Name: Liz (nickname=fish)
Eyes: Green
Height: (ha like you care) about 5 feet 5 inches
Hair: Currently dark red, some light streaks, and of course, all spiky in the back
Hometown: St. Louis, MO
Age: 15
Occupation: being a sophmore, helping out my friends
Interests: Music (vinyl now but I have a ton of cds of various cool people), local shows (check out my buddy tim's band, One Down. they're gonna be huge one day), Art, English (Creative writing), doing random weird things
"A zebra does not change it's spots." -Al Gore
"I don't really trust a sane person." -Lyle Alzado.
Happy Noodle Boy is the funniest thing since Homestarrunner.com but Thora Birch is the "bestest". And for some strange reason, Joey Jordison of Slipknot and Murderdolls is scary yet hot. I don't know but I like to think that I do- so in the words of Ricky from American Beauty, "Never underestimate the power of denial."
Peace. Out.
Gender: Female
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
Member Since: June 21, 2004
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I have some trouble getting a boyfriend. I'm 13, and I've only had 3 boyfriends where my friends have had a bunch more! It's not like I'm trying to compete, it's just weird! I mean, people tell me I'm pretty, but I don't think I am. I also know I'm not fat but not thin... and I have a lot of friends! I don't really know what's wrong with me! Can anyone help? (link)
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"You can't expect anyone to think you're pretty if you rate yourself a zero." Have some self-confidence- it's sexy as hell from what I've heard. You're thirteen too...relax man, you've got years ahead for boyfriends so if you don't have one now, then enjoy the single life! Once people realize that you have fun on your own, they start to like you for that and you'll be beating them away with a stick.
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my neighbor is a 13 year old female and im a 14 year old male. she stalks me and she likes but id ont like her like she likes me wat do i do? (link)
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you let her know that you aren't into her in the nicest way possible. Don't just say, "hey quit stalking me, I don't like you," because that's just mean. Just sort of find a way to say that you'd rather stay friends (whether you are or not and whether you mean it or not). Just be considerate of her feelings, because she obviously likes you a lot.
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im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this? (link)
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You're not weird. I'm 15 and haven't been kissed or had a boyfriend. You aren't fat or ugly and you will find someone- you just have to be patient. Wait for someone worthy of your time. Make sure that you build up your self-esteem and self-respect before you even consider going out with somebody. And don't look at all the teen magazines. Those magazines paint a picture that says everyone is always dating and always have been. It's not true. Ask around, a lot of people you think are always dating aren't. Trust me, you aren't alone.
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okay, my ex bf had sex with this girl like 3 yrs younger than him about 6 months ago, she gave it up to him really easily, they werent even going out or nething..then he asked her out like 2 months later..but then he broke up with her after like acouple weeks..now i hear that they are back together as "fuck buddies"..do u think he really likes her, or is just using her? (link)
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Do you even have to ask? Of course he's using her. Otherwise, he would pursue an actual relationship and not just the friends with benifits deal. Nope..he's just using her.
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i've never had a boyfriend, but everytime someone likes me and i feel like they are leading towards asking me out or anything i get really nervous and uncomfortable and i just wish i was out of the situation...i'm hoping it's just because i haven't really liked any of them, but is this normal?? (link)
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Yeah it's normal. I'm the exact same way. I tend to think it's a fear of not being in control. You trick yourself into thinking that if you go out with someone, you might lose control of your life and stop doing things you love, etc. But the truth is, you really are in control of your life- you can break it off whenever you want to. Inexperience is kind of overwhelming when the media makes it seem like everyone is dating at all times. They aren't. The world does not revolve around it and if you ask around, the people you thought were always dating either haven't or aren't/haven't dated in a long time. It seems like a big deal, but really it isn't. Have some confidence in yourself and be willing to take a risk...*reads pep-talk back to self*
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do girls like a guy to be to sensitive or not sensitive at all (link)
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Be a mix of both. Meaning, you don't constantly fall to pieces and start crying hysterically about everything and at the same time you aren't the stereotypical jock. Just be respectful and understanding.
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What would you do if you found out when you and your boyfriend broke up that one of your good friends went over to his house and they ended having sex and when you asked both of them about it they said no...then the next time you asked they tell you that they did and how sorry they are and they wish they could take it back... Please help me im really hurt about this because it happend just 2weeks ago and i found when i was back together with him..?.. (link)
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That's a lame thing to say....your friend and your boyfriend should have thought first before acting and/or speaking. They aren't thinking of how this'll make you feel and you probably shouldn't be dating this guy. And you should talk to your friend- she just broke the unwritten code of friendship where you don't date- much less sleep with- your friend's ex unless you talk to them first. See where your friend's priorities are and decide where to go from there. Ditch the boyfriend.
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I met this boy at the beginning of the summer, but we liked eachother the first time we talked. After hanging out a couple times, we started going out. He isn't a virgin + supposedly got a girl pregnant awhile ago. He never pressures me or anything. I know I won't do unless I'm totally ready + totally in love. I'm starting to actually love this boy! I'm just scared I won't measure up to some of his old gfs + that I want to take things slow. He says he really loves me + that I'm different from all his old gfs and he likes + respects that. Should I stay with him? (link)
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Sure. If he respects you and knows your views on sex, etc., and isn't pressuring you, then yes go ahead and stay with him. Apparently he doesn't want you to be anything like his old girlfriends- which is great! It means you don't have to worry about measuring up to them. Go ahead and take things slow. Whatever you end up doing will be more meaningful if you do.
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heheh i know this sounds stupid, but whenever me n my b/f are alone 2gether, its like we dont talk much, and we feel really akward, like were forced 2 be hangin out 2gether.. which def. isnt the case tho. i mean, i try 2 be all outgoing and stuff, but i feel like he doesnt even wanna talk even tho its awkward in the car.. any ideas 2 get rid of the akward silences besides bringing up random convos? cuz i already do that... he just answers my question, then doesnt expand on it.. and im always the one askin Qs about his life.. he never asks about mine in person... see, hes a totally different person online than in person.. when hes IM'ing me, he talks like hes happy 2 be with me, and flirts alot, but i dont think he feels comfortable around me yet cuz we only been goin out 3 weeks.. help anyone? (link)
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It's only been three weeks so slow down. Sometimes people don't transition well from friend to boyfriend (or friend to girlfriend) and it's awkward for them. He's trying to find out where he stands in the relationship, so don't pressure him so much. Sometimes people are also just weird with different forms of communication. For example, I'm completely fine in person and online, but I'm really awkward on the phone. There isn't really an explanation for it, it's just the way things are. So if it makes you uncomfortable, talk to him about it and find out what the issue is. Just make sure you don't sound like you're accusing him- he'll only get defensive and it'll make things worse.
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I recently lost my virginity, the girl was my age, 15, but she's already had 6 guys before me, which at least to me sounds like a huge amount. I know she's a really wonderful person, and ever since it happened I've been even more attracted to her, not just wanting to have sex again, but actually wanting to get to know her better and hang out more. I just want to know if its possible that she gets the same feeling about me or does sex become less special the more a persons done it. (link)
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I'd say it's possible that she feels the same way. Ask her and find out. She'll probably appreciate someone taking the time to ask her what she thinks and how she feels. To some people, sex isn't really important to them, in regards to love and all that. But of course, there's always the opposites of that. If you know why she's slept with six guys, that usually helps. It tends to show a pattern- whether or not these people were important to her at the time. It may just be that she thinks that sex is what guys want so if she gives herself up, then they'll like her more. Obviously it worked for you, but she may just like the attention. Find out what her intentions are and go from there.
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i like this guy, and i think he likes me to. but my sister told me she also likes him. i really like this guy!!what should i do if i lke him and my sister does too. he acts like he likes me though. (link)
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Don't do anything with him. You have to live with your sister FOREVER so you don't want to jeopardize your relationship over some guy. Either have a heart-to-heart with her and decide who gets him, or play it safe and decide that neither of you get him. Guys come and go, but your sister...she'll be by your side a lot longer.
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i like this guy at skool and he really loves me and he asks me out all the time.hes not very popular tho and im afarid that ppl will make fun of me. plz help me!!! thanks (link)
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Dude, who cares? If you like a guy and he likes you back, then go out with him. His popularity shouldn't be an issue. Don't care about what those other people think, it's not important and you'll regret not doing the things you wanted to do later on. You only live once, so go out with him regardless of what people say. If they can't handle it...well, so be it. Besides, you're the one in the relationship, not them- so don't let them influence you.
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me n my boyfriend always break up and then make up. it's getting kinda old and i'm always getting hurt. i just cant help myself from going back to him all the time, i guess its because i truly love him. i'm just so sick of getting hurt when one day he'll be all lovey-dovey to me and the next day he'll be so rude n ignorant. i feel that we're going to break up again and in a lil while he'll come running back. what should i do? i think we really do love eachother though. (link)
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Ah yes, the vicious cylce of make-up/break-up. These things never work, no matter how much you want them to. It's almost a power struggle. Like "let's see if I can make you feel like crap and then lure you back in when you're vulnerable and lonely." Don't keep doing this. It's all about the drama, and drama does not a good relationship make. So break it off for good this time. Maybe it'll be a reality for your boyfriend that he can't play tug-of-war with people's feelings.
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My bf doesn't love me... I know because I know .. The way he looks at me blabla .. yeah .. I feel like shit.. I'm pissed because I know he doesn't love me, I'm really sad and I have 3 days I just don't stop crying ... now what? (link)
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Well, talk to him. Maybe he just doesn't know how to communicate what he's feeling properly. It kind of depends on how long you've been seeing each other. If you've only been together for a short amount of time, you can't expect things like love to progress quickly. If you've been together for a long time, well, maybe you fall in love faster than he does. It doesn't mean that you don't deserve to be loved- you do - it's just, sometimes people don't get deep into a relationship quickly. It's kind of scary sometimes. But if you really think something is wrong and that you can't discuss it and try to resolve it, well then it's time to move on and let him go.
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Hey well lets start off here, I'm 14 in a month 15(going to be a freshman), and the guy I like is 18(just graduated highschool). I know its crazy, but the thing is he was the one to approach me. He didn't think I was my age because I guess I look older, but we still hung out and had fun, talked on the phone now and then and texted eachother all of the time. One night I snuck out to see him ... and we kissed, and had dry sex (i'm not a slut it was the firstime I did something like that with someone that wasn't my boyfreind ... well dry sex first time ever). So of course ... I started to like him, this went on a few more times, But whenever we would talk he would talk about the age difference and how young I am, he also told me not to tell anyone, that made me kinda sad... not like I would have anyways. The thing is he treated me really wel lwhen I was with him, and made it seem like he liked me by saying tons of little things. So it's like two months later, and I got like no attention from him, one night I needed to talk to him but he was in Vagas and had to go. So I started to give up which was going okay. Then last thursday I saw him agian, and he hugged me and totaly acted like things were normal agian, I'm so lost, and I like him too much to try to let him go, I'm not sure what to do and I know everyone will tell me to leve it alone, I honestly don't think thats helping or that I can, Ive also been having problems trying to exlplane it to him, I told him I liked him, what else do I say? Well thanks for you time, and help me if you can!
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He seems confused. He also seems like he's using you. If he really cared about you, he would have made a point to talk to you while he was in Vegas. He also wouldn't have made it seem like he's ashamed of dating you since he told you not to say anything to anyone. And it makes partial sense, seeing that he's 18 and you aren't, but it also seems kind of creepy. Dude, really, let him go. It's better for you. See, if you can't explain to him how you feel and he hasn't picked up on it already, then he's not paying attention and chances are that he doesn't really care. It's like a mind game- not seeing or talking to you for two months and then coming home and acting like it's all back to normal. That's supposed to make you miss him/want him more and confuse you. Get out of the relationship for good.
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What do girls my age (14) like in us guys? (link)
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Well, most girls (at least the one's I know) go for a guy who's funny. As for me, I like the weird ones, humorous, caring, understanding, respectful, honest guys. Looks can make a difference but not always- if you're an all around great guy and fun to talk to, then you probably won't have a problem. Most people say personality but that's kind of vague sooo here we go: If you aren't condescending, if you listen, you aren't full of yourself, you aren't pushy, you aren't bossy, and if you give girls their own space. Honestly, if you look at all the qualities (personality-wise) that you find attractive in girls, chances are they'll be pretty close to what girls find attractive in guys.
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theres this boy thats one of my friends n we hang out all the time like wit other ppl n stuff wit us. n durin the day this boy is the BIGGEST asshole. but then when night time roles around hes all touchy feely n wantin me to flash him n we mess around. it doesnt bother me or nothin because i love sweet guys...n when hes sweet...hes sweet! should i still let him be an asshole n then mess wit him when he 'becomes' sweet? (link)
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NO!!! I don't get it. How do people even consider stuff like this? Look, you treat people how you want to be treated, it's like a guide. Stand up for yourself! You don't deserve to be treated like crap all day long and THEN get treated right. If this guy was actually a sweet guy, he'd be acting sweet whenever he saw you. Don't hang around this guy, he's playing you for a fool.
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Okay , me and my boyfriend was talkin on ta phone and he asked me to marry him(AND AT A YOUNG AGE TOO) and I said no , was it the right thing to do ???were both 15.he aint mad but he is kinda sad , he said he wanted to be with me forever,and I let him down. was it the right thing to do??? (link)
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Yeah it's the right thing to do. You are way to young to even be considering marriage with someone. First off, you haven't been through college or any of that stuff yet which means the real world isn't right at your doorstep- i.e. no big life experiences. Second, you have a lot more to learn about yourself and each other- if you rush something like this now, you'll end up regretting it later. And third, not to say you don't love each other, etc., but sometimes people think they're with the one they're meant to be with forever. And anyway, if you said no to an early marriage, it's not like you wouldn't consider it later on so he doesn't have much of a reason to be sad- it's not like you broke up with him. That said, don't lead him on to thinking one day the two of you WILL actually be getting married. It seems to jinx your relationship.
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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months now, and hes been talkign baout having sex and whatever i try and blow it off because im still a virgin and I really dont think he is the one i wanna do it with but i dont wanna hurt his feelings, but at the same time I dont want him to think we are going to do it, i just wanna know a good way to tell him that i am just not ready...PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. If this hurts his feelings (even though it shouldn't) and he keeps asking about it, then I'd dump him. You've stated what you want to do and if he doesn't respect and understand that, than he doesn't respect and understand you.
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hey. i have dis boyfriend dat goes to a different skool. im scared dat he might cheat on me or flirt with other girls. i dunno if i should trust him.please help me.
thank u,
girlfriend troubler (link)
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If you don't trust him...then don't date him. You may just be paranoid about it, I mean, I'm like that too. I would constantly be worrying unless I trusted him. And it sounds like you don't, so don't go out with him.
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