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Me and my boyfriend (Greg)have been going out for almost 6 months.
Before I had no friends, and at the beginning of this year I started to hang out and become friends with his friends.
Then we started dating.
We are together almost all day every day,
because when I hang out with my friends, he is there too because they are his friends also.
I'm not saying I'm tired of this, I love being able to see my boyfriend all of the time. and I love him more than anything.
I can't help it if we have the same friends.
Is seeing my boyfriend every day unhealthy for the relationship?

No it's not unhealthy for your relationhship. But I wouldn't reccommend it because it is unhealthy for your friendships. Hope this helps!!!

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okay.. i cheated on my ex and he found out and broke up with me. Now.. hes threatening me and everyone that knew and didn't tell him about it. He won't say what hes going to do to us.. he just keeps saying he knows people to "take care of it"

Hes overage and we had sex.. so if he trys to hurt me.. can i get him on a statutory rape charge? -- my parents dont know we had sex...

and also.. what should i do about the threats?

Yes you can charge him for threating you and for statuory rape. Hope this helps!!


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Okay, my friend and I snuck behind our parents backs and met this guy she is in love with at the bowling allie, and some of his friends. I hadn't ever met the guy she likes.. until then. and i now, I REALLY like him.. and last night, he IMed me, and told me he likes me.. and so ofcourse I told him I liked him too.. and then this morning, I got online, and my friend told me that last night, he told her that he loves her. and she is so happy.. but me and him REALLY like eachother... WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

-real confused..-

Well if he told you that he likes you and he told your friend that he loves her than he's not worth it. He could end up cheating on you or something. Take it from someone who had the same exact problem. Hope this helps!!!


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This is gonna sound confusing but, my best friend that i knew for about 6 years now has this really hot brother, hes about my age. He likes me and i like him! But she doesnt want us going out and she keeps making up excuses on why we shouldnt. She doesnt know i like him and im afraid if i do tell her she will get upset and be rude about it. And plus i think it will feel a little weird going out with my best friends brother! HELP i am soo confused

Hmmm..I know a lot of people have that problem. Maybe you could give her good reasons why you guys should go out. You could tell her that you guys could all hang out together and it would bring them closer as brother and sister. Or that when they hang out she could watch him to make sure he's not doing anything bad to you or something. Hope this helps!!!

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I just started talking to this guy. I thought he was going to be ok to hang out with, but he knows I have a BF, and the other day he started to kiss me. It kinda my fault in a way though, he was crying so I hugged him and kissed his forehead. Then he stoped crying and started to kiss me. I dont know how to make him leave me alone, and im afraid he will bother me at school.

Just tell him that you ONLY want to be friends. Nothing more. Tell him the kiss you gave him on his forehead was to make him feel better. That you have a boyfriend and only like this guy as a friend. Hope this helps!!!


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my bf && i have pretty much made if a habit to talk everynight past midnight. i have my cell on vibrate (i have free min) & he calls from his house. we hadnt gotten caught after 3 nights of that but today when my dad woke me up, he saw the phone on my bed & asked why so i said it vibrates at night b/c i was still half asleep. i dont know what else to tell him if he asks! ok so we are on a plan that we share and he pays...will the time & number of the call show up on the bill? please help! any info is important!!

I'm pretty sure that all the info will show up. I'm not allowed to talk on the phone past 10 during summer so if I would get caught I would just tell the truth cause if you get caught in a lie it only makes things 10 times worse and you could end up getting your phone taken away for good! Hope this helps!!

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I'm 13/f. I just discovered that the person I have had a huge crush on for two years (he's really cool; the smartest kid in the grade and he's really nice and he's my only guy friend) doesn't like me back. I feel awful. He doesn't know. Is there anything I can do? How can I deal with this? Should I try to stop liking him and move on? Please I know that a 13-year-old's problems aren't as important to you as an older person, but still it would be really really nice if someone could help me.

I have the exact same problem as you. Just keep on going as friends and he'll eventually see what he's missing out on! Just remember if he doesn't like you there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Hope this helps!!!


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I like this guy and his mom is friends with mine. The onyl thing is hes not my type but i still like him hes also kinda poor and he lives in the ghetto. He is not a virgin and i havnt even gotten past making out, he is a year older than me. Hes a fast boy and im not prude but im nto a fast girl. I dont know what to say to him becasue we dont hsare same interests just cuz hes ghetto and has tons of other things on his mind , im the opposite im preppy. What do i say to make him like me?

In my opinion...you really are stuck. If you go out with him, there's a chance you guys could end up doing it and you could get pregnant or get an STD. But on the other hand if you don't go out with him you'll be hurting (not physically) and you'll want to go out with him and be crushed when he gets a girlfriend. So I would just say follow your heart, you know which one is right. Hope this helps!! Sorry of it doesn't!


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hey... my boyfriend and i just had a big talk and he wants to be in "time-out"
i have no clue what that means just that theres no kissing at school (so he said). now i dont know how to act around him or what to say to him
My questions are ... what do you think time-out is and how should i act around him at school???... im so confused and lost in all of this

Time-out is when he can't hug you or kiss you or touch you or anything cause he thinks you guys need to take some "time-out". It's really stupid and most guys who take time-outs take them because they might want to break up. Hope this helps!!

~Alyssa

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I am attracted to guys but there are these two women i am too. One is my moms friend who is 42 and her daughter who is 17. I like them a lot like more than friends and im only 13. After i stop liking these two girls i dont think i will like any others. After thse two im back to guys 100%. Am i bi?

I wouldn't say your "bi". You are a young girl and your going through changes. It's confusing, but your definetly not bi. Hope this helps!!


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ok i have no clue who you are..but i just saw your column on the advicenators homepage and i really think you give good advice..well i have a question..i have liked this guy for a pretty long time now..and ive been worrying weather he likes me or not and things like that and thinking about how i should get him to like me..well i eventually didnt care anymore and just sorta played hard to get, i guess you could said that, but anyways, after about 2 weeks of playing this "hard to get" i started to like this other guy cause i guess i just loosend up and started to see all my options, i really really like guy #2 and im pretty sure he likes me too, but heres the catch guy #1 i found out likes me, i should be happy right i should, but for some reason im not and i dont know what to do cause guy #1 totally thinks i like him but i sorta do, what should i do, forget about #1 and go with #2 or vise versa, im afriad ill regret either way

Hmmm...I think that you should go with guy number 1 only because if you don't know for sure whether or not guy #2 likes you, so you should be with someone you like and who likes you. Hope this helps!!


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hey i don't like kissing...i mean i hate it the last time i made out with a guy was a long time ago and i had been with him for 2 years so i was really comfortable with him.. now i feel like i'm gonna have forgotton how to do it and make a fool of myself..i really like my boyfriend and he asked me why i wont make out with him...idont' know what to do ..please help

Well there could be a ceratin reason that you don't like kissing. You might just not be comfortable with the kissing thing yet. That's perfectly normal. Hope this helps! Sorry if it doesn't.


~Alyssa

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i've liked this guy for a while. lets call him bill. and we're pretty good friends. so lately i've been getting some signals from him. we took some pics with his head on mine and people made him put his arm around me but yet it stayed there until i got up to do something. then hes all "i miss u wanna see you" when he was gone. and lately we've been getting tormented cuz people think that we like each other. well i like him but that not the point lol. so lately hes been blowing me off not talking to me at school and barely online anymore. i'm so confused! please help! does he like me like everyone thinks he does or what?!?!!

He's probably embarassed because of what people are doing. If he's to immature to ignore what everyone is saying, then he's not worth it. Hope this helps!!


~Alyssa

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ok, well i like this girl, and i no she likes me 2. we went out for like a week, but it didnt really feel right, but we still both like each other! wat do i do?

Maybe you guys should just be friends for right now so that you could get to know each other! Hope this helps!!!


~Alyssa

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My question got deleted before so i am asking it agian. I am a freshman, He is a junior but only about a year and a 1/4 older. lol. i have liked him for about a year now. i cannot talk to him because i feel like i will embarass myself. Recently he has been dating someone but i still want to at least be his friend. How do i build up the courage to talk to him?

Well maybe you could get one of your friends, who will do like almost anything, to talk to him for you. I always do that! LoL!! Hope this helps!!!


~Alyssa

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Ugh. I screwed up big time. There's this kid (Joe)..and he's going out with my best friend..at one point and time he liked me and vice versa.. but now i hate him big time and vice versa. but the thing is , is that out of everyone on the bus we rather sit with each other because I guess we're both anti-social in a way. Well we were fighting (physical fighting)..and just kissed, I dont know, we were into the moment i guess..it only lasted about 15 seconds, but still.. i have no idea what I'm going to say to my best friend or even whether or not I should tell her... any ideas?

Hmmm...I really think that you should tell her what happened. Honsety is the best policy. Just make sure to tell her that you don't even like him and that it was TOTALLY an accident. Hope this helps!!!


~Alyssa

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