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hey i'm courtney! :)i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.
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Alright so there is this guy. He is from a different town that's about 45 mins. away from my home town. We have met once, but not formally. We are friends on Facebook. I know a girl from his town and she tells me he is really nice. I'm not really good friends with her, but we talk when we see each other and occasionally message on Facebook. The guy is really cute and I've read his Facebook. He loves a lot of things I do. He is a big Christian (which is important to me.) He seems like a really great guy. Problem is I want to get to know him more, but I have no idea how to start a convo with him. I think it might be awkward to start one on Facebook. But I'm not the type of girl to just go straight up to someone and start a convo either. Any suggestions?
maybe tell the third party friend to tell this guy to send you a message or to write on your wall. also, you could try poking him on facebook, its a sign of flirting.
there's this boy i like but i don't know if he like me and my friend keeps telling him that i'm stalking him but i'm really not i just know his class schedule and his locker and his bus number.How do i get him to like me and stop her from calling me a stalker?(f/13)
if you want this guy to like you back off. give him some space, and let him come to you. if something is meant to happen it will. be patient.
My boyfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up, and it was a nasty, painful breakup. We're not speaking but have mutual friends, and I'm in the process of trying to get over him. The big problem is, we go to same college and it's very small. I see him all the time, and walking past eachother and not speaking is excruciating. I don't want to talk to him because I'm so hurt/angry and talking to him will just break my heart even more. How do I survive this situation?
seriously break ups aren't ever easy. what you should do is eventhough you'll still be seeing him in the halls and such, just try and avoid any association with him, i realize this would be dificult b/c you have mutual friends, but try your best with it. also don't try talking to him if you know it will only make things worse, then only thing that's going to make things better is time. so hold your head high, and try to be okay. venting w/friends always helps.
boyfriend is 24 i am 19 we have been together since july. he moved further away in sept and we have managed to stay together. but jealousy and fighting occur greatly. i do admit i am really jealous and tend to get very worked up ( i get anxiety/bipolar) so once one thing happens i get very upset. but he does not help it he is just unbelivably mean and calls me stuff when we fight. everyone says just to tell him how i feel and when i do he like yells at me. its breaking my heart. he always says lets break up, please! and idk i like cant let him i cry everyday. we are going to aruba in 2 days and the last week whenever we fight hes said like we`ll be done after the trip but when we arent fighting he says hes not gunna but will if i keep this up. idk what to do i cant even talk to him about anything without him flipping out. i feel like i do everything for him and get nothing in return. hes always judging me too, making me feel stupid or fat. and it sucks i just cant leave him or let him leave. help me please
you need to just decide what you want to do. either stay with him unhappy and feeling emotionally a wreck, or leave him, deal with the pain and get better and be happy. good luck doll, and god bless.
okay ive been with this guy for three years and we have been through our ups and downs..hes cheated on me three times and i have not cheated on him back nor have i cheated on him at all he says hes cheated on me because i make him feel like i dont care..he says its because of numerous of things like.when i dont answer his phone calls. after he disrespects me and i feel attacked i end up hanging up on him He calls me out of my name and says really mean things about me..so i end up hanging up on him. and he says thats one of the reasons why he does what he does is because i dont answer his calls he says that im just another girl in his phone and says that i just tell you i love you to make it sound good..he tells me all of this when we argue. but when we argue i dont say things liek that..i dont tell him that i got other dudes on the side or im just sayign i love you just to say it. I always forgive him and let things go..hes very insecure and points the finger at me. he gets mad for the most dumbiest reasons. we just had an arguement about how i dont tell him things..like he tells me when he gets new clothes and shoes...and he says that when i buy new clothes and shoes i dont tell him..like today he seen my new shoes and said why when i ask you have you bought any new shoes you jsut tell me you bought a pair but you have more than one. He says why dont you ever just tell me the truth i was like are you serious okay babe im sorry i will tell uyou next time he got so mad and was cutting me off when i was tryig to comprimise with him..and he jsut said whatever you just wanna say sorry and just drop it and end the problem your way. I honestly dont know why hes like this why he acts so angry and trippy off the most littlest things...im so lost ive been completely disrespected by him and been cheated by him. and i have forgave him for so much i let things go that usually no one would let go. He still doesint appreciate me doing that. He doesint see that my girl just forgave me for the most hurtfull things that ive done to her..Instead he keeps doing what he does and calls me out of my name and says that im worthless and just another B#### in his phone and that he can mess with me when he wants. I love this guy and your probebly thinking why? But i do and he also doesint see that he has told me you dont love me and i tell him are you serious i have forgave you for cheating on me disrespecting me that should show you that i love you a lot that im letting my guard down for you..I dont know what to do im so confused and lost, hurt, Every time he disrespects me and does thing to me he calls me back and says baby im sorry and that he needs me in his life and that im the reason why he acts crazy and disrespectful. I really dont see that I dont feel that im the reason of his wrong doings i feel that thats jsut what he wants to do..But i end up feeling sorry for him and take him back because i love him a lot. what should i do?
you won't like my advice but seriously he treats you so badly b/c you let him do it. he clearly knows that he's made mistakes and does not care or feel bad about it. you have even told him how much he hurt you and still he has done it numerous times, it's ridiculous, and you need to put an end to it all. it's not fair to you, he disrespects you,and should never call you a B****. that's so wrong on so many levels. and you deserve someone who will make you happy most of the time, not feel weaker and like you are worthless. break up with him. see if he tries to change his error of ways, and if he does, take him back one last time. and if he still keeps messing things up, move on girl. a smart one like you knows better. i always say this ' fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me' .. he's already cheated three times, how much more are you willing to take? he needs to learn, and isn't. good luck dear!
Hia again ,
I just wanted to know , what guys like to get as a bday gift from the gf's? because my bf's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what to get him..
please help ,
thank you so much ,
Betty
try clothings, like a sweater, a hoodie, polo, or a tee shirt. or you could get him a card and write him a sweet message. i have bought my b/f the 'kiss kiss bears' from hallmark once and he thought it was cute. or try buying him a cd or something for his car. good luck!
Heres the deal his names sam and i'm head over heels for him! well me and him use to be close friends and we just started to drift apart. Then all of a sudden he starts wanting to sit with me in class and he passes notes to me and he steals my pencil and i try to grab it from him and he grabs my hand trying to hold it so we hold hands like a few times throughout a class. & i'm like oh dear does he like me cuz ii like him alot. so after the weekend monday he acts like nothing happened like we were back to the basics he had his friends and i had mine. i glared at him and he would catch me glareing at me and he'll wave hiiee. but thats it we dont sit beside eachother talk to eachother nothing. whats going on?
is he playing me?
shy?
i want him to talk to me again.
is it cuz on that day most of his friends wern't at school so he wasnt shy to be around me without getting teased?
can someone tell me what to do to get back to that very moment.?
it's your turn to make a move. pass a note, or wink at him. he's just scared, probably not sue about how you feel towards him. let him know, you got a crush on him. good luck .(:
everyone who i have asked is just like you like him and what not...
soo there is this boy that i have never met but might be interested in dating, or just hanging out. But there are some problems...
-he has a girlfriend
-my lil brothers 16 year old friend
-my brother thinks i can do better
i know that if he still has a girlfriend then i wont go anywhere near him. But i just dont know..i have feelings sometimes like i like him, but then other times im just like you cant like him you dont know him...so what do you think is going on....
Now keep in mind i have NEVER met him, just once...and we talked for 5 seconds...and i know i will not go near him if he has a girlfriend, its disrespectful...
16/f
well you have a crush. which doesn't mean you like him, just that you have a crush. and if he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to break up with her then it can't go anywhere. you need to find a new guy. and if he's interested in you, then tell him he needs to be honest with his current girlfriend. good luck dear. (:
okay so there is this girl that my boyfriend and his friends used to be obsessed with. they always talked about her and thought she was the hottest thing alive. well now i have been dating my boyfriend for a verrry long time and he hasn't talked about her at all ever since we first started going out. but i can't help but feel upset whenever i think about how he used to talk and stuff. especially when we see her at school. i always think he is going to look at her and be intrigued or whatever. he always says that no one is prettier than me but i think he might think that she is. it doesn't seem like it should be a big deal.. but for some reason it is to me. i don't know how to get over these feelings. please help
honestly come out with him and just tell him how you feel. make sure he realizes you have a minor problem with the whole thing. i'm sure he thinks you're gorgeous, listen to me. if he wanted her, then why is he with you? :)
ok so. my boyfriend and i have been kind of talking about the possibility of sex for a while? not actually saying "hey, lets have sex on THIS day" or whatever, but just like "yeah i want to," and yeah. well the past few times i went there things had gotten pretty heavy, but his friend was always in his room with us, so i always made him stop. but yesterday his friend wasnt there and we were making out on his bed. eventually i pulled apart from him for a second and pulled out a condom a brought. and i asked "how far are you willing to go with this?" and he kind of looked at me as if i was crazy or high or something.
I HAD NEVER BEEN SO EMBARRASSED IN MY LIFE. he was feeling me up and we were making out for what it seemed like 4-6 minutes! am i getting mixed signals here??? did i do something wrong? i dont even really know why i did that except for the fact that i thought something was about to happen. i talked to him later last night on aim. and he said he didnt want to because he loved me. WTF IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!?!??!! i think im kinda ready. and hes not a virgin! so i dont get it! can someone attempt to explain this to me? im avoiding him now and i dont wanna talk to him and i wont for a while but i think im wrecking everything but im just so confused. HELP?? thanks.
well he is just as confused as you are apparently dear. just take things slower for awhile. it'll be alright okay? and, make sure you are ready.you saying ' i think i'm ready to have sex' doesn't mean that you are. kay? you might not be. i lost my virginity at 16, and thought i was ready, and wasn't. i wish i would have waited longer.
maybe he just doesn't want to ruin things with you b/c he's afraid that after you two have sex, you'll feel differently about him and maybe resent him for rushing into having sex. or it's just an exuse him saying i love you, he could possibly be cheating.
when i have intercourse with my boyfriend all i do is think about my EX and i really do like my boyfriend a lot but i cant help but think of him and not my boyfriend i know that sounds bad but what should i do ? should i tell my boyfriend.. i dont know.. it makes sex so awkward and he asks me whats wrong and i say nothing but i dont know how i can stop thinking about my ex .. help? i feel so guilty any advice is more then good
alright sometimes this happens, if you are truly done with your ex then stop worrying about it. it's just something you were use to thinking about. and it will stop when you let it. i wouldn't tell your current boyfriend, he'll think you aren't over your ex, or don't want to be. but if it doesn't stop, then clearly your head isn't ready to move on. try concentrating on you and your boyfriend,and the sex feeling good.
My friend chris asked me out by a note last year in like february of 10th grade and now im ending 11th and i never responded and i feel really stupid because i really like him and i did then too i think but i dont know why i never responded and he liked me a lot and i have no clue if he still likes me and we never see each other any more and i want to write a note to him and tell him everything and try to give it to him if i see him but im not too sure if i should. he would always tickle me and make me laugh and the day that he found out that i read the naot he came up to me and we hugged and it was really swett but i just dont know what to do! does anyone have any advice that i could do? because i really like him and would really like another chance to be his girlfriend and he is the sweetest guy that i have ever met!!! thanks for taking the time to read and answer this!
my advice, surely tell him you like him still. write him a note. you don't want to look back on what could have been later on in your life. ask him to give you another chance! good luck dear. (:
i've always had this really bad habit of thriving over the past. and i've been going through a really long period of depression. sometimes i'd get happy, but only for a few hours at a time. then i'd rememeber something and go back to being upset. i've started several other bad habits to get stress out of my way: drinking, smoking, cutting, etc. im not saying i wanna quit any of these new habits, but i wanna learn to get over the past. i wanna move on. because im tearing up my relationship with my boyfriend, M.
see, before we started going out, back when he and i just liked eachother, we were really close friends. id go over to his house, like, once a week or something and he, my friend, B, and his other friend, A, would all watch a movie or two. i was the only girl in this, so keep that in mind. anyways, well M had been trying to ask me out for a while. and i'd always say no because i didnt wanna mess up our friendship. then as soon as i was about to go out with him, B said that he did something really bad. and he wouldnt tell me what it was because he promised M he wouldnt. but i still wanted to know! so i kept pushing him and pushing him and finally he told me. but he made me swear not to tell M.
at first i thought he was lying because B and i used to go out then he dumped me. and then he started liking me again. so for a while there i was torn between he and M. and he also said he wouldnt like it if me and M went out.
but then about a week after that i told M that i needed to ask him if it really happened, and at first he made it sound like B had lied. but then he told me it really DID happen, i just wasnt supposed to know. course that made me feel like shit. but i got really depressed after that...and i still am. and this happened about 3 or 4 months ago!
can someone give me some advice on how to get over this? whenever i go to M's house, everything over there reminds me of the past and then i get a mixture of mad and sad and it wont go away! he keeps asking me if im ok and i keep having to lie because i dont wanna sound like im obsessed about this, but i am. how do i just get over it and move on?????? *sorry this is so long...but it was a long story. and advice is appreciated.*
maybe you need to take some time away from 'm's house and be alone. i know you said you don't want to stop drinking, smoking, and cutting, but it doesn't take the pain away. it just makes you feel in control. well you can be in control by doing healthier things. like running. it really clears your head, and gives you time to reflect. also, you aren't going to forget the past until you are truly ready to. subconciously it seems like you aren't, or your brain would let you.
I will have been with my boyfriend for 3 years come early July. I love him a lot and he claims to feel the same. Things in his life have been pretty rough lately, so sometimes he's depressed.
I have begun to notice that the only time he is happy, smiling, or laughing is when he is with his friends. I can't even remember the last time he was happy to be just with me. This really concerns me, as I feel it's kinda important to make him happy since I'm his girlfriend.
I'm always wondering if he would just be happy with someone else and if I should move on. I don't want to lose him, but I love him enough to let him go if I can't make him happy like he needs to be.
I know that I need to talk to him and I'm the only one that can fix this, but I need help on what to say. I need help understanding why he does the things he does. A guy's perspective would be really helpful right now.
These are just some of the strange things he's been doing lately:
-Earlier this week we went out with a big group of friends. He ignored me the entire time. He didn't hold my hand, put his arm around me, or even speak to me. He didn't even offer to pay for me (which is unusual for him). He was occupied with his friend and this girl the whole time. I confronted him about it and he said he just didn't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. (So apparently he doesn't care if I'm uncomfortable?)
-He turned 21 in January, but he never drinks. Never. But today his friend asked him to go to the bar with him, so he broke plans with me to go hang out with his friend. He had a good reason to go spend time with his friend (he's moving out of state), but he didn't invite me to hang out afterward. Not to mention the fact that he never goes to bars (his friend likes bars, but they have never gone together). Why would he want to hang out there all of a sudden?
-If he ever comes over to spend the night with me after an evening of hanging out, he just wants to go right to bed. But if I give the slightest hint that I want to have sex, all of a sudden he's awake. This makes me feel like the only quality time he wants to spend with me alone is if we're having sex. I'm thinking about stopping the sex altogether until things get better.
I'm just at a loss of how to fix this. Normally, if these things happened individually, I wouldn't give this stuff a second thought. But since it's all happen within a few days of each other, it's really starting to get to me. Suggestions?
he is treating you like crap right now i will say first of all. secondly, you need to decide what you want before you talk to him. whether you wasted three years or not. this is something to be upset about, he is going thru a rough time yes, but do you want to be there for him or not? and thirdly, if this is all going on you shouldn't be having sex, it isn't fair to you dear at all. so talk to him first let him know how you've been feeling.
back in janurary i cheated on my boyfriend after i told him i found out that on new years that he jumped out of a window and got a concussion and almost died. i ended up dumping the person i cheated with and went back with my original does that make me a player? i feel so horrible about it everytime i think about it i feel like a monster who doesnt deserve to live how do i deal with this
no. you made a mistake. and players don't feel guilty over what they have done. you do. you are a good person who made a bad decision. and you know now that you won't do it again, don't blame yourself.
I have been involved with my x-husband for 17 years now. We were married for 5 years and have been divorced for 2 years now. He has become so distant, and boring. We don't talk anymore, or do anything anymore and everytime I try to talk to him about our future he changes the subject. We used to talk about everything all the time. We were best friends. He doesn't answer any of my emails from work anymore. He doesn't call me on his lunch or breaks anymore. The only thing he wants to do when we have free time is sleep. Everytime I ask what he would like to do, he responds saying whatever you want to do, or whatever you want to eat. He asked me to remarry him 10 months ago, but I said No, I needed time. Now when I try to discuss the subject, he completly ignores me. Is this relationship over? When we aren't at work, we are always together so I don't think he is seeing anyone else. He has in the past, but I don't think he does it now. Does he not want me anymore. He shows differently than he speaks. What should I do? How should I address or approach it?
i am only nineteen, so i know i have a lot to learn. but maybe he is depressed, and going thru a mid life crisis. he probably needs you y his side, my advice is just don't lose faith in the idea of you two. one person in the relationship has always got to be trying to make it work. it's your time to pick up the slack, stay positive, and just be there for him. i'm sorry if i didn't help. i tried.
I need an honest viewpoint on this.
Lets say you're a 16 year old girl and you broke up with your 16 year old boyfriend (which is my case). You broke up with him because he's been giving you really obvious hints that he didn't wanna be together anymore. He even said so one time. After a week of breaking up, he sends you a text saying something like: "You're contagious because I cried for no reason last night"
and all of a sudden, you start seeing your ex boyfriend depressed. (he never was before...in fact, he was happy). He tries to flirt with you more... He doesn't eat at lunch...he feels really sad and crappy. He doesnt flirt with girls like he usually did to try and make you jealous. He just sits in your table at lunch and sulks.
If this was your case, do you think he's depressed over the break up?
Thank you
i do think that. if he isn't doing things that use to be in his daily routine life, then most likely it's true dear. try talking to him, and make sure he revolves around his friends. he needs them most right now.
Ook well this dude Is like hott but i like him because of his personality too..
And well he like went to this party thing and we slow dance there and then well asked me out and i said Yess.
And next saturday he came and so did i and well he wouldnt hang around mee..
And i said wtf?
He said he broke up with me..
WHAT?
He didnt call?
And then NEXT saturday hes surrounding by like 17 GIRLSS>.
And when i go and dance with my friends i see him staring at mee..
OMGG..
And well im just like okk?
And then two girls are talking to him and hes all pointing at me and the girls hug himm,
And sayy sorry?
I mean what is that?
I mean like is that sorry that he break up with mee?
This happened like 3 months ago and i cant get it out of my frekain headd?
How to you get stuff out of your head thats been there for like 3 months?
Please help i cryy everytime i think about it.
and well I need someone to call him and tell him how i feel..
So any volunteers?
Only if you have a yahoo!!
Ok?
Well COmment
sounds like he tried to act like towards the girls that you dumped him. he was trying to make the girls feel bad for him, to get attention or even get them to like him as a boyfriend. he seems like a jerk, exuse me for being so bluntly honest but he didn't he notify you about this alleged break up? he is immature, and you're better off without him. my advice is to find a new crush, and maybe flaunt it around this guy, he need to know what he missed out on. there is no way to make something leave your thoughts but you can also do things to take your mind off the situation.
alright so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 3 weeks nows.
there is a HUGE spark between us, and i love it.
he's my first hookup and honestly...
so when we kiss and stuff. i don't know. its good and romantic..but i don't know if i'm doing it right... is there even a right way to do it???
there isn't really any rules with kissing. i mean you just do whatever, and all is fair game. but some hints, have breath mints, or minty gum. (:
i have been with this kid for almost two years and all we have done is make out. i need to know how to give a hand job so when the time comes, i will be prepared. please help
you put your hand in his penis, and move your hand up and down on him. you don't squeeze it, just hold it. softly, you'll be able to tell that he likes it when you start off slow, and get faster and faster with it.