I'm Dominic Mayfield. I'm 6'1, green eyes, black hair. Around 200 lbs, thin but got meat on my bones. I've been through many situations in my life, which is why I can understand most other situations. Ask away and I'll help as best as I can.
E-mail: dmayfield87@hotmail.com
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Location: MD
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Age: 23
Member Since: August 14, 2004
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okay so you already answered my first question and thanks, but if i need to start talking to this guy to get to know me, how do i talk to him if hes popular? (link)
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Well if hes popular it doesnt mean you CANT talk to him. Just try striking up a conversation with him. Just because hes popular doesnt mean a thing. He could be nice, or he could be a prick. If hes nice, you've nothing to worry about. If he doesnt know you very well, try to get to know him as well as letting him get to know you, if he wants to. Just remember, things might not always go well. I hope they do though.
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Okay so I like this guy but I have a bf.. But I don't think it's going anywhere with my boyfriend. I don't really talk to this guy because he's popular. How do I get him to like me? (link)
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Well if you dont think its going anywhere with your current boyfriend, you have to figure out why its not going anywhere. If you like the other guy, then don't be with your current bf. Don't let him think that things are going well by prolonging the relationship when you dont want it.
If you want him to like you, open up to him. Be yourself, and if he likes you, he will like you. You cant make anyone like you just because you like them. Talk to him. Its always a start.
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i have a hard time saying no to guys. even if i have zero interest in the person, i will still act friendly towards them and then they end up thinking that into them. im just a friendly nice person and i dont like hurting guys feelings. idk is there a nice way to let guys down? (link)
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well, tell them that you wish to be friends. That you would like to hang out, have fun, but if you don't want to be WITH them, let them down nicely and tell them that you wish to be friends and see how it goes from there. If you don't say no, you'll only end up getting into problems later on.
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Okay here is the thing..I have a bf tht I really love and have been with for 7 months but my ex bf is now saying he has changed and wants me back. I realize tht a part of me wants to take him back nd just leave my bf, but then I'm scared to cus I dnt want to get hurt again nd then again I dnt wanna leave my bf. What do I do? I miss him nd care about him but I also love my bf. I dnt know how to handle this. I really dnt wanna make the wrong decision. Help? (link)
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Why ruin what you already have? If you also love your bf and if things are going well, don't ruin it for someone who 'claims' to have changed. It's hard for people to change. You will always have feelings....strong feelings...for your ex, but something you got to realize... why did he end up as your ex anyways?
You've been with your bf for 7 months, I say stay with your current boyfriend and be happy with what you have. Don't ruin a good thing for a past emotion.
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when my boyfriend and i makeout it is just plain. we dont use tounge. its kinda boring. but we will kiss sometimes and he sticks his tounge in my mouth as a joke. we end up laughing after. is he trying to tell me he wants to use tounge? (link)
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Well, that is up to you. If you're unsure, just ask him. Using tongue is just 'french kissing' more or less. It's natural. You can also kiss while only using just the tip of your tongue against his while your lips are on his. Just talk to him about it. It never hurts to ask.
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I need advice. I'm 17-years-old. I've known this guy since I was in grade 7, and we kind of grew up together. We went out for awhile when I was younger, but we both had a lot of problems (family issues, etc). I love him, I would do anything for him, absolutely anything. We started hanging out again about a month ago, and we're really close. I live about 50 km. away from him and he comes up whenever I ask him to. It's a real hassle for him to get up here. He says he's looking for a commitment, and doesn't want another guy to come around a week later when I told him how I feel about him. Probably because that's what all the other girls do to him. There would be absolutely no other guys, I am in absolute love with him, and have been for many years. I haven't told him this much yet, and that I want a commitment too. We don't really see each other as just good friends, but probably more as more than friends, if you know what I mean, but it doesn't necessarily involve sex. He's coming over Monday.
What should I say to him? And do you have some tips for opening up to him?
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Be up front with him. Tell him your feelings. He told you he is looking for a commitment, so be honest with him and tell him the same. You also say you love him. If your heart truely belongs to him, go for it. Just be sure that when you give it to him, you will be prepared for everything that goes along with it.
Just be honest, tell him everything, and see how things go from there. Its all you can do. If you wait too long...you might not get a second chance.
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ok my bf is 2 years older than me and probably alot more expirienced...and he keeps asking me weird questions and it sounds like he is trying to hint at sex and i dont want to yet..wat do i do? (link)
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To tell you now, usually in every relationship, if one is sexually experienced, they will wonder about you. They will try to figure out just how experienced you are, and if you're not, they are all about wanting to teach you. It's alot of peoples lil 'exciting' moments. Its natural for people to ask questions like that. If you think he might be hinting towards it, talk to him about it. It is always best to be straight up front about it with him. If he doesnt like the fact you're not wanting to, then tell him he is going to have issues and have to rely on his hand for a while until you are ready. Ok...maybe you can say it nicer, but still something along those lines.
Dont let anyone ever try to convince you that you're ready unless you know for sure that you yourself are ready.
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*i am a 13 year old female and my b/f is 15
ohkay, so my b/f and i have been dating for awhile now. were like everyother couple ya know we hold hands, kiss, and makeout. i dont mind tht he touches me and stuff but he is always calling me prude. it pisses me off. i want us to go to the next level but something in my body just wont let me. what do you think it is? HELP ME! (link)
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Alright. First off heres a thing about guys. They. All. Want. Sex. They will do everything and say anything to get it from you. I dont care if it is a nice person, or one of the worst kind, they honestly all want the same thing. To please their own desires, even if they want to please yours. If your body wont let you go to the next level, you're simply not ready.
Also...take it from me. You don't want to be thinking about this kind of thing while you're 13. You're young yet. Now and days there are 5th graders up to seniors in school getting pregnant just cause they just dont give a damn. If you really value your morals and everything, you'll need to make sure if he is really worth it. You might think you're either in love, or if he is the one...but like I said. You're still young. I suggest waiting til you KNOW you're ready.
Hope I helped.
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I CANNOT break up with anyone. I used to be able to but now I just CAN'T! I can't stand the fact that I'm breaking up with someone that I still want to be friends with. Usually I have my friends break up with the guy for me, but it just doesn't seem...I dunno. The guy I want to break up with now is awesome and I CAN'T and i mean Can't stand to break up with him but I have my reasons and I want to. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can dump him with out being mean? (link)
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Well this is the thing you have to think about. You have to think of the reasons why you want to break up with this awesome guy. These reasons of yours.....are you sure you want to break up with this guy because of those reasons? You need to look at these reasons and tell yourself if it is really good enough to lose this guy over. You may never have another chance with this guy and if you guys are happy right now and if you think hes awesome, and you CAN'T stand to break up with him, then think what you really must do. I hope I helped....
~Dom
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Ok i kinda like this girl, but the problem is shes moving away in a little over a month. im planning on asking her out, but im wondering what she will expect to happen at the end of the month. she cant stay, i cant go with her, and i dont know if im ready for a long distance relationship. if it matters shes not moving accross the globe or anything, about a 4 hour drive. so, mostly for the girls, what is she gonna expect to happen? im 18/m shes 19/f. (link)
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Well you just have to realize things. If you guys go out now...you might get to be able to be good bf/gf...but she is moving. And it is going to be a 4 hour drive. Here soon it will either cost you...or it will either once in a while cause jealousy and suspicion. Think about it, you guys are going to be away from each other a long ways away. What's to say you wont think she will cheat on you, or whos to say that she wont think about the same on you? You just have to think about these things. Unless you are completely devoted to her, and really do like this girl and want to have things work, then you can like visit her like.....every other three days or so. Who knows..for this is for you to find out, and for you to make up your own mind and figure this out. I hope i have helped in some way, and hope things will go out well for you.
~Dom
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i was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend being mean to me all the time when a certain guy came to school, well he was so nice to me today and the day before ever since i talked to him he has been nice to me and actually tells me he loves me and holds my hand and kisses me in public.. he told my friend he wouldnt know what to do if he lost me.. does this mean he is chaging his ways (link)
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Well, you said "HAPPY AGAIN" ...does this mean you are happy? Does this mean hes actually changing from what you are predicting and from what you are seeing? You need to see for yourself if you havent already done so. If he has changed his ways for you, then that means he is sincere and honestly loves you. You need to think about this, and perhaps talk with him and see how he really feels. That is one way to actually find out of what his true intentions are. I hope I helped. Please tell me what happens later on will ya?
~Dom
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I have a friend who is a boy. We have been friends for along time and this year I can tell he is starting to like me a lot more then as just a friend. I like him as more then just a friend too and my BFF says she can tell that we like each other. I am afraid to bring it up and so it he, because we are afraid we might ruin our friendship. Could stay friends if we broke up? Should we take the plunge? Like this morning when me teacher was handing out scrach paper for the cst's She said we could use it for anything, drawings, doodels, notes, or even love leders. I saw him looking at me when she said this and I was looking at him too. I really don't know what to do!!! (link)
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Honestly there is no real answer. You have to think about what you must do. No one can really tell you what to do about this. There is always a possibility that you guys might stay together, might break up, and might even become enemies after you guys break up. You should honestly just think about this from your heart. Is it worth it by taking a chance and seeing if you guys can really work out? Or is it much better by trying to decide to be friends instead. You honestly just need to think about things. Because who knows....he might have feelings for you as well. I hope everything works out for you and hope for the best. Please give me feedback on how everything goes whatever you decide.
~Dom
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I really really like this guy! My friend is going out with him though and i dont think she knows that i like him! But they are really cute togher and i dont want to make her mad! He is a good friend of mine to! So it's hard to tell eaither of them because i dont know what's going on with them!! what should i do? (link)
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I would honestly let things ride out on their own. If they are cute together and are happy, they should stay happy. Ask yourself the question, if you were happy, would you want someone to barge in and take him away from you? I would let things be how they are and see what happens. If they are meant to be, then they are meant to be. Cause later on they could break up and you can take the chance to go with him. I would wait, and perhaps you may find someone even that you think that is even greater than he is. Who really knows? Anyways you should do what you think is best to do, im just here giving advice, its your choice if you should use it or not. I hope i helped though.
~Dom
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Well hi I really need help. I saw this guy that is my frinds friend and we r going out. Then one day when we were at dinner he told me that he is a crossdresser. Ya no not a guy that dresses like a girl, a GIRL! that dresses like a guy! I was petrified! I didnt know what to do. I mean im in love with a girl, now I felt dumb that I was d8ing a girl the whole time. She keeps on calling trying to apologize but I dont want to pick up! What do I do? (link)
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well theres the thing that you have to think about. you were talking and everything and went out, you know her now and since you thought it was a guy, you feel in love, but here you say you feel dumb now cause your in love with a girl. maybe you should really think if that really makes any difference or not. im not saying that you should go bi or go lesbian, but perhaps you can tell her that you want to be good friends, or maybe you can just see how things can go. it all depends on what you really want to do. think about this hard and the thing that mostly sticks with you on what you should do, go ahead and do it. its the best advice probably anyone can give you, that you need to think about this on your own, and decide on what you should do. I hope i helped.
~Dom
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i broke up with my boyfriend but now i really want to go back out with him. i think he still likes me because he flirts all the time. we've only been broke up for a week and i don't want to sound deperate or foolish. what if he's mad i broke up with him? i tried to talk to him about it but i couldn't because i was so nervous. i couldn't force the words out. what should i do? i really want to try to do it in person but how can i get over my fears and what should i say? i have no clue how to word anything! (link)
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well if he flirts with you all the time, then evidently he is not mad that he broke up with you. Maybe hes trying to kinda get back with you. What you should do is basically talk to him and say... "I think that breaking up was something of a mistake....lets get back together or something" tell him how you really feel. If you dont, you may lose him forever.
~Dom
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What does it mean when your around a boy and he makes u feel like no one else is around? (link)
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It means that you may either be in love, or that maybe you dont know what you really want from this boy. You need to check in your heart what you really want, and see if it is really love or not. I hope i helped.
~Dom
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hi everyone, sorry if this is long but it needs a lotta explainin.
me and my best (guy) mate who ive been in love with for a long time were rly drunk the other night and kinda started messin round...anyway we were about to have sex n then i stopped him. i asked him what we'd be after this n he said 'friends of course'. see the thing is, the only thing ive got with him is friendship bcoz he doesnt like me the way i like him...and if thats all its ever gonna be then i can accept that but i cant sleep with him n come so close to havin somethin more with him only to lose the friendship as well, coz things wouldnt ever be the same if we had slept together. i told him that n he looked a bit odd n sed fine. he got up off the sofa (where we were) n put his shirt bk on n handed me my top n then just kinda...left. (we were at my house). he didnt say nethin, he just left...n that was 3 days ago and i havent heard from him since...
but my q is: did i do the right thing by not sleepin with him? n y isn't he talking to me? ive tried ringin him but he wont answer...
thnx
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Yeah...i would say it was the right thing to do. If your not ready for sex, then you shouldnt have had rush things. Although since he was about to have sex with you, and you blew him off cause he said "friends of course"
what i would do is talk to him again. make sure hes not drunk this time...and see how he really feels. he could just be hurt from you saying things to him cause he WAS drunk. so i would try just talking to him in person, get things straighten out. I hope i helped.
~Dom
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hey um im in 7th grade and i have never made out before, the guy that im going out with thinks i have, but i haven't, and hes tried to make his move a couple of times, i've been going behind my parents back, im not aloud to have a boyfriend let alone frech kiss a guy. My parentes are strict, they wont even let him call me, but he does anyway, lol im scared that i'll like screw up and he would think im a bad kisser. I would have no idea what to do, help me out (link)
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People have different ways of making out with other people. When you first make out you just kinda go with it..if he frenches you...then just move your tongue like he does..and then you will get the hang of it. Dont worry, everyone is kinda scared for their first time usually. And for the parents, lol over protective..but sometimes thats a good thing. You can hide things behind their back...just be careful of what you do. That is my advice, and i hope i helped.
~Dom
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I like this one guy in my class. I talk to him alot and we get along well. The thing is, first, he is a grade older then me (sophmore) and second, we are two way different people. He's really smart and kind of nerdy, I guess you could say. Also, hes more into a real relationship and doesn't seem like a shallow,"want to get some" guy. I, on the other hand have never had a real relationship because I always end up finding a shallow guy and I give it all away. I really want a true relationship and I have never liked a guy like him before, I guess my question is, how do I get a guy like him, what's he looking for in a girl, and does every guy just look for sex? (link)
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No...not every guy is in it for sex...but you rarely find them kind of guys i guess. Im a guy..and am currently in a 3 month relationship with my girlfriend, and i love my girlfriend very much. Its not all about sex between us...not at all. We really love each other. You really cant find a guy you really want...you have to either wait until he finds you...and even though some things might not be what they seem...later on in life you may realize your very true love can be in front of you. Thats what happened between me and my girlfriend. Anyways i hoped i helped even a little bit. Sorry if i wasnt much help.
~Dom
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ok is it weird for girls to bite guys lips? cuz usually guys bite mine but iv never bitten theirs... and what about running my tongue across my bfs teeth when were making out? my firend told me thats good but i dont know... please help ill rate hi and if u guys have any other ideas please tell me! (link)
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its not weird at all for girls/boys to bite each others lips. And it depends on the person about the teeth. it just depends. Just ask your boyfriend and see what he likes. I hope i helped.
~Dom
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