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Valentinesz..or...not..
I`m pregnate and i`m not gonna say my age due to how much you all will critisize me.im 2 1/2 months in and valentines day is coming up.. and i`m completely absolutely in love with my baby's dad..one problem is he's not so into me...he is but not as much...at all. I told him i was going to get him something for the day coming up and he said-"no..i`ll feel bad 'cause i`m not getting you anything." we don't go out or anything but I have real feelings for him. He has about 5 other girls that are getting him things to..he said he just doesn't spend money on girls...i don't want anything in return..I just want him to know I care...is that the right thing to do? Or should I do what most my friends day and not get him anything..and try avoiding him for a while until he comes to me?? That's hard..because i know how he is..he says.."I`m not going to chase after a girl..if they dont want me then fine thats them." And trust me, if I don't talk to him..some other girls will..even if i DO have his baby *yes,he knows* ..help help help! please!
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Truthfully? It doesn't sound as if you have any sort of chance to make this work longterm. Now, that's not because of who you are. You sound caring and willing to make things work - but that doesn't mean your baby's dad feels the same way.
It's a matter of respect. If he won't buy you a valentine's gift, even when he knows you want to buy one, if he's accepting gifts from other girls, if he would just let you walk out of his life without putting up a fight - he does not respect you are care about you.
I'm not trying to sound harsh, just realistic. It's unfortunate that you've gotten pregnant by a guy like this, but that doesn't mean you can't give your baby all the love and time it deserves. It just might not be with the two of you in a relationship as its parents.
Even without the relationship working, though, it's important that he is there for the child. Money should be contributed - by him or his parents - and he should be more than willing to spend time caring for the baby once it is born. He doesn't have to love you to love his child.
I hope things work out well for you. Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy, and good luck finding a guy who will treat you the way any human deserves to be treated. You don't have to settle for a guy who doesn't care.
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i don't think you should spend your money on him, but if you really wanna do something for him, write him a poem or something. however, i don't really think you should do that either. if he's not all that into you, and going to go for another girl knowing that you're having his baby, i don't think he's worth it. he should get with it and learn his priorities (which are you and your baby), but that's actually besides the point of this question. you don't have to avoid him, just don't spend a lot of time and money on him. i hope i helped. and by the way~i would NOT criticize you on your age and having a baby.
*KaYlA*
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Well, he obviously won't spend money on his childsupport money if he doesn't spend money on girls. Hon, you have his BABY. That stupid asshole should be spending every penny on you and your baby. And are you even with him? I mean, heez, how much meaner can you get? The man won't spend any money on his baby's mommy. Come on now. What's up wit dat? Hon, five otha gurls buyin' him presents, this boy seems to be a bit of a playa to me. As I usually say, go find yourself a real man.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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Heres the deal, your a dumbass plain and simple, you got involved with an asshole, got pregnant and are now going to have the shittiest life. Your going to be living on welfare and if you arnt your gunna be living on small amounts of money. Get and abortion while its still legal and dump this asshole. YOu sholdnt be involved with him.
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