I am a teenage girl, who has been through alot, friendship wise and relationship wise... i am willing to help anyone and be there for anyone... I strive to the best of my ability too answer your questions in the best way i can!
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Location: Australia
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Age: 15
Member Since: January 13, 2007
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I don't know what to do. I'm a girl, btw.
This girl likes me.. a lot apparently. I'm a sophomore and she's still in middle school. We went out for a while but I broke up with her. I wasn't sure if I really liked her.
Now I'm opening up to people and getting closer to my friends.. which is good (instead of hiding in a shell, right?) I have always been shy so I decided to change things around.. I talked to some old guy friends. One of them.. actually talks to me on his own and whatnot. He seems to like my sense of humor and asks me about my day.
I think I might like him [I did before when we were in middle school, so he's not some weirdo] and I told him I might develop feelings for him in time.
But the girl says she's going to wait for me because she doesn't want ANYONE else.
I'm not sure what to say. I don't like hurting people. Because I'm really not ready for a relationship [with a girl I suppose]. And somehow.. I'm going to be a hypocrite for not wanting a relationship with her but with someone else. We are kinda like best friends and it's just hard..
I mean I'm almost 16 and I'm no longer looking for serious relationships anymore. It's nearly impossible to find. They lead to heartbreak x3254242. So I'm taking it easy and..I just want to date without it being really serious.
I don't know what to do.. I feel really guilty about liking people and wanting relationships with guys and not her. I don't know what to say [in a nice way] so she doesn't end up hating me. (link)
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Hey,
WEll, i think you should follow your heart and not worry about what anyone else is going to feel you have to worry about yourself and do whats best for you!
obviously you broke up with her for a reeason!!! maybe be open with her and try and keep a friendship with her!!! explain the way you feel and say how your not looknig for anything serious!!!
Best of luck!
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15/f me and my boyfriend of went on a break as of yesterday because i keep breaking promises to him. I need some way to prove to him that im not going to do that anymore.. someway to get him back. please help im desperate (link)
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hey,
To be rudley honest... its your own fault that you didn't keep promises!!! You could start by telling him you realise what you did wrong etc... and ask for a second chance!!! Don't make promises you can't keep!!! Or compromise on your promises!
good Luck
Elle
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okay so, my boyfriend and I have known each other for a little over a year now. [since freshmen year, now we're sophmores] we've been together since last october & we're going on 3 months, but our relationship, before it was official, started to develop over a year ago. I truly love him. he's on one of the sweetest guys I'll ever encounter in my life. We're both Christians, so we're saving our virginity for marriage. But we do other things...so far, we've only gone to 2nd base [touching under the clothes] and he feels really bad about doing it...i mean of course he loves it, he's a guy...but he feels so guilty like he's taking something away from me cuz we went to 2nd base together...i keep trying to tell him that i'm completely for it & that i love him, but he still feels terrible [yet he doesn't want to stop doing it either]...what should i tell him or say? cuz it's really starting to bother me...
thank you! =) (link)
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Hey,
i had the same problem at the start of my relationship with my boyfriend!!! He did the same thing and kept saying sorry for it but i didn't mind!! We sat down and talked and i told him i was okay with it etc... I also made the next move to show him i wanted it!! I seriously erge you to talk to him honestly!! Also maybe he is unsure of whether he wants to do it!! Maybe he thinks h is doing it wrong or something!! Just talk!!
best of luck
Elle
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ok so i FINALLY got over this guy i liked for FOUR WHOLE YEARS..and i felt soo free and liberated, but then all of sudden his msn-name was the lyrics for OUR song and my mind directly thought "aww he likes me again!" and i started likking him again and now i cant stop thinking about him (even though I KNOW he doesnt like me) so whta do i do? do you suggest i delete him (i realllly dont want to!) (link)
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Four Whole years is a long time period to like someone... I am getting the thought that it hurt you! If i were you, i would sit down and talk to him... tell him how you fgeel and see what he sayd... keep in mind to state you still wanna be friends even if he doesn't like you in that way!!! Be open and be honest, you have nothing to lose!!! If he doesn't like you then i'm sorry sweetie but i think its time to move on... Break open the choclate, have a candle lit bath and a girlie sleep over....
Best of luck
Elle
P.s let me know how things go!
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ok, the other day i was speaking to my cousins mate online (him and my cousin are 13 im 14) and my cousin's mate (alex) he gave me some boys email address and said that he was in his class at school so i added him and he came online and said who is this blah blah blah...
anyway we got to talking and i said who i was nd that nd he said i think i know you send me a pic of you so we swapped pics etc. and i thought he was cute, but then i thought and i remembered he's like a year younger than me but i keep lookin at his pic and i just keep thinking "he is sooo cute" and it was right after he had seen my picture he was acting really nice.
But, he's a year younger than me, i dont really "know" him and im never guna meet him (he lives like half an hour away) but i think he's like really nice but all we'll ever do is talk on msn!!!
so, do i just keep on talking to him blah blah blah...or should i not talk 2 him as much bcoz i think that he more i talk 2 him, the more i might like him :S...i really dont know!!!
thanks for ANY answers
xxxx
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Hey,
ummm... I think you should keep talking to him, you could become great friends, but keep in min you may not ever meet him... But just say you goto your cousins house, you might get to meet him... I don't think you should just stop talknig... It is probably good that you have someone you can talk to !!
Best of luck
Elle
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Okay, this is long so be prepared. Let's call this guy Fred. He's in 11th grade and I'm in 9th. Obviously, I really like him. Heh so we met like at the second month of this school year? I really don't know how because I didn't know him and vice versa...but like one day out of random he hugged me at lunch saying "She's a cutie." to a friend that we both know. And after that, I was walking to lunch with my bff and the friend that we both know and Fred were like "Come stand in line with us." and I was like why? And his friend and Fred were like "Because you're pretty/beautiful." And my bff was like "He likkeeess you." btw, my bff is a guy that's gay. Anywhos, then after that he puts his arms around me [not possessivly but rather like cute-ly?] haha. Twice he almost got in trouble for it. Also, during one of the [strings] concerts, he was backstage waving at me frantically =P He also calls me a nickname he made me, cute, pretty, and beautiful a lot. He also gives me bear hugs and always gets up to stand with me when I go over to his lunch table. Last time he was like "You're tall for a girl." and I was like "Hmmm, I'm still shorter than most people." and he goes "I'm still short" [yet, he's still taller than me XD] I go "You're not short. You're taller than me." and then he goes "Well, I like tall girls. Do you like tall guys?" and I was like "Why not?" Haha anyways, do you think he likes me, or what? Tell me the truth. I won't give you 1's because I didn't want to hear the answer. (link)
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Hey,
Yes, i think he likes you very much... Just be careful of him being in year 11 and you in 9 cause he only has one year left and having him there with you and then gone could spring a spanner in the works!!! Also be careful he isn't after Sex!!!
Hoping you all the best
Elle
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It's my 17th birthday coming up on 20th Jan, and i'm not sure what to do to "celebrate" it. Last year I had a limo party but that was because it was my "sweet sixteen", and i've had house parties, cinema parties and bowling parties before in the past, so i've kinda run out of ideas.
My friends say I should just go cinema again but there's nothing really on that I want to see.
And my boyfriend says that he'll take me out somewhere but he wants me to choose where and again I have no idea.
Please help, I need all the suggestions I can get and i'm running out of time :-| (link)
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Hey,
ummm... tough question...what about having a dress up at home party with a theme, like anything use the letter of their first name... say your name started with D you could dress up as a Dancer or deer anything...
Another idea is you could have a mocktail party... get everyone dressed up... suits and dresses and sit outside and drink mocktails (non-acholic cocktails) you can find heaps of recipes for them on the net!!!
Hope you have a great Birthday!!
hoping you all the best
Elle
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15f. I met a guy at a party who I liked at the time and wanted to hook up with, and I didn't tell him, but he told me he doesn't hook up with girls because he doesn't want his parents to find out. Now he calls me every so often and we have long conversations, and he tells me that asking this one girl out was the biggest mistake of his life. He and I flirted a lot at the party, which was about two and a half months ago, and grinded. Do you think he might like me? What should I do about it? I kind of still like him. He's not hot but he's very cuddly. (link)
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it's hard to know if he likes you. I think you should talk openly to him, tell him you like him etc... but state that you still wanna be friends if he doesn't like you!!! see where it goes...
Best of luck
Elle
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I'm worried about a friend of mine. She dates a lot of guys, pretty fast. She broke up with her boyfriend two weeks ago, and she already has a new guy ready to ask her out.
The new guy is much stronger than her, and has always been mean to me. I don't want her hurt, in any way, because she means the world to me.
Does anyone have an idea of how to tell her this without sounding jealous? (link)
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hey,
its great to see such a caring friend like you!!! wish there was more girls out there like you!! I think you need to sit down and talk to her, if your not good at confrontation then perhaps via text message or over the interent or by letter. Her moving on fast to me suggests its her way of dealing with her break-up's!! deep inside she could be using these relationships to get over her hurt. I think you should tell her your only looking out for her and you care about her and tell her she means the world to you!! try not to be over protective!
Best of luck
Elle
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y a but i dont know how to move on you know something this guy gave me my first kiss. As much as i want to forget about him i cant because i see him everyday at school . plz help me i dont know what to do (link)
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mmm.... first kisses, someone taking your virginity etc.... are really hard to forget about and it takes a few months to move on.. i go to school with my ex, i was with him for 6 months but i got over him... i started hanging out with other guys, we didn't talk to each otehr after we broke up!!! I'm sure there are heaps of othr guys stick with them, stick with your friends and avoid your ex... there is nothing to say you can be friends with him.. but you gotta get rid of the feelngis there, its okay to have memories... everyone has there own methods of moving on... i just spend time with my chics play music, have a cry and then hold the strength to get out there and find other guys to be friends with and maybe even a boyfriend~
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this guy i like or i think i like, likes another girl name stacy. i know he like her becasue he draws her name on his notebook and on this stickers that say HELLO MY NAME IS...and they all say STACY.i know beacuse i saw them. it just gets me mad because this guy has kissed me more then 2 timmes and i know he wants more then just a kiss he wants to have sex and i am not ganna give him that beacuse i am not a bitch. also ths guy told me that he likes me and wants to go around with me but when he told me that he was all HIGH. plz help me tell me what to do. (link)
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Hey,
if i were you i would try move on, I wouldn't wnat to be in a relationship with someone doing drugs... He obviously only wants one thing SEX... a girl shouldn't be used for that!!!
Hoping you all the best
Elle
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First off, I'm a 15-year-old girl
I'm tired of falling on love with guys who are too old for me (the oldest being 21 and a friend of mine).
How do I avoid this happening?
Thank you. (link)
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hey,
I am a 15 year old girl who is dating an 18year old guy, we have been together for 10 months now and are gonig along really well.. at first my family didn't accept us but now they do...
No-one can help falling in love, it happens naturally. You may well be more mature then other people your age, i know that i am.
Don't let anyone tell you your falling for the wrong guy, the only way you are gonig to find out is by experience...
If you know they are too old i believe it wont be too hard for you to start liking guys your age... hang around them etc...
Hoping you all the best
Elle
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okay, this is going to be kind of long since you need background information. my "first love" and i had been "talking" for 2 years but were never an official couple. he took my virginity and we've been through alot, we would never fully commit to a relationship and never spent any "quality time" with me, like we would hangout but we would never really go anywhere. but i ended up falling in love with him, but he was involved in selling drugs, and didnt want a girlfriend while he was living that life. so i would try to move on and talk to other guys and we would go months on end without talking then he would find out and try to become part of my life again only to leave once he was sure he still had me. well this started in 04 and continued on till now basically again we hadnt been talking for a while and i was determined to move on and i met this boy max. max is involved in selling drugs so i cant say hes better in that way, but he's affectionate with him in front of his friends, funny my friends and family all love him, and hes a total sweetheart. everytime i even hear his name i smile. now my "first" called me around newyears and got sent away to tennesse he came over to say goodbye and FINNALY said i love you back and i gave him my chain. he calls me everynight now, and really wants to get on track tell me he loves me, and hes finnaly opening up and hes been immature. blaise blaise. you get the point. well were together officially now. and why i thought this is what i always wanted i cant help but think about max. me and my mom got into an argument over my first the otherday and for the first time she hit me, i ran away and i ended up going to max and he stayed with me and was helping me out. i then called my first and told him what happened he made me return home. max then got kinda quiet, but later that night i txt him thank you and sorry and everything and he was just like dont worry about it i like you alot. and i like him alot too but i couldnt say that. all my homegirls think it should be obvious and im dumb for even thinking about max. i mean i waited two years for my first. but i was starting to move on and max just sort of had that impact on me, i dont know maybe its my fear of commitment but i think i really do care. but my first is opening up and i do still love him, but i think he waited two long. im at complete lost. at what i should do. i dont want to put my first down when hes already down but at the same time. i care for both of them. HELP! (link)
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Hey darling,
I don't really know what to say... You and only you can make your own decision and your decision should be respected! I personally don't like the fact hat these guys are selling drugs but that of course is my very own opinion... Maybe you needed your first to come around to show you who you really loved etc... Don't worry about him being already down, you may make it worse but at the end of the day you have to do whats best and right for you. I am sorry to hear that your mum hit you, have you spoken to her about that? Maybe your first ordered you to go home because you were with max!?!?! you going straight to max for his strength and guidence tells me you love and need him more.
Hope you sort it out, hoping you all the best
Elle
p.s let me know how things are travelling
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ok so i wanna propose to my girlfriend of 3 years. but i have 2 questiosn.
1.what stores can you buy really good engagement rings? like i know theres kay and zales but what else?
2. what should i do to propose really cute. like i was thinkinon valentines day..or like if i did wait till next xmas eve..under amistletoe or something. something really cute or creative. thanks soooo much (link)
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proposing is meant to be romantic etc... Maybe a place she loves, on the beach under a sun set anything like that... anyday would bealright... birthday's, valentines day, your 4 year anniversary... its all up too you... Any jewllers store will ahve engagement rings and you may even like the option of designing one yourself to make it that extra bit special and unique!!!
hoping you a happy life with you girlfriend, all the best!
Elle
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hey elle, you're amazing.
to follow up on my question, since i already called him and he hasn't call me back, what would you do in my situation? i don't want to seem too desperate and eager.. and also, should i candidly say that i like him?
p.s. you are the best advice giver i have ever encountered. honestly you are what i was hoping for when i came on advicenators as a last resort. thank you so, so very much. (link)
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i honestly don't know what i would do in your situation. I for one am very over powering and don't give up!!! i would keep calling til he answered... but thats just cause of the way i am!! its not nessarily the right way to go about it.. you could let out you like him and see what his reaction is. theres no such thing as desperate.. just don't come accross that way.. talk it out naturally, let it flow, be open and don't be negative or start an argument!
Thanks!! i am only new at this... today is my first day!!!
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he's always been an assertive charming guy, texting me or calling me or iming me first, and making plans.
currently he's going through a tough time. he lost a lot of his friends and seems to be antisocial at this time.
occasionally he will come online to talk to me for an hour or possibly hours, and he'll always ask why it is we don't hang out because he really liked me. though, i'll text him and he'll respond in very short sentences that sound closed off and borderline rude. i'll ask if he wants to hang out, he won't respond.
he still is always the first to im me, meaning he still wants to talk to me. sometimes he'll send me random text messages after we haven't been talking for an extended period of time, asking how i am, or wishing me a happy new year, or telling me random things about his dream.
i still kind of like him, and have never really gotten over him although i always get over people easily. i'm sick of waiting for him to come around, i'm sick of him ignoring my phone calls but whenever he feels like it he can contact me. i'm sick of that, i'm sick of the mixed messages. if he really wants to be friends like he says he does, then why doesn't he follow through with plans? he always either doesn't respond or says i don't know now, i'll call you...
this last time i called he would've had no excuse not to respond, like last time he said he didnt get the message, but this time his phone was turned on. i left a short message asking him to call me back, but he hasn't.
he'll come online in a couple of days and pretend nothing happened, still being like, i wonder why i never see you.
what should i do, should i confront him (what do i say, without making it seem like i care too much?) or do i ignore him from now on?
HELP! (link)
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Hey,
seems like he's going through a really tough time... i lost all my friends last year too but i had a bf, he's the one who got me through everything... Maybe he feels he needs you and he may even like you but he might be afriad your going to turn on him too like everyone else. I believe you need to talk to him as soon as your can, by text, phone call or internet... I think you need to tell him exactly the way you feel, try and get him to open up too you... say your there to talk to etc, if he brushes you off i think you should move on, it may take time but you gotta do it... life isn't going to stop and wait for this situation to sort out, it keeps rolling on by and you could be missing out on opportunities because of this guy!
Hoping you sort everything out
Elle
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My boyfriend Christopher's birthday is on January 21st. he is going to be 18, and by the time it is his birthday we will have been together for only 2 months. i have been thinking about what i should get him alot lately, because i want it to be cute, funny, romantic, or just something he has wanted. when i asked him what he wanted for his birthday he told me i dont know. so i have no ideas. the problem is that i would probably get him a stuffed animal or something, but i got him one for christmas plus a electric razor. if anyone has any ideas and can get them to me before his birthday it would be greatly appreciated. thank you! (link)
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My bf turned 18 last year, I got hi lots of little things, a leather wallet (something he can have on him all the time to remind him of you,) I made a cushion for him to have on his bed, it had photo's of us and tour names and the date we got together on it. I got him chocolates and a keyring which is believed to bring wealth, i also got him a really nice card that meant something really special... Make it unique, use your creativity and go all out!!! i believe watches, rings and jewllery are a lovely gift but of course thats only if you know they are going to wear it...
Hoping you find something
Elle
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I am pretty popular, and all.
But it seems like no one even likes me.
I have maybe a few really good/best friends but other than that I just have little friendships with girls.
And guys, they all hate me.
I dont understand, I used to be really really good friends with 80% of the guys who hate me.
They all just are mean and I dont know what I did.
Some guys would be my friend and be nice to me, and then just randomly start saying how they dont like me and tell me to shut up when I talk.
I dont understand, they dont do this to any other girl.
Maybe Im not as pretty as everyone else, but does that mean they have to hate me?
This makes me really sad
and on top of that, the boy I like , hates me probably the most.
long story on that one (link)
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hey sweety,
being popular isn't everything, i am far from popular but that doesn't get to me. I have a loving bf of 9 months and everything is fine. maybe you have changed a bit, sometimes people don't notice it but they do change and that could be reasons of why they don't like you. Friends aren't everything... They could be doing all this to make you feel sad, you need to show your inner strength and show them that it doesn't bother you. I beleive you need to have some self- respect for yourself... Saying your not pretty is negative... you gotta believe your an individual and love who you are.
Hope things work out for ya!
Elle
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