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im 21,but when comes to talking to boys im always blur.how can i attarct their attention?what kind of topics i can talk to them?

Just start talking to them about what kind of car they have, or what college they go/went to. Or where they are from, where they work. Just some small talk. And once you've gotten to know them a little better you can get into a deeper conversation like talking about their family, or their past relationships. Stuff like that :P I hope I helped :)

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this is gonna be kinda long..sorry but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month! and went out last year off and on for a while! but anyways..there was this girl that was suppose to be my "friend" over at my house the past 2 days! she has done nothing but bad mouth my boyfriend and say how he treats me like crap and i always have to tell her to stop and it got to the point we'd start screaming cause id get so mad! well then today she decides that she thinks its ok to sit there and send my boyfriend all these pics of him..and i would think if she was my friend she wouldnt! but i was upset and called my friend well she didnt answer..so she calls me back and was like whyd u sound upset and i told her because that girl was trying to send my bf her pic and i didnt like that! well i guess my "friend" that was hear heard me and got all mad and started cussing at me like crazy! and telling me how she was leaving and how my bf treats me like crap and everything else! so we really got into it then and shes sitting there laughing go just wait im gonna mess up your relationship and make ur life miserable and lie and everything else! i told him about all this but the thing is im so scared that hes gonna believe her..i love him more then n e thing in this world and ive never felt like this before! and i wouldnt lie to him ever again ( ill admit i have in the past but i never would again) this girl is just sayin how shes goin to mess it up and have her friends say stuff to him when i know none of her friends cause they r all like 12-13 cause she got held back twice and i dont even go to the same school as her and im 16! my question is..what do i do about this? i dont wanna lose him and im so scared of it..does anybody have any idea on what i should do? i love him more then anything!!

Wow...this girl sounds like a real bitch. The only thing that you really can do is talk to your bf (like you did) and make sure he really understands what's going on. If you two really love each other then I'm sure he will trust you over some random girl he has never met. You could also get together with this girl, and talk to her one on one about what has happened. Tell her you love your bf, and you don't care what she thinks. But be very calm about it, make sure you are getting through to her. Yelling won't do much except piss her off some more. If I were you I wouldn't worry about it to much. Just make sure your bf understands. Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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I have a hard time getting a boyfriend. I'm not sure if it's just me because i have a lot of friends and i'm pretty nice. I dont get it!!! Any advice to get an HONEST and SWEET boyfriend???
I'll rate high for good advice.

I have the same problem. But to be totally honest, you just have to wait. Don't rush it, you need to wait for that one perfect boy to come along and sweep you off your feet. The one who will love you for you. Don't try to be something your not. But if you REALLY want one now, just be confident in yourself, guys like confidence. Laugh and smile a lot, they notice. Just be flirty with them and don't act shy. I hope I helped a little :)

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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okay well this guy i really like is going out with the prettiest girl in my grade. He isn't a hottie or anything, but I've liked him since 6th grade, and I'm in 8th. The night she asked him out (at a school dance) I was going to work up enough nerve to ask him. I feel like, if I asked before her, he would have said yes; only because we are so close. I was up practically everynight i saw or even talked to him, thinking about him. I started cutting myself i liked him so much. I cut myself only to make myself stop thinking about him. But eventually it just got worse. I want to stop cutting myself, and start taking it like a normal person

This type of thing takes awhile to heal. But what you should do is hang out with some other guys, meet new ones. "There are plenty of fish in the sea." Don't be afraid to find some new boys to like. There are a lot out there that would probably be willing to get to know you. So take advantage of that. This will help you get over the other guy you like. I hope I helped, and good luck.

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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i really like my boyfriend a whole lot. i mean hes great. but alot of people think hes immature and i never really noticed it before but now i do. we're both 13 if that helps. now i know girls mature faster then guys but.iono what to do. i need some help.thx in advance :)

Don't worry about it. That's just how 13 year old guys are. It's only natural for them to act like that. If it is really bothering you, then I guess you could bring it up to him and just let him know he's acting like a child. But if I were you I wouldnt worry. He will mature sooner than you think.

Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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alright so iv been dating this guy for almost 9 months now and me and him broke up about 15 times and the last time we broke up was bc he lied to me about stuff he did with a girl (back at the pond he kissed her and she touched his dick n all this) and he lied about it he swore on my life that nothing happened and he swore on our relationship. . . and i believed him of course then yesterday his cousin told me the truth . . . and i asked him about and he addmitted it i was like OMG! then we broke up and he said whateverrr!! really mean and i hung up and he didnt even call me back and i didnt believe his cousin i was like no he loves me too much he wouldnt lie. . . but he did lie! and he cried a lot and begged for me back for like 24 hours or so and i reallyyyyy love him with all my heart but during the almost 9 months like in the beginging he was soo nice then he just started lien to me a lot. . . and i found out and asked him about everything and he told me he wasnt hiding anything else and i believed him and that was after we dated for 5 months or so and he was really good after that then he flirted with a girl right in front of me which that hurt so bad!! then he called me a bitch and hit me 4 times but i really love him and this time i took him back bc i love him soo much. . . did i make a bad mistake??

If he really loves you, he wouldn't have done all of those things. Keep that in mind.

But if you REALLY TRULY love him, you need to have a face to face, one on one conversation with him about te last 9 months. Tell him how badly he has hurt you, but how much you love him and you want this to work. Make sure he understands everything you are saying. Make him respect you and your emotions. Otherwise it will all happen again.

If you both love eachother, and really try hard to make it work, then it will. Just have a good, long, genuine talk. Hope I helped! And good luck.

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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What are some things to talk about with friends and stuff. I always have trouble starting conversation over AIM, and I really need help. Thanks

i usually just say what ever is on my mind, or just ask them anything that you dont know, tell storys you never told them, stuff like that, ask about their plans and what not
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I met this guy and we totally hit off. He's pretty much in love with me, and I strictly just like him. Apparently, he has this girl who is obsessed with him, and he can't stand her. She's always making these depressing blogs about it, and in a way.. i can sense that she's not too fond of me. I don't want to be in the middle of this, and im sick of her friends complaining to me about "stealing him away from her"..especially when he never even liekd her. How am I supposed to deal with these people? I can't help the fact that we like eachother.

dont worry about it, its just jealousy, shes jealous that you can get what she cant, just leave them alone and they should stop bothering you
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how can i find the right girlfriend, without getting hurt like cheated on?

well, dont "bite on the bait" right away. just wait around for the girl that wont get out of your head, the girl you always want to hang out with, a girl you always care for, you find a girl that is the stuff listed above and then just try to hang out with her a lot, call her, (dont be a stalker), make her be like your best friend almost, then if you find out she likes you as well, then ask her out
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ok 1 of my friends told me that his bestfriend liked me but when i called to ask him he started t ostuder & it took him about 2 min. to answers it & this is pretty much what he said " ummmmm i ahh didnt say that i umm think he was ahhhmm probly lien to you"so does that mean he likes me or something.

yea he likes you, why else would he studder? if he didnt like you hed be would just say it, instead of studdering and the pause, good luck!
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ok im 13 and i have only had 2 bfs and they both only lasted for like 2 days they say im really pretty but then y dont they still wanna go out the one i really liked said he wasnt comfortable around me and he had his friend break up with me for him!! and now that he broke up with me i try to talk to him but he never listens!!

well considering your 13, dont expect things to last long, i would just leave it alone, but if you truly like him a ton, make him listen, otherwise, dont ever bother, just move on
laurens friend

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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!

Definitely break up with your current boyfriend. No girl deserves to be treated that way, and if there is someone who cares for you, and will treat you perfectly, then that's what you need. Not someone who will go off with other girls randomly.

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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Ok, there is this guy that I like. My friend found out that he liked me too. He was mad about me knowing I liked him. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. So now we both know about our 'secret' crushes. It's just weird because he was acting different. I don't want to ask him out right now though because I'm going on vacation Sun. and I won't get to talk to him. So don't tell me to just ask him out. Does anyone know why he's acting different? Or what to do in a situation like this?

Thanks!

p.s. I'm 13/f.

He's probably just acting weird because now his secret is out and it might be a little embarrassing for him, even though the feelings are mutual. Before you leave, remind him you like him in some way, and tell him you want to see a movie, or grab a bite to eat with him when he gets back. That way it will remind him that you care and he doesnt have to worry about anything. Plus, over your vaca, maybe he will stop acting all weird and when you return he will be the same again. Im sure it will be fine.

Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online??

Uhhh...not such a great idea. You should really figure out more about him first. Make sure you know him perfectly and you know you can trust him, and it won't be awkward when you're around him. Situations like that can end up very badl at times, but not a lot, just make sure you know him really well, and you know what to do if something goes wrong. But if i were you, I wouldn't. Just my opinion.

Hope I helped.

~*~*~Lauren~*~*~

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every girl i like doesnt like me back...they say they just like me as a friend...and i really need a girlfriend i just dotn know what to do...is there somethin im doin wrong...?

man i have this same problem. just be paitent dont force the case, just sit back and wait for the girl who you know you will go out with for a while, instead of a girl who you want just to have a gf and only last like a week
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I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?

15/f

alright, since im a guy (i know it says lauren, but lauren is not here so im taking over till she returns) i think it would be a wonderful thing to give, shows how much you care for him, but if hes just a friend it might be alitte ackward to some guys, but it could also put the icing on the cake and make a great relationship,

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ok i have this boyfriend his name is greg.. well he went on vacation with his family 2 puerto rico.. while he was gone i met this other guy ricky. ricky is rele sweet nd charming and we slept with each other at least 5 times. i dunno .. i don't feel the same with greg as i do with ricky.. ricky is wayy better in bed.. i ain't a slut or nothin.. well maybe i am but seriously what should i do? HELP i'll rate HIGH if you do `-MARIE

well, cheating on your bf, was not very smart, but your choice not mine, and if you like ricky better, then dump greg and do what your heart wants, but dont jsut dump greg cause he sucks in bed, that would make you seem like a slut which is not a very good thing

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How do i delete my computers history?!

hmm somebody looking at porn eh? im jp, but go to tools, internet options, then clear history, you may also want to delete the cookies as well and the files..for those you just click "delete cookies" and "delete files" you may also want to delete the stuff you typed in you do that by going to tools, internet options, contetn, autocomplete, then clear forums, that deletes things you typed, and if you have virus scan stuff, just the question in my inbox, because i dont know what kind you have and what not,

rens friend

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ok can some one please help me here
my gf keeps getting her ass smacked by dudes and its realy getting me pissed off anyway should i beat the liveing shit out of the guys who are doing it? or just tell them to stop?

Just tell them that thats your girlfriend and you will kick the shit out of them if they do it again :) And talk to your gf too...let her know that you dont enjoy seeing that and if there is anything she can do to prevent it then do it. But when talking to the guy dont be like really mean, just be strong and let them know that you hate seeing that crap.

Hope I helped

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There's a boy I like and we're pretty good friends. He's given me some hints and I want to do the same, to maybe urge him nonchalantely to ask me out. I really don't know how to do this or how to flirt that well. Can anyone help? Maybe you have some things I can do that might hint him on but not be TOO obvious?

Flirting isn't that hard. Just be touchy feelings and smile a lot. Just joke around with him and just find little ways to touch him. Like if he insults you (in a flirty way) just laugh and give him a little push. Or when you see him poke him as a hello. Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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