My boyfriend wants a blowjob every time we hang out!
Question Posted Friday July 23 2010, 7:52 am
I gave my boyfriend head for the first time almost 3 weeks ago and every single time we get together he wants me to do it again. He will whine and beg and even do the pout face about it and make me feel really guilty. We haven't had sex yet but this is really bugging me. How do I just tell him no but that I do love him or that I want to hang out without doing this to him every time? I just want a real relationship and not be used for sex. I wish I never did this! :(
LadyDesi112 answered Sunday July 25 2010, 3:26 am: Hey,
you should never have to feel pressured into doing anything. If your boyfriend really loves and respects you, he will be alright if you tell him plain one time "I don't feel like I should have to do this everytime we hang out, sometimes I just want quality time, no strings attatched". If you really want to see where his heart is, tell him you're finished giving head altogether for a *significant* amount of time. If he acts as if thet's the end of you guys' relationship, then so be it. I know that can be the hard route to take sometimes, but in reality, he doesn't deserve you if he doesn't respect you physically, mentally, and emotionally. As far as the guilt feeling, everybody makes mistakes, everybody has made some not so good choices. Life goes on, you live and you learn. Don't beat up on yourselrf, just let the situation teach you. Hope I helped =) [ LadyDesi112's advice column | Ask LadyDesi112 A Question ]
OhMyLucyDarling answered Friday July 23 2010, 9:17 pm: Your boyfriend just prooved to you that all he wants is sex. You need to move on
maxgrey answered Friday July 23 2010, 7:15 pm: Truth is, he's not looking for a romantic relationship.
He just wants sex.
Don't feel guilty for respecting your body and feelings by telling him no.
My advice is to break up with him, since he's very obviously using you for sex.
I know you don't want to hear that, but the truth is that this guy doesn't care about you. Just sex.
Most guys are like this, but some have the decency to listen to their girlfriend/boyfriend's feelings.
Don't do anything you don't want to. It's your body. Not his. [ maxgrey's advice column | Ask maxgrey A Question ]
nonameboy70 answered Friday July 23 2010, 5:52 pm: just tell him no if he loves you he shouldnt care what you do for him or with him or to him just say no its ok if he whines and begs just say no dont do anything you done want to do. if he loves you hell get over it [ nonameboy70's advice column | Ask nonameboy70 A Question ]
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