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Heyy I'm HurleyGurley and i'm here to help you with your problems and questions! If you ever ask me a question i'll be sure to answer you back right away! Much love :) xoxo

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this guy and i have been liking eachother for over a year and things are starting to happen. he has slept with 6 girls ao i guess he might be considered a "whore" im a virgin and he knows that and he told me that he liked me enough not to have sex with me. the thing is that i want to have sex with him. i think im ready and i trust him completely. i just dont know if im too young or if i might regret it so i kind of need some help. by the way im 16 if that helps at all..

if you reallly want to do it and he wants to also, then dont question it and go for it! but if your unsure i think its best you wait, and also he seems kinda sleezy if hes already done it with like 6 other girls.. but its your choice! :) xoxo

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ok, well ive been dating this guy for a like a year, but now i feel like the realitionship is faded and i dont like him as much. now i always feel awkward around him. I still want to be with him, but im just so confused. its not fair for both of us to not be able to date around becuase we have been together for so long. So im asking advice for two things: How can I get over this whole doubtness and how can i tell him i want to maybe date exclusivly.


-lost in love

tell him your feelings, if its fading then change it! spend more time together and if it doesnt work its time to find a new man, talk to him about it! :) xoxo

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My best friend I and both like the same guy. He recently asked her out, and now everyone thinks that I'm mad at her; and I'm not!! I think that she might belive what thery're saying, and I don't want our friendship to fall apart. PLEASE RESPOND ASAP!

~Liz

just go and tell her yourself that your not mad at her, easy as that! if she's a good friend she will believe you instead of everyone else! :) xoxo

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i dnno wat 2 do my bf is bein' a pain , should i dump him?

umm well what is he doing that's "bein' a pain"? like i dnno the situation...tell me more :) xoxo

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Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!)

ok maybe its just be but to me this "Naz" guy sounds like chump and i don't think you should really be wasting your time on him and giving yourself up, but it is your desicion and i think you should listen to your brother, if you want a good reputation you should wait but if you want to be known as a slut go ahead, :) xoxo -i know im sorry i may sound mean but it's the truth and im trying to be as honest as possible

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This boy (lets call him Dan) asked me if i wanted to go out 2 dinner with him, i said yes, but i dont fancy him or anything. i dont really know him either, so what do i do if i didnt enjoy the date and dont want to go out again ( i hate hurting peoples feeling) whats the nicest way of putting it??? thanx

i just think you better tell him the truth, cause if you lie and say you had a good time you'd be leading him on thinking you like him and well i don't think you want that to happen and so just be honest with him, if you have anymore questions you can always ask me, anything, anytime! :) xoxo

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im sry i just picked this category cuz its where most people go. but somhing weird just happened. i was out bak and itss very dark cuz its like 9. and i look at the woods in my yard and.............i saw something. ....i dont want 2 believe wat i saw cuz peeps wud tthink im wweird....but i saw a pair of bright...hypnotic...red eyes. now im the kinda guy who think movies like signs and the mothman prophocies r wicked gay. i dont get scared by hem i getbored. but as i stared at these eyes i felt llight headed andd i kept hearing this sharp,crackly sound coming rom he eyes. then it all of a sudden took off!!i jumed up in the air i saw its shadowy silouhette in the sky. it reminded me alot bout mothman. but i live in Mass. this has really freakedd me out. should i tell som1?

yeah sure you can tell anybody what you saw and im sure nobody would call you a freak, well i don't really beleive that there are animals out there liek that, it was probably just your imagination...sometimes tha happens to me when i get freaked out i kinda just think about scary things( not on purpose) and i get scared a lot..dont worry :) xoxo

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Can anyone give me Ideas? I want to get my boyfriend a gift and I'm all out of ideas!!! Some info that might help you is he is kinda in the middle of punk and prep not in clicks or anything he is 17 and we have been dating for 7 1/2 months. I want something thats cute and shows I love him but does not but cost a lot of money~ Please help me out~

well you could get him a book, cd's , dvd's, a wallet, flowers, chocolates, clothes, things guys like, just think about it and the the perfect idea will come to you! :) xoxo

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this question is for my friend:

my boyfriend is so sweet. he'd never cheat on me and he never acts Interested in another girls or stuff like that. do you think he could be gay? because he doesn't seem to be interested when girls are wearing skimpy clothes on tv or pictures and id ont think he looks at it on his own. but he gets horny around me. i don't think he is but soemtimes i wonder.

well if he was gay than i don't think he'd be going out with you would he? maybe he just feels uncomfortable watching those kinda things with you around, not all guys can be into things like that i guess or not as much as others! :) xoxo

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i sorta REALLY flirted with this guy n made out n blah blah with him.. but one of my best friends all of the sudden likes him.. what should i do :\

you should tell her what you did wiht this guy and that you like (if you do) and if she's a friend she'll understand! just tlak it over! :) xoxo

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ok i gotta ask this now..i heard someone say something bout there bf bein bipolar..what does that mean? is it like split personality?! also..my ex was really mean and called me hoe and stuff then like the day before that he was like baby i love you ill never leave ur side..is that bipolar?

yes that is bipolar cause someone that is bipolar is someone who could be really happy one day than totally change and be sad the next day! :) xoxo if you have anymore questions you can ask me!

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hey...
i'm really shy around my boyfriend most of the time ... how do i stop being shy?

hey just get to know him better and you guys will eventually get close, i had the same problem and then i realized that we were best friends before and i didnt want this "going out" to ruin our friendship, just be yourself around him and talk to him more! :) xoxo

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well im 13 and my boyfriends 16 going on 17 and his aunt that lives upstairs from came down and tolled me that he had a girlfriend and his juss playing with me.. and then earlier i let him go up my shirt because i trusted him ALOT and everything so when i found out i was a surprise because he tolled he dint have a girlfriend but his not the kind of person that would seem to bee doing sumtting like that because his really nice and den just about everywun sayed he had another girl friend and everything and i really wanna hear it from him and crap because i really really like him and shyt so i dunno what to really do.. to belive everywun else or wait till he comes next week to see me and ask him and i juss dont no anymore if im going to dumo him or not because everywun wants him and shyt and i have him AND I guess some other bitch does too..



what should i doo

p.s he comes every week to see me bacuse his in job tec. and its very very far so he stays thier overnite.. till friday and his like in highschool he sould be a senior but he satyed back 2 times

you should ask him about it! talk to him, ask him for the truth and hopefully he'll tell you that your the only girl he could ever imagine himself with! dont worry! :) xoxo

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is it normal to masturbate?

um acually yes it is...hope i answered your question! :) xoxo

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i'm 12 and my bf is 13 and he wants me to do more stuff than i think i should and that i'm ready for and i'm already kinda expericed but i dont wanna go any further but i dont know how to tell him. could u tell me how to tell him that i wanna slow down pleez and thanx u

i've been through the same thing with my boyfriend, all i do is tell him that maybe we should take it slower and not get ahead of ourselves, that i'm not ready for osme of the thigns that he is...i know he'll understand! :) xoxo

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Okay i have been with the same guy for the past 4 years all high school you could pretty much say, but anyway...All this time i have been a virgin yeah we do everything else and yatta yatta but i dont know i think that i want to have sex with him, i know that im ready but idk I love him with all my heart but what if i could get better or something? i mean i know hes awesome at everything else but what if hes not good at sex? then what do i do just resort to everything else that has kepted me happy all this time? please give me some advice
-Cass-

well don't do anything you don't want to do and i wouldn't rush into having sex with him if you don't want to, if you really think that he's the one than i would go for it but sex should a special thing so i'd cherish it, oh and usually the first time people have sex you don't really know whats good or whats bad its usually after a couple times when you realize that, oh and if you have any other questions you can ask, even personal things, dont be afraid! love ya! :) xoxo

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Alright, my ex boyfriend "Jim" and I haven't talked since he's broken up with me about 2 months ago. We've dated a couple of times before, but he was always the one to break up with me, even though we loved eachother very much. Well, after 2 months of me not talking to him, he's started calling me again, and wanting to see me. I know his intentions are good, and I know that he loves me, because he actually cries over me, and writes songs about me and such. But I'm just not sure if I should try it with him again, because I don't want him to break my heart again, but I do want to be with him. So much, I would take a bullet for this guy. Also, my best friend hates him, because he's broken up with me so many times before. And she doesn't hate a lot of people. I know it would be wrong to date him if my best friend hated him, but you have no idea how much I want to be with this guy. I don't want to fuck up mine and my best friend's relationship, but I'm also terribly in love with this guy, and vise versa. Can you help me please?

well since you seem to really love this guy i really think you should go back out wiht him, you know you love him! if you best friends really seems to hate him than ask her why shes hates him and tell her that you really do still love him, if she's a real friend she would understand, and as for him talk to him about how he needs to stop hurting you in the way of breaking up and that he needs to think things over before he ever makes any desicions like for example breaking up with you! hope i helped :) xoxo

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my aunts best friend had a son and they ALL told me i would like her son and we emindently hit it off!! hes got BABY BLUE eyes and hes gergous!! the prob is ...hes really short im 5'2 and hes a head shorter then me!! we went to an amusement park and it was kinda embarassing to be seen with him!! but then again i wanted to b near him n stuff and im having mixed feelings!! hes the sweetest guy ever and we wentt o my other aunts house for dinner and we wer playin like tackle football hes just soo nice im not afraid to b myself around him i really like him but idk...shuld i juss not kare wat ppl think? i really like him but its kinda embarassing....idk..it sounds mean but ya i need help

i think a lot of girls have had boyfriends that were shorter than them including me and you shouldn't care what people think, cause you know you like him and you guys seem to be falling for each other and he sounds really nice and dont be afraid to be yourself around him! :) xoxo

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Okay,me and my bf had been going out for like a month now..I love him somuch and i think he feels the same..well he definetely said he did.And like today i was just like "do you think maybe we should just be friends since school is starting in like 2 weeks?" cuz he lives like 25-30 min. away so i only see him like twice a week :( and he was like "i don't know :( what do you think?" and i was just like "idk either cuz i think ur gonna like other girls at ur school" and like i just wanted to see if he would wanna do that and I dont know...we did break up and now i feel horrible..everyone that talks to him about it says that he is really heartbroken and he loves me a lot...but i dont know!We live far away and I think just maybe hes hiding his feelings :/ but I just dont know..help plz.. I MISS HIM!

you definitnly need to ask him out again! distance really shouldn't matter when 2 people love each other! :) xoxo

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what's a hicky?

a hicky is when your like making out with a guy and he kisses you almost always somewhere near the neck bacially sucking that part, i know that sounds weird but its just liek this circular red mark on your neck :) xoxo

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