Heyy, my name is Brittany. I am sixteen years old, and I was born on the 9th of July. I am very different from most people I know, and I love that! I'm a virgin..I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs and I never have. I am selfish, stubborn, and most people would say I am spoiled. I hate not getting my own way. I dislike liars, and I can't stand being in a moving vehicle without any music playing. I love the color pink, and my favorite number is 39. Country music is my favorite, but I like a little bit of everything. My boyfriend's name is Brandon. I have obsessive compulsive disorder, and I am very paranoid most of the time. I worry a lot. I laugh a lot, and smile even more. I'm very insecure, and can be quite ditzy. I like giving people advice, when I can..My best friend's name is Katie. I am extremely lazy, and tend to be very random.
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Age: 16
AIM: BrittanyMichx39
Member Since: June 17, 2005
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Okay well I have a boy friend and I love him to death. I dont know but I like this other guy and we always flirt but he has a girlfriend. Should we be frineds? Should I brake up? WHAT!
Please help! (link)
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Do whatever you feel is right. If you like someone else more than your b/f you should probably break up, just b/c it isn't very fair to him. If that other kid and his g/f break up, then you can always try to get together with him. but don't ruin any current relationships. Don't flirt with other guys if you have a b/f. Don't flirt with guys if they have g/fs either. That will probably only cause problems. But if you ask me you should break up with your b/f IF you like someone else more. Even if they have a g/f, or don't like you in that way, it's not fair to your b/f!
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I recently got back together with my ex boyfriend after being broken up for 2 months. I have a naturally clingy personality and I think that might have been something that caused problems in the past. It's not that I'm psychotic by any means, I just like a lot of attention. I don't want to screw this up again... so should I simply ignore my clingy disposition and play hard to get sometimes, even though I already have him back? If so, how should I go about playing hard to get, and how often? I think games in general are stupid but if this will help keep everything romantic and healthy I'm all for it. (link)
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I am the same way. First of all, talk to your b/f about it. Find out why things didn't work in the first place, and what went wrong. Then try to fix things one at a time. Slowly try to grow out of your "clingyness." Talk to him a little less everyday, til you can go a whole day, without talking to him. Then talk to him as much as you want for a while. But don't annoy him by always trying to be with him, or talk to him. He needs time and space away from you as well as you need it away from him. Let him call you, or IM you first. That way he won't think you are like obsessed or something. Getting attention is great, but you can't always get as much as you want from people. I guess what I am trying to say, is just back off of him a little, and see what he does. If he seems to not like the distance, get closer to him again. You just have to try different things, and see what works. Good luck!
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how do u know when your in love or what does love feel like? (link)
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I recently answered another question very similiar to this one. In fact, I think it asked the same thing, just with a different order of words. Anyways, I have never been in love before, and I don't really believe in such a thing at this time in my life. But I think that when you are in love, you will definitely not need to be told from someone else. You will know. And in my opinion, true love is a committment. A committment which involves, shared decisions, and shared goals. You should give as much as you take. Communication is a BIG thing when it comes to relationships as well. If you cannot talk to someone, about EVERYTHING, I wouldn't consider that being IN LOVE! True love should include respect, and pride. You will feel for someone like you have never before felt for anyone. It's a strong feeling (or so I'm told..) and you will definitely be able to feel it. You should not feel pressured in any way by someone, especially if they say they love you. That's a way you could tell if someone was lying to you about loving or being in love with you. If they treat you bad, force you to do things, insult you, constantly put you down, call you names, etc etc. If this does not answer your question, let me know and I will see what other information I can get for you. You could also IM me on AIM if you need anything else. My s/n is BrittanyMichx39! Just be careful, and don't fall for someone until you really know who they are. By that, I mean don't think you are IN LOVE with just anyone that you don't really know that well. Get to know them, be there FRIEND first. Good luck!
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There's this guy i use to like and still sometimes kinda do. I dont want to like hima nymore cuz it always seems like he likes other girls but he says he doesnt. He doesnt know exactly how i feel. He feels somethin towards me too sumtimes but it doesnt seem like he means it. Im not one who believes in love cuz it feels like i'll never have that let alone a boyfriend. But i like him because he cares n i dont have many people who do or atleast show it. Is there a way i could possibably get over him but still be friends? (link)
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Of course there is. It's called time and distance. Maybe you should just leave him alone for a little while and see what happens. See, the less you talk to someone or hang out with them, the easier it is to get over him. If you start liking someone else, it will be a bit easier too. But then if you wanna start talking to him again, you could end up liking him. That's just a chance you are going to have to take. B/c I don't think you can just get over someone by not doing anything to speed up the process. If you think he is a good guy, maybe instead of getting over him, you should tell him how you feel and finding out how he feels for you.I don't believe in love either, but anything's possible!
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alrite, i had just got out of a relationship about 3-4months ago still in love with the guy and trying to get over him but wont happen well i thought i would never be able to like or love any more cause he wrecked it all up... but i moved to (somewhere) i talk to this guy online and see him at school well i think i really like this guy only thing is i think he is bisexual or gay whatever what the heck do i do? i see him hugging girls all the time but i know he has a boyfriend.?
if you could give me some help ill deff rate high!
im 17/f (link)
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Well if he is bi, then you have a chance. You will just have to be patient and wait for his b/f and him to break up or whatever. But if he is GAY, then he probably isn't interested in you in that way. He would probably be a really good friend tho. If he seems like a person who would be open to you, and tell you the truth, ASK him if he is bi, or gay. Ask him about his b/f. Tell him how you feel. See where things go from there.
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How should I ask a girl if she will go out with me? (link)
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Well to start, you should show her that you like her first. Don't come rite out and say it at first tho. Just SHOW her. Be nice to her, flirt with her. Treat her extra special. Then if she doesn't get the hint, tell her. Then find out how she feels about you. And then just ask her if she would be interested in being your g/f. This way if you do things to prove that you like her BEFORE you ask her out, she can't say that you didn't even talk to her, or act like you liked her before. Good luck!
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Hi, I am a 17 yr old male who has a problem. My g/f head over heels in love with me. She claims, that if she could, she would marry me and have my children. The only thing is that I don't love her. I just like her a lot, but nowhere near to love. I used to say that I love her though I didn't mean it. Over the summer I admitted to her the truth sbout my feelings for her. Thinking this would driver her away, it only brough her closer. She is glad that I am able to tell her the truth on how I feel because she feels it brings us closer. We are curently intimate in the act of sex. I have always wondered if I am in it because of sex. My question is should I stay with her, and if I do, is it right for us to be having sex? (link)
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I am currently in a relationship with a guy who claims that he loves me. However I am in the same situation as you are, minus the whole sex part. I am not IN LOVE with him. I do care about him a lot, which in my opinion means that I do LOVE him in some sense of the word. If your g/f understands your feelings for her, and she still does not mind engaging in sexual intercourse with you, then I don't think you need to worry about that. The age that you are in my opinion, is too young to be having sex tho. (My b/f and I are both 16. I plan on staying a virgin til I am married!) If you think that the sex might be keeping you around, stop for a while and see if you still feel the same way about her as you did while you were sexually active with her. If she really loves you, she will understand your reasoning for wanting to stop for a while. (Tell her the truth.) If you don't feel as strongly about her as you did while you were having sex, you might want to consider breaking up with her, and just being friends. Don't lead her on, and lie to her, b/c that is one of the worst things someone in a relationship can do. Good luck!
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how do you know when your in love? (link)
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I think you will know when you are in love. If it is love, it will last. Infatuation doesn't last. Love is a committment. In love you share the same values, and interests. As well as the same goals, and focuses in life. I think being in love with someone means that you can trust them, and you feel safe with them. Love is when your relationships is based around respect and loyalty to one another. You are always faithful and you don't doubt one another. You have hope for the future and you both want the same thing. There is no verbal, mental (emotional), physical, or sexual abuse in a true love relationship. When someone loves another person, they will not try to tell that person what to do with their life. Instead they will support that person in all that they do, and give as much as they take. They will provide the other person with what they need, as well as what they want (if they are able to). If you want anymore information, please let me know! I'd love to help you out some more if you don't understand what I am trying to say.
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how do u tell if a guy is cheating on you..? (link)
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If you ask him questions and he hesitates when he answers, or if he looks away and has to think about what he wants to say..he might be cheating you. Also if he answers too quickly, with a bullsh*t answer, that you know isn't true..he might be cheating on you. Ask him questions such as, "where were you all weekend?" or "why haven't you called me?" or whatever is bothering you. Don't be afraid to ask him, b/c you deserve to know the answers! If you are hearing rumors from more than one or two people, there is a possibility that he is cheating on you, so speak up! Talk to him about it!
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I really like this guy and well he liked me a couple of weeks ago and i liked him but neither one of us knew it! Now i like him and he doesnt like anyone...He knows I like him but what do I do!? Would he have asked me out already if he liked me also? I mean he knows i really like and i just dont know! Im so confuzzed! Please Help
-Samantha Lynn (link)
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Unless he is shy, he probably would have atleast tried to let you know that he likes you too IF he does. If you really wanna know, I think you should just ask him. Or have a friend ask him for you. Another you could do is just ask him out! Atleast you tried, and if he says yes you will be glad that you asked! If he says no, just find out why he doesn't want to go out with you, but don't let it get to you! It's just one boy, in a world full of them! Good luck!
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I'm sixteen and I've never made out with a guy (or anything above that...and I only kissed once) is that a huge turnoff for a guy? I havent really had any boyfriends, but now I'm interested and I'm wondering will this scare guys off? (link)
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Actually, a lot of guys don't like girls who are just willing to do sexual things with them the first nite they are together. Unfortunately, there are those few who are just in the "relationship" to get you in bed. You just have to be careful with the guy you choose to be with. Guys do like it when girls aren't afraid to kiss them, or cuddle with them tho. If you don't want to do any with a guy..don't! Don't feel pressured into doing things either. I don't think guys will care that much that you haven't done anything like that yet! Guys don't like sluts.
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how do i lose my habit of being shy??? plz answer cuz im a shy ass
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Try to open up more and be more outgoing. Talk to more people! And don't be afraid to voice your opinion. Tell people how you feel, and be outspoken! Don't keep quiet when you have something to say! Laugh, and smile a lot! Be happy, and try to be there for people when they need you. It isn't necessarily a bad thing to be shy, but if it bothers you, just try to overcome it by doing what I sed previously. Good luck!
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ok i like this guy in my school but he has a girlfriend.What sucks is that i really wanna be friends with him but i dunno how cuz im too shy to talk to him,and he's really popular.Also i have a friend who ruined the chance of being friends with him and now im thinkin that he hates me. what should i do? (link)
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I doubt that it ruined your chance of being friends with him forever. Just start talking to him. Make small talk. Smile at him and laugh when he says something funny. You could always get his AIM s/n and talk to him online if you are too shy to talk to him in person rite away! And don't be afraid to talk to him just b/c he has a g/f!
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for quite some time now. I met his parents last weekend and they invited me for lunch on Sunday. I would love to go and all but I don't know what to talk about to make sure they like me.
Suggestions? Thanks so much! (link)
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Just be funny and cute. I'm sure they will like you if you aren't cocky, or have an attitude towards them. You can talk about your life, or your family, or your pets. Just think of something interesting, and talk about it. Ask questions, but not personal questions that they could be offended by. Don't ask them things like how much money they make, or anything like that. Tell them about your day, or if you play any sports you can talk about that, as well. You could also talk about how you met their son, like when and where. You could talk about your favorite movie, car, place to eat, your favorite food, or what you like to do on the weekends. I'm sure they will be talking to, so just be prepared for anything they might say or ask you..
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Yeah...I have an advice column...But for once I don't know what to do here. Im soo lost. I love this kid so much. And like he told me that he would ask me out..but it wouldn't be fair to me. So today we were on the phone and I told him that he was sooo sarcastic. And he's like ouch that hurts. And I never wanted to hurt him. That was the last thing I wanted to do. And I wrote him a letter and emailed it to him....It basically said that I didn't deserve him adn that he's amazing and everything adn that he deserves someone so much better than mee...and now I haven't stopped crying in like....an hour...I love him so much...and i judt don't know if i did the right thing...or what i should do from here? Im just so confused...it sucks...please help me...kthanks (link)
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If he really is sarcastic, I don't think you could have hurt him too bad just but telling him the truth. He should have already known that. But anyways, ask him why it wouldn't be fair for you to go out with him, if he hasn't already told you. Get some answers. Other than that, I think you're just gonna have to wait and see what happens. If someone doesn't want to go out with you, they aren't going to. But things change, and something could happen and change his mind or something. Just talk to him, and be his friends. Good luck!
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My boyfriend is FAR too calm. I hate it. I mean i love it at times but sometimes a realationship needs some tension. Like and I wanna fight with him than kiss and mkae up. He never gets mad. Like last week this guy completly tried to get in my pants right in front of him and he just laughed it off. PISSED ME OFF!
Today one of my best friends whos like obsessed with me and he put his arm around me and was like kissing my cheek and my bf wasnt even like mad at all.
How should I make him madder like cuz this calmness with be the downful of our realtionship. (link)
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Your b/f might just not be the jealous type. Either that, or he COULD be the jealous type and just not show it. But then again, if he never gets mad over ANYTHING, even the slightest bit..it might mean that he doesn't necessarily care that much! I think you should talk to him, and ask him why nothing ever bothers him..especially if a lot of stuff bothers you. Apparently this does, so you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. He SHOULD understand.
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Im 13, and theres this boy who ive liked from the first day of school, and on the second day, he just randomly walked up to me and started walking next to me and talking to me. He is kind of my friend now but he still doesn that sometimes...do you think these are signs that he likes me? (link)
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He might just want to be your friend unless he is flirting with you. If he smiles at you more than anyone else, and teases you, or touches you when he talks to you, he might like you more than a friend. Ask him if he wants to call you, or talk to you online, or even hang out sometime..and then see what happens. But if you still can't tell and you really wanna know, just ask him.
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To give a little background, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year I'm 16 and he's 17. He would always get things in the mail from the Army, Navy and the Marines. He would save them, show it to me and I'd rip it up and tell him he's not going. The thought of my boyfriend going away to war is something I just CAN'T handle.
I was in his room, cleaning it up while he was in the shower like I always do and I found a flyer that had the information about the Navy on it... I was getting ready to rip it up when I saw that he had signed up for it..
I always told him that I'd be heartbroken if he would sign up for anything that COULD get him killed.
I'm trying SO hard to understand... But I can't. I don't know why he would do this to me. He keeps saying it's for the best but I KNOW it's not the best for him. He always told me he'd never leave me, but by doing this I feel like he is. He always told me, "You don't know what I would give just to see your beautiful face every day and just to have you in my arms, even if it's for 5 minutes." He's told me he wants to be the father of my children, my husband, my one and only.. If he's at war, how is he going to do that??
I really want to convince him NOT to go, but that's just being selfish... But at the same time I want him here with ME. I don't want to live every day in fear that I'll get that knock on my door and having someone tell me that the love of my life was killed.
So my questions are... SHOULD I convince him not to go and explain to him why I don't want him to?
If not, how can I get over this? How can I deal with it every day knowing that my boyfriend is risking his life? (link)
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I know how you feel, b/c a few people who are very close to me are interested in signing up for something like that! I hate it too. But unfortunately, if it is something that he really wants to do..there might not be any way to convince him to stay. And if it's supposed to happen, it will! You just have to pray, that if he does sign up..we won't go to war, and he won't have to fight or do anything along those lines that might hurt him! Just tell him how you feel, and see what he says. He seems like a very caring guy, and I'm sure he will atleast listen to what you have to say. Good luck!
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ok so i've been going out with this guy john for about 2-3 weeks now..and i really love him...but he's my bffs ex boyfriend...and shes really mad at me for going out with him..she gives me shit about it all the time like everyday at school...and like i told her how happy he makes me and how much i like him and stuff and she still like is weird and she talks about me behind my back to my other bffs(also hers too) i really want her to stop being mad at me b/c i dont want this to distroy our friendship (we've been friends like when we were born and on from there) she wont just except the fact that like her likes me and i like him now..AND SHE DUMPED HIM TOO thats makes me like really mad too...like she says she still likes him but shes the one who dumped him... what should i do...o and she said the only thing that would make her happy would be if i dumped him but if i dump him i'll be missrible for like a really really long time and she doesnt get it...
what should i do?? 13/f
sorry this is soo long...i rate all fives if u atleast try to help me!!!!! (link)
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If she dumped him, that doesn't mean that she is totally over him. Sometimes those types of things just have to be done. But she has no right to try and tell you how to live your life. Just b/c she is your best friend doesn't mean she can tell you who you can date and who you can't. He isn't hers anymore. If you are going out with him, and things are going good for the two of you, other than the fact that your best friend is mad and doesn't like..there is no reason for you to break up with him. She should be a good friend and just TRY to understand instead of telling your other best friends things that most likely aren't true! You should just try to talk to her alone, and tell her how you feel. You are only 13, therefore I don't think the relationship with the boy is going to last forever. Your relationship with your best friend, however, should! I hope that you and her both know that. You're young, you have lots of time and you're going to go out with a lot of people! If this continues to damage your friendship, you MIGHT want to consider just being friends with the kid. But in my opinion, your friend is just jealous! Good luck!
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the women I started to see again texts me last night saying "guess what? I heard someone you used to mess around with has aids" but "Dont stress I saved 25 percent on my car insurance from gieco. We broke up because she thought I was cheating on her, and then to send a text like that at 3:00 am that woke me up was wrong, then when I texted her back asking what she was talking about she never responded. So I called her she didnt answer the phone, so I left a messange telling her to stop calling me and texting me and that this is it. I also made an example to her saying that if you think i did something because you heard from someone that I did then maybe I should believe rumors I heard about you. I knew that was wrong so I texted her immediately saying I was sorry. That morning she texts me saying I was stupid and that it was just a joke, I replied I did not find it funny especially when she has questioned my loyality in a relationship. She said that she was happy to see the real me and that she was glad that she didnt start to really get involved with me again. I just dont think that the joke was funny considering what happened before. I need to know if I over reacted or was that joke just harsh and in poor taste???? (link)
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Well I don't think you overreacted at all. If you were nice about the things you were saying when you left a message, and sed things in the nicest way possible. (it's not always easy to be nice about these kinds of things!) If she keeps bothering you, you could get your number changed..or even press charges for harrassment..but I don't think you want to go that far just yet! It wasn't right for her to text message you at 3 in the morning, especially when it was not an emergency, or even important for that matter! Just tell her that you don't care to talk to her anymore, and if she doesn't listen you might have to take things to the next step. Good luck!
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