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Hi. My name is Kaylin. But I'd prefer if you called me Captain Hitsugaya. Please and thank you!
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I have been dating this guy for 10 months on the 25th of this month. When we first started dating I love him so much, but then we got further in the relationship and I found out things I didn't like for instance I made a fake myspace with a pretty girl for the person and I started talking sexy to him to see if he would go for it or say he has a girlfriend. In conclusion to that he pretty much was all over her and tried to get "her" to come over to him house to have sex. He loves me so it's like every time I try to break up with him he won't let me, it's like I always go back to him. Lately and I have been fighting with him constantly. It's like I'm a bitch to him all the time and I can't stop. Everything he does annoys the shit out of me. It's like I don't like being around him anymore.

What should I do?
Do you think we should break up?
or what?

If you love him,you should talk to him and really get to the root of the problem. Try to figure out what went wrong and try to reverse it.
You need to act like you are still being chased. No matter if we admit it or not,women liked being chased by a g uy.And in turn,men like to chase.It keeps the relationship spicy.Act how you would normally act at the begining of the relationship.You are always complimenting each other and really,sincerely listening to them,and writing love letter,etc. Try to go back to the best them of your relationship.Talk to him about this and tell him if he really wants to be with you,it'll have to be like that.Because otherwise you both will be miserable.

~Hitsugaya~

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I'm in love.

My boyfriend is 18, I'm 16.

We've been going steady for a few months now, no problems and no fights.
We practically live together- he either sleeps over at my house, or I sleep over at his.

No matter what, we cant get enough of each other's company.

A friend of mine told me, that if things are going the way they have been for at least a couple more months, that my boyfriend was thinking about proposing to me.

What should I think of this?
Or really, what should I do if this occurs?
I could see myself with him forever, but I am only 16, raging with hormones.

If you want to say yes,you should. But if you are not sure,tell him wait til you are ready.

~Hitsugaya~

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About 2 weeks ago my xboyfriend said he wanted to be friends and I was fine with that. We broke up about 4 weeks ago but ever since we had been friends he been wanting to have sex

You need to tell him it is over and that if he can't be friends and only friends,you can't even be that.
If you still love him then tell him that he should be with you if he wants to do that kind of stuff.
If you aren't even ready to have sex,tell him. If he doesn't respect that,ditch him. He's not who you want to hang with.

~Hitsugaya~

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okay, so this boy really likes me and we've talked alot over the summer and he wants to go out with me when i get back from vacation. hes a lot more experienced then me and ive never had a real boyfriend before. ive been asked out many times but ive just been able to say no. i really like this kid and i was wondering what to say when he asks me out. like do i say, yes, yeah, of course? what? please help!!! i rate high for good answers!

It may seem scary but when it comes up say the first thing that comes to mind. Don't worry about sounding like an idiot.A guy likes a girl to be herself.And if he doesn't want to go out with you because you may have said something dorky,he's not worth your time.

~Hitsugaya~

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Hey I have a question about clothes. What kind of clothes should I wear to be more attractive to girls. I have most of the basics of dress down but just wanted some tips. Any advice is appreciated. 16/M

That depends on what kind of girl you want. (Such as goth=goth clothes,prep=prep clothes,etc.)
Some things are a given though. Don't just focuse on your clothes though. Girls like guys that have nice body and clothes that show them off without the guy looking gay.
If you plan a date with a girl,wear a suit without a tie. Girls like the idea of a really romantic date and suits and tuxes go with that.
Unless you happen to just be hanging out somewhere. But I mean a real date.Not just hanging out.

~Hitsugaya~

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sorry if this is long but it's making me so upset.

so i went out with 'tom' for almost a year and a half. it was good in the beginning but after awhile i began to like him less and less. it came to the point that the last few months i couldn't even stand him and he was annoying and i ended up always being mean to him because of this. well, while we were going out, there was this girl at work and they always flirted with eachother. in his yearbook she signed a full page saying how much of a best friend he was, and i love you about 10 times atleast. i was there when he was reading it and he just had the biggest smile on his face. he always had stories about her and i asked him, why do you always talk about her. and all he said was because he worked with her. he used to call me right when we got home from school, at 2:30, but for the last few months the only time we would talk (if he worked) was 3 minutes while he was on his way to work. then, one day i saw him walking and he had a big smile on his face, talking on the phone with someone. this was the same day i read the yearbook. i told my friend, if he's talking to 'kayla', i'm going to be so pissed off. and i call him, and im like so who were you talking to, "oh, kayla." oh, why? "i just wanted to know who we were working with today" .. oh okay.
seriously, he couldn't wait two hours to SEE who he was working with? did it really matter that much. okay so moving on. i started to get really annoyed by him, so i knew it had to be done because i was wasting both our time, and i dumped him. well he was all like we should stay friends and not stop talking and blah blah blah. well we were okay with calling every couple days, not really serious, and talking. then we stopped talking for a week or more. (i dumped him around 3 weeks ago). so i saw this girl that works with him, and i was told that he went on a DATE with kayla. i was so pissed off. seriously, i knew that they liked eachother WHEN we were going out. oh yeah, and while we were going out, she had a boyfriend that she's been going out for almost TWO YEARS. and a few days ago, they broke up. imagine the coincidence? now we barely talk anymore, and i was kind of talking to him online and he's all like "you were so mean to me for the last 3 months and i know you were serious even though you say you were just kidding. that's why i'm almost over you" this is coming from the kid that was head over heals for me (not to sound conceited), and was so upset when i wanted to on a break. it's been two weeks after our year and a half relationship, and he's already dating some girl. i'm so upset about this. i even told my friends, even if he went out with the prettiest girl in the world, or even one of my FRIENDS, i wouldn't care as much. it's just the fact that it was her. it's not like i like him anymore, maybe i do .. but i thought i didn't for MONTHS at a time. i want to not care anymore, but it's killing me just knowing that they like eachother and it's over. i don't know what to do. we barely talk anymore, it's all her now. how can i stop caring so much, and move on?

Oh. Girl you are so much better then him!
He's a jerk.The more you realize that,the better you will feel.
And if you come to grips with the fact that he no longer likes you,there is nothing you can do about it.It may not want to be what you want to hear but it will help you feel better and move on.
Find a guy better than him.Be single for awhile and get to know yourself and what you want in a guy. Learn from it and pick yourself up.Then find a guy that is way better than him!

~Hitsugaya~

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Ok..im 17/F and ive never had a boyfriend..i have been on some first dates but didnt want to take it any furthur. My friends are making me feel bad because all they talk about is there boyfriends..i mean..thats ALL THEY TALK ABOUT and it makes me feel bad about myself..i dont know if they do it intentionally because htey know ive never had one or they just dont know theyre doing it? What do you think about this and am i just a freak that ive never had a bf?

Your friends aren't trying to hurt you.When you are going out with someone,all you want to talk about is that person. So it's nothing personal.
And you need to try going on more than one date. You might be pushing away guys yourself.

~Hitsugaya~

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my bf said he likes to be kissed on the neck.. um, yeah.. how am i supposed to do that? haha

Do it when he doesn't really see it coming.
When he turns his neck up,give him a romantic peck on the neck and that should do the trick.
And if you want you can even give him a serious of kisses which would be better and he would like it more.

~Hitsugaya~

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this is me: im 13 im only a small bit over average height, i have slightly tanned skin, im pretty thin, i have short spikey dark blond hair, i skate, i play football, i have a deep voice, i like to wear boards shorts, flip-flops, tee shirts and caps. i wear abercrombie and hollister.i like to play sport and im easy to talk to.

I don't see why a girl already doesn't.
Just give things time and focuse on other things.
And if you like a girl,get to know her.Then go for it.
~Hitsugaya~

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would you consider slow dancing with another girl cheating?

no

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alright so last night i asked my boyfriend if he was ever in love and he said yeah and i was like do you still have feelings for her? and he was like i always will but its was over along time ago and always will be.

so in a way that got me thinking would he ever love me?
or always lover her?

what if she ever came back, would he leave me for her?
even though it was along time ago.

no,he loves you.
what he means by he still has feelings for her is that when he thinks about her,it's still with alot of feeling.
but he still has feelings for you that will grow.
and he would not want to leave you because of those feelings.

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I love spending all of my time at the beach. You might think it's because of the waves (which I do surf) or the soft sand, but it's not. I love it there because of one of the lifeguards. His name is Cameron and he is ADORABLE! I don't know what to do to get his attention. I walk by him all the time and try not to make it obvious but I really want him to hang out with me.

I also want to have more guy friends. Does anyone have some tips for this coming school year on how to behave or what to do? DON'T SAY "BE YOURSELF!"
thanks

even though it's not what you want to hear,being yourself is part of it.
you have to be able to treat you guy friends like a human instead of a male. ya know what i'm sayin? take away the fact that the guy is not of the same gender.
there are,however,a few rules.
1.do not talk about your period,EVER!!!! guys do not want to hear about it.
2.when you tell him a story about something that happened,make it a minute or less. You don't have to tell him every detail.just the main points.

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i'm 15/female

i'm scared incase my friends think i'm a lesbian,..i'm not u am straight,..but i just have a funny feeling they all think i am and because of this when i talk to them i always make sure i look at their eyes incase like i look them up and down,...but i can't remember why i started thinking this cos before i never bothered at all but now its like when ever i'm near them i'm scared to look at anywhere other than their eyes incase they think i'm a lesbian

why am i like this
i no i'm not a lesbian i love boys wayy to much

i'm just confused

don't worry about what your friends think. if they think you are they aren't really your friends.you should talk to them!
approach it carefully though! your friends might think you are accusing them.
and if they say yes they think you are tell them you are not.if they do not believe you,then ditch them. why be friends with somebody who doesn't accept all of you?

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