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boyfriend feeling guilty
okay so, my boyfriend and I have known each other for a little over a year now. [since freshmen year, now we're sophmores] we've been together since last october & we're going on 3 months, but our relationship, before it was official, started to develop over a year ago. I truly love him. he's on one of the sweetest guys I'll ever encounter in my life. We're both Christians, so we're saving our virginity for marriage. But we do other things...so far, we've only gone to 2nd base [touching under the clothes] and he feels really bad about doing it...i mean of course he loves it, he's a guy...but he feels so guilty like he's taking something away from me cuz we went to 2nd base together...i keep trying to tell him that i'm completely for it & that i love him, but he still feels terrible [yet he doesn't want to stop doing it either]...what should i tell him or say? cuz it's really starting to bother me...
thank you! =)
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I think you guys should have a talk. Discuss what both of you guys are comfortable doing together....so when it happens there is a mutual understanding, and your boyfriend's feelings, hormones, and morals wont contradict each other. Have the talk. Not the sex talk, but the comfortability talk. And I think it is absolutely amazing that you and your boyfriend both have the understanding of abstinence. Thats what the guy that im talking to and i have also.
Hope I helped
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Well, it sounds to me like he loves you. If he didn't then he wouldn't care if he did it or not. He probably just wants everything to be great with you. Maybe he was just nervous on how he did things. Or, feeling insecure about things. Just sit him down and tell him that you love him and that you trust him 100% with everything.
Hope I have helped. :)
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Hey,
i had the same problem at the start of my relationship with my boyfriend!!! He did the same thing and kept saying sorry for it but i didn't mind!! We sat down and talked and i told him i was okay with it etc... I also made the next move to show him i wanted it!! I seriously erge you to talk to him honestly!! Also maybe he is unsure of whether he wants to do it!! Maybe he thinks h is doing it wrong or something!! Just talk!!
best of luck
Elle
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I say you make a move on him first the next time to show that you are just as willing to do it as he is.
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