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my boyfriend has depression. i feel terrible for him, i'm so in love with him and i was wondering if anyone knows anything i can do to make it better? he's one of those kids that you would never expect to have depression because he has tons of friends and is really outgoing and i just wanna know anything i can do or any advice to help him get through this. we're both 16. thanks soo much. (link)
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Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Now before you get pissed at that little comment, let me make it super clear that there is NOTHING wrong with depression.
The only way to treat depression is medication perscribed by a doctor for a person's special case of depression.
Talking to and listening to a depressed person will not cure the person...but it will help. Talking and listening to your boyfriend will be proof to him that someone cares, and may also encourage him to see a doctor about it if he hasn't already, or to start taking medication if he hasn't already.
But, and this is VERY important so listen CLOSELY, do NOT bug him about taking meds, or seeing a doctor, do not tell him what to do to help himself. Often this will make someone with depression feel in a way imprisoned by his disability--medically and mentally depression is considered a disability--and may do more harm than good.
How do I know all this? I'm studying to become a doctor and psychiatrist.
Now, depression is NOT curable. But taking medication will keep depression at bay as long as one stays on their medication. Often someone slips back into a worse and more violent depression because they stop taking their medication because they haven't fealt depressed in a while and feel that they've been completely cured. This is NEVER the case. Make sure he knows this all the time.
Good luck,
JP
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im a 16 female. and hes a 17 male. he acts normal but sometimes it seems like hes losing interest. just the other day he told me hes not having 2nd thoughts on us. so im not sure. but this girl txtd me and told me today that he told her last week that we broke up.well he plays around alot. and idont know if that was meant to be a joke. and sometimes he acts like hes going to breakup with me like if i ask him he goes along with it then says hes kidding. please help me! i really dont want him to break up with me. but i dont know what to do. please and thankyou in advance. oh. and if it means anything. weve been together for 2 months... since xmas eve '08 (link)
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if he wants to leave he'll leave. i'm sorry, but i'm just being honest. don't change at all to try to keep him like that other person said. it might prolong the relationship, but if he is planning to break up with you, when he does, it will just hurt all the more.
Good Luck,
JP
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My ex and I broke up several months ago and it was a messy breakup. We have barely talked since. Now, almost a year later, I have gone through old letters and pictures, and realize I miss him terribly. Our relationship was long and serious, and we had more great times than bad, so it's hard to even justify the breakup. I thought I was over him, but now tears are coming back! Should I just throw all these things away or contact him in any way? I don't know if I should really move on or if something could happen again. (20/F) (link)
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keep everything. one day, you'll be glad you did. but if it makes you sad to look at them, but them in a box, in your room/attic/closet. some day, you'll be happy to go through the old box and remember all the happy times, and you'll laugh instead of cry.
Good luck,
JP
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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance. (link)
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this is a tough question to answer, because, no, I dont think there's anything wrong with a2 year age difference, because how many couples are 3,4,5,6....9 years apart? the thing is, that next year, even though you'll be sixteen, your relationship would be illegal, and that would probably make things a little difficult.
good luck with everything.
JP
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im a female, senior at highschool, im on the hockey team.. i'm the captain, well- i have a crush on one of my teammates brothers, who is also a senior at the same highschool as me, and he is also the captain... well it used to be the typical crush that you have but can't tell him. but lately we been talking everytime we see eachother..
it's mostly like "hey drake, you're garbage at hockey! paha" then all we do is just make a playful argument on who is better.. we don't really get a chance to have that much contact, physicaLly cuz we just started to talk. last weekend, he came over with a bunch of our other friends.. and we hung out the whole night..
we ended up going to applebees with everyone, i drove, and EVERYTIME we got in the car, he automatically went in shot gun. i think we have a competetive way of flirting, but it doesn't put eachother down.. i really really like him, he is so dreamy!
his birthday is friday.. i wanna do something so he knows i kinda like him, but not something that makes it seem like im coming on too strong..
heres an idea soo it makes it maybe a little bit more easy so you can branch off ideas.
-im thinking about fillin a balloon with helium writing "Happy birthday drake" on it, then tie the string onto a hockey puck, that has (link)
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I like your idea a lot, but "
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i'm 16. my ex and i went out for 10 month. separated for four and then got back together for two weeks. I foudn out that he had turned into someone totally different/player. So anyway, he texts me again now two weeks after we break up. He was an ass to me. He was being so rude, i don't get it, it gets on my nerves. He said the most hurtful things, for example: I don't care that we aren't together anymore. He was my first real love, so ofcourse its gonna take a while for me to get over him. But wat the hel is his problem. Why does he have to be so freakin rude? what do you guys think? (link)
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its hard to say. people do a number of things for different reasons. no two people think exactly alike.
but i can give you a list of ideas.
1) he's not over you but thinks there's no way you'll take him back so gets over his pain by hurting you
2) he really doesn't care and has no conscience so doesnt care if he hurts you
3) doesn't know how else to treat an ex
4) is scared cause he knows/thinks he did something wrong
hope this helps.
Good luck
JP
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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communication is very important in every relationship. as a girl, i know face-to-face communication is something very important to most girls when in a relationship.
but no one can tell you who's right for you. that's all yours.
sorry i can't give you any more than that.
good luck.
JP
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so this is a little confusing,...so its gonna be kinda lengthy. bear with me. O.o
soooooo i guess it all started when my boyfriend M said he had a crush on my closest friend when he and i werent going out...the friends name is A. this kind of upset me a bit cuz shes so much prettier and smarter and a lot nicer than me. so it seemed pretty typical to me, but still upset me. and one night a few days before valentines day, we all smoked weed together and such. it was fun, but he looked like he was kind of flirting with her..to me anyways. maybe it was the weed, im not sure. but thats what it seemed like..
so yesterday, my ex, P sold me some weed at M's house, (and P just happens to of been good friends with M since they were really little.) and then we all got high together, and P and i kind of flirted a little, but i didnt know i was until i had started coming down from the high.
and M seemed really upset as soon as i had started to notice. he just laid on his bed and stared at nothing for 2 hours, and then fell asleep. P and i wanted to walk to P's house to get more weed, (i know im mentioning weed a lot, but please do not tell me to stop that. weed has NOTHING to do with my question.) and M said we could go without him. like he didnt even want to be around us. this upset me a bit, and when we got back, M's dad took me home and usually M gets out of the car to hug me and tell me he loves me, but this night he just stayed in the car and said "bye"...but he didnt say it meanly.
anyways, i think P is really cool, and i like smoking with him. but hes not the guy i fell in love with, and i think i was flirting cuz my subconscience was telling me to get back at M for flirting with A. i have no idea. but M usually invites me over everyday, and he hasnt called me yet and its almost lunch time for me. he usually asks at 9. and if, by any chance he DOES ask me over later, what do i say to him? (link)
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I'd tell him exactly what you told me. trust and communication are a big and important factor in every relationship. Its important you always tell each other how you feel and ask each other questions when you have them.
Good luck. i hope that helps.
JP
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I'm just going to say this is going to be very long, so try to keep up an enjoy the ride.
Ok, so last year I was in a play at school and I fell madly in love with a guy we're going to call "Jack." Jack and I had been friends since the beginning of the year but I didn't really like him until we were working together. Sufice to say I ended up with a HUGE crush on him. In moment of foolishness I told him I liked him a lot. He took me out into the hall and explained that he could never like me like that because I was too close of a friend. Plus, his parents wouldn't let him date until he was 16. I was crushed but we still decided to be friends and have remained good friends since.
Fast forward a year:
Jack and I have become increasingly close. Jack just had his 16 birthday and I was invited. One of his two best riends wasn't invited to make room for me. We're doing another play together (Les Misérables, hence the whores)and hang out a bunch. Yesterday when we had our scene together (I'm a whore and he's a sailor) he literally would not stop grabbing me. I was supposed to be with the other whores across the room but he firmly planted his hands around my waist. I said, "Jack, I have to go over and talk to 'John' too! Let me go, I'll be back in a minute!" He scowled at John and later said to me "I wish I was the only sailor who got to bring you home at night."
I still have a bunch of feelings for Jack. I mean, I he asked me out I'd say yes in a heartbeat. But I'm so confused as to if he actually likes me or if he's just being friendly.
So people, here are my questions:
1. Do you think Jack likes me as a friend, or MORE than a friend?
2. If he only likes me as a friend, do you have any tricks (Or think I have a chance in hell)to get him to like me?
Sorry this was so long! Thanks for being patient and all the advice I'm sure will ensue. :) (link)
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well, this is an impossible question to answer--if he likes you--because I dont know either of you. so my advice is to just tell him exactly what you told us: that you still like him, and are confused as to HIS feelings.
that's what i'd do.
Hope it all works out for you.
Good luck.
Julie P.
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well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/ (link)
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It's not wrong. Granted, it IS illegal, and he could get into serious trouble. Love comes in many shapes and sizes...and ages.
But if you really cared about him, you'd explain to him the situation, make him understand, and cut it off.
I'm not telling you what to do. That's all up to you. I'm just telling you MY opinion. (My OTHER opinion is to take my first into careful consideration.)
Good luck. I hope you find your way.
Julie P.
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17/f
Is it possible to build a worthwhile relationship with a "ladies' man?" What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He seems to know all of the right things to say and do but sometimes doesn't seem genuine. Thanks! (link)
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Of COURSE it's possible! ANYTHING'S possible! Sure his..."knowledge"...may seem a little too perfect, but you have no reason not to trust him yet, do you? If you do, then be careful. There's nothing worse then knowing you didn't trust him but let him blind side you. But if he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him yet, then go for it. Good luck!!!
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I'm 16 years old , Female . Well I fell in love at the age of 14 [ don't care if anyone thinks it's too young ] . Me and my first love Dated for a year and 3 months . We broke up summer of O8' June 1st , and best believe it was the hardest thing I thinkk i've had to go through . Well In November I started dating this guy named Jason , treats me better than any guy ever has ... Well I do love him and believe I am in love with him. Problem though , It's so hard getting over Justin [ first love ] & it sucks because i'm the first girl Jason [ current bf ] has ever been " in " love with . Y'all it's almost been a year since the break up with Justin & I really need to get over him but I know it takes time ... But I feel horrible bc I can't give my whole heart to Jason when I still feel as if Justin has some of it but I have all of Jason's heart ... It would'nt be that hard if Justin did'nt go to the same school abd I see him everyday . But Jason said he'd wait because i'm worth it but honestly no guy wants to stick around when ur stuck on someone else .. Help me get over Justin , I need to give my all , 100% to Jason , he's the greatest boyfriend i've had . (link)
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Think back. Who broke up with whom? Think back. Why? Think back. What made you except Jason's first offer. Think back. Wahat do you like about Justin and Jason. Think back. What don't you like about the two J's. Who has more likes? Dislikes? From you.
I hope this helps. It helped ME.
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