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my boyfriend cheated on me
me and my boyfriend had been together for about 8 months, i know it doesn't seem like...that long. i lost my virginity to him. he cheated on me, twice. once in march, once in june. in june he had sex with the girl. i'm not sure what he did with the other girl, he didn't have sex with her though. he realizes now that he made a huge mistake. he wasn't the one to tell me, it was some of his friends. he called me later crying, apologizing, feeling so awful. then yesterday he came over, and we ended things. things were ended good though, not bad. i forgave him for what he did. we cried on eachothers shoulders. it all sounds a little bit pathetic. whats even more pathetic is that i miss him, i realize i'll get over it. i just don't know what to do. i still have feelings for him. i'm ridiculous. (:
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Your not ridiculous, you are in pain. You gave it up to him. That makes you feel like your pivate part belongs to him. The fact that you were crying when he did wrong, just proves he made you feel guilty like you weren't protective enough, or didn't satisfy him enough. its not yours to blame. You need to remember that he broke your heart, and you have to move on quick, before he draws you back. I say call your girlfriends, and go party out. And try to flirt out a little bit, but not dangerous flirting, make sure others are with you. And do not think of him. Before you go out tell your girls the minute you break down, and think of him they should quickly change the subject no matter what. I'm sorry you lost your first sex, and i wish you the best.
P.S. You won't feel better unless you move on ;)
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You are going through a tough time right now. Even though what he did was awful it is normal and expected to miss him badly in the first few weeks. After all ending a relationship is a bereavement process, you are mourning what was and what will never be.
It's incredibly painful but hang in there and treat yourself with respect i.e. don't do anything crazy or stupid that will get you made fun of by his friends like show up at his work or constantly call him. Make a clean break from him, don't hang out and don't chat on the phone most of all don't jump into another relationship right away (if you do find a guy that you really like wait. Tell him how you feel but that you need some time to sort out your baggage from the last relationship. Trust me if he's worth anything he will appreciate it).
Most importantly don't get back together with your ex, if it was anything besides cheating I would maybe support getting back together but since he is a serial cheater he will only repeat it despite all of his promises.
Good luck and even though it doesn't feel like it right now you'll feel better soon.
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This is tough on both of you.
First just take deep breath and make sure you are ok, and not ready to burts. If you are then go talk to a friend about it, you may not want to but talking about it will help a lot.
Second, if you fell like you need to cry then cry, don't hold it back to feel strong, crying can really help.
Third, always remember that he is not the only guy,when you are ready go check some others out and hang with your girlfriends!
Hope this helps, and GOOD LUCK!
AlyssaBT4T
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get over him if you get in a relationship with him he'll go and brake your heart again
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