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Age counts?
Hey well lets start off here, I'm 14 in a month 15(going to be a freshman), and the guy I like is 18(just graduated highschool). I know its crazy, but the thing is he was the one to approach me. He didn't think I was my age because I guess I look older, but we still hung out and had fun, talked on the phone now and then and texted eachother all of the time. One night I snuck out to see him ... and we kissed, and had dry sex (i'm not a slut it was the firstime I did something like that with someone that wasn't my boyfreind ... well dry sex first time ever). So of course ... I started to like him, this went on a few more times, But whenever we would talk he would talk about the age difference and how young I am, he also told me not to tell anyone, that made me kinda sad... not like I would have anyways. The thing is he treated me really wel lwhen I was with him, and made it seem like he liked me by saying tons of little things. So it's like two months later, and I got like no attention from him, one night I needed to talk to him but he was in Vagas and had to go. So I started to give up which was going okay. Then last thursday I saw him agian, and he hugged me and totaly acted like things were normal agian, I'm so lost, and I like him too much to try to let him go, I'm not sure what to do and I know everyone will tell me to leve it alone, I honestly don't think thats helping or that I can, Ive also been having problems trying to exlplane it to him, I told him I liked him, what else do I say? Well thanks for you time, and help me if you can!
<3 Ali
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Well sounds to me as if he is.. a best friend with benefits .. not to sound rude sorry i do. But he is right there is a big gap in age difference and if you did tell anyone that could get you into trouble because its illegal.. so there for i would just leave it at how you to are. And he will be going off to college and meeting new people (sorry to put you down) (but i just want to come off straight forward to help you through this) so he will be dating other people which is what you need to do also and after you date for awhile the right person will come along i promise but just try not to cling yourself onto this guy i know everyone including me says age doesnt count but i think in this case it does count im so sorry i wish you good luck with other guys though!!-trix
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He seems confused. He also seems like he's using you. If he really cared about you, he would have made a point to talk to you while he was in Vegas. He also wouldn't have made it seem like he's ashamed of dating you since he told you not to say anything to anyone. And it makes partial sense, seeing that he's 18 and you aren't, but it also seems kind of creepy. Dude, really, let him go. It's better for you. See, if you can't explain to him how you feel and he hasn't picked up on it already, then he's not paying attention and chances are that he doesn't really care. It's like a mind game- not seeing or talking to you for two months and then coming home and acting like it's all back to normal. That's supposed to make you miss him/want him more and confuse you. Get out of the relationship for good.
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alright alright alright. here it is, in plain english for you. guys that age are usually looking for sex. especially if they go after a younger girl, like yourself. it might be a lot to do, but sometimes you have to face the music and know when it's time to get go. it's hard, but you're going to have to do it eventually one day, and this might just be the day. it's nice to hug someone you are or were so close to, it's nice to know they're there and want to hug you. yes, i agree. but some things just aren't meant to be, and this could be one of them. "if it's meant to be, it will eventually happen." <-i live by that right there. yes i do. but the decision is yours and yours alone. no one else can sway you from what you want. if you think he's worth it, go after him and don't stop until you're happy. if you think it would just be a fling, as yourself if you're ready for that. good luck in your decision.
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Alright girl this may not be something you want to hear but guys that are that age are sooo horny and the whole dont tell anyone, See older guy have a way of pressuring you into something you dont want to do, like they do it in a way that you dont notice that hes doing it. Believe me i've almost been caught up in that stuff but i got out soon enough. He could get into major trouble and he might just think that your young so you'll give it up more. I do think that you need to be done with him, Your going to be a frosh and there are SOOOOO many hot guys in high school. Seriously you'll have your hands full with guys! You'll forget about him. Also if the police would have caught you guys he could have been but into jail! Just watch what your getting yourself into... and if you really cared for him you'd let him go... so he didnt get into any trouble!
-holly-
Sorry i'm sure thats not what you wanted to hear
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You may not want to hear this,but I am also a guy of 18 and I know how we think,and he probably just wants to have sex with you. He approaches you because he knows you are young,and he thinks he may be able to take advantage. His expressing that he wants you to tell no one makes sense to me:Sex would be illegal with you. If he didn't bother to talk to you for two months,he obviously didn't miss you THAT much. You don't really like him,you only think you like him. I'd say don't get involved with the guy. Plus YOU had to sneak out to see HIM? What? That is the guy's job entirely. Haven't you ever heard of Romeo and Juliet? You think Romeo would've impressed the girl if she went to his place? I think not.
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Hey Ali.. well.. we have talked about this before.. he seems like a cool guy.. but.. i think he really wants to have sex.. i mean he is older.. and i mean come on.. thats honestly what older guys go for younger girls. from experience that happened to some friends of mine.. the guys were in college and wanted "fresh meat" sorry to say.. but i hope he isnt like that ..
KYLE
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hey ali,
wats up gurl u hav a tough situation here wat i think u really need to do tho is tell him every single thing u wrote ther! it will make u feel a ton better and it will help alot, also u gotta find out wat hes feeling tell him u hav to no wats going on between u guys and mostly wats going on with him. also a little piece of advice sex is a lil to erly for u in my opinion but u no it doesnt really matter. and a guy im talking to on the fone hoo is the same age as u agrees. he said u should do everything but that for now. anyways good luck with the guy. write me sum time.
<3 fran
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