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Telling it like is. Not sugar coating my answers to spare your feelings.. so beware .I believe in God, Karma, luck, fate, and living on the edge. Being average or normal isn't for me. I never wanted to blend in... it's all about being unique and being yourself . Loving who you are, and to hell with anyone who who doesn't agree.
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
I could only discourage you from doing this. Can't help but feel you will regret it later on. So many "what if's " come to mind.
Good luck
It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
Good question.
My guess is that they are insecure or they are just proud of the love they share and just do not have enough class to keep it out of the public eye.
I agree that it is very uncomfortable to have people put it in your face like they were doing at the mall. Most likely a young couple.
What do ya do ? If ya say something then they are most likely to do it more than before.
Just shows that you have class to be annoyed by this behavior.
Get a room people!
P.S if you fee my response is deserving of a rating would you please give me one?
So my boyfriend was rubbing my bare stomach as we were laying on the couch. Is there any chance I would be pregnant from that?
Only if you are under the age of 20.
Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you.
Hi,
I am afraid the you really made a bad choice by losing your virginity to someone other than the man you love. The only thing worse than that is to tell him about it. Your friend is right, nothing good can come from telling your boyfriend what you did.
This is coming from someone that is honest as honest can be. I am speaking from experience when I say do not tell him. All it will do is give him ammo to throw back in your face at a later date. He will use it against you and that is only IF he is still speaking to you after you confess.
Why do you feel the need to tell him? Is it cause you feel guilty? You know this will hurt him and why would you want to do that? If you love him so much then it is a huge insult to him that you gave away something so precious to someone you do not even care about. WHat thu fck were you thinking? You said you did this " to get it over with" OH my goodness , please don't tell anyone else that cause it makes you sound like a tramp. I hate to say that but it really doesn't sound good at all.
I have always been upfront with men I date, and back in the day when I didn't consider how my actions effect other people I confessed to rid myself of guilt. You cannot go back once you tell it, no matter what he will resent you til the end of time for this. I know I would if it were me.
It will be difficult not to confess but there is no reason to. You aren't married and you don't have a ring from the long distance guy do you? So, you can look at it like that and it may rid you of guilt. Just don't tell it that is it that is all, bottom line........ DO NOT TELL HIM , Ever!
I think that maybe you do not love him as much as you think ya do. If you did you wouldn't want to be touched by any else and you sure as hell wouldn't have the attitude "Just to get it over with".
Best of luck, I hope this works out for you.
How do you stop yourself from loving someone ? :( like is it possible to love someone your not with your whole life ?
If you truly love someone it doesn't ever go away. It may be in the back of your mind 20 years from now but it will always be in your heart,
I still love my high school sweetheart and I always will and I am now 50 years old. Haven't seen him since I was a teenager but it doesn't matter the distance or the time frame it is always there.
how do I tell a girl no to a date and that I'm a gay guy?
the same way you just asked the question. Just tell her.
Do I have a STD after I gave my new boyfriend a BJ and my throat is a little sore
you will be alright.
AGE 16 male.. I just bought condoms for me and my girlfriend. but where should I hide them From my parents. BTW my parents dont know we are having sex.
I am positive that they would be relieved to know you are using condoms . They would rather see you with condoms that without.
They will think you are being a good Boy Scout "always be prepared". You don't have to tell them you have done the deed, just tell them you just have them in case of emergency. They don't wanna be grandparents yet. Feeling certain that is the main concern.
They know they cannot keep you from having sex.
I have a boyfriend of almost four years, who is basically everything that I want in a man. He is mannerly, polite, good in bed (he is the only man who I ever slept with, who was truly able to make me cum – out of three other sexual partners that I had), and loves me, as I love him.
He is the kind of guy, who not only drove all the way out of his way to pick my family for my cousin’s wedding, but helped my mom who was carrying around a cane at the time get around during my cousin’s wedding day. Not only that, but he stayed at my cousin’s wedding until he was told to go home, even though he was really sick.
It’s really little things like that, that tell me how much he loves me. The one time he bought me pads, after he took me out to breakfast, because I had left my card at his house. I was sick over winter break, and I could tell that he was concerned. When I thought that I was pregnant at first, instead of freaking out, he worried that I was just really sick or stressed. It’s like things like that. We have this amazing dynamic and he is the one who I want to spend my life with.
Another thing I look for in a guy is someone who has a successful future ahead of him. Since I am in my twenties this either means someone who is in the service, going to school, or who graduate college, in my opinion. My boyfriend loves numbers and is majoring in accounting, he is graduating in May of this year. The two of us have talked about getting married. We want each other. We need to be in each other’s lives.
I’m serious about this guy enough that I want to marry him. He said that he wants to ask me one day, just not yet. I’ve decided that I’m going to propose to him, with a cheaper ring that I want to get engraved with our names on it. Basically, this will not mean the phases of starting to plan a wedding, but sort of pre-engagement, like we’re entering into a contract that we’re going to get engaged… I guess. I do want the traditional thing where I wear the engagement ring, lol. I know that’s want he wants too.
We have a significant problem – he knows that this is a problem, but for some reason he cannot break it. He doesn’t call me every day. When I try calling him, he never answers. Neither does he text me back right away when I text him. He’s admitted that he’s socially awkward, he really doesn’t have much friends other than on World of Warcraft and on nights that he plays Magic the Gathering, so I don’t know if he just has a really rough time with building relationships, and he’s also admitted that he can be lazy.
He has suggested other ways around this. Promising me that he would get better, and I think that it something that he wants to work on. He even suggested that we try Skyping.
I have talked to other girls in the past about this, and they all say that if their boyfriend did that to them, they would dump him. I have made up my mind that I don’t want to leave him, but I do want this mannerism to change. I know that you can’t change a person but because a behaviorism, I think it’s something that can be trained into him.
He has admitted that he’s socially awkward and I’m the first girl who he’s dated for over a year. He also admits that he can be very lazy. Truthfully, I’m less experienced than he is – he is only my third boyfriend. I’m like his fifth or sixth girlfriend, and, like, the seventh or eighth girl who he’s slept with. Before him I dated a guy for 5 months, and then I also dated another guy for a little over a month.
When we first started dating he would call me every night. Now, his phone calls have turned into less and less. I used to threaten to leave him for this in an attempt to counter this, but he got frustrated with me one day for saying that, he told me, “Never do that again. If you’re going to break up with me then just do it.”
My boyfriend only says things like that when he’s really upset about something, when he’s hurt he masks it by acting really angry, and occasionally mean. When things aren’t as rough, he never acts like that. That’s something I can live with.
That same day his grandmother was starting her chemotherapy, she had just recently been diagnosed with lung cancer a few weeks prior. They had also found out that the cancer had spread through her body. So, really, things were not looking bright at that point.
Now, that it’s getting worse, I really just want to be there for him. Also, I’m so stressed out right now. I haven’t seen him in a while because I was sick over my winter break, and he wanted for me to find out what was wrong with me before I traveled anywhere. He was angry that I chose not to go to the hospital. I had a yeast infection and a bacterial infection. I think that it was the result of a hormonal imbalance, since it seems better after me going on birth control.
This semester is not easy for me, because I decided to take 18 credits, including an independent study and my thesis tutorial. Both of which I have to do a lot of work in. I’m concern that I’m going to get distracted, if I travel down there, so I really need for him to make this effort in order for us to stay together. Granted, spending time together is highly important but communication is even more so.
I travel to see him because I have a bed to sleep in after I get there. I live in my grandmother’s house and she will not let him stay the night. Thus, he would have to spend $45 in tolls to see me for a few hours, and then drive all the way back home. That would be a 2 hour drive on a good day, longer on a bad day. Personally, I don’t mind travelling down there because I love sleeping next to him.
How do I get him to improve on this?
Okay... he sounds like a wonderful person, although I see you are making excuses for him.
You will totally fck up if you start pressuring him, trust me on this. What is the urgency anyway?
When men start to feel pressured into things they will balk. Your attempt to make things better (for you) by asking him to marry you will be the biggest mistake you ever made my Dear. Nothing will push him away faster.
Let him be the man and let him do this at his own pace. Men want to be men, let him do the man thing and ask you to marry him! When he is ready to ask you he will ask you.
You are a smart girl, that is easy to see by the way you wrote your letter. So be smart and back off some, if you want this man to stick around. You sound a bit clingy and I understand that you love him and do not want to lose him. Cornering him and demanding he do anything that he does not want to do is just is not the way to keep him.
Step back and stop thinking about it so much. You are probably wearing yourself out over thinking the situation, and over thinking things is NEVER good.
Ypour friends say they wpould drop him if they were you? Really, over him not calling you everyday? That is insane to put such demands on someone that is not your spouse. They are either full of it by suggestioning you break up or you are not telling the entire story in the letter you submitted. You may be sugar coating things, hmmm?
If he is mean to you or hits you then disreguard everything I said previous because you are looking for love in a man than is only going to cause you hell. I suggest you do not persue someone that is is hateful or beliitles you in anyway.
If he is really as good as you say then think about what I said and chill out some, and please above all else do not >>>DO NOT ask him to marry you! It will not get the results you hope for.
You mentioned that you are aware you cannot change anyone and you are so right! Then you said you could "train" him. Oh my...... stop trying to control this man! He will resent you for it, understandably so. Listen to yourself! You cannot train anyone, how would you feel if someone tried to train you in to do something you were not wanting to do. yet?
Let him do this at his pace. You need to TRAIN yourself on how to be patient.
Well I am in relationship since 2011..i told him everything about my past life..he never used to pick ph calls in front of me..he didn't even tell me everything about his life..i tell him even about my family problems but he never tells me about his..he hangs around with gis friends but when I go with my friends everytime he creates an issue and spoils my plans..he keeps saying that he is very possessive about me but I don't understand where his possessiveness goes when we quarrel n part..he never calls me to settle up things..he has an ego problem but do I have to say sorry to patch up everytime!!he has a colleague in his office who likes him..hw likes her pics n gives comments on fb..whereas he blocked me on fb..not only that he blocked me from every social media n messengers..when I got to know about that girl I told him to unfriend her...he did unfriend her..but recently he again befriended her on fb n they both like each other's pics..they might chat also..n they talk to other over ph for hours...other staffs in his office even tease them as couple..is he cheating on me?he shows no special interest in me then what's the point to heat on me!!he could easily break it off with me n go in relationship with her..on the very first month of our relation he said it doesn't matter to him if I am in his life or not coz he needs none..he keeps breaking his oath on my life to drink alcohol n instantly makes issues for his alcohol consumption...i knew that he used to drink even before our relation started..all is friends support me..but now he n his mom are accusing me for his addiction..they are saying that I keep hurting him so he drinks..sometimes I wonder does he really love me?
Oh yes, he is for sure cheating on you! Everytime you break up he doesn't try to get back with you because he knows you will come to him and say you are sorry. Plus when you break up that gives him free time without restrictions.
You already know that this man is not relationship ready. I know it hurts but for your own best interest you really need to get away from him. He will suck all the confidence you have right out of you.
If it is going to eat at you wondering what he is doing when he is not around then it isn't worth the ulcer. You will lose site of yourself and your own goals if you are always wondering who he is with or what he is doing.
His Mom will most likely blame anyone else BUT her son for his problems so do not take what she says personal.
Run fast and hard in the opposite direction or later you will regret the time you wasted on the egotistical man.
I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me
The guy sounds like a real dic#head.
I am not sure why you want someone that you have to walk on egg shells around.
Friend, if that is all it takes for him to break up with you I promise you the lie you told is not the real reason he is breaking up.
Something tells me that this man may be seeing someone else. When someone is picking at everything ya do or making mountains out of mole hills then that person is up to something, but they will blame you. I Hope I am wrong but I'm not.
A lie is in fact a true insult to the other person in the relationship. You were trying to fix something , it's not like you cheated. It is true though that if you cannot believe what your s/o tells you then it's best to cut your ties because it is a good indication more lies will follow.
People in love do not kick each other to the curb for something so small.
If you want him back (no idea why ya would)give him some space. If you act desperate /needy it will run him off faster than the lie ya told. So chill and wait. You already said you were sorry so do not say it again. Go on with life and be happy or fake it cause then he may return. They can't stand it if you recover quick and appear happy. In the meantime you may realize you are happier without Captain Paranoid.
I recently started talking to my best friend again and I have been avoiding her. I have been scared to talk to her because we had a big fight over something ridiculous and I did not want to get into another one over the same topic. I felt comfortable with her the other day when I saw her and I felt happy again, just by seeing/talking to her even for a few minutes. But I was really mad at her for no reason during that same week. I really don't want my negativity to rub off on her and I don't want to get mad at her and then flat out take it out on her. I feel as if it's my impulse control disorder that makes me feel anger towards others and it prompts me to be mean to others (verbally,emotionally or mentally). I just want to be a good best friend for her. I want to be nice to her because she means the world to me. I want to let her know I care about her, even if she doesn't think so, but I really do. If anyone has advice on how to avoid taking out my anger on her, please, I would love to hear it! :) thank you!
If you want to b a good best friend then talk to her. Pull her aside and say we need to talk . If the talk resolves things like it should then you are set. If it brings on more anger and resentment then there is an underlying problem that has no be brought up.
Handle it like you would want someone to handle it if the situation were reversed.
Can you give me edvice on how to tease a guy?
The advice best suited for the question would be... don't tease them at all.
There is innocent flirting and then there is being a "tease".
Not cool at all to tease. It could get you in a dangerous situation, be very careful. Males do not take to teasing well unless you have every intent on following through.
A tease is not something anyone wants to be known for either.
Good luck :)
how do you give a guy a blow job?
Here is the link to a site that gives details blow by blow (yahaaaa).
Click on "Thar she Blows"
my only other advice would be to ask your boyfriend/ husband to tell you. I mean.. who but the reciever would know what pleases HIM the most.
As they say "Different strokes for different folks"
i need some help here..well okay i love my boyfriend to death and we`ve been dating for a little over 7 months. and we just started doing things sexually because i dont know before i didnt feel comfortable but now it's like everytime we are together he wants to do more than just hang out it is always revolved around "doing stuff" and that isnt what i like. Why is he doing this? Is it just a guy thing or what? and should i talk to him about it because when i dont give him any i feel like he`s mad at me like until i get to see him again. even tho he says he`s not. And i`m sorry this is so long, thanks for everyone who reads this, please help me!
If you do not want to mess around then set your bounderies. He may not be pleased that you decline his advances, but big freaking deal. It is you're body and you are not on this Earth to suit anyone but yourself.
The more you give in to him the more he will think he can get you to do whatever, whenever. He will manipulate you with his mood swings, and guys will say anything if they think it will get you to give it up.
If you want this guy to stick around then don't make it easy for him. It needs to be when you want to. Showing weakness and giving into him is not a way to keep a man. The challenge is what they desire.
My girlfriend is a quite beautiful girl. And I know she knows she's beautiful. She's also pretty damn confident. But, for some reason it seems like she's insecure around me. Every time we're intimate and I try to slid my hand down her stomach she sucks it in. I guess she doesn't think I notice but, I do. She has a fine, flat tummy so why she feels the need to suck it in is beyond me. I also don't understand if I did anything to make her feel insecure. I tell her that I think she's beautiful every chance I get. I don't know what to do here.
Trust me.. It is not you that makes her feel insecure.
Girls, and grown women (I am guilty too) have this thing I like to call "Fataphobia". The fear of being to the heavy side more than the skinny side.
It doesn't matter how much you tell her she is prefect, pretty, or thin it matters how she sees herself. However, compliments are always appreciated!
All the cosmo mags drill it into females minds that rail thin is where it is at.
In time she will hopefully get over the personal insecurites.
I am a fataphobic but only to suit myself. If someone doesn't like the way I look then Buh Bye.