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Hi! I'm Miss. M, and I am here to give help to anyone that may need advice. To the highest extent of my capabalities, I'll try my best to find a solution to your problems.In addition, I just want to thank the people that have rated me. Thanks for the support. :) And Thanks For The Feedback :)
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what does it mean if a boy who is a friend or an ex bf finds exuses to be around u like to come over and hang out? and if he always stares at your breast and likes to pick u up all the time and play with you hands.
He really likes you. It's up to you to decide if you really want to have more than a friendship with him.
17/f
I have a boyfriend. Let's get that out of the way.
I've been working with my coworker for about 2 months now. His last day is on Sunday and the last day I worked with him was a couple of days ago. Apparently we used to work together all the time, but then the main office wanted to split us up because we're "always together" or we're "always talking". He was caring when I was sick, he would always talk to me, and cheer me up. He even said he was going to make me food the next time I work with him, but in the end, he didn't. After my week of being sick, whenever we work together, we're always on the other sides of the stores, we don't talk. We just stand there. It's nothing like before. But whenever we talk, he would flirt. We would give each other hugs now and then but not all the time. I think he was just naturally nice because when he doesn't talk to me, he talks ALOT to other coworkers. He's the only guy at my work place (girl clothing store). He recently bought a cake for this other coworker for her birthday. Last time, he said he dated Caucasian girls but he wants to try Asian. Later on, he started appearing in my dreams. Like we're hugging and stuff (my boyfriend knows). It was really weird to me, so I told my boyfriend and him about it. Then my coworker said, "you had a dream about us kissing? o_o you seem to have alot of dreams about us. :P" Two nights ago he told me he liked my hugs, and that I fit right on his chest. Then that I was a cutie. Today, he doesn't talk to me as much, he seems to avoid whenever I talk to him. He deleted his comment that he sent me. I guess he doesn't wanna deal with anything towards me since I have a boyfriend and because he's moving to another city??
What is going on? Does he like me? And what's going on with his random actions?
Well, if he likes you or not, you shouldn't stress on thought about it, because you already have someone else that loves you.
Think about your boyfriend, don't think about him. It's not worth your time. You've already established your love-life elsewhere.
And yes, he might have gotten his feelings a little confused towards you.
And as for his sudden, change-of-ways, somebody might have casually made him realize that his behaviour with you was a little out of place. That's why he probably backed-off.
Then there's the fact that your taken already and it possibly created an uncomfortable situation for him.
This is just what I believe
I hope I helped you in some way :)
okayyy. well this is a kind of long story but here goes. so theres this park in my town, a really big one with trails and lots of playgrounds scattered around with scattered fields and parking lots. So my boyfriend and I were driving back there one night and we parked pretty far in and starting making out... well it starts gettin a little heavy sooo we move to the back of his car and put down the seats. A car pulls up next to us but we dont hear or notice. Not until I look up and see three guys looking in the car window! My bf flies outta the car, super pissed. And I recognize one of the guys and notice that they go to a school near by and one of them (we'll call him brett) and i used to have a "thing". Well my bf wants to beat their asses but they just drove there to get high. My boyfriend already didn't like this guy, partly because we had history and partly becaue they got a little heated in a baseball game last season (our schools arre rival schools). But, I calmed him down and we left. well brett texts me the next day saying "hey baby, f*ck your boyfriend and come hang with me instead. ill give it to you like he cant ;)." and im pretty happy with my boyfriend, thank you. Well my boyfriend saw the text and got SUUUPER pissed. more pissed than he was the night before. Now he wants to fight this kid... I don't know what to do!! I've been trying for like three days to ask him not to but they have this summer ball scrimage agasinst brett's team and my bf plans on finding him after to "settle things". It's just a pick up game, so it has nothing to do with school so I don't think he can get into any trouble involving school but still! Even if he could, he'd still do it. And its so stupid! He can't do this and I can't talk him out of it! Please help!!! (I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen)
Well, I understand why your boyfriend would be angry at this other guy, and he's already had a resentment on him for a while.
I know you've probably already done your best just trying to convince your boyfriend that fighting is not the answer, but keep trying. Convince him not to stoop down to the other guy's level.
I'm not saying this is going to be an easy task. Cuz in your boyfriend's mind, he's probably just thinking: This guy defied me in sports and disrespected my girlfriend. Damn! I'm furious...
So I kinda feel bad for your boyfriend, cuz everytime he thinks about the sport he loves, it'll remind him of "Brett"
Everytime he thinks of you, it'll remind him of "Brett".
And after all, sports and his girlfriend are the 2 main things a guy usually thinks about.
So if, in any case you couldn't manage to convince your boyfriend to not beat "Brett" up,
(Man...I'm already strongly, disliking the name "Brett". Just the sound of it makes me think of what a jerk this guy is...even if the name is made up)
...Don't give him the silent-treatment. Or don't get upset at him, don't avoid him, or refuse to talk to him. Just let him know that you were worried about him and that you're glad he's ok. And just forget about the whole situation. Don't talk about it unless he's comfortable to bring it up. He wouldn't want to be reminded of "Brett" anymore.
I Hope my insight of things isn't too crazy
and that I've helped you in some way :)
14 f
I will try to make this quick, because I don't want to take to much of your guy's time. Now I've been miserable for a while now, because of what people are saying about my boyfriend. I've been dating my boyfriend sense July, 5, 2010
Since you two already have a history together, and you probably know your boyfriend better than anyone else, try analyzing this issue within yourself. Think about it and consider the people you're getting this from. Are they people you know? Do you consider them trustworthy? Listen to what your boyfriend has to tell you. It is up to you to believe if he's being honest or not.
Don't judge him by what other people say about him. Judge him by what you know.
Hope my advice helps you :)
what are some songs about getting hurt again.
I finally started to open up to my friend after a bad break up..8 months later. this new guy made me feel good again..now's he ignoring me and i can't believe i even opened up to someone. i hate talking about feelings..so i need a song
"You Lost Me" by Christina Aguilera,
would probably interpret your current feelings perfectly.
There is also:
1. Try Sleeping with a Broken Heart by Alicia Keys
2. Every Little Bit Hurts by Alicia Keys
3. Not Today by Mary J. Blige
4. My Immortal by Evanescence (and try checking out other Evanescence songs)
I Wish You the Best and...
I Hope This Helps :)
i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.
now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much
If you can't imagine yourself being with your ex in the future, then don't bother involving yourself in a romantic relationship with him anymore. Go ahead and give yourself a chance with the other guy, if he seems to be what you're looking for.
The only thing you have to tell your ex is that you want him in your life, but as a friend and nothing more.
You don't have to tell him that you met another guy to see what he would think, because that's like asking your ex for permission to move on, and you don't have to do that. Your life is yours and no one owns you.
If your ex does not want to have you as a friend then it's his loss, because you're ready to move on.
Hope My Advice Helps :)
I have this problem where I live, there is no good guys here they are all rude, and mean and so on. Maybe its their maturity or something but I don't want anything to do with it. First off I know Im young and no I don't use the word love or throw it around nor am I joking, to me it's really serious. I have really good friends on the internet and we have talked for a while and we go on cam and laugh and what I find is I like guys who don't live here but far away. I really like this guy who lives in Ontario but I live in British Columbia.. Is it worth even talking to them, having a long distance relationship even ? Help, please.
-Katelynn xx 15 f
Well talking to them is fine. It's doing you and them no harm, but I think it's really up to you if you want to have a long distance relationship. Try asking yourself if you're okay with this and if the other person were to be okay with that arrangement too. If you decide you're okay with it, then I suggest you go for it. If not, then just keep any of your guy contacts as friends only.
Hope I Helped :)
He's in jail for 6-8 years!! Im waiting for him, well giving it a shot! BUT I have no Idea what i'm gonna talk to him about (other than how I've been and whats going on out here). Any Ideas??
Well, since you know him best, bring up the things he likes to talk about. You know, because when you're in jail you feel isolated and alone, and he's spending 6-8 years of his life in a CAGE like an animal. I don't know if you're allowed to send pictures along with the letters cuz you know the security system they have in those places is pretty high, but pictures would really help. He would be more aware of what's going on outside of his box. Just let him know of things so he won't be completely left out.
Hope I Helped :)
i hate to say it but im horribly lovesick. i attract the wrong people.
the last relationship lasted a few months and ended in june, he was the severe mamas boy. the one before that was two years long and ended on my birthday in february, hes the sxe rocker but we fought to much. i went on a date a few days ago with a friend and he wont talk to me because i wouldnt go past kissing, drug addict. and my 'bestfriend' asked me out but hes bi and i couldnt picture us as more than friends but i broke his heart n never knew till he says he doesnt even wana stay friends, drug addict. then my crush asked me over but i couldnt make it either time, i told him i liked him n we dont talk anymore, college n an mma fighter.
-i want to forget guys and have fun with my girls but i dont have many girls, i fell for my guy friends and we got distant. to be honest im asked if im back in depression this hurts that much, i need someone to hold me and love me. day by day is a struggle with me, honestly im skinny and pretty and optimistic and called a flirt but latley i give up on appearance and going out. i deal with chronic pain and a brain tumor. i just want love to help forget, before i get into drinking and smoking again. how can i find and keep the right guy, im loosing my friends. any advice on this is appreciated! 16 female
Just don't look for love at the moment. Let love come to you cuz looking for a new love to forget your past relationships and to fix problems in your life that's...no, no, no. Just have fun with your girls. It doesn't matter how many you have, whether it's 1, 2, 3, or 4, they are friends...you'll find something fun to do and sometimes a smaller group is better so don't dismiss it. Let your love searching rest for the moment, but if you insist in looking for someone, look elsewhere not within your current group of guy friends. Try something new. :)
Good Luck and I Hope My Advice Helps You :)
He cuts me down and treats me like a little kid. Nothing I do is right. He play fights with me in front of his friends but is super rough almost like he enjoys hurting me. When he does that and yell me if I cry he'll just call me a baby.I'm not super annoying either, I try to help him in school so he wont fail and all he does is want to copy my work and he talks about other girls around me. He started doing this when we got in the tenth grade. Idk what to think?
He's very immature. He treats you like if you were his little brother or something. Go ahead and dump him. Don't think about it anymore.
It's been two months since my boyfriend and I broke up but I'm still hurting. He treated me like shit while we were dating, hurt me so many ways, and yet when I got to bed every night the only thing I can think about was the way he held me and kissed me and I miss being loved like that. He didn't love me for me, he admitted that, but we had such a physical connection that that's what has hurt so much to lose. He pressured me into going farther than I wanted to physically and it made me sooo attached to him that when he cut it off, it made it twenty times harder than it should have because I know I was too young to deal with those kind of physical connections. We dated for seven months, he was sixteen and I was fourteen, but I'm fifteen now. I just don't know what to do. I'm sick of missing someone who didn't care about me. I just want to be held by him again, but only by him and I don't know why... Please some one help, I hate this hurt.
Look, I'm so sorry for your situation, but you gotta remind yourself everyday that he did not deserve you. He only treated you badly and used you when he wanted. His kisses and hugs aren't worth a thing, if he didn't know what you are worth. You have to let that boy go. He's not worth it and he ain't better than any other boy in the world. In fact, he seems like a ______ (fill in the blank for cuss word). Sorry for my honesty, but that's just what I think.
Don't let his memory torment you any longer, and give yourself a chance to experience a good love.
:) Take Care
I have liked my friend for almost a year now and I think I really love him. I want to let him know how I feel but I am afraid of jeopardizing our friendship. I don't know what to do. I am 17 and he is older than me, but we don't judge each other by age. I am a girl and I am 17. Thanks in advance for advice.
You can leave things as they are, but he'll never know you had strong feelings for him. I think you should take the chance of telling him. Life is full of chances and possibilities, so don't let this opportunity go or else you might miss out of something really nice and special.
Good Luck & Best Wishes :)
how do you know that a guy is the one for you. the one you're going to marry and spend the rest of your life with? how can you tell? and how young can you be to know?
I believe that when you are well aware of what is going on in your life, all of your feelings, your thoughts, and your decisions and reasoning are only products of your independent mind, that is when you are truly ready to make a very important decision like marriage.
As for the guy, marriage and being with him for the rest of your life is a menatality that he must share as well.
The love, trust, fidelity, and understanding are notions that must be established before going onto marriage.
I'm 18 and my bf is 19, we are planning on getting married, is it the right thing to do?
What's the rush? I think you guys are thinking of marriage too soon. Why don't you two just enjoy your time together instead of planning how big the house is going to be or how many children you're going to have together. All will come at it's rightful time. If you want to marry him because you fear of loosing him, that's no way of tying the knot. Allow yourself and him to feel comfortable with each other and ready for a long term comitment. Don't use marriage as a resource to keep him with you forever.
It seems like my husband has been putting me down a lot from the way I grocery shop, cook, put grocery's in the car, in the house. He makes fun of my feet because they are cracked, my hands because I bite my nails, and he is constantly joking about stuff that is not funny. I'm to the point where I'm embarrassed about when he opens his mouth if we r in public. I have withdrawn from him and even though we have sex there is absolutely no emotional connection. I love my husband but I'm scared that we are growing apart and he doesn't even see it. I have asked him directly to please keep his jokes to himself n that jokes are not on me and then he tell me I don't have a sense of humor. What do i do to get him to see that this is not healthy in our marriage. I'm no saint and I think that I'm really angry inside n I do want to not be around or talk or communicate at all anymore and that frankly scares me.
Nobody likes to be insulted, especially if you're receiving it from someone that supposedly loves you. You have to make him understand(even if you have to seem cold) that you don't like the way he treats you and you won't take it any longer. How does he expect you to love him, if he keeps treating you this way? Let him know that he won't get any love if he doesn't appreciate you.
Okay I really need your advice please!!!! And soon really soon and long or lots of answers!!! Alright. So what are some things thatguys want to hear from their girlfriends. Like compliments or things to call them. Things he likes to be called and things that he will think I'm cute for. Thanks alot!! :)
Well I suppose he already thinks you're cute because he's with you. As for the comments and flirty stuff, just be yourself. You want to make sure he knows the real you and that he loves you for being you. Don't fake any comments with him if you don't mean them. Just be there for him whenever he needs your support, love him when he's at his worst, and let him know that he holds a special place in your heart. :)
22/f
Okay, due to my past, my heart has literally turned black. I don't trust guys and it find it very hard to even maintain a conversation with them. Like they'll ask to meet with me (because honestly the guys that try to talk to me are from like Mocospace and chatlines or whatever and yes I know they are bad places or whatever), but then I shut down and never talk to them again.
I will not lie, I am a BBW (or in layman terms, "Obese") and on the account of my low-self esteem, I have been talken to and used for sex numerous times, to the point where I don't even want to have sex anymore. I get turned off by the idea of having sex with a man and kinda would rather want to do it with a female... that's how severe it has been.
Why is it that I shut down when it comes to guys now? I tell them the truth about myself as far as my looks are concerned but I still stop talking to them....
There is another guy that I have known for a year who adores me, and I admit that I have slept with him before and then I shut down on him to. After it happened I stopped talking to him. Then he found me again and is trying so hard for me to date him, but to be honest, I am not really attracted to him and he is a little cocky for me...
I don't know what to do. I am at a complete loss. What can I do? Where can I meet guys? I am in college but attend a large college so talking to guys is scary especially if your are new to campus.
I know have a lot of good qualities about me... but I think guys can't get past my exterior... so Idk... any advice will be greatly appreciated...
How can I stop shutting down on guys and where can I meet decent guys that will likely accept me for me?
First of all, you have to accept and love yourself just the way you are. It all starts from there and I believe this is the center of your problems. You have to embrace and love the good qualities that you have as a person and as a woman. You have to believe and know that you deserve better treatment than what you're getting. If you believe you're not good enough, you will be putting yourself at the mercy of any man. You will allow them to treat you as they please. As far as shutting down to men, it is clear that you distrust them but you also have to give yourself a chance. You have just given up on yourself and on men. The best thing would be to change that and you have the power too. You are aware that there's a man in your life that adores you. He love's you and sees the beautiful in you. You just have to learn to accept him with his flaws and give him a chance. Nobody is perfect, and life wouldn't be meaningful and gorgeous if it was perfect. :)
I honestly need help with girls, like i dont know what is wrong with me.
I am 16 years old/ Male.
junior in high school
for some odd reason, i havent had my way with girls in a LONG time. like i cant even remember the last time i had a girlfriend, or even just a fling with a girl. I have no idea what is wrong with me. I am NOT fat or ugly or anything. I would say i am just average. I'm 5'7, medium build, no acne, asian. I'm not hideous or anything, and i'm NOT creepy or anything either. i have friends and all, i live pretty chill life, but girls is my main weakness. They always act like i have something wrong about me. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? EVERY time i try to even take a next step, they get scared and run away.
So i try to go slower, than they say i go too slow and run away. GAHHH what do i do? help me please.
You're worrying about the subject too much. Just let things flow. The pressure that you are setting upon yourself is pushing you to a state of desperation. If you keep up with this mentality, things may not go so well and you might end up giving in to whatever. In the long run this will not be good. You might manage to find a girl, but the relationship itself will prove that you were better off taking things slower at your own pace.