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Q: okay. i'd been with my boy for a month and i really liked him. the only problem was that we fought. all the time! about the stupidest little things. he will be upset and i'd ask what's wrong and he'd just be all 'nothing' when i knew something was wrong. then he'd say that i said or did something to upset him bet he never told me what. i got so pissed of last night that i dumped him. i live in australia so it's valentines day today and every little thing reminds me of him. i know that if i asked for him back that he would take me but i dont want to be with him. i dont think. i'm just confused. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
signed,
confused
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it's understandable that you miss him cuz tomorrow is the official "love day" but if you don't wanna be with him...don't. if he's gonna be mad over stuff for no reason...he doesn't deserve you anyway! there's someone out there who is dying to be with you that won't get mad over stupid, nonsense stuff. good luck!
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Q: Ok, this guy I have liked forever told me somethings last night i confused me a bit. Well to start things off, we went to a dance at our school. When i got home i talked to him on AIM. He said he really screwed things up when it came to this he liked. He said that he thought she kept eyeing him throughout the whole thing. Which i was doing. Then he said that he never asked her to dance but he could tell that she wanted to...but he never had enought courage...and i never danced with him, but i deff. wanted to. But the wierd part was he never told me who it was...he refused, he usually always gives me a name of the he likes...so im wondering if its me this time. Please help me...i rate high
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ooh i definitely believe it's you! you know, guys are so weird like that, they describe that it's you throughout your whole conversation, they just refuse to say it cuz they're scared/shy. so next time you talk to him and he starts talking about it, flirt a little in a playful (but not really playful) way...yeah, that's probably confusing but what i mean is like he says they were eyeing him all night, be like "are you sure it wasn't me you saw?" so it's playful, but you're being honest. if he keeps beating around the bush without saying anything about it directly being you (unless you know for sure it's not even tho i think it is) then just tell him straight out "you know i really like you a lot". hope i helped! good luck! :)
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Q: When it comes to dating and what-not, do guys prefer looks or personality? If looks, then what primarily are they interested in? If personality, then what kind of traits do they like?
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actually...it depends on the guy. usually a guy just wanting a gf really bad or sexual stuff goes on looks only. however, other guys who really like someone usually fall for them because of their personality, but some guys (most guys actually) who are wanting a real relationship are looking for great personality and some looks. i'm not really sure what kind of looks or traits they're wanting other than just being nice, and i've heard a lot of guys say they like the "hour glass" shape...but ya know...most guys that really like you don't look at your body too much. so just be yourself and i'm sure you'll find someone. hope i could be of some help!
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Q: so about a year ago, my dad and my step mom got a divorce. It really suc'd like any divorce, but my stEp mom blamed it on me...I still belive deep down that it was my fault, but everyone tells me it wasnt. Ive been through so many consolurs and crap, but i still don't feel good about it. I still rember the last night we talked...she told me how much she hated me...((the mom i had for the last 12 years just told me she hated me))then she refused to talk to me for the last like month she lived with us.
well my real mom's really f'd up, and my former step mom wont talk to me ever again..and i realli dont like my dads new g-f..i need a mom. im a teenage girl...my dad doesnt always get it..Where should i turn? I mean i can talk to my freinds...but i would love more then anything to have a mom...should i try apologizing to my former step mom, or call my real mmom...ee..lost
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it's not your fault. your step mom just wanted to put the blame on someone, probably because it's her fault. you don't need to apologize to anyone because you didn't do anything wrong. all u can do is wait, however, tell your dad when you don't like someone, because no one should be brought in to the family that you don't approve of. good luck.
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Q: ok ive been "going out" with this guy "Adam" for about 3 years now, and i am truelly in love with this kid. You wouldnt believe. He has told me that he loves my, and all that jazz, but the outher day, he told me he waas falling for another girl. Not as hard as he fell for me. he was all like " i just thought you should know, and i still love you more than anything, and i still wanna hang out, because you are the only girl i have fun with" My question is, should i really be woried, and another thing is i dont know how to talk to him about it. I rate high!
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i really think you should be worried. it seems like he just wants you as a friend, while he goes for another girl. just ask him straight up EXACTLY how he feels. good luck
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Q: ok. so 3 years ago i had a b/f Randy. he moved away and i havent seen him since. but now his brother goes to my school (travis).Travis got hot. i still havent seen Randy and i dont know wether he is still my b/f or not.but Travis knows every thing i did with him and i wonder if he is going to tell the other boys. i wanna go out with travis but i dont know weather im going out with Randy.and im also to shy to ask him for his phone #,so i can ask his brother if im his g/f. what should i do??????? lil'helper
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i think if you've been away from him for 3 years and don't even know his phone number, you're not together. however, i don't suggest moving in on his brother just yet. build up a great, flirty friendship with him, and then go from there!
*~kAyLa~*
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Q: OK so my boyfriend got me a lot for Valentine's day and all I got him was a teddy bear. I cant think of anything else to get him. If anyone has any ideas at all please help me!! Thanx so so so much , I rate high.
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write him a sweet poem, or just get him a cd, movie, shirt...something that has to do with his favorite sports team. and don't forget the chocolates! :) good luck!
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Q: therez this kid who i was involved w/ for lyke a month very physically he was going out with someone at the time but i was his unofficial gf who he talked to and did stuff with, and he promised he'd break up with her, then i come back after a weekend and he's broken up with her, and i expect him to ask me out, and some other girl's on his arm, i feel like ive been used and i should be pissed, so how should i ger back at him? no really i want to burn this jerk, he ignores me everyday and acts like we were never all over each other, how should i get revenge?
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go up to him in front of his new girl and say "sorry i had to cancel our date last night," and then look at his girlfriend and say, "oh hi, i'm (name), his girlfriend, and who are you?" even if you're not his girlfriend, he loses his girl, you feel better, and she knows what a jerk he is and finds someone better. i hope i helped!
*~KaYlA~*
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Q: this is going to be very long. I'm in love with this guy and i have been for about 8 months i would say. We have been having sex for a year now and he just thought of me as u kno-a sex friend. I'm the only one he's been having it with since we started bein together but ive had past partners,one was his really close friend,and now i've quit for him. He got me pregnate. Yes, im 2 1/2 months pregnate with his baby. And i love him. I know evry day girls say "oh i love him soo much" But this is for real. I've lied 4 him. been through court 4 him, fought girls 4 him, and gave up my boyfriend 4 him. Whenever i tell him how i feel he says "I care about u too but i`m just not ready to go out with you...i do love you and i do wanna be with you...I just can't.." or he uses diff. excuses how 'i went wit his friend he can't do that to him' WELL Y NOT?! I try avoiding him..you know, trying to make him miss me and come crawling back to me.. but that's hard to do when he's the cutest most popular guy in school with girls practically lined up. He doesn't need me. I need advice..what should i do? i know i can't make him love me back..but maybe just to have him want to be with me and understand how i feel a little more. Don't say love notes-cuz i tried...or phone calls..or long talks..i tried everything. Don't call me dumb..please!!! i`m just hopelessly in love.... =( help!
plz dont erase this!!! i rate mainly 5's!
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i'm really sorry for what you're going through. i can tell you really love him. i think he's just scared, maybe because he's about to be a father. the truth is:i dont know how you feel, and the only thing i can really tell you to do is stick by his side. be there for him whenever he needs you and let him know you're there. i hope i helped you some. good luck with him and the baby.
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Q: ive been talking to this kid on the comp and hes been sending me mixed signals. i go to school and he doenst talk 2 me but as soon as i sign on there is his s/n saying hey to me.One time he even decided that i should call him. i talk to him everyday on the comp but never at school! what should i do?! iam so lost PLEASE HELP I RATE!
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the next time you see him at school just smile and say hi. if he talks back then just start talking to him more often, just stop and ask him how his day's going or something. before you know it you'll be talking at school and on the computer! then maybe you can get a better view on if he likes you or not! i hope i helped!
*Kayla*
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Q: I have a major problem. I'm best friends with this guy. The only problem is I have a crush on him. Do I tell him and risk losing our friendship or do I not tell him at all? Please Help!
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tell him, but tell him that you don't want this to affect your friendship. just say i'm starting to like you as more than a friend. chances are he could feel the same way. but if for some reason he doesn't, just don't let it affect the friendship, act the way you used to. i hope i helped! *~KaYlA~*
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Q: Well It's almost Valentines Day.. and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend... I've asked him for some suggestions and he just keeps telling me he doesnt want anything. What would be something good to get him... We've been going out for 5 months... Hope someone can help... Thanks
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well chocolates are definitely the way to go. then you could write him a sweet poem, or maybe a cd that he would like, or movie, or shirt. do you all have "your song"? if so you could make him a tape/cd with the song and write the lyrics out for him and decorate around the lyrics in hearts. i hope i was of help!
*~KaYlA~*
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Q: Ok, so there's this kid at my school that is obsessed with me, and we talk on the phone and internet and hes asked me out several times already, everytime i said i wasn't sure, what my question is is that do you think it would be smart to get to know him better, or is it "bad" to have an obsessive boyfriend? I don't really "like" him yet, but hes one of the sweetest kids i've ever met. Okay.. sorry it was long thanks
ashley
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the next time he asks you out say, "i'd like to get to know you better first". i had a guy who was obsessed with me, but after we started he dating he calmed down, and i think it was just his way of trying to get me, so that's probably how it is for this guy. so get to know him better, then when you decide if you like him or not, go from there.
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Q: i like this one guy who is in my math class...we sit right next to each other and we ALWAYS are talking... and he stares at me too...i cant tell if he likes me or not but i REALLY like him! no one knows i like him except 3 of my very close friends. i would ask him out if i found the right moment..but i am also kinda afraid to ask him out cause if he says no then i dont want it to ruin our friendship...but the thing is that i am moving in like 2 months so it wouldnt be that long of a relationship...so i guess my question is...should i ask him out even though i am moving in a while or just keep it to myself and let it dye away??
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how far are you moving? if you're only moving a little while away, it could work, but if you're moving kind of far away, it would probably be best not to ask him out. i hope everything works out for the best!
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Q: 14/f
Last thursday I was talking to the guy I like on the phone and I think I heard him say Will you go Out with me but he said it hecka quite so I wasnt sure then I was just like what I cant hear u and I thought he said will you go out with me again but he said it so softly i wasnt sure... so i was just quite... then all of of sudden hes just where are you at and completely changed the subject... I am confused... I want him to ask me out right and now im scared cause if he did ask me out he is bably be too scared to say it again... and I need a way for him to do it... but then if he just said something else and I didnt hear him correctly I dont want to be like yea i wanna go out with you cause that would be embarresing thats the reason i was just quite... but now as i get to thinking maybe i want him to ask me so badly im hearing things...if that makes any sense please help...I was thinking of trying to get who he likes out of him but when i asked him today all he could say was i dont know...
what do i do?
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he probably did ask you out. and he probably changed the subject cause you were quiet. this is what you should do...tell him that you like him. just say "you know i really like you" and then that will give him courage to ask you again! if you ask him who he likes and he doesn't know you like him, it's very unlikely he'll tell you, guys are kind of weird. lol jk, but they don't really like to admit their feeling if they don't know how you feel. well, that's how it seems to me anyways. but i hope i helped and good luck!
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Q: hi i am fourteen years of age and i have never had a partner, which means ive never been to any of the bases!! is the first kiss always the worse? i dont know what i am supposed to do when i am going to kiss somebody, like what your supposed to do with the lips, teeth, and tounge, and i am scared! i dont want to feel akward when i really suck at kissing..and im not really talented!! someone please tell me what i should do!
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maybe you could try having your first kiss with a guys who's also never been kissed, that way it won't be as awkward. but here goes kissing guide: tilt your opposite of his, your lips will just fit with his, move your tongue around gently, and try to kind of make your lips cover your teeth meaning like keep your lips pooched out more than your teeth, that way you don't knock teeth. i hope i was a help! good luck!
*KaYlA*
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Q: There's a boy that used to be the kind of friend that I would tell my problems to when me and my b/f were going out. But after my b/f and I split, my friend completely fell in love with me. I don't like him that way, just as a friend, but he's trying to control my love life by being over jealous.He says he won't stop until I go out with him. I have a new b/f now, but I can't let anyone know because I don't want my friend to find out and he'll be hurt.He gets mad whenever I'm on the phone with my b/f. What should I tell him? I don't want to lose his friendship, because he is a really good friend.
Sorry about the length, but please help!! Thanks!
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tell your friend that you see him as a friend and a friend only. tell him you're really sorry and you don't want to lose his friendship. also, maybe you could set him up with a single friend. you should tell him about your new boyfriend because if he finds out later, he'll just be more hurt. i hope i could be of help!
*KaYlA~*
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Q: I`m pregnate and i`m not gonna say my age due to how much you all will critisize me.im 2 1/2 months in and valentines day is coming up.. and i`m completely absolutely in love with my baby's dad..one problem is he's not so into me...he is but not as much...at all. I told him i was going to get him something for the day coming up and he said-"no..i`ll feel bad 'cause i`m not getting you anything." we don't go out or anything but I have real feelings for him. He has about 5 other girls that are getting him things to..he said he just doesn't spend money on girls...i don't want anything in return..I just want him to know I care...is that the right thing to do? Or should I do what most my friends day and not get him anything..and try avoiding him for a while until he comes to me?? That's hard..because i know how he is..he says.."I`m not going to chase after a girl..if they dont want me then fine thats them." And trust me, if I don't talk to him..some other girls will..even if i DO have his baby *yes,he knows* ..help help help! please!
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i don't think you should spend your money on him, but if you really wanna do something for him, write him a poem or something. however, i don't really think you should do that either. if he's not all that into you, and going to go for another girl knowing that you're having his baby, i don't think he's worth it. he should get with it and learn his priorities (which are you and your baby), but that's actually besides the point of this question. you don't have to avoid him, just don't spend a lot of time and money on him. i hope i helped. and by the way~i would NOT criticize you on your age and having a baby.
*KaYlA*
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Q: Okay, so I know this guy named Josh and I really like him. But, turns out a whole lot of girls are interested in him also. I wrote him a note telling him how I felt and he wrote me back saying he was talking to someone else and that we could still be friends. But, I want to be more than just his friend. What should I do???
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the only thing you can really do is wait for him to come around. more than likely he won't be talking to this girl forever. stay friends with him, and then whenever he's free, flirt and then tell him how you feel.
*~KaYlA~*
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Q: o my goodness!! i was JUST HANGING out wit my lover dom. i over heard him talking to his/mine friend shawn, he said liz (a girl) likes him!! liz is pretty and dom always likes her! soo any way dom goes to shawn-liz likes me, i like her to,shawn goes go out with liz then, dom goes in 5 days!!! that hurt soo much i was gonna cry but i hide it! (im crying as a write this) i love him so much!!! i had my first kiss with him, he had her first kiss with liz!!! i love him to death!!! i would do anything for him!! please help! please tell me how i can get over him!!
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i hope you got rid of him! he is not worth your tears, because i guarantee you there are tons of guys who would LOVE to be with you! i know it's really hard to get over someone, but crying does help, even though it hurts. i really don't want you to cry, because i know you're hurting, but if crying helps, shed a few tears. hanging out with a group of your friends would help. why don't you get with a group of friends, get some pizza, and rent a comedy. i hope i helped and i hope you feel better very soon!
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Hi, my name is Kayla. Everyone has always told me i give good advice, and i really like giving advice. It makes me soo happy when i hear someone's succeeded by my advice. I will try my best to answer any questions. It's also perfectly fine to IM me when i'm on.
A little more about JuSt Me~i'm 17, i have a wonderful boyfriend of over 3 years. i love spending time with him. i also love shopping talking, rollerblading, being outdoors and listening to music. my favorite band is New Found Glory! *i LoVe RuSsElL* :)
*KaYlA ~n~ rUsSeLl 12/13/01-FOREVER!*
*I have another SN it's on AOL/AIM. It's: AngelAyAy7
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Gender: Female Location: Tennessee Occupation: Student Age: 17 AIM: Member Since: February 10, 2005 Answers: 65 Last Update: April 23, 2005 Visitors: 5170
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