Hi! I'm 18/f & my boyfriend is 18/m; We have been together for a year, but it feels like so much longer. I'm in college, studying to be a NeoNatal Nurse; My boyfriend's mom left him homeless as soon as he turned 18, therefore he has been living with my parents and I since August.
Riley & I have both agreed that we shouldn't get married until I am done with college and have a stable job. I know we haven't been together long, but since we have been faced with a lot of adult problems, it seems like we work together well, and we have been together for years. I wouldn't mind if he proposed to me, because getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married immediately. Right? My dad told him when he moved in, that he has 6 months to save up money from his job, and get his own place. So he moves out on Feb. 14th. He is really wanting me to move in with him; and I would, but the economy is so bad, I'd rather stay with my parents, because its free, and focuse on school and not have to worry about a job right now since I'm dealing with the toughest classes of the career at this moment.
But, what I'm trying to get at is, Riley says he doesn't want to get engaged until 3 or 4 more years, but he says that he knows I'm the one he will be with for the rest of his life. But why wait that long, if he supposively knows I the one for him? I'm not rushing him at all. I respect his decision; I'd rather him do it when he feels it right, instead of rushing, and regretting.
Hey,
Engagement can be a big mental move for guys, even when they're madly in love. You and Riley sound as if you two have a nice thing going. Maybe the two of you can come to a consensus as far as a good engagement season. Emphasize to him that engagement does not mean marriage is in the immediate future. Maybe you two can agree on a good engagement time that works for both of you. Being that he wants you to move in with him, he's more than likely sincerely dedicated to you. I think you're making the right move by taking you alls financial status quo into consideration. It can all be worked out and understood with a good heart to heart.
Hope I helped =)
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Sarah, female, 23 yrs old
There is a friend that I have known for two years. We started working together and became fast friends. He is a really silly guy and always cracked jokes to make our time at work fun. The thing is, eventually, he started cracking jokes about us being a real couple one day. I didn't take it seriously and just brushed it off. Surprisingly, these jokes didn't stop. He kept this going on for almost an entire year. After people began to ask questions about the nature of our relationship, I started to wonder if he was really being serious. I wasn't too worried about it and figured even if he did like me, he would never have the guts to actually tell me. To my surprise, almost a year after wondering if he really liked me, he asked me out. We were standing outside after work when he asked me. I so shocked and caught off guard that I just looked at him and said, "Well... you're a really good friend". He seemed sad after I said this and looked down at the floor. It was unexpected and I wasn't sure what to say, I just said whatever came to my mind. It's not that I don't like him but I realized early on that he was not the usual type I go for. Even though I love funny guys, I've never gone out with someone as silly as him. I have flirted with him in the past just for fun and he with me, but I never thought it would turn into something complicated. But after that incident I started thinking about what happened and questioned if I should actually give him a chance. He is a funny, sweet, caring, charismatic person and I enjoy spending time with him. He is NOT the typical guy go I for but dating only my type hasn't exactly been a positive experience for me. I've been wondering lately if I should give him a chance and just throw the type thing out of the window. I do like him and care alot about him and do see many qualities that I want in a boyfriend in him. But I worry about crossing that line and destroying my friendship with him by pursuing a relationship with him that might fail. I don't want to lose a good friend but at the same time, I'm scared that if I don't give him a chance I might miss out on a great guy. What should I do? Should I pursue something with him or not even take a chance? Please help!
Hey,
Sarah, I think you've answered your own question in the midst of asking it. You've said more and more positive things about this guy, and you seem to really have a thing for him secretly. A plus would be the fact that he has been a friend for a while, so you know him pretty well already. Now sure, pursuing something as more than friends is taking a chance, but who says it has to ruin you twos relationship? Don't rush it. Take it slow, but give it a chance. Seems as if the two of you are smitten with one another. Also, as far as "your type" goes, there's absolutely nothing wrong with stepping out of your comfort zone, and if you haven't gotten good results in your comfort zone before, it sounds like stepping out of it would be the best thing for you to do. I say go for this. Take things slow, but definitely go for it. I'm excited with what may come about in this match up. If you decide to go for it, please try to let me know how thngs go!
Hope I helped =)
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if your x boyfriend kisses you months after we break p and says he wants you back what should i say?
Hey,
This all depends on how you're feeling and the circumstances of the decision. Does he deserve to have you back? Did he hurt you? Have you two hurt one another? Do you think this would be a healthy step to take? What would be the pros? What would be the cons? Why did the two of you break up in the first place? Do you think he's sincere? After you two get back together, what will be different, better, worse?....
These are all very important questions to take into consideration before back-tracking. Be careful, because you don't want to make a move you'll regret.
Hope I helped =)
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i know this sounds REALLY weird, in a way that even I dont quite understand about myself. and it makes no sense. when people insult me, somehow, i feel better. and when i like, have cramps (btw they HHHHUUURRRRRTTTTTT and ive had 2 stay home from school it was that bad) but i always refuse to take medication (asprin) for it. for some odd reason, it makes me feel better about myself. beacause i have the courage and perserveirence to go thru the pain instead of taking the easy way out and giving in. it makes me feel confident. and i dont understand it. and when people complement me i absoultally HAATTTEEE it EEESSPPPEEAAACCCCIIIAALLLLYYYY when its about my apperance. i seriousally have cried for hours because my freind called me "beautiful" and i just dont understand it.
Hey,
Sounds to me like you love a challenge, and that's an okay attitude to have. You just have to set limits so you don't impose real harm on yourself. For instance, if you're in some fierce pain, like bad toothache pain, it's okay to use some Oragel. Challenges can be fun, but they can be dangerous if we take them too far. Don't feel as if you have to prove anything to anybody! You are strong, courageous, and smart; smart enough to know where to draw lines. Also, compliments are in no way to be taken negatively. When people acknowledge the fact that you are gorgeous, talented, or simply amazing, accept it with a smile. Know your self-worth, and know that they're telling the truth. Let the truth motivate you to be the best you that you can be. Never let something great be something dreadful. If you continue to feel these bad feelings when complimented, consider talking to a counselor to see if he or she can help you better understand your feelings.
Hope I helped =)
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female, 17. okay, SO, its summer. I was talking to 3 guys, nothing big, just summer flirting, ive hung out with 2 a lot and the third one not so much, im not really interested in that one. the guy i was talking to first is really nice and he asked me to be his prom date, 2 months later he asked me out and i said yes. this weekend he went on a cruise and the 2nd guy i was interested in asked me to go out and just hang out with him, i said yes and took 2 friends with me, i didnt think it was anything serious. we ended up going to the movies and he paid for me and everything, he texted me today and said he wants to be more than friends. heres the thing, i dont really want to because last summer we had a summer-fling going on and then he suddendly stopped talking to me and started going out with another girl, so i dont know what to tell him, he doesnt know i have a boyfriend nor do i want him to know at this time. thanks in advance(:
Hey,
it doesn't sound as if you really want to be tied down to anybody right now, and that's fine. You should make sure your current boyfriend knows that you still hang out with other guys; this way, he won't get too serious about the relationship and think that it's something more than what it is right now. As far as the other guy, the one who wants to be more than friends, you should keep a healthy friendship between the two of you, and leave it at that. You don't want to start liking him even more, leave a good guy for him, and then open up the chance for him to drop out on you a SECOND time. You don't have to tell him that you have a boyfriend, but you should tell him you're more comfortable being the way you are with him right now.
Hope I helped =)
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After chasing me for 12 months I finally allowed my new friend to come over. He's visited twice and being spontaneous Aquarians, both times we've had sex. How do I move the relationship away from my apartment as I've already told him I'm not interested in a booty call relationship?
Hey,
if this guy has chased you for 12 months, the chances are very strong that his attraction to you might be much stronger than just physical, but you'll never know unless you make him show you. You have to make it clear to him that you're not just out for the booty call, and if he really does want to be with you, it has to be more than just sex. In other words, you have to initiate the "no sex for a while" role, and see how he reacts to it.
Hope I helped =)
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hey,
(This is a tad bit long)....Sounds to me like your boyfriend is completely in the wrong in this situation, for a couple of reasons: He didn't consult with you before he made this private page, he has you alls private relationship info exposed, and he denies it! This tells me that he's being really inconsiderate of your feelings, and because he continues to lie about it, he shows a lack of respect to you and you alls relationship. You shouldn't continue to be in this relationship at this cost, it's unhealthy for you. Give your boyfriend one more opportunity to be honest with you. If he does, or even if he doesn't confess, tell him you've known all along, and that you've seen the page for yourself. A relationship without trust and respect isn't one you want to be in for the long run girly :-( Stress to your boyfriend how much you don't appreciate his actions and tell him if you're going to have to worry about things like this then maybe you guys shouldn't be together. If he really cares, he'll hear you out, apologize, delete/edit the page, and make other changes. If not, he probably doesn't have your best interest at heart, mooooove on chicka!
Hope I helped =)
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I mastuerbated to internet porn and i feel ashamed like i have cheated on my girlfreind. would you consider this as cheating on her i love her soooo much! please help
Hey,
I wouldn't call this cheating. You weren't physically with anyone else. There are even certain couples that use pornography to enhance their own sexual experiences. You obviously love her very much. You can talk to her about it to see how she feels. She should understand.
Hope I helped =)
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite a while now, and we are really uite fond of each other :) He is just so amazing.
The only thing is, we are leaving for college soon, and will be hundreds of miles apart. I want to plan one last, special date night for him and I.
I just want some ideas of fun places to go, somethings to do on our last day together. I was thinking maybe going some places we have gone before to prom or something, to revisit. Also, I should let you know, we are not sexually intimate, so please don't include things of that nature in your plan ideas :D
Thanks!
Hey,
in your situation, I'd definitely say the most important thing to keep in mind is quality time. Not for intimacy purposes, just pure romance. Go places where the two of you can focus on each other. Do you guys share a hobby? For instance, if you both liked basketball, you could go play basketball together, but not at a public court, maybe on a friends' court, so it'll be just the two of you..... and that's during the day. As far as how to end the day, maybe watch a movie at one of your houses, or take a walk on the beach. Do something sweet, romantic, loving, and memorable. Just find somewhere you guys can go and just love the life out of each other. Laugh, talk, cry, cuddle...the cute stuff. Make it special. Hope I helped =)
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Okay,13 female
so my boyfriend just moved to indiana bc his dad works there and i just figured out that another guy likes me. Dont think im a ho or a slut or anything like that bc i was gunna break up with him anyway bc i cant do a long distance relationship i tried to call my current boyfriend and tell him i cant date him any more but i couldnt get a hold of him! I really want to go out with this other guy bc we have a good history (when you answer my question ill tell you what happend) so can some one plzz help!!!!!!
Hey,
unfortunately, everyone can't handle a long distance relationship. It's a part of life, but no reason to really beat up on yourself. Your current boyfriend is going to have to understand, but make sure to be conscience of his feelings when you break the news to him. Don't mention the other guy or anything, just tell him you can't do the long-distance thing, and you feel you guys should go your own ways. As far as the other guy, hey if you like him, you like him...I wouldn't suggest rushing right into another relationship, but there's no harm in going out. Hope I helped =)
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Is it normal to not get sparks or feel anything at all when I kiss my boyfriend? When we first kissed I felt something but that was it. Anyone else know what I mean??
It's very normal. The first kiss is new and more exciting, but afterwards it's all about love. As long as you know you feel honest feelings for him in your heart, don't sweat the kisses.
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18f. This may be long, but bare with me! I am quite confused..
So last friday me and a friend were on a walk since we were at her parents friends house and we were bored. Well we walk past this kids house who has a pool and there were a bunch of hot guys out there and we werent familiar with the area so i asked them if they knew where this park we were looking for was. One of the guys, brad, instantly started talking to me and him and this other kid ben were flirting with me hardcore. Well i find out that my friend tried talking to brad on facebook then creepily got his number and texted him (so embarassed about that) and brad recognized my friend and said something. Well then we left and i asked my friend how she knew him, and then thats when she told me all that. So then about 30min after we leave, she texts brad saying something like: i don't want to bug you but i don't want you or your friends to think i'm a creep, i just thought you were hot. well then he replies haha no its okay, but your friend was sexy! i was like oh really he thinks that? :) so then she texts him a lil more and then he had to go but he was like make sure linds (me) texts me, i better get a text from her! so later that night i text him saying hey its linds:) and he says whats up babe? and then i reply, and then no response from him?? well then the next night he ends up texting my friend asking if me and her were partying that night and my friend said no because she was at her cabin.
Well i'm a little upset, i am a confused as to why he texted her when he was pretty creeped out by her, and he was the one bugging her to have me text him?? And we all have mutual friends, so it's not like hes just a random guy i know nothing about. But now my friend feels as though she can rub it in my face that he texted her, and i'm just like okaaay?? I don't know whats up with brad ..he was so into me saying i was sexy, he told my friend to have me text him ..then i text him and he stops talking? then he texts my friend, not me, the next night asking if we were partying? I don't get it..
Hey,
going off of what I read, it doesn't seem like he has an interest in your friend. His intrest is in you! Between Facebook, meeting in person, and having her number, he had ample chances to try to hook up with her if he had wanted to, but he didn't. When you came into the picture, however, he was allllll about getting in touch with you, and having you come around. Even when he texted her about the party, he was curious to know if YOU were coming to the party with her. Your friend can't really rub a text in your face when he's made it clear that he wants to get to know you better, even though your friend would probably prefer it be her. As far as him not responding to your text that night, who knows... Phone's don't always act right, maybe he has other stuff going on outside of trying to talk to you, but that's another story. Situation at hand says, he definitely has an eye for you, so if that's what you wanted, you're in luck girl! Hope I helped =)
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Okay sooooooo omg I was with my boy toy and he told me that me and his dick should kisss what do I do? He is really hott
Hey,
ummmm your "boy toy"...Are you guys in an actual relationship? If so, do you feel comfortable giving oral sex? If you guys aren't actually together, I wouldn't do that, especially if you have to think about it. You never know how many other girls call him their "boy toy", or what sexually transmitted diseases they might have. I'd be very careful with my body as a whole, especially my mouth! Hope I helped =)
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Iv been having this issue with my wife for a long time where her needs come first and my needs come last or sometimes not at all .I think she wants to whear the pants in the family but God forbid that won't ever happen but when I talked to her in a respectable way it always ends up in a argument and then she has wrong feelings I don't want to come across as I'm controling I just want to be equal when she wants something you better belive she'll. Get it and no hesatation about it eather but on the other hand when I need something she has this attitude like why do you need this for . I don't question her when she dicides she wants something but it you better belive it will get thrown in my face if ido go get something my money goes to the bank just like hers I help pay the bills just like she does and I make sure the bills get paid first anyways sex with her is hardly ever id say the last time was probably a year ago she has no intrest I think she might be cheating but no proof I no somethings got to give any sugestions
Hey,
You and your wife probably need to seek professional marriage counselors, they can help improve the weak areas in your marriage by a long shot! Personally, I don't think it's fair at all for a relationship to be completely one-sided. It is very selfish of your wife to make all the decisions, and disregard your input. Normally, I would tell you to try to talk it out with her, but since you say that doesn't tend to work, I'd suggest you try to bring a professional, or perhaps even a wise respectable family member into the picture to help open her eyes. As far as the sex life, that might need professional help for sure, family members can only help you to a certain extent. In order to strengthen your marriage as soon as possible, before things get worse, find out where you can find someone who does legit and meaningful counseling. Hope I helped =)
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It's been two months since my boyfriend and I broke up but I'm still hurting. He treated me like shit while we were dating, hurt me so many ways, and yet when I got to bed every night the only thing I can think about was the way he held me and kissed me and I miss being loved like that. He didn't love me for me, he admitted that, but we had such a physical connection that that's what has hurt so much to lose. He pressured me into going farther than I wanted to physically and it made me sooo attached to him that when he cut it off, it made it twenty times harder than it should have because I know I was too young to deal with those kind of physical connections. We dated for seven months, he was sixteen and I was fourteen, but I'm fifteen now. I just don't know what to do. I'm sick of missing someone who didn't care about me. I just want to be held by him again, but only by him and I don't know why... Please some one help, I hate this hurt.
Hey,
Please please please don't yearn for a relationship with a guy that makes it clear to you that he's only looking for sex. You would be selling yourself sooooo short! There are so many other guys out there that you could date. Spend more time with family and friends, and date other people. This will help you get your mind off of the ex-boyfriend, for sure, and eventually, you'll find someone that you can count on to hold you, and show you affection, and you won't have to go further than you want to before you're ready. Whenever the hurtful thoughts hit you, get around someone/people who can help you take your mind off of them. Hope I helped =)
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i am a virgin point blank and i plan to stay that way for a long time. the other day some guy really wanted to have sex with me but i refused. he ended up managing to get all my clothes off but still nothing happened. i guess he was mad abd i was just uncomfortably laying next to him... he statred jerking off and his *** splattered everywhere. i remember it hitting my arm and thy but idk if it splattered on my...or where else. immediatdaly got up wiped it off. got dressed a and nd left... im a very paranoid person and need to know... do u think im pregnant???
Hey,
I highly, highly, highly doubt you're pregnant. More than likely, if semen would've splattered on your ......, you would've noticed it, and even still it would've had to do some traveling. Sperm normally dies within a few seconds after it touches surface skin (air) anyway. If you're really worried, you could take a pregnancy test, but they can only detect reliable results around the time you'd expect your period. Don't worry though, you're pretty much in the clear =)
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I gave my boyfriend head for the first time almost 3 weeks ago and every single time we get together he wants me to do it again. He will whine and beg and even do the pout face about it and make me feel really guilty. We haven't had sex yet but this is really bugging me. How do I just tell him no but that I do love him or that I want to hang out without doing this to him every time? I just want a real relationship and not be used for sex. I wish I never did this! :(
Hey,
you should never have to feel pressured into doing anything. If your boyfriend really loves and respects you, he will be alright if you tell him plain one time "I don't feel like I should have to do this everytime we hang out, sometimes I just want quality time, no strings attatched". If you really want to see where his heart is, tell him you're finished giving head altogether for a *significant* amount of time. If he acts as if thet's the end of you guys' relationship, then so be it. I know that can be the hard route to take sometimes, but in reality, he doesn't deserve you if he doesn't respect you physically, mentally, and emotionally. As far as the guilt feeling, everybody makes mistakes, everybody has made some not so good choices. Life goes on, you live and you learn. Don't beat up on yourselrf, just let the situation teach you. Hope I helped =)
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Well its a long story..me and my relationship with my boyfriend. To me its like a romeo and juliet type of thing. His grandmother doesn't understand my boy friend, at all she doesnt want him to date me. She thinks im trashy? When I'm far from it :,( She was apparently stalking my fb page and my friends, they acutally went as far as to creat an account as lous cousin Cody..but it was really his aunt trying to figure things out about us. So we have to hide were dating, its so stressing and the thought of not being able to call him if I NEED him just scares me. He calls me every chance he gets behind her back, my boy friends the most amazing guy I have ever been with and I miss him so bad..He knows this to, he tells me just to keep strong and to think that we will see each other soon..*I'm going into highschool this year* I'm so stressed..and so depressed right now..i should be happy my birthdays coming up..:/ I've been threw the ringer with this guy, with people starting stuff between us, All i know is that I love my boy friend..and I want to stay strong for him, but I don't know if I have enough courage? What should I do?
14 1/2 f
Hey,
You and your boyfriend really sound like you have something special. Often times parents/grand-parents just feel like no one is good enough for their child/grand-child. You shouldn't take his grand-mother's actions to heart. Continue to be yourself and stand by your boyfriend (This can't be an easy situation for him either, but he's enduring). Eventually, things will get better, and his family will see you for who you truly are. Plus, what will really matter to them in the long run is if your love for him is sincere, and if he's really happy with you. As long as that is clear to them, you all will be okay. You have a good boyfriend. He plans to be with you regardless to what his grand-mother thinks because he knows you and wants you! Just remember to think positive! =)
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