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should I tell him the truth?
I took one of my friends to play tennis and he wasnt very good. But the thing that really got to me was that he kept critizing me and telling me what a bad player I WAS!!
I told him that I was just learning to play and was taking lessons. Then he said "what kind of lessons are you taking" and that I was "holding the racket all wrong".
He also said my stamina wasnt very good. What a jerk!! I was nice enough to drive him up to the court and be patient with him even though he was terrible. I may not be a pro but I was certainly better then him.
Well I havent asked him to play since then but he has been asking me if I want to play again.. Should I tell him the truth that I just don't want to play because of how he made me feel?
He also insulted me by saying he bought his wife a tennis racket and that she is "at my level". And I know that is an insult because she isn't athletic at all.
What should I do? And do I have a right to be upset?
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yes you do have a right to be mad. thing is you should let him critizis(how ever it is spelled) you, and yes tell him he isnt so hot him self, and that maybe if he took lessons then he would actually learn how to play right...sorry if it sounds a little rude but he had no right to say that to you. well hope i have helped. byebye
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Yes. He was very rude. Tell him so, but in a calm, polite, sincere manner. Remember that he may have only benn saying thoses things to mask how bad he felt about his own playing. No ego-bashing either, if you tell him how bad he was you'll put him on the defensive, and that'll drive him to say more awfull things.
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Tough Question. If this kid was mature, you'd easily be able to tell him why, and he wouldn't get mad. But something tells me he's not. So just avoid it as long as you can. Find a new player. Tennis is a tricky sport I've been playing for two years now, and I'm still not that good. Don't let him frusturate you in any way. Stamina can always be gained, just like skill. Just find a wall and hit the ball agaisnt the wall, focus on strong basics than worry about playing 1 on 1. Tell your friend this if you want, and tell him your just gonna work on basics. A good idea would be ask your instructor if he has anyone who would play you. someone better that can teach you and help you while your playing. good Luck , this was suprisingly a pretty tough question.
Dr. Minkus
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you have a right to be upset and yes i woild speak your mind to this person just let him know exactly how he made you feel and maybe after you tell him and he still wants to play then give him one more shit-he may not have realized how he was treating you and how it made you feel. If you dont open your mouth it will continue to happen so yes speak your mind girl
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Be brutally honest with him.
He obviously doesnt have a problem being honest with you!!
Tell him to shut up, and let you play the way you wanna play..
Let him know that you know your not the best tennis player, and you dont need him to tell you that.
You definetly have a right to be upset, i know i would be.
Simply say "hey i dont need you to tell me what to do ok. So shut up and leave me alone" if hes a good friend he'll understand why your upset...
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if it was me id be upset thats very mean and you did drive him just tell him you don't feel like playing with him anymore because he critizes too much and if he trys to say anything back or if he does say anything mean back just tell him straight up that he is worse than you are i know it sounds mean but a good friend woudlnt be so critizizing.. hope i helped! (( or suggust that you play with his wife or if you can play teams that way he can't be just mean to you try that and tell me how it goes))
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