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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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I am going to be honest. You may not like my answer/advice.
He isn't over her. I personally have experienced grief and it takes a long time for you to "move on" from something like that. He may love you but he is not fully ready to commit to you 100%. You should be there for him but I would suggest not just wait around for him. He will need time before he can fully commit to you.
I would talk to him and tell him that. You want to be with him and you love him, but feel like he still has some feelings for his ex.
I would focus on yourself for now.
Maybe in the future when he is not in love with his ex you can try again. You do not need to fully cut him out of your life but set limits.
You are beautiful and a wonderful girl. You'll be fine with out without him :) I hope I helped in anyway :)
~Hardcore-Band-Geek
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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You can of course be friendly with him. But i wouldn't always move over to stand with him unless he calls you over. Don't unnecessarily touch him too much. (like hand on the shoulder or hugging A LOT.) We can tell sometimes if we are coming off like in a flirty way. Just watch how you act around him :)
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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I would get them both in a room and talk to them together. That you want to be there for your friend's wedding, an important day for her. But that you always want to spend time on your anniversary, a day important for YOU and your husband.
Talk to them and see if you guys can come up with a plan to make things work. Just let both know that each event is equally important to you.
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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Yes we all lie to our significant others, but honestly, you should just move on. You asked for a second chance, and he didn't give you one. Don't try to force your guys' relationship back together. It'll only make him less likely to want to patch things up.
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fun things to do while making out with ur girlfreind
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Well to be honest, just ask her if there is anything she would like to try. You could always push her against a wall and kiss her deeply.
It really depends on the girl. :)
I know its not that specific, but hey just go with the flow, maybe you'll find something you both enjoy!
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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as i said the first time my bf broke up with me blah blah blah and so on and when he broke up with me he needed his gades up to get back together and now he is saying i dont like you anymore like that i like this girl we are never getting back together what should i do i am 100 percent sure i still love him i dont know what to do please help i love him so so much (link)
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I'm sorry honey, but if he's not interested in you, you will just have to accept it and move on. That's all you can do, you can't force him to return your feelings. Just move on and maybe you'll find another guy who will spark your interest.
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I'm 15/f. I have this best friend that's a guy and I've known him for about 5 years. He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer and he's not the best looking either. He's super nice and has always listened to me when I vent and talk. I can always laugh when I'm around him. He has helped me feel better about the disorders I have and about me self harming. He has done drugs before and has smoked ect. I asked him if he wanted to hangout in a week or so and so for the first time ever, I will be doing weed with him. Do not talk me out of it and it is not peer pressure; he would never force me to do anything I didn't want to. I am doing it because it won't leave terrible scars like cutting and burning my skin does. He accepts me for who I am though which is very important to me. Lately, I've been realizing that he's acting a bit flirtatious towards me. We joke around and send kissy faces through text but his seems more sincere and he always compliments me and is very cute with what he says to me. Is he falling for me? Will he take advantage of me when I do drugs with him? Am I gunna end up being his girlfriend? (link)
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OK, I won't talk you out of smoking Marijuana with this guy.
But hon, only you can answer those questions. We can't. we don't know you or your best friend.
Do you like him? That's all you need to know, and go from there.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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How old are you two??
Long distance relationships between two people (Who have already met) is hard.
An online relationship between two people who have never met is even harder.
This isn't always the case, but sometimes people on the internet are not who they say they are! The could change their gender and age online to meet other people. and the thing is, you can never tell.
I'm going to guess that you are either in your late teens- early adolescent years.
Yes you can wait for this guy, but why not look at the boys/men around you? You can have a more personal and intimate relationship when you can be face to face with someone. Not over the internet.
Of course you can have online friends, I've made plenty. But i never tell them : where I'm from, school i go too etc.
SO please, be careful.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.
We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.
I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.
He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.
He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.
We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.
I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time? (link)
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Look, I i know you love him and it sounds like he does love you back. Yes he has a point that you guys are young and he doesn't want/or does feel restricted by any relationship. Yet he shouldn't be stringing you along like this.
I suggest you go up to him and say "We need to take a break while you clear your head about if you want us together or not." Cause honey It is NOT fair for him to be saying we aren't dating right now, BUT i want you to wait for me! That is in no way fair!!
He may need sometime to clear his head and get a grip on things and think about what he wants. You can still have feelings for him, he might still have them for you but it is not your responsibility to wait for him. You're young and free! Maybe meet some new guys and make some friends (nut don't jump into anything too serious yet!) Have fun and I wish you the best of luck
- Hardcore Band Geek
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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Umm it is possible but I'm not sure exactly. I would get a pregnancy test to be 100% sure
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21/F
I'm really crushing on this guy I know through uni and want to pursue it, but a) at the moment he's just an acquaintance, and b) he has a girlfriend back home. (I know that some people would disapprove of pursuing him at all since he's in a relationship, but you never know how happy someone is in their relationship, or whether their relationship is even monogamous, so I don't think there's harm in trying, but I do think I need to be more careful and not overstep my bounds.)
Basically, him and I are on the same course, are both involved in a few of the same societies, and he's also good friends with a couple of my close friends. We're a part of the same social circle but not friends ourselves. We've hung out in person amongst groups a fair few times, and briefly chatted one on one online. We're always liking each other's comments on discussion threads on our society pages, and then about a week ago he messaged me privately in relation to one of these discussions, and we've been chatting on IM since. Today the conversation got just a little more personal so I'm hoping we'll be able to branch out in topics and become friends. (Also, it's not flirtatious at all currently.)
Basically my question is, what do I do from here? It's still a month till we'll be back at uni and amid the same social scene, so there's no chance of hanging out in person until then. Ideally I want to become friends and also would like to subtly imply that I'm interested in more without being super obvious about it, so that he'll have an idea and can respond if he wants.
So, what should I do to instigate a friendship and possible romance?
Thanks x (link)
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I'm just going to be straight to the point and honest. It is wrong to think/actively pursue a guy who is already in a relationship. It's not fair to his partner/girlfriend. How would you like it if someone was flirting and pursuing your boyfriend while you couldn't do anything to stop it?
It's rude and shows you don't respect that he is already committed to someone. "He might not even be in a monogamous relationship" that is still not an excuse.
Ok but to your actually question, i would start off with just being friends, but not go further for now. I would wait until he becomes single again, or if he starts showing signs he's interested in you.
BUT if he is still dating her and starts flirting with you, don't date him. That shows he doesn't even respect or truly commit to his relationships. My mom always says "How would you feel if you were in their shoes?" think about it from that perspective.
So just becomes friends. Who knows maybe in the future something else will develop, Great relationships blossom from great friendships.
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hello
I'm a loyal type of guy one women
men and I'm in love with one of
mine senior
friend she know i madly love her
but
i dont know what she feels because
she
did such a things with me which
makes me depressed and always
hurting me not talking properly
always in rude manner but
sometimes she talk in very
soft and in polite manner and
whenever we use
to hangout together she is always
observing my expression what I
feel
when she says that she like
someone else she share all her past
secret but not telling the name of
guy (currently) to whom she like
aur loved(dont know any other guy
is in her life aur I). she is not fully
ignoring nor fully
allowing mee I am quite no totally
confused what she feels ...??
and always saying to me juss move
on and
concentrate on your future..! If i
guess she loves me but not
showing her
feelings because she feels dat I am
diverting from my goal and path
due to her
thats why she do this type of things
to
get me on
track. (only predictions not
confirm) And before she said to
her friend that when nobody
supports me Than he supports me
in my bad days. i don't why she is
behaving like this with even if she
knows that i supported in her bad
days...?? and when I ask her friend
that does she feel something for
me, she replied yes....!! (do she is
selfish type..?) one day I was out of
control of my feelings just want to
talk to her, so i ring but she said
she is buzy than i called to her
friend and i told everythng which
took before after half and hour her
friend called me and said she don't
like u she like someone else and if
this type of madness is continued
than she will break friends with
you...!! this sounds strange....?? for last 2 months we didn't talk properly only 'hi' and 'hello' type..!!
what to do...?? (link)
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Ok, 1 I'm just going to state, You've posted this exact same question, At least 3 time!! Why? Our answers will not change.
I think you should stop pursing her and find someone new, who will love you for who you are, and not send mixed signals.
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My girlfriend asking me why I love her.
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I'm probably around your age. So I'm going to answer to my best ability.
We want to know that you actually have feelings for us, like/love us for who we are. Not just our bodies. We want to make sure our feelings are reciprocated in the same way.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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There's this kid that almost got with my girlfriend while we were on a break and every time I seem to have a low moment, he seems to be having the highest moments of his life. For example 2 years ago they almost got together but her and I worked things through. That summer I had a really rough time while this other kid lost like 90 pounds and began to look great. Then this year he became a marine and here I am starting college not knowing what I want to do. Everyone praises him and his life seems awesome. I feel so insecure because I fear the fact that she may have second thoughts about us and I always feel like I have to look out for this kid and it is keeping me from living my life. What should I do? (link)
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All I have to say is that you will have to focus on yourself and not this other guy. You are insecure, you point that out. Good for you. You will just have to try and keep this guy out of your head. If anything, talk to your girlfriend.
You will find what you want to do in life. It just takes time :)
You will be okay, just stop obsessing over this guy!! You shouldn't be looking out for him.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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hey guys my name is Jenna and i have a relationship crisis there is this guy and we are bestfriends he is the sweetest and he seems intrested in me but my friends are always embarrasing me infront of him we have a good friendship he lives wit his grandparents they will let me and my friends in. i went in to his bedroom and spooned him he was asleep and he woke up and i said that was great last night it was so funny i almost died well tonight he was asleep me him and my two friends went in to his room and my BESTFRIEND (female not male) was flirting with him so we went on a walk we joked around a little then said good night and im gona go to his house tommorow how should HOW SHOULD I PRANK HIM AND SHOULD I TELL HIM I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM???????????? (link)
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Yes I would tell him. Not because you want to get to him before you friend does, but do it because you want him to know.
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My girlfriend is always texting this guy see says is just a friend that comes into work and he doesn't mean nothing to her. They talk everyday all day while she's at work. Lately I've found her texting him to see what he's doing instead of him looking for her. When I asked her about it she just said I had nothing to worry about and see won't talk to him anymore but now she has him under a females name trying to cover up so I think she's not talking to him anymore. Am I just looking into this the wrong way or should I be worried? Thanks Taz170 (link)
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I agree with LauraGracey. Whenever my boyfriend asks who I'm talking to I'll tell him (guy or girl) If he has a problem with me talking to someone I will ask him why and see if it's reasonable. If it is i respect that, but i don't let him tell me who to not talk to.
Now here's the alarming part of this question.
If he is under a girl's name on your girlfriend's phone that is a REALLY bad sign. It sounds like she might be cheating!
And like LauraGracey said. If you haven't been together long; break up with her. If over a year or close, talk it out.
If you do talk to her, tell her how you don't like that she talks to him so much. That if she says she will stop talking to him, to go through with it and not hide this from you.
What she is doing is disrespectful. If she is hiding it, that sounds like cheating.
hope this helped
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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So I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm 18.. The thought of it is kinda depressing. It is always, either a guy approaches me but I don't like them or either I like them but they don't like me or we both like each other but then the other party doesn't want to commit to me. Although I keep telling myself that I don't need one. That I need to focus on school, and become a better me and the right one will eventually come ..but even through all this chant in my head I can't help but still feel lonely. I mean I'm not ugly, id say I'm pretty decent, but yet whenever my friends breakup with someone they somehow are able to bounce back quickly and find another guy that likes them. And it's weird because whenever people find out that I've never been in a relationship they're all shocked ... But yet it's rare that anyone will approach me. Maybe I should lower my expectations and standards... But then again is it too hard to ask for a guy that's honest, humble, loyal, funny, respectful, caring and handsome in my eyes ??? (link)
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You should never lower your standards. Not because you're lonely. Not for any reason.
Yes it's true, the right one will come eventually. You should try approaching guys. Not just waiting around for them. Just try and make some new friends that are guys. Maybe one of them will eventually become a boyfriend
Good luck :)
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Hey. I have a problem that I really need help with. So I got out of a relationship with a guy a couple months ago and I was really heartbroken about it, then a couple weeks ago a friend of mine said that he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. Me being the idiot I am, said yes. I thought I liked him and it would help me get through the breakup with the other guy, but now I realize that I really don't like him. Also, I won't see him at all in person so I need to break up with him over text. Please help me. What do I do. Helpppp (link)
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Dumping someone over phone, Especially texting is cowardly. Don't do that!! They deserve better treatment than that. And just say that you're sorry but you arent interested in them or pursuing the relationship any further. Just be honest and polite.
If it is because you CAN'T see them in person, make something happen. Don't just say "oh well this is my way out" and dump him over text. Find a way to see them in person.
You got in this relationship in the first place so you need to find a way to break up with them without resorig to texting.
DO THIS IN PERSON.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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hello
I'm a loyal type of guy one women men and I'm in love with one of mine senior
frnd she know i madly love her but
i dont know what she feels cus she
did such a things with me which
makes mee depressed and always
hurting me not talking properly
always in rude manner but
sometimes she is talking in very
soft n in polite manner and whenever we use
to hangout together she is always
observing my expression what i feel
when she use to say that she like
someone else she share all her past
secret but not telling the name of
guy (currently) to whom she like
aur loved(dont know any other guy is in her life aur I). she is not fully ignoring nor fully
allowing mee im quite no totally
confused what she feels ...??
and always saying to me juss move on and
concentrate on your future..! if i
guess she love but not showing her
feelings cus she feels dat im
diverting from my goal and path due to her
thats y she do this type of things to get me on
track. (only predictions not
confirm)
what to do...?? (link)
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So... i got a little confused by what you are asking.. but here i go.
It sounds like she doesn't like you. I'm sorry but that's what I'm getting. She might like you as a friend but not further. I'm not sure, i don't know exactly what is going on.
On the "talking about a guy who she doesn't say the name" it might be another guy, she just doesn't want to share his name, I know whenever i talk about a crush i typically don't say his name.
Now on how she talks. Just tell her you don't like how she talks when she's rude to you and that hurts you. Clear the air between you two.
It's really hard when someone is graduating but you are not. Make's it really hard on relationships.
You should never allow your feelings for one person affect your life. You may end up losing feelings for her and hate how your life turned out. Stay on the path you want to travel.
All you can really do is just ask her if she likes you. I don't know what else you can do. I'm sorry,
Good luck, I wish you the best
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I feel weird calling my boyfriend baby or babe. It just doesn't flow right. I can call him baby/babe over text with no problem but in person or over the phone it makes me cringe. I know this is petty but with my other boyfriends it came so easy and I would even forget that they had real names cause I was just always calling them baby. Does this mean anything? Or am I just reading too much into it? I'm 24 btw and I've only been dating this guy for 6 months. I dated my last boyfriend for over 2 years before he ended it in April (link)
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I believe it doesn't meant anything. I feel weird calling my boyfriend babe/baby (i do it sometimes) but I feel totally fine calling my best female friend babe. it's just a pet name. I feel weird calling my boyfriend pet names in person.
My boyfriend calls me "Honey" and every once in a while baby.
I call him "Lover-boy" and "Honey"
We both call each other "Snugglebuddy"
Pet names are very cute and fun in a relationship. It is also something you shouldn't feel weird or forced to do. So it can be easier with some people, harder with others.
Just don't over think it :)
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