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Never loved someone like this before..
Well its a long story..me and my relationship with my boyfriend. To me its like a romeo and juliet type of thing. His grandmother doesn't understand my boy friend, at all she doesnt want him to date me. She thinks im trashy? When I'm far from it :,( She was apparently stalking my fb page and my friends, they acutally went as far as to creat an account as lous cousin Cody..but it was really his aunt trying to figure things out about us. So we have to hide were dating, its so stressing and the thought of not being able to call him if I NEED him just scares me. He calls me every chance he gets behind her back, my boy friends the most amazing guy I have ever been with and I miss him so bad..He knows this to, he tells me just to keep strong and to think that we will see each other soon..*I'm going into highschool this year* I'm so stressed..and so depressed right now..i should be happy my birthdays coming up..:/ I've been threw the ringer with this guy, with people starting stuff between us, All i know is that I love my boy friend..and I want to stay strong for him, but I don't know if I have enough courage? What should I do?
14 1/2 f <3 My boyfriends 16.
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Hey,
You and your boyfriend really sound like you have something special. Often times parents/grand-parents just feel like no one is good enough for their child/grand-child. You shouldn't take his grand-mother's actions to heart. Continue to be yourself and stand by your boyfriend (This can't be an easy situation for him either, but he's enduring). Eventually, things will get better, and his family will see you for who you truly are. Plus, what will really matter to them in the long run is if your love for him is sincere, and if he's really happy with you. As long as that is clear to them, you all will be okay. You have a good boyfriend. He plans to be with you regardless to what his grand-mother thinks because he knows you and wants you! Just remember to think positive! =)
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Hey,
Don't take what his Grandma says to heart. She has her opinions of girls and only the person dating her would really know what type of girl you are (your boyfriend!). A lot of Adults think people can be something they are not just by what they wear or how they talk. I believe wearing or talking a certain way expresses who you are or who you want to be.
Yeah, she shouldn't of stalked your facebook page, but you know.. a lot of people out there look at facebook pages all the time so they can know info about a person. I am not saying it is right, what I mean is, if you want anything to be personal.. don't say everything about yourself on an internet page. Anyone is bound to read it, even employers when you are getting a job.
It seems rediculous that you cannot even call him. Tell his Grandma in a respectful way that you are not a trashy person and you didn't want to come off as trashy, so you hope she can put that behind her. Doing so will help her realize that you can stick up for yourself in a good way, you respect her wishes but you want some time with him, and that she should maybe give you more of a chance. Ask her if you could call him once a week. If she says no, wait a few days then ask again. Eventually she will let you call him once a week. Then after a while of allowing him to call you once a week, try to make it two. If you can, also try to make visits to his grandmas house to hang out with your guy. Do not hang out in a back room, be out in the living room watching tv or something. If you show a good impression in front of her, she will change how she sees you now.
To de-stress, listen to your favorite music, go for a walk, do something new, ask his Grandma if he can come over for your birthday. Call over when she is home and say "I was hoping I could ask you a question..", then ask if he can come over for your birthday. The more you talk to her one on one, the more his Grandma will think shes being heard. Make sure you say 'please'. If she says no, wait a few days, then ask again. Tell her you would really like it if your guy could come visit you anytime (eventually she will). His Grandma does have a nice bone in her, you just have to find it.
If people are starting stuff between you, prove to them that it is not true by being who you really are and telling them it isn't true. You are stronger than you think and you do have the courage in you. All you are looking for is a little support. Talk to your guy, tell him what you told me. That you are depressed and you love it when he talks/hangs out with you. Let him know you need him to help you do what I said to make his Grandmother feel like you are on the same page. He is likely to support you no matter what. Once you are working together with your guy; showing his Grandma that you and your boyfriend respect eachother and you are not who she thinks, anything is possible <3
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tell him to tell his grandmother... shell haveto get over it if you 2 love eachother be with eachother and you shouldnt care what anyone thinks... just consider it
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