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I go to Wilson High School. I know alot about alot of things, and always keep an open mind. When I grduate I wish to major in Psychology. Thats where the Dr. Minkus comes into play. I welcome anyone, and everyone ask me a question. i'll help you the best I can. Thank you!
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I was really upset about something a guy friend (or so I thought) did to me.
Well I have a mental illness (schizophrenia) and am on a small disablility pension. I don't just sit around on my ass, I volunteer at the food bank and other places to keep me busy.
Well I went to visit my friend at his work one day. And all of a sudden, for no reason at all he starts saying the meanest things to me, like that I was living off the system and wasnt going to better my life. When I started crying and said he was being judgemental he said "you needed to hear this", in the meanest voice.
I havent been back to see him and he hasnt phoned to apologize. I even heard that he has been talking to his friends about me spazzing out.
Why he is being so mean? Do I have a right to be upset or am I overeacting? And should I even give him a second chance?
I like the idea of hitting him, and all. What he said was wrong. but think of it this way, you were visiting him at his JOB. I'm not saying anything agaisnt you, but the only reason your able to visit is because you don't have to work. He could have been irritated by that. Just lye low for a while, don't talk to him. Things will come around.
Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
Hi,
My name is Stephanie im 12 and I LOVE a boy named Alex. How do I ask him out or get him to like me?please contacts me with the answer...
stephy_raymond@hotmail.com
Sorry it took so long. Heres my advice. Take it slow, let him get to know you. If you takes the bait and falls for you. there you go, if he doesn't, big deal lol theres a whole phone book full of Alex's. ( I don't suggest this seeing as there probably all 50 ) Well Good Luck!!
Dr. Minkus
hey well...i broke up with this kid a while ago because he goes to Notre dame and i go to easton and we like never see each otha ya know. But man we really hit it off sex all the time. and i ain't gon lie it wuz good.But i think im pregnant and i like his best friend who goes to easton and i have no idea what to do i mean its really hard..im getting an abortion tomorrow..(Sunday dec. 10) and im really scared.. i need your help...
thanks
Well, first i think you better figure out if yuor pregnant for sure. Especially before you have an abortion, that might not find anything to kill, if your not. Second, you might wanna check your calender, Saturday is the 10th and sunday is the 11th. you can try and date his friend, but his friend probably won't date you because he's his friend.
Good Luck!
Dr. Minkus
ok. well im a girl. im 14. and i wanna know how do you know when your bi, because...i think i am. cause i like girls and guys. but i dont know. cause i like guys a lil more. but im craving to make out with a girl. cause i never have. and anyways. please help me!!
Search with in yourself. lol Best advice I can give you. Look at a picture of a naked guy. If you get excited, your straight, look at a picture of a girl. if you don't get excited your straight. Look at picture of a guy and girl, if you get excited, your bi.
Good luck! I hope this helps.
Dr. Minkus
Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?
it's fine to feel offended, but you can take something positive from it. i'm not saying this to be funny either. It's apparent she's not dating you for your looks. Which is great! Theres few girls out there, that don't focus on just looks. Although, and i promise you this. There will be 1,000 that claim they don't focus on looks. At least this way when she says it you can really believe her.
Good luck, and try and be more confident, it will help you succeed in life.
Dr. Minkus
I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not?
Theres a couple possibilities. Of course career is a huge one. You'll obviuosly know better than I will. Does he have a steady job? Has he accomplished the things he wants to by now? Answer these to yourself. Alot of times, we have goals for our lives, and marriage would be a huge, step, and a hude goal. But if one of the previous has not been achived. He may be afraid to kinda jump over that goal if you will. He may just want to accomplish a few things before he's fianlly ready to settle down, and start a strong family. I don't know if this is the case. i could be totally off, but I hope it helps.
Dr. Minkus
ok the other day i was with my boyfriend and weve been together for a month and 2 months next week and he said 'i love you' to me like properly but hes into long term relationships, his last gf he was with for 8 months and he said 'i love u' to her.
do you think he really means it...i love him so much and i dont want to get hurt!
thanks ill rate high
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Depends how he acts. I've been dating this girl for a month now, almost two, and I can tell you right now, I love her! The thing is, he's had long term relationships, and you know this. He should be capable of knowing what love is, and anyone who can have a relationship for 8 months is smarter enough to say it and truely mean it. He wouldn't say it unless he truly meant it. I have a funny question you can ask him. It sounds really funny, and if he's the type of guy like me he'll deff. laugh. say "do you really love me?" and when he says "yes" which I'm confident he will say "if I broke both my arms, would you whipe my ass for me?" He's not supposed to answer but he will and you'll get a good laugh out of it. When he says yes which i'm almsot confident he will, you'll know he truly does love you, and you get something to laugh about for a while. : )
Have fun, and good luck!
Dr. Minkus
I took one of my friends to play tennis and he wasnt very good. But the thing that really got to me was that he kept critizing me and telling me what a bad player I WAS!!
I told him that I was just learning to play and was taking lessons. Then he said "what kind of lessons are you taking" and that I was "holding the racket all wrong".
He also said my stamina wasnt very good. What a jerk!! I was nice enough to drive him up to the court and be patient with him even though he was terrible. I may not be a pro but I was certainly better then him.
Well I havent asked him to play since then but he has been asking me if I want to play again.. Should I tell him the truth that I just don't want to play because of how he made me feel?
He also insulted me by saying he bought his wife a tennis racket and that she is "at my level". And I know that is an insult because she isn't athletic at all.
What should I do? And do I have a right to be upset?
Tough Question. If this kid was mature, you'd easily be able to tell him why, and he wouldn't get mad. But something tells me he's not. So just avoid it as long as you can. Find a new player. Tennis is a tricky sport I've been playing for two years now, and I'm still not that good. Don't let him frusturate you in any way. Stamina can always be gained, just like skill. Just find a wall and hit the ball agaisnt the wall, focus on strong basics than worry about playing 1 on 1. Tell your friend this if you want, and tell him your just gonna work on basics. A good idea would be ask your instructor if he has anyone who would play you. someone better that can teach you and help you while your playing. good Luck , this was suprisingly a pretty tough question.
Dr. Minkus
a boy liked me. i'm scared of relationship. he loses feelings for me. not his fault. i run away from every guy. i start to like him. he doesnt know. i dont even really know what my question is......IM THAT CONFUSED!!!
Love is a funny thing. Conffusion is often the right to passage. If he likes you, he will make his move. If he's not the type of guy to make a move, even if it means only just saying a random "hi" than it's your job to make a move. It may seem difficult. But if you truly do like this kid. You'll do whats necesary. and maybe your scared to be shot down. But you only have a couple years to be a teenager, and have fun. So isn't it worth trying. I have an idea for you. It's gonna sound sorta dumb but it can work. Make up a false screen and make it convincing. Prefabbly a guys screen name. And talk to him as another "dude" figure slowly who he has his eyes on, and if your one of them. It's your turn to act. Good Luck! Hope this is hopefull
Dr. Minkus