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Feeling lonely
So I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm 18.. The thought of it is kinda depressing. It is always, either a guy approaches me but I don't like them or either I like them but they don't like me or we both like each other but then the other party doesn't want to commit to me. Although I keep telling myself that I don't need one. That I need to focus on school, and become a better me and the right one will eventually come ..but even through all this chant in my head I can't help but still feel lonely. I mean I'm not ugly, id say I'm pretty decent, but yet whenever my friends breakup with someone they somehow are able to bounce back quickly and find another guy that likes them. And it's weird because whenever people find out that I've never been in a relationship they're all shocked ... But yet it's rare that anyone will approach me. Maybe I should lower my expectations and standards... But then again is it too hard to ask for a guy that's honest, humble, loyal, funny, respectful, caring and handsome in my eyes ???
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Hi, you have no idea how much you just discribed my situation. I am also 18, and I Never had a boyfriend. And yes, I often like someone but its not mutual or someone I have absolutely no interest in likes me. The only difference is that I dont even want a boyfriend. The thing that sucks most about it is people constantly wondering. like: Ouuh. You never had a boyfriend ???.And you are soo nice !!. ...or people feel sorry for me. ...its enoying !! this is more of a confession, but I just wanted to say...there is more of us...like you :D
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I know exactly what you mean. I know exactly how you feel and have been through it before. Those other people who go in and out of relationships are just looking for something to fill their time. They are not really genuine love connections which I know is what you want no matter how much they may act like it. Never lower yourself to get attention from guys. Im sure your beautiful and you are definitely smart because you have held out so long and don't put yourself out there like most girls your age. Those other people get attention because they seek attention. However this attention is not the right attention. Remember you are the only one who has to sleep with yourself at night and I bet you would find it more comforting to know you have integrity rather than knowing you faked who you really are and stooped down to that level. You will know it when the right guy comes into your life. Those people who don't approach you don't know what they are missing and if they missed it they are not worth your time. Be yourself, unapologetically. Boys your age probably don't even know how to handle someone like you! Haha :) Keep your head up. I know its hard. The best things come to those who wait and in the end you will feel better about yourself! Good Luck!!! :)
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You should never lower your standards. Not because you're lonely. Not for any reason.
Yes it's true, the right one will come eventually. You should try approaching guys. Not just waiting around for them. Just try and make some new friends that are guys. Maybe one of them will eventually become a boyfriend
Good luck :)
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