked me to come get my stuff. my pictures are still up in the house. i have sent her flowers and she calls. we have went out to dinner. this thursday we are going out do i ask her what is going on between us or not. i have made alot of changes with my money. i do not spend when i dont have to and i paid off all of my bills. i want to work this out but dont know what she wants to do. should i go take my stuff out of the house? if i do she will have no kitchen table, couch's, entertainment stand or a bed for her sister to sleep in. thanks b
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dont give up hope ... you should wait at least until your sure you know whats going on. And if she does decide she wants you OUT you should take ur stuff... its urs and if she going to be like that the nyou should be mean too ...
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my friend and his band are performing and i was invited to go. i told my friend i liked him and i was wondering should i do anything special for the concert. any suggestions of what i should do?! (link)
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You should buy a white shirt and decorate it with his name and bands name ! Have fun go crazy ! Show him you care!!
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I am 21 female with need of advice!
2 years ago i was in a relathionship with a man i loved and still love very much, we where together for 4 years. My relathionship started when i was just 15 and went on till i was 18. Though i know at this age you never know what love really is he was somehting special! now that we are seperated we are still very good freinds and see each other when we can, but the break up hurt me very much and left me with a fear of rejection. Anyway now that i have the background in place my problem is that i can't seem to find a new person to replace the old. I have tried and dated many but all of them go down the drain! i think my major probelm is that i have forgoten how to flirt and scare off men that are attracted to me! how do i open my self to men without the fear of being hurt again!? (link)
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You havent forgetten just "misplaced" this kinda thing happed to me too you i wish there was more i could say but its good that your trying to get with other men the pratice will help you get back to your normal state
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hey!I was just at blockbuster and i just saw like the hottest boy ever! and like he was totally checking me out cuzi saw him and i was checkin him out and we were like walkin by eachother all througout blockbuster...its funny tho cuz it was really awkward cuz we didn't say anything. And next time i see him i wanna talk to him and stuff cuz he is so gorgeous and i dont kno what to say to him though. Does anyone have any tips on what to say to guys when you dont kno them but want to kno them? THANKS SO MUCH! *tasha* (link)
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Try cute pick up lines make jokes about blockbuster but dont go over board cause then he will think ur corny
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im goin out with a guy i kind of like i mean i dunno but i like some one else ( his friend) and hes goin out with a girl (no one knosz) but hes gunna dump her i realy like him a lot and he told a lot of people he likes me and my friend asked me if i liked him and i said yess so she knew i liked him n now there goin out whut do i do im sooo confused HELP SOON (link)
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So wait ... U have 2 boyfriends ? Well this seems easy enough , dunp the one u dont like ! if you like them both then keep both b/fs but be careful cause they might both dump you
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hi. i'm a 16/f and when i masterbate, i think of girls. i look at pics of girls. not guys, girls. but i still like guys!! am i..gay? (link)
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Probably not ... theres a chance your bi but this is really something you have to figure out on your own
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