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Don't know what to say
Usually when people talk to me, the first thing I think is more like
"Okay", "That's interesting", or
"That's nice to know."
Not much of an opinion or anything. Bleh... and I don't want to say anything stupid.
What can I do to change that? I don't want people to think I am ignoring them when I don't respond quickly or think I'm stupid if I say something wrong.
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You could ask them for some more details on what they are telling you. It's easy to ask questions and that way they are doing a lot of the talking. I find when I get stuck for something to say, this usually works. You could also share similar experiences or just be honest and share your opinion of whatever is being discussed.
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While they're talking, you should make eye contact, smile, nod, do anything to look interested! They'll think you care, and keep talking. Most people are self-centered. They don't really care what you have to say, they just want to tell you things. So if they think you're really interested, they can chatter away and not expect you to say anything. Trust me, I do this every time I'm in that situation and it works. It works when it's used on me, also.
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Well the only thing i can say is that you should say what you think and if it does come out stupid just tell the person you thought it would be smart and it wasn't. I use to be the same way and now i just say "well that was dumb." It breaks down the awkword barrier of the first time you meet. I hope i helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate but it would be nice. Thanks!
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Before becoming really sociable, i used to be like this...I was feeling really anxious when i was chatting with other people...What i did?
I stopped thinking "what am i going to say now""what afoolish i am!!!"etc,
You know what is going on to you?You feel anxious and you don't let yourself free to express your thoughts etc...Right?
So, be u!Smile at others and if you want to make others feel that you are fond of them, then go there and talk to them.Say "hi!" or "How are you?"etc...
But the best solution is to let yourself free...Be you!!!!
I hope i helped!Kisses!!!!
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oh seriously dont think like that! just be your self! you know.. im popular for always saying what i'm thinking and sometimes i do hurt feelings but i know that and then i appologize! and because i'm always telling the truth people often come to me for advice or tips. but dont be to mean like when i really ugly person ask you how do i look? then just say you look fine , but it would be better if you.....
so you should really say what you think but in a nice way even when your thought is'nt that nice and dont do the same mistake like me , you should still think before you talk! cause i never do and yeah thats not always that good :-/ but uhm as i was saying just be honest with yourself and your friends!
cause my teacher is always saying to homework or whatever : ohh wow thats really nice you did a great job! even if its really bad and then people wount take you serious and you dont want that to happen right? (cause i really dont believe my teacher anymore :-D)
so dont worry things will work out!!
loads of luck
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