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I am a teen who has been through tough break ups all the way to being threatened about my life. I just love helping erebody else. Its one thing if an adult trys to understand a teen. But it is another thing if a teen trys to understand the Teen. (us teens lay it down like it is, you feel me?)
You got anything on yo mind let it out, even if its embarassing, cause I have people asking the same type of Whateva, u kno what I'm sayin?
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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?
first off did you even talk to him about it? If so its one thing if he dates someone, but when he gives somebody else what he gave you that's the limit. He found something new.He cheated on you now,u keep him, in a while he'll cheat again. I can tell you still care about him by you talking to me. You can forgive him, but not what he did and move on. If you think he's not the type to take it personally, then go ahead and take it to the friends level.
I ain't gonna lie, but tell you the truth. Maybe you and him were not meant. Has he been callin' with the sorry's lately? as usual.
And another thing Are you sure the girl didn't know cause girls will try to snitch to the girlfriend, act innocent, so they can't be rumored as a slut, girls think smart, just as smart as you are questioning his truth to you.
Peace, homegirl
What's so great about getting eatn out by a dude?
its like he's sustituting his dick with his tounge, usually cause they what something in return, like hand or blow job
so i'm 15/f almost 16. i've had one boyfriend, and that didn't work out. i've had a lot of boys ask me out, but i don't want relationships with them. i'm very picky when it comes to guys. so i found this guy i like a lot, except that he lives like 4 hours away. (my best friends, best friend) he's really awesome and i can actually see myself with him. we're always flirting like crazy and he's always saying stuff like "you want my body" and just stuff to flirt. but then he goes off saying that he's going on some date with some girl that he wants to go out with. and i don't know what to do because i like him and he has apparently been leading me on if he's going to date someone else. and i don't know how to handle this situation...
help?
he wants you take it to the next level. he wants to get you just or or just o know, how you feel about him. flirt on girl, he's yours and you know it :) don't you even deny it aight missy, lol
good luck
Firstly, I should say that I really, really like my boyfriend. [Even if I can't remember why, like right now]. But I am really, really upset with him because he's been bailing on me for the last few nights when he promised me he'd see me. The problem is, we can't see each other on weekdays due to conflicting schedules so we try to see each other on weekends, even if it's just for lunch or something. But lately it just seems like he doesn't even remember me. And this is all at a horrible time, too, because I just met another guy who wants me to just ignore the fact that I have a boyfriend and get with him. I don't want to get with him. All I want is for my boyfriend to care, or even be jealous of this other guy, but he isn't even around. In fact, I talk to the other guy more than I talk to my boyfriend, because he actually makes the "effort" to talk to me, even if it's just a text message. My boyfriend just seems to think that he doesn't need to.
I guess my main question is how do I get my boyfriend to care? I don't want the other guy, I only want him. I just want him to make an effort. I want him to know that he isn't the only one who wants me, and I want him to stop taking me for granted, but I don't want to tell him straight up because he might think I'm overreacting and that would only make things worse. Even if I have to tell him, what should I say?
well considering the fact you found someone new, that should answer your question. he may have found someone else . or did you evr stop to think that maybe you're to busy for him. when guys find busy girls, they feel pushed away and move on. especially when the boys tell them the same thing. it somebody else or its just you. Talk to him about it. and don't worry yo self. he should answer you if he don't you got somebody else
when you hook up, do you start it with kissing? I've never hooked up before, and i tell people i do, i don't wanna seem prude! So when you hook up, if its not weird or anything for you, whats some personal experiences?
any would be great, like how you started, and what you said when you finished.
thanks for any help!
xx
i don't want to be rude, but i know somany people like you who lie to be cool. if you people won't like you cause you ain't hook up then why you with them
to answer yo question yes kissing would be a start, then hugging and oral sex. i don't know if ya ready for the blows, and the anal sex, u kno since you are under pressure and what not, but be yo self. Most girl who rush end up with the wrong thing. if you know what i mean, good luck though
what does it mean when guys say your tight?
& is it a bad thing?
if he does says it outside the bedroom, he probably into your body aka booty or ya personality. If he sayin' this in the bedroom, he can tell you haven't done it too much when he slip in he tryna fit into a small keyhole. It can be both good or bad, good cause guys like fresh pussy, bad cause otha guys are afraid to be around virgins , they feel they losin the membership to the playa club. ask him, be like:
"u think I'm too tight or you in the bedroom or what"
see where it goes from there
Let's say I met this guy. Through mutual friends. But I only ever talked to him online. Let's call him Bob. From the first picture that I saw of him, I noticed that Bob was repulsive (to me, at least. in my opinion) but he was extremely nice. he always gives the best advice...always listens, shows that he genuinely does care. And even though I know I will NEVER want to be with him (through meeting somewhere other than MSN) I still fell in love with his personality. Not his face. And now I'm attached. Whenever he mentions his girlfriend, I get jealous. But then I tell myself "why are you jealous? he's not your bf and he'll never be. so what's the point?" But I just love him for his personality. And it bugs me. Because I know he's not my type. Yet I still react with jealousy and other close and emotional feelings toward him. Is this okay? What should I do? How can I move on? I've been talking to him for one year now. I know that the best advice would be "Just stop talking to him before you get yourself in trouble" BUT ITS SO HARD! It's so hard to let go of someone you've gotten so close with. Advice? :( am I being shallow?!
in a way yes, it's shallow, you feel for him, but you got to remember that you can be falling in love with just anotha professional liar on the net, you need to tell him how feel about and see what he says... BUT
1. do not send him money for any reason at all
2. do not agree to meet him
3. don't give away too much of your personality, because that's how he gets to your heart. If he says he's committed, find a new friend online, but still confess the jealousy part to him, and nothing else ;) good luck
me and my boyfriend had been together for about 8 months, i know it doesn't seem like...that long. i lost my virginity to him. he cheated on me, twice. once in march, once in june. in june he had sex with the girl. i'm not sure what he did with the other girl, he didn't have sex with her though. he realizes now that he made a huge mistake. he wasn't the one to tell me, it was some of his friends. he called me later crying, apologizing, feeling so awful. then yesterday he came over, and we ended things. things were ended good though, not bad. i forgave him for what he did. we cried on eachothers shoulders. it all sounds a little bit pathetic. whats even more pathetic is that i miss him, i realize i'll get over it. i just don't know what to do. i still have feelings for him. i'm ridiculous. (:
Your not ridiculous, you are in pain. You gave it up to him. That makes you feel like your pivate part belongs to him. The fact that you were crying when he did wrong, just proves he made you feel guilty like you weren't protective enough, or didn't satisfy him enough. its not yours to blame. You need to remember that he broke your heart, and you have to move on quick, before he draws you back. I say call your girlfriends, and go party out. And try to flirt out a little bit, but not dangerous flirting, make sure others are with you. And do not think of him. Before you go out tell your girls the minute you break down, and think of him they should quickly change the subject no matter what. I'm sorry you lost your first sex, and i wish you the best.
P.S. You won't feel better unless you move on ;)
Okay so girls like to be called "gorgeous" or "beautiful" stuff along those lines.
What do guys like to be called?
"hot" just seems to bleh.
LOL.
well I'm a black chick, and we usually run slangs. So call yo man " Fine"
instead of "gurl, he is so hot", "Girl, He is so Fine"
Paris Hilton has worn out the word.... I see where you're coming from
14/f. hey!!! ok, well, just about 10. min ago, i had my first kiss!! but, i don't know if i'm doing it right/good. he says i do it good, but i don't feel like i am. he was about to say something that i should change, but then someone called on the fone, and he didn't finish my sentance. so, yeah.. how do u know if your doin it right?? thanks!
You know what they say the first kiss tells you if your relationship will work out or it won't. Not to be the barrior of bad news but this could be a sign of relationship failure, or you guys had done it with question, not automaticly by heart. so it felt like nothing. The best kisses (hard to believe) are the unprepared ones.Just ask your man what he really thought about your kiss and work from there.
how do i tease a guy when teasing?
husk down your voice so its grabbs quick ateention, make sure its close to his ear when saying whateva u're sayin' and touch his ear with your lips but as it was an accident but don't say anything, and keep on talking like your lips did not touch the ear. Make sure you have good breath and talk real close to the face, get youir eyes lightly watery so your eyes glow. No tears. with guys u have to get intellectual on him. so you stay in right bettween to safe and to open try it and get back to me and tell me how it went down.
So here goes:
I'm 14/f and you guys are probably wondering "What has she been through? She's only 14."
Well, my grandpa left when I was young because of cancer. My uncle promised that he'll be with me forever and that he'd quit smoking. Now he's dead from lung cancer. My grandma, I adore and love, is getting ill everyday. I hate the fact that my family members are slowly going away. In addition to that, I've let one too many guys take my heart and break it into pieces. Now I'm afraid of letting anyone get close to me. IF a guy likes me, & even if I like him back, I find myself running away from the guy and pushing him away. If I have a friend that I really enjoy having around, I'll find ways to ruin the friendship. If I have a crush, I'll force myself to forget about him/her and convince myself that I'm just going to end up hurt again.
I just find myself secluding myself from people everyday in fear of letting them hurt me. I feel like if I push them away, when they leave, it won't hurt as much. I know I'm hurting my friends and family by doing this but I can't help it. I really want to stop myself but I can't...can someone please help me get over this?
seems like yoyu've been through almost evrything i've been through, and yea it hurts, you need to except the fact that there are hurtful people out there but not evybody is like that. People want to get to know you they haven't even figured out how to hurt you. You need to drop the insecurity, or you'll spend a school year, like I did, ALONE
trust me it ain't cool
okay well my sisters boyfriend is like 18 and he likes me?! and im kinda freaked out. im only 14. and he always comes in my room and lays in my bed when im in it. and the one day my boyfriend was over and me n my bf got in a little fight. and i went in my sisters room to ask her what to do. and my sister was in the bathroom . and jake (sisters bestfriend) started to hold my hand..i let go and told him to stop...and he got pissed..im really freaked out..everytime hes over i lock myself in our computer room..but somehow he always gets in..please help!!
what are ya waiting for tell ya sister what's going on she'll know how to end it with him, and end it permanently if it get worse. This could lead to rape, I'm not trying to scare u, gurl, but dis is reality, peace. Let yo folks kno, let the owner of your home or apartment kno. u smart don't hide where he can get to you.
um me and my boyfriend both want to make out.. it's both of our first time and do you have any good places where we should do it? and if u say movie theater can u put a good movie???
I'd say on a bridge in the night time over a pond or a lake dat ain't polluted. It will lighten up the mood and help the both of you ease up in the caught up moment. u feel me. All you need to do is be patient, and brace yourself, it is going to be an incredible ride.
First kiss is nothing you should rush. by first kiss you can tell if yo man is a real-a or a Fake-a. I wish u and yo boo da best
I like this guy and I've liked him for like 5 years! The feeling just won't go away! Ok, here's the deal, in 2nd and 3rd grade we were like imseperable friends, in 4th grade my friend told me that he liked me and I relized that I liked him, in 6th grade my other friend told him that I liked him and after that happened he wouldn't even say hi to me in the halls anymore (not that we saw each other much XP ).
Now i'm in 8th grade and don't know what to do! We have no classes together and are on other sides of the school! NEXT YEAR WE'LL NEVER SEE EACH OTHER AGAIN (probably)! I can't just let him go, and the only conections I have are to him two friends that have classes with him. I'm a wreck with myself, PLEASE HELP!
You should go on your own and try talking to im. Sneak up behind him put your hands on his face to cover his eyes and say: "remember me".
Make him Guess
It will lighten up the mood for a start. Talk to him briefly since you haven't seen him in a while and say: " Wow, I haven't seen you in a log time, we should,like, hang out sometime. Have any ideas?"
This should help:) :) I wish you good luck! :)
13/f
My dad died in october and stuf... and this guy i really liked and once went out with, his name is zach, went to his funeral. at the time i was dating his brother trace , haha. and trace told me that zach only went to my dad's funeral to get out of school for the day.
this made me angry and hurt me really badly. i didnt show it at the time and idk why but i still like him. any ways now several months later hes saying stuf like he thinks he likes me and hes shown some jelouse moments and yeah. one day i asked him if he went to my dads funeral just to get out of school and he said kinda
so hes on and off liked me and i dont know what to do!!! if he ever asks me out again should i saay yes or no???
would it be disrespectful to my dad ???
idk wat to do!!!!!
This is all about your heart. You have your dad inyour heart you confused if there is room for zach. your dad more than anything would want you to be happy. If you feel like its the right time to orgive him for that. Than do that. If you feel that that can neve change him,t hat's his disrespectful to the core. no ones needs to tell yya when ya should say no. Good luck, sory about yo dad, and did he really say that?
My friend, she grew up havin a hard life... and so did her boyfriend, but his was really bad with an abusive father who was really bad. and know her boyfriend is like pshyco. I love my friend to death, and her and this boy have been going out for 8 months or more now and shes so in love with him. The other night she came over and she told us a story. He beat her up, threatened to kill her, and told her to get in a cage and she said no so he started beating her up. shes only 14, same with him. Im scared to death for her, but i know she loves him. He's been sent away to soo many places to try and fix him, but none work. Does anybody know any advice to try and help him.. Iknow when hes not in one of his pshyco stages his a really big sweat heart.. but what if someday something more happens, and he really hurts her/ or worse.
OMG She needs to find help for him from authority right away. we both know we don't want the worst to happen. You need to calmly speak to your friend and let her know that you are there for her and ask her if she can contact an anger managment program. He's not psycho he's had a hard past. When all those emotions are kept inside, when there is no room to fill, everything he may have wanted his father to feel is coming right out. You have heart thinking about someone ya call psycho be proud and do the right thing. you know what you need to do. I know your friend will be alright. No matter what do not call DR.Phil. Keep this personal and on a low profile type of level.
should i wait for my boyfriend to come and talk to me or should i go make the first move and talk to him.
If its about a break up. If you don't want it to end you should end that conversation before it starts. But if you and your boyfriend just got into an argument. if he did wrong wait for him, if you did wrong wait for.... yourself hahaha. Good luck
This women I used to date some time ago has recently asked me to basically show her attention again even though she has a boyfriend, I think she wants to make her current boyfriend jealous. It was recently her birthday and she had wanted to know if i was going to do what I had done before which is send her flowers, I have no clue what she wants from me seeing how she has a boyfriend atleast that's what she says
It is either she has a boyfriend that has cheated on her, or she wants to make you s=think that you are trying to help her make somebody else jealous when she could be just try'na put you back in that relationship again. You need to find time when the both of you are alone. Let her know what's up, and get her to tell you what's up. Let her know you don't like to feel used or a last resort to her. She should understand. Good luck
What should I get for my 19 year old boyfriend?? I got him a $25 dollar gift card to Best Buy cause I know he likes electronics... i'm 17 by the way. Anyway, yeah what should I get him?? Or haha not to sound like a whore, but I would go to even farther lengths if you know what I mean *wink wink* haha. We haven't had sex with each other yet and we're both not virgins so idk you help me to decide ^_^
Gurl you are active. Trust me you don't sound like nno whore. When there's no gift to give your man you give him the Ciara goodie bag. Buy him handcuffs, and a whip if you feel like giving him the goodie "wink wink" bag. Or you can always settle for a regular gift like a camera, ipod, Computer, or even a portable DVD player. That's all you need my "active" friend. Oh yea be sure to use protection. Things spread fast. Good luck on your special night wit yo man. keep it real.