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I Need to know if my girlfriend is hinting towards us breaki
im m 17 and im going out with a girl who is 15 we have been going out 5 months 18 days now and we use to spend every minute we could together and we both say we love eachother alot (which i am sure i do) but recently shes been wanting more time with her friends but thats not wat bothers me, wat bothers me is that now even when i make plans with her, l8r on if her friends make plans with her shell jsut skip mine and her plans and jsut go off with her friends, ive talked to her about it last night and i believed everything was alright again she said she wanted to c me i said i wanted to c her so i told her not to make plans for sunday cause wed do something she said ok then she had to go so she said shed call me today(saturday), but it seems she didnt call me and she has gone off with her friends again, and she has plans with her friends tomorrow aswell totally making me feel insignificant compared to her friends like she has mostly this week. earlier on in the week i was talking to her and she could come up with anything to say all she said was "then y dont u just dump me, i dont want break up but if its really that bad then....?, i need to know is she leading me on?, is this a test?, she says she loves me still but how do i know shes telling the truth?, wat do i do? i love her so much but i dont know how much of this i can take, wat should i do?
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If she actually wanted to break up with you, she'd do it. Maybe something important is going on with her and her friends, but if it's not you really need to tell her that you don't like just being there when it's "convenient for her". If she doesn't seem to care, then you don't need her. you should dump her.
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The fact that she's two years younger than you, and you know exactly how many days you've been dating likely means that the relationship is more serious for you than it is for her. Talk to her about it again, and if she tells you do dump her again, call her bluff. Bitches like that ain't shit, and it would not be worth it any longer, no matter how great the 5 months and 18 days were.
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Since I don't know her I will give you some options and you make the decision.
a)She's testing you.
b)She's immature.
c)She wants to break up.
I think the best thing to do is to ask her yourself.
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You can't tell by the way she is acting, because every girl is different. She might be leading you on or testing you, but she also might just be having fun with friends. She might feel like you were leading her on, or she might feel insignifagant becuase you are older. You also have to remember that she realy isn't that old. Just because she is a teenager doesn't mean that she is necisaraly ready for a serious relationship. Every person is ready at their own time, you are ready, but maybe she isn't quite there yet. Just give her a chance to get there and if she doesn't quite get there break the news to her before she breaks the news to you. I hope i helped and remember my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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i know 2 years may not seem like the biggest age difference but at this point there is a huge difference in maturity levels. Think about when you were 15, you weren't lookin for any type of serious relationship, you wanted to spend time with friends, where as now that your older, you want someone closer, who you can spend more time with. To really get to the point, i don't think she is leading you on, or giving you a test. I think for the most part she doens't even realize how much she is hurting you. You both have entirely different ideas of what love is; and how you want to spend you time. Just give her some space. If she really does love you, she'll realize it and come around. If not, well then it just isn't meant to be...
GOOD LUCK!!
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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