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Q: OK i like this guy and he is really cool and funny and all we ca even say ilove you to each other and its ok.. He is in 7th grade and i'm in 8th but we are really good friends like we go to the movies and he calls me all the time and talk about nothing for 2 hours or more.Once he told me that he liked me and i said i liked him too but he hasn't done anything like ask me out. I like him and i want to ask him out but at the same time i just want to be friends and not ruin our friendship. But heres the thing he is the weirdest, most geekest guy in 7th grade everybodys told me but he is my friend and i can't just turn my back on him like that and people think he is gay too. HELP what should i do.

Ask him out. If he likes you like he said he did before, he wont have a problem saying yes. Some guys are different.. and you say he's a geek.. but if he's your friend, it shouldn't matter.. if you like him friendly-wise and boyfriend-wise.. do what you know you'd be more comfortable with..

Q: Ok I have fallen hard for one of my guy friends and i've liked him as more than a friend since January or something. Ok, now he has a girlfriend, but on the day he asked her out he told me that he really only liked her as a friend, and this girl's friend kind of made him feel like this girl would be crushed if he didn't ask her out, so he did. And tht was a few weeks ago. And last week, he kept looking at me and paying attention to me a whole lot more than his girlfriend and flirting and such, and this week he's hanging around with her again, and he still glances at me, but it's like we're just friends again... I'm so confused and I don't know what to do... any help will be greatly appreciated, THANKS!

Just wait for the best. Don't stop being his friend and remind him every now and then how you feel about him. He obviously has feelings for you if he flirts with you and glances at you when he's with his girlfriend. From what I see, he asked her out because he felt bad. I've got friends just like that.. especially guys, thats what they do. I can tell you from what I'm reading and from what I know, that he does like you and the time will come when he breaks up with her and asks to be with you. It might make his girlfriend jealous then, but she'll get over it. Hope this helps.

Q: okay well i think im popular at my school..I have a lot of friends that are boys and a ton of friends that are girls..I just cant get a boyfriend..Im not pretty..but I flirt a lot and boys flirt with me a little too..but nobody will ask me out or anything..and if i ask someone out they will say no..and i guess the other boys do to but there is this girl who is really not attractive..i mean people call her Shrek and stuff! She always is going out with someone!! I dont get how she gets boys!! How can I get a boyfriend?! I dont know what Im doing wrong!

please help..

If you want my opinion, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Boys can be boys... and If they can't see what kind of person you are, then something must me wrong. I don't know about this other girl they're calling shrek, but I'm pretty sure she isn't that bad, right? I mean I'm sure youre not that bad either. Don't tell yourself you're not pretty. Everyone is pretty inside. You shouldnt worry about having a boyfrind anyway... You're still too young. Heck, I'm a freshman and I'm still too young. Flirting is okay, until it gets too serious, but everyone flirts all the time... I think you should just stick with your friends, hanging out.. and flirting more, im sure someone will soon realize you like them and they might like you back, give it time trust me... your still a child. Hope this helps.

Q: hey crystal its shane yoho i was wondering if i dropped the surgery thing will you go out with me?

please help!!!!!!!!!!

lol.. why do you want to go out with me.. you dont even know me... i mean come on.. you dont know me i dont know you.. so no.. im sorry.. do what you want, its ur life.

Q: ok... new question... it kinda the same... im 14 in 8th grade and i like a dude my freind gave his sn and we talk on im ( a lot) but i also have a crush on a dude in my third hour... ive been crushing on him for a while now... but im scared to say nething cuz im afraid he might not wanna be my friend nemore.. and thats happened to me b4... so im just kinda scared to talk to him! what do i do?

The best advice i can give you.. is just be yourself around him.. thats the only good you can do.. eventually if he feels the same.. you will find out.. give it time.. maybe its because your in middle school.. wait until high school.. i hope this helps.. lemme know if you need more advice....
*CrYsTaL*

Q: Hi my name is Misty and I am 35 years old and have three children. I was in a long time relationship with my childs father and the man left me, then I met a new man and started a new relationship. Because the first man decided to come back to me I wanted to try and make it work so I explained to the new man and we stoped that relationship. Now the first man left me again and I want to explore the relationship that I had tried to have with the new man but he wont allow me to. I just need one more shot and I know I can make it work with him, I just need him to notice me and help him to understand that I will never leave him again. What can I do to make this man notice me and know that he can trust me and understand that the first man will never again be a part of my life again.....PLEASE HELP ME....I have a girlfriend who is trying but she just dosen't have the answer to this one.

Well im 14. I do not know anything about things like this, but the best thing that i can say, is make sure you give yourself a chance to love again. Obviously you still loved your childs father enough to have taken him back, but he didnt love you if he left you again, so the only thing you can do, is make sure the guy you want back, understands who you are inside, an understands that you didnt mean to hurt him in anyway. Make sure you find the YOU in Yourself before you talk to him. You have to know what makes you happy, and if you want this guy back but he dont think he can trust you, believe in yourself and make him believe. I hope this helps.
Crystal

Q: is it posible to date two friends at a time?people said it is bad can i believe this?

It is not actually bad to do it, but the people you are dating will feel bad about giving you a chance to be in their life. Just think, if you were in their place, and you were one of the two people who were being dated by that guy or girl, then how would you feel? Would you feel like you should be the only one? If thats how you would feel, think about how the other person would feel. It doesnt feel to good huh?
I hope this helps you decide what to do.
Crystal

Q: my boyfriend is not exactly cheatin on me but he likes 2 girls.He always tells HER that he likes HER more than me.And he always tells me that he likes me more.Iknow that is messed up.But,i don't want to be mad at him becuz the last time I was mad at him he was pissed off the whole day and he (Kinda)cried.Even if I do get mad at him I know that there is a chance that he might dump me and go with HER.And I don't want that to happen.What do i do??

I've also been in a situation like this before. The only thing you can do, is talk to him alone, and find out what he really wants to do. If he says he wants to be with you, but he also likes her, get rid of him. Because now that she knows he likes her, she is going to try everything in her power to take him from you. Just do what makes you feel good. Breakin up with him however might not make you feel to good, b/c you might not want to. But once you do it, you will see that there is a lot of other guys out there who care a lot more then he ever did. I hope this helps.
Crystal

Q: Alright, I am a lesbian, and I am currently dating a girl. Everything is great and wonderful between us. We are starting to become a bit more sexualy active...like just playing around and stuff. Well, she can get me to, um..feel good, but I can't get her. She said I "did fine" but you know that basicly translates into "it was alright, but it could have been alot better" When we talked about it..she said maybe practicing on myself would help...But I tried, and I can't even get myself to, um..feel good! Any advice, or even a website I could go to, that may help??

Well im bisexual, and i understand where you are coming from. Have you done this before? If you havent actually been sexually active with her before, then that may be why. She probably has done this before, and so its not hard for her to make you 'feel good'. Im not sure if there is a website you can look at, but if i were you, i would just have fun, and TRY, this might work, if you just HAVE FUN...
I hope this helps.

Q: One of my best friends is bi. Then one day i told her that I liked her liked her and she went crazy. She now knows that I am bi also I dont know if she has a g/f but............ I thought that we could just experiment with each other but I haven't ask her that if she would wanna do that. What should I do? help plz
-Me

Well since how i know who you are, ya know, i mean this isnt hard to tell who you are when im in the same situation, i dont have a g/f but i do have a b/f and i like other ppl, im tryin to live with other ppl's advice as well. SO if you think you like her like that again, and you think she doesnt like you or something, try talk to her and see if she might know someone else, or see if you know anyone else who will expierement with you, like is about changing, nothing ever stays the same. Help your best freind out a little, it will all come back to you in the end.
Hope this helps~

Q:
I have social anxiety disorder but I want to ask Orlando out...what do I do?

Social Anxiety Disorder is something that I JUST CAN'T GET OVER just like that...and it's hard. Please help. Sometimes I fall really hard for him...and I just want a chance with him.

From,
My heart skips a beat

Well hon, sometimes the only thing you can do, is pick yourself up when you fall (not being funny).. if you want a chance with him, let him know it by your emotions around him, by the way you act, if he cant see that YOU do fall for him all the time- maybe you should just let him go, there is a right guy for every person to know, to love. So if he isnt the one, but you think he is, maybe he isnt.. you gotta trust the YOU in yourself before you can believe in love! hope this helps... if you need more advice just ask!
-Crystal

Q: I have a boyfriend that i love alot but he hits me.But he say he sorry and he won't do it again but he keeps doing it. He said if I leave him then he will kill me.I'm so scared that he's telling the truth .He's already put me in the hospital 2 times I don't know what to do.So I need help ASAP if anyone can help me please.My life is on the line!

Love Apple

This sounds like a serious problem, i dont think you can really love someone who does this to you, i've heard of people in the same situation, all you can really do is call someone. Call the Police, or someone who can help you get away from this person. Stay with a friend, if you dont want to leave him for good because you think you love him, wait until he is not home, and stay with someone he doesnt know for a while until you figure out what you think is best. If you're worried he might harm you in any other way (killing you) then you should immediatly contact the police. I hope this helps you!

bio

Hey! I'm Crystal, as you know. I am here to give advice to those who need it the most. I've given much advice in my time and I plan to keep doing it. Don't be afraid to ask me any personal questions or even random questions, I can help with anything, because believe it or not, I've been in some of the same situations that most people have been in. I love giving advice, its my life, Not only am I good at it, but I understand where people are coming from. So, Don't take anything to seriously and ask away, Thanks! :)