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like our love fades in and out
okay me and my boyfriend made 5months this monday, and its been pretty qood, like monday he and i was happy that it's been 5months and at the end of the day at school monday he was like "5months baby" and all over me, but our relationship is kinda weird, like i love him and he loves me, but there's days where our love is strong and there's days our love isn't strong and i kinda hate it, because it hurts mee alot, like i dont know what to do, i try to be all over him, but no pushy thouqh, but its whatever too him. And when we have days like these i hate it, and it really hurts me, can you hellp please because i have no idea what to do.
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Well congrats on your five month anniversary. Thats great! I understand where you are coming from with love fading in and out. That is normal because you guys will have moments when its completely passionate and then times where its just whatever, and yea it does hurt. But what you should do is first talk to him about it, maybe if he sees that it hurts you he will look for ways to avoid the hurtful days. Also a lot of it is the commonality. Like, do you guys have stuff in common, because if not then the relationship will just fizzle unfortunately. All realtionships require work. Thats what you should do, is you give a little he gives a little, and if it just seems like one of you is more into it then the other, then it probably wont work. Next time you feel this way, think of something you both have in common, then go do it, like say it is bikeriding, if you guys start to have a whatever moment, go for a bike ride and just talk. It'll be fun, active and it just might fix those awkward moments.
I hope I helped you figure this out a little bit, and good luck with everything, give it a chance, after all you made five months, congratualtions!
:) Jeannie
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well if you both love each other and feel really comfortable with each other then just talk to him about it, or if your not comfortable then maybe you weren't ment to be. cause it might not be you, it could be him.. and maybe theres something in the middle of you two.. you guys should talk it out.
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Well first off, love cant sometimes be strong and sometimes not be. That just doesnt make sense, i am just trying to clarify that.
Also, I think you should just ask him and tell him how you feel. You and i can have 567865456 guesses and maybe still not know what is bothering him.
Basically, there isnt much else you can do but talk to him. You guys have been dating for five months (congrats!) so you should be able to be pretty upfront with him about certain situations, and this is one of them :]
Also, you can TRY to do the same thing back to him. To show him how it feels, but i wouldnt really recommend that. I wouldnt because, it is somewhat childish but just an idea :]
Good luckk
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What you are experiencing is a common occurance in relationships. Don't worry too much, the two of you are not losing love on somedays but rather just going through the motions. Like anyone else in your life, there will be ups and downs with him. There will be days that you can't stand him and days that he can't stand you. At the end of the day its all Iove if you two feel that way for eachother. I understand what you mean when you say it can be painful when things are bad, but in a relationship you will always have some hurt feelings with the good. One thing that you can do is to make sure that you are keeping the communication between the two of you open. Always be sure to express your feelings with him and encourage him to do the same. Be open and honest and try to think about what you say and do before it happens. Being aware of your actions and intentions is always a good idea. Tell eachother how you feel and you should be fine. When you are in a trusting, happy, loving relationship, small issues will pass with the time. Make sure you two make time to hang out, go on dates and just enjoy eachother. It will remind you of why you fell in love to begin with. Good luck!
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i'll try to help as best i can.
have you tried asking him if on these days, if there's anything on his mind? maybe he's stressed out, or maybe something else, that's making him seem distant.
maybe the same thing could go for you. have you ever been so busy, stressed, etc. that you seem to focus more on your problem than him?
that happens to me sometimes, too. it's perfectly normal. good luck!
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