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My mission on Advicenators is to be honest. People lie when they answer because they want to be rated high, but I think people ask strangers on Advicenators things because they want an honest answer.
My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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Well I've been going out with this guy for a month and we hardly ever talk but all we have done is hugged! Is that really bad or what?

Take the initiative to get more intimate. Make the moves, sometimes guys are more nervous then girls and we just fail to notice it.
-Farren

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when ever i have a boyfriend they always think im cheating on them because i flirt so much but thats just what i do and i dont know how to not flirt as much

Don't be such an attention whore.
-Farren

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im 13/m...All of my friends say that i always flirt with this girl. she used to like me A LOT and then when i started going out with my g/f about 8 months ago, she like started yelling at me and we didnt talk. But now, we are friends again and we talk, but whenever we do, EVERYONE says that we flirt, nonstop. i try not to, but i just cant help it, i love my girlfriend and i mean that. what should i do pls help me......

PS.... how do you flirt? i barely know what that means

Just watch what you say. If you aren't coming on to her then no one will tell your girlfriend you are, unless they're stupid and assume things, and in that case what they say doesn't really matter and your girlfriend should believe you over them. As long as you make sure your girlfriend knows that you're just friends with her you'll be fine. Also, make sure your girl (space) friend knows that you don't like her as more than a friend, leading people on isn't nice. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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there is this girl i really like in my science class. shes kinda out of my leauge but i cant get her outta my mind! ive asked her out but she said no but i dont know why. what should i do?

What -can- you do? Nothing. Sorry, but you can't force someone to like you. If you keep trying to get her to like you as more than a friend she may get annoyed and distance herself from you. Good luck with it.
-Farren

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ok there's this new kid in my skool , nd he's in everyone of my classes, nd he chose to sit next to me in every one of them. but the thing is i lik him , and he's alwayz flirtin wit me , nd i flirt bak. but when he came here , me nd my b/f juss started goin out,nd som1 tld me tht he liked me bak. and everyone says tht we would mak a good couple. but the other day my best friend saw my b/f kiss his ex-gf , nd he said he didnt,so wut should i do? Should i break up wit my b/f , nd go out wit the new kid? or Should i give my b/f another chance, nd juss be friends wit the new kid? nd im 13/f
Signed really confused

You're only 13 and you're already dealing with this stuff?
Anyways, you should go for who you like the most. I advise you not to keep flirting with the guy if you intend to stay with your boyfriend. Choose one and stay loyal to him. From what it sounds like, you like the second guy more than your boyfriend, and then there's the added problem that he may have cheated on you. I say you go for the guy you met recently. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
-Farren

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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.

Well, the reason they think love can only be understood at a certain age is because most people our age don't know what love is, they don't understand it, and they confuse liking or being sexual with love. So, they have a point, but there are some people who are truly young and in love, and you two may be. You just have to ignore them, if you know in your heart that it's love then nothing else matters. You should always try to understand where other people are coming from though. Anyways, good luck and congratulations on ten months!
-Farren

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k yea i really like this guy he recently just broke up with one of my friends. i realized that i like him, but he acts weird around me, i don't know why,i want him to act normal around me, also i want him to like me back, so how can i do this, and don't say flirting. if you do at least be specific

He probably feels uncomfortable around you because you're his ex-girlfriend's friend. Maybe if the breakup was recent he just needs some time to get used to being single again. And as for a way to get him to like you back, there aren't methods, you can't "make" someone like you, just be yourself and eventually you will find out if he likes you or not and if he doesn't there's nothing you can really do about it. Good luck.
-Farren

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Hey, okay this is kinda weird for me to ask...but is it wrong for you to have a bf, or well, not a bf..but I mean at my skewl when you say bf, it's someone you just say you're goin out with, and not actually do anything besides hold hands, and im not sure but maybe kiss..at school...thats it..so is it wrong for you to have one without your parents' permission...like,i mean, not the kind where i haven't asked them cause I'm afraid of their answer, I mean I haven't asked them cause I KNOW their answer, because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way, and so at my school...and there's this guy I like on and off..and he flirts with me...and all that. but even for the future..an I asked my sister if it's okay with her anyway coz even though she's not allowed she had 2 before without my parents finding out, but she said no, it's better not to...so is it okay for me to go ahead when they've all said no, because it's not fair, and it's my life..and even though I'm young, I know it has nothing to with age, they will never let me have a bf in their right minds...i dunno...life is pretty horrible for me right now..my parents are really mean besides that too...so i'm confused. Plz help m and answer my question. Thanx. I'm really sorry this was soo long. THX

Your parents are being narrow minded. If it were me in your situation, I'd go for it. It'll be a nice experience. Good luck, and don't get caught!
-Farren

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i started liking this boy right after winterbreak. he started liking me too and we started hanging out alot. we went out for a little bit but then broke up. then he started liking one of my good friends. now he like sme again and im still crazy about him. i dont know what to do. i love him to death.

Give him another chance, but if you think he's just using you and going out with you because your friend didn't get with him then don't let him lead you on. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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ok... so i was going to go to this one highschool... and my boyfriend is goin to a different one. and i didnt know.. but i thought i was gunna break up with him before highschool.. and i was all ready for it. and now he just told me that hes goin to my highschool, cuz he might be moving and he might pay outta district fees. and now i feel like crap, cuz i dont know how im gunna break up with him!!!! help please!!
13/f and ive been dating him for 5 months.. almost 6

If you don't like him then you should by all means end this, don't waste his or your time. Yes, he'll be sad and it will be hard on him, but it would be worse to continue the relationship and lead him on by faking affection. Just tell him things aren't working out, you're only 13, it's not like you were planning on marrying him. Lay it on him as kindly as possible, and maybe you guys will end up being friends. Good luck.
-Farren

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Ok everyone, I am a 16/f. I just found out Saturday that a friend of mine that I have known since middle school died. Then Sunday I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me and he is now denying it. Let alone Wednesday being the anniversary of my grampas death.
And I don't know what to do. Its so hard to hold on. I need some advice on what to do.
And on top ok everything my cousin who says shes my bestfriend is trashing my life. What do I do??
Please someone help me!

Break up with your boyfriend, he isn't worth it. Talk to your cousin about what she's doing to you, and get that straightened out. Focus on the good things in life, or trying to make the bad things alright again. Things will get easier, just all this happening at once can seem like your entire world is falling apart, but there are still things to hold on to. Find something to do to get your mind off of the tragedies, like a job or a hobby. Consume your time with productive activities. It's just a matter of time. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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Okay my friend is driving me crazy because she likes someone in her class.She is way to shy to tell him that she likes him before she knows if he likes her back.I have told her to just go for it but she is like really really shy.So my question is how can she find out if he likes her without him finding out she likes him before he says he likes her?I will rate anyone who helps a perfect five for effort whether or not I liked their answer!!!

She can't. She should just go for it. Or you or another one of your friends can ask him, but that would make it obvious that she likes him. All she can do is observe his actions and what he says to her. Good luck with that!
-Farren

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Take this in mind before you help me!
-I HAVE TOLD HIM MY FEELINGS
-We have went out before
-WE are bestfriends now

Okay?!

I used to go out with my now bestfriend.. But I broke up with him after about 2 months into it.. But now its like.. 9 or 10 months later and i still like him.. alot.. cant stop thinking about him always wondering wahts on his mind kinda bull crap and he is off liking other girls.. and i tell him everything.. and thats why im here.. i cant tell him this one thing.. and thats.. Im thiknig about telling him i think we shouldnt be friends naymore.. cuz im sick and tierd of being hurt.. him always talking about another girl and crap.. knowing i cant have him.. its hard to explain but thats what i want to do.. but then theres this thing about how if i did tell him to just leave me alone , that i would miss him even more and prolly end up going crazy.. So what would u do? Tell him to leave me alone.. or just deal with the hurting ..

I would stay friends with him. I would look for someone else though, you may think there's no way you'll ever find someone else, but trust me, that will change when you meet the right person. As long as he hasn't been leading you on and staying a good friend I think you shouldn't abandon him. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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There is a dance next weekend and the guy i like is going with my "friend" cause my "friend" is a skanky hoe bag slut and asked him even though they dont like achother. So they are going together. Anyways...I want to find some way to make him really attracted to me while at the dance and for him to notice me the most. What can i do to accomplish this?

~Jealousy

I hate people who dislike other people because they're jealous of them. Your "friend" isn't a skanky hoe bag slut, you're just jealous of her you skanky hoe bag slut.
-Farren

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Okay, I know this guy that I think I like but I'm not sure if he likes me. He's always flirting with me one day, and then the next day he's just ignoring me and talking to somebody else (or sleeping in class). Should I say something to him about what I think is going on, or should i just forget about him,hes just another guy.

Stay friends and don't worry too much about what will happen, if something does happen then it will happen on its own. I would stay open-minded on other guys though. Good luck hun!
-Farren

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I'm a 16 year old female in high school who likes a guy whos's also in high school. We've talked on the phone and spent a little time together. I thought things were going really well. He never really called me, I mostly called him. For the past 3 days I tried to call and he wouldn't pick up so I left a message telling him to call me back. He never called back and wouldn't pick up when I called from my phone but when I called from a different number he picked up. I asked him if he wanted me to leave me alone and he said no. What do I do? I really like him and I thought he liked me, but now I'm not so sure. What do I do? Do I leave him alone and try to forget about him or do I confront him? If so then what do I say? I'm desperate. please help me!

Get over him, he's making you feel bad. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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My moms bff called me up the other day and said her nephew was moving in with her and she wants to hook us up! I mean I'm really excited because I havent had a boyfriend in over a year. But my ex and I are in love but he is with someone right now...ok I mean im really scared because you know im scared by dating him i might mess things up with my ex and what not...just i really dont know what to do?? what should i do? go for it and date her nephew or stay single and wait for my ex?

Your ex is dating someone else, so don't wait for him. Get with the nephew, it will be better.
Good luck hun.
-Farren

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ok its a long one. i just moved to this state 2 months ago and everyone is contry as hell i mean gold teeth, 10,000$ rims on a 1976 impala contry i had trouble meeting pepoel that i could relate to. (im from the east coast)Now i have found three man they each have what i am looking for one is a firefighter ,the other works at the radio station but is in school for broadcasting(his dad is a broadcaster at the local station) and the last has a great job he graduated and is making serious money. they all want me. i dont know who to choose the one who graduated takes me to fine restarants and we drink wine and go to the do theater which has always been my dream but he cant kiss to save his life. the firefighter is older has his own home and well older man know how to make a woman feel right opens doors,pays the check, ect. Now the youngest is very outspoken and tells in how it is which is good for me he keeps me grounded and in the real world they all have what im looking for. if i knew who loved me more thats the i would choose so does anyone know away i can test their feelings please let me know. all confused

You should include ages, that would help in answering the question. If it were me, I'd go with the firefighter, unless he's too much older (older can be 3 years older, or 20...not very specific). Good luck on making the right choice hun, I'll pray for you.
-Farren

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I'm 16 and in high school. Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up at the beginning of September. I had broken up with him because I wanted to be with someone else. It didn't work between us and I have been single for quite awhile. I really like this guy that I know, but recently me and my ex have been spending alot of time on the phone. I don't like him as a boyfriend anymore cause I like someone else. My ex flirts with me and calls me all the time. I try not to be mean or anything but I don't like him like that anymore. I have a feeling that he might ask me out again. I don't know how to tell him that I like someone else. What should I do? Please help me.
~Confused Chica~

"I really appreciate your feelings for me, but I like someone else, I'm sorry."
-Farren

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I am 14 and a female. There is a guy at school that I think is really cute. We both have history together and I will sometimes see him looking at me. I want to talk to him so bad, but I have never said anything to him before. What should I do?

Make the first things you say to him be, "Hello, I love you, won't you tell me your name?"
-Farren

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