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Me and my fiance
Hello, i'm new to here...
well I've been an airline pilot for 2 years and me and my girlfriend are talking about marriage and stuff. Generally speaking she is pretty attractive and hot...but if we get married, I will always think that she will cheat behind my back when I'm off to work...(usually for a few days)
What should I do? I'm not good at love relationship at all, i mean I can fly a big jet, but hey, i'm not good at this kind of stuff...
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maybe you and your girlfriend shouldn't get married if you think she's gonna cheat on you. No relationship can work if there's no trust. I think you should wait until you are sure you can trust her and if that day doesn't come then you should maybe fine someone you can.
~shandz~
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sweetie.. if you don't trust her then it's not going to work out.. i spose if you really love her you should go to counciling and build up your relationship and trust 'til you feel that your ready to get married...
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ok so has she ever cheated on you before and if she hasnt you most likly have nothing to worry about and if you still feel that she might cheat on you then you should talk to her about it well i probably dont give the best advice but i hope i helped you
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Ok... if she agreed to marry you then she is agreeing to be faithful as well. It sounds like she loves you, and if she hasn't cheated on you yet, its doesnt sound like she will. Its natural to be parinoid, but don't let it get the best of you, and end the relationship because of something you think could happen.
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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I understand you..You are jealous...Are you insecure?Maybe yes..What you should do?
UNDERSTAND that she would not marry you if she would't love you.You are important to her.And, you know, when we love someone we try to protect him, from getting hurted etc,Would you cheat???No..Then why would she???
Feel good with you, and talk about it with your gf...That is what you should do.I hope i helped...
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It's not good to go through life assuming that your girlfriend will cheat on you everytime you're away.
If the two of you are serious enough about eachother to be considering marriage, then you must be doing something right. If she wants to marry you, then she obviously cares deeply for you.
Relationships are all about trust. Try to put a little more faith in her and you'll see that everything will be fine.
I wish the two of you good luck =]
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Relationships cannot work without trust. If you think your partner will cheat on you on the short trips you are required to take for your job, you do not trust her as much as you need to to make a marriage work. Think about the long term effect this will probably have on your relationship - you cannot escape going away, so you'll be constantly plagued by thoughts that your partner is cheating on you, and as a result probably become suspicious, resentful or accusatory, which will over time chip away at your relationship.
The only solution is to tackle why you don't trust this woman. Is it an irrational fear based on a lack of self-confidence on your part, or has she given you reason to believe she'll take advantage of your frequent absences? If it's irrational on your part, you need to develop your self confidence and confidence in the strength and staying power of your relationship before you can fairly marry this woman, because if you don't believe it will work, it probably won't. If on the other hand there is something in her behaviour that makes you lack trust, then you need to tackle it together and work out whether you can ever learn to accept her behaviour and trust her. Either away, I would suggest some relationship counselling for the both of you before you get married. It's normal and healthy to have some worries before you get married, as it's a huge decesion about the rest of your life, but you shouldn't be plagued by huge doubts about her cheating on you, and shouldn't really be thinking about a wedding whilst these thoughts are plauging you.
All the best.
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