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i don't want to annoy thid guy, but i want to text him. sometimes he doesn't answer & when he does he does a lot of smiley faces. what should i text him? hi :) hey hi hiiii heyyyyy heeeeey yo ?...

I think you should start the conversation with "hey you" cause it seems super cute and friendly but not annoying. And then, have a conversations about his interests, what he likes to do for fun, ect.

It'll turn out pretty well !

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So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two monthss and alittle more. We've broken about 6 to 7 times. And he was only sad the first 3 times we broke up after that he made it seem like it was whatever. And he is a jerk! He always says things to me like if he doesnt value what he has but at the same time his a sweet guy and i love him alot because thats the first guy i ever really really liked and had a connection with him. Every night i cry because he makes me feel like the bad guy which am not because i always try to work things out but when i tell him about my feelingss all he says it whatever or wow bye or something immature like that. I dont wanna let him go what can i do to change the way he treats me?

You teach people how you want to be treated. to me this guy sounds like he isnt good for you, and you deserve better. You say you dont wanna let him go, so next time he treats you badly break it off with him until he finally realizes that you are serious. And when i say break it off, i mean ignore his calls/texts everything. And also, tell him you deserve to be treated better.

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I'm 22/f. I need some unbiased help with this.
I've been involved with this guy for four years. To sum the whole mess up, he doesn't treat me well psychologically, and I'm turning into someone I don't like as a result of having to play mind games with him, and as a result of trying to get him to treat me right.
At this point, it's an addiction, and I need to get out of this relationship.
The problem is that it IS an addiction. I've tried to break up with him about five times in the past two months. I was so close last time, but when he said "If you do this, you'll lose me completely," I cracked and said we could keep trying.
I don't know why, he's not even a good friend to me. I have no fear of being alone - I'm alone anyway. We had some good times, and I suppose we had some kind of connection, but I can't even open up to him at this point, he's hurt me so much. He called me yesterday, and I had nothing to talk about with him.

I guess I want to know if anyone has had experience with a toxic relationship like this. If you have, how did you get out of it? If you haven't gotten out of it, what's your plan? I need inspiration. Or something.

Thanks, everyone.

I know exactly what you are going through. Its been four years, and i crack everytime i try to get out of it. Best sexual chemistry ive ever had. It is addiction and because of this i need it, i crave it. I know its mentally not good for me, and the mind games drive me crazy..however its just too hard. Ive talked to friends, and they cannot help because they really dont understand what i am going through.

The only way you will be able to get out of this relationship is if you and ONLY you finally realize that its really not good. You are the one who has to realize this, because you know your friends are right about him but if YOU dont have an "ah ha" moment then youll never be able to get out of it.

I cannot give you advice to get out of it, however i can talk to you about it if you need too.

aim-myexquisitesn
ymail- phako09@ymail.com

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17/f

I'm a virgin. Is it REALLY that important to lose it to someone you love? I don't plan on falling in love anytime soon. My first kiss wasn't special. It annoyed me at first. My second kiss wasn't special either, but I found the guy attractive and realized that was perfectly fine with me. I'm not about to go have some unsafe rendezvous with a stranger or anything, I'd just like to know.

I wouldnt say it is EXTREMELY important. But, it would be nice to think back about it and say, "wow he truly loved me." or vice versa.

Sex is much better when it is with somebody that you love and loves you.

Therefore, its not that important, but it would be a nice memory :]

Good luck

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okay i started to give my boyfriend a bj last sunday, but i didnt really know what i was doing so i didnt go long enough and he didnt ejaculate. i told him id make up for it this weekend and give him one the right way.
well ive been thinking bout it a lot! and i know i cant get pregnate or anything, but is it safe?

im the first girl thats given him a blow job and hes never had sex or anything so like this is the first "sexual activity" either of us has had but i wanna make sure its safe for me and him both if i do it again.

Since you or him never had sex or anything, then its fine. :]

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So here's the situation I have been friends with this guy for a few months now and ever since we first met it was clear we both like each other and like we kissed before and tried dating but it just didn't really work out. Now we're just friends and its working really well except there's still like tension between us because its clear we still like each other. I was thinking we could be like friends with benefits and stay just friends but then like if we get the urge to kiss each other or fool around thats fine and theres no commitments and no expectations which was the problem before. I don't really know if this will work out though and I'm afraid of telling him my idea and how he might react to it....

Honestly, i am going through this now. I have a friends with benefits of three years, and its quite difficult. Its difficult because i have feelings for him, and i know he has them for me...but it sometimes hurts. I dont blame you for wanting a friends with benefits relationship, it is absolutely perfect. Perfect until you experience it.

If its really what you want to do, and you are POSITIVE you wont fall even harder for him, then i'd say go for it. As long as you protect yourself and dont get too envolved. Thats the hard part.

All guys love the idea of a friends with benefits, no strings attached. If you brought it up, im sure he'll agree with it.

Also, keep in mind...if you guys tried dating and it didnt work out, do you really think you should try friends with benefits? just a thought.

Good luck & be careful

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Well if any of you have seen Laguna Beach you kno that they ask eachother to there school dances in really cute ways. Well my friends and I started doing that too. Last year I sent my bf on a scavanger hunt, but this year i'm drawing a blank. any ideas???

Thanks =)

That is cute :]

-If he has a car, ask him by writing it on his car.
-You can get a jar, and get sticky notes, fill it up with things you love about him, and on one sticky note you can ask him.
-Put fortune cookies in the microwave a few seconds. Take them out, take out the old fortunes, then put in new ones with "Tolo/Sadies/go with me?" Heat them back up, then close them up
-Make a puzzle that he'll have to put together
-Give him box to open and put a smaller box inside, and then a smaller one etc until it comes to the smallest one with a note asking him.

GOOD LUCK!

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my ex and i broke up but we have been talking now to work things out. but i do get sad thinking about him. i knw its normal but how do i explain it to him. he thinks that i just get sad thinking of him so why try to work things out and be together again. any help would be appreciated.

Thanks for writing in my inbox.

Yes, you are correct it is normal to feel sad and upset when your relationship ends.

Just explain to him, HE doesnt make you sad. The thought of how things used to be reguarding him make you sad. And, how you miss him and wish everything was back to normal. Tell him the reason you should work things out is because everyone deserves a second chance, and you need that closure because you are obviously not over him.

Good luck

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Does anyone know of good flirting tips?
I really need help.

Some good flirting techniques are:

playing with your hair, be positive, smile a lot, touch his arm, eye contact is good too!

When talking to them, make sure you are interested in whatever they have to say...but dont overkill it and be too obvious.

Make cute remarks, joke around with him, ect.

Look into his eyes

Hold the gaze

Drop your gaze to the lips.

Back up to the eyes.

Repeat, occasionally.

Subtle, but, oh, so effective!

Whisper. This usually gets their attention. Avoid shouting. Check your voice; it may sound like a grill.

Make sure you dont come off as easy, at first you just want to come off as sweet :]

Don't stay in a group. No guyy can bear a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can't approach you because of your friends.


If you need anymore just msg me :]

Good luck

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Ok im a 17year old guy I really really like this girl who is in my school and I think that she likes me though i cant be sure but the problem is that she is 3 years younger than me.I was wondering if i asked her out would people think that im a wierdo because im going out with 14year old girl?.
Im still going to ask her out but im just curious.

Of course people are going to think it is strange, but who cares what they think. Considering she probably is in 8th grade, and your probably in 11th. So, yeah just be aware to defend your relationship with her. :]

Personally, i think age is just a number and if the feelings are there, then that is great!

Good luck

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this is embarasing.... so me and my bf were dry humping he had on boxers and i had underwear and capries he ejaculated on my upper thigh when i went to change my clothes i could feel wetness from me in my underwear then a dry area then wetness from him on my capreis so our discharge did not touch. could i get pregnent? im freaking out please please help me

No, its not possible. you are fine :]

And the person below is wrong, hot water and soap cant get rid of sperm.

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There is this guy at school that I sort of like. I'm not sure whether I really like him or not. I hope you guys can help me know if I truly like him.

Thanks, with love
~!MysteriousGirl!~

If you are questioning whether you like him are not, chances are you dont.

Here are a couple signs that means you DO like him:

-if you think about him a lot
-if he makes you laugh and smile
-if you enjoy his company
-if his happiness means something to you
-when you see him, you get butterflies
-your heart will beat faster when you are around him

Basically, just listen to your heart...and go with your gut feeling :]

Good luck!

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how do you tell someone that theyre your first kiss and first boyfriend ? it juss seems awkward. should you tell them before you kiss them that you havnt kissed anyone or afterwards?

I agree with the person below. I wouldnt tell him, and i didnt tell my first person either. Besides, if you tell them you will feel more pressure :]

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okay me and my boyfriend made 5months this monday, and its been pretty qood, like monday he and i was happy that it's been 5months and at the end of the day at school monday he was like "5months baby" and all over me, but our relationship is kinda weird, like i love him and he loves me, but there's days where our love is strong and there's days our love isn't strong and i kinda hate it, because it hurts mee alot, like i dont know what to do, i try to be all over him, but no pushy thouqh, but its whatever too him. And when we have days like these i hate it, and it really hurts me, can you hellp please because i have no idea what to do.

Thanks for writing in my inbox. :]

Well first off, love cant sometimes be strong and sometimes not be. That just doesnt make sense, i am just trying to clarify that.

Also, I think you should just ask him and tell him how you feel. You and i can have 567865456 guesses and maybe still not know what is bothering him.

Basically, there isnt much else you can do but talk to him. You guys have been dating for five months (congrats!) so you should be able to be pretty upfront with him about certain situations, and this is one of them :]

Also, you can TRY to do the same thing back to him. To show him how it feels, but i wouldnt really recommend that. I wouldnt because, it is somewhat childish but just an idea :]

Good luckk

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What are some really good flirting techniques? wether it be physical or verbal. And for a teenage girl.

Some good flirting techniques are:

playing with your hair, be positive, smile a lot, touch his arm, eye contact is good too!

When talking to them, make sure you are interested in whatever they have to say...but dont overkill it and be too obvious.

Make cute remarks, joke around with him, ect.

Look into his eyes

Hold the gaze

Drop your gaze to the lips.

Back up to the eyes.

Repeat, occasionally.

Subtle, but, oh, so effective!

Whisper. This usually gets their attention. Avoid shouting. Check your voice; it may sound like a grill.

Make sure you dont come off as easy, at first you just want to come off as sweet :]

Don't stay in a group. No guyy can bear a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can't approach you because of your friends.


If you need anymore just msg me :]

Good luck

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so I dumped my boyfriend a few days ago because he used to be flirting with my so called best friend and called her beautiful infront of my face, and all this shit. We were once talking about how dumb it was to brake up with people and then not talk to them. So we were like, if anything every happens we are still gonna be friends. And so after I dumped him, I said hi to him the next day. I was so happy and relieved to have him out of my life. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. and then he didn't say anything bak. he just kinda waved but ignored me. And he has been going to all my friends and everyone telling them i broke up with him. and he told my friend that i was gonna regret it. I don't know wht to think about this situation. what do you guys think? I'm thinking maybe he is over me already, and he wants to show it. Or he isn't, he's trying to hide it, but its not working because he's been looking really down lately. And maybe he is telling all the girls so that he can have someone to replace me quick or something. Or maybe, i'm not quiet sure what to think. what do you guys think?

Well, you can look at this a couple ways. By him not saying "hi" and just kinda waving, it could mean he is trying to pay you back...You have to remember, all couples say that once they break up they will keep talking and be friends. But it doesnt always happen that way, for many reasons. If you say he seems sad, i dont think he's over you. Unless, he is pretending to be sad, so you try to get him back and he rejects the idea. As you can see, there are many different angles to look at it. And i dont know him so you will have to figure that part out.

If you want to know how he is feeling, i would either just ask him or ask somebody that is close to him and knows him well.

If you need anymore advice, drop me a msg in my inbox :]

Good luck!

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I don't know what to get my boyfriend for christmas he is 20 years old and he is very spiritual if that helps any ideas.

Hmmm welll, you could burn him a cd of all the songs that remind you of him.
You can buy a jar and fill it up with post it notes and write the things you love about him.


And if you havent been dating him a long time, i wouldnt over do it...maybe just shirts, watch, take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant or cook him dinner.

it would be easier if you said other things he is into, and how long you guys have been dating :]

Good luck

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alright so i havent actually KISSED a guy before. weird thing is, i've made out with two? i'm definately not a whore i am 18 years old. but anyways i know how to do like a peck kiss, it's like kissing someone in your family but how to you do the one where your mouth is somewhat open and so are your lips. how do you know if the guy wants to make out or do a kiss like this? don't tell me, "it comes natural" because for me nothing does. i just don't really know how people do that? any explinations or tips would be very helpful, thank you.

Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed. However, you don't need to always close your eyes; some people enjoy keeping their eyes open and seeing their partner when kissing.

You start out with a little peck (like how you would kiss your mother) and then wait for him to stick his tongue in, or you can kinda poke yours in so he gets the hint :]

GOOOD LUCK!

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I me this man online he came over with his son and the next day he text me saying he had a great time..Later he text me and starting coming over we have sex and he falls to sleep and gets up later and goes home. Then a few weeks pass and hes texting again to say Hi he comes over again and its sex we have been doing this off and on for 4 months I am falling for him i have never ask him how he feels when he comes we do watch tv and talk and end up in the bed. The last time he came he told me he had miss coming over my friend thinks i should let him come over again have sex with him and tell him its time to go you got what you wanted and so did I and you have made it clear we are just sex. Should I do this or just come out and ask how he feels about me. He tells me Im awesome but what does that mean.What should I do. He tells me I love your hair sent me a text of his son having fun sends me a text going down the road in his truck playing a song awhile back.

Thanks for wrting in my inbox!

Well, i am in a situation similar to yours. Dont make the same mistake as me, and assume he is using you for sex. I did the same thing, i would go over his house and we would have sex. Then, i would leave and say well you got what you wanted. And, he got upset because of that. I would sit him down and ask him where you guys stand with each other. That is the only way you will know for sure. I know it might be tough, but im not so sure he is using you for sex. I could see if he only texted you or called you when he wanted some. But, since you say he sends pictures of his son to you and whatnot, i would say he cares about you in a sense.

So, i would really just talk to him. You dont want to start playing mind games with him, and thinking you know his motives (if he has any) because i made that mistake.

If you need anymore advice reguarding this, please dont hesitate to email me

hypnoticpoison92@yahoo.com

GOOD LUCK!

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Do you think it is okay for your first kiss to be with a random stranger ? wether your at a party or maybe a gathering. I want my first kiss but im debating on wether i want it with a random hott guy so theres no strings attached or someone I know and like. But would a stranger be not a good thing?

I agree 100% with the other person below. Your first kiss should be special. You dont want to remember you first kiss being somebody you dont know, or didnt have any kind of feelings more, and most importantly somebody you didnt even know. :]


Good luck

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