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it hurts and he doesint appreciate me but i love him
okay ive been with this guy for three years and we have been through our ups and downs..hes cheated on me three times and i have not cheated on him back nor have i cheated on him at all he says hes cheated on me because i make him feel like i dont care..he says its because of numerous of things like.when i dont answer his phone calls. after he disrespects me and i feel attacked i end up hanging up on him He calls me out of my name and says really mean things about me..so i end up hanging up on him. and he says thats one of the reasons why he does what he does is because i dont answer his calls he says that im just another girl in his phone and says that i just tell you i love you to make it sound good..he tells me all of this when we argue. but when we argue i dont say things liek that..i dont tell him that i got other dudes on the side or im just sayign i love you just to say it. I always forgive him and let things go..hes very insecure and points the finger at me. he gets mad for the most dumbiest reasons. we just had an arguement about how i dont tell him things..like he tells me when he gets new clothes and shoes...and he says that when i buy new clothes and shoes i dont tell him..like today he seen my new shoes and said why when i ask you have you bought any new shoes you jsut tell me you bought a pair but you have more than one. He says why dont you ever just tell me the truth i was like are you serious okay babe im sorry i will tell uyou next time he got so mad and was cutting me off when i was tryig to comprimise with him..and he jsut said whatever you just wanna say sorry and just drop it and end the problem your way. I honestly dont know why hes like this why he acts so angry and trippy off the most littlest things...im so lost ive been completely disrespected by him and been cheated by him. and i have forgave him for so much i let things go that usually no one would let go. He still doesint appreciate me doing that. He doesint see that my girl just forgave me for the most hurtfull things that ive done to her..Instead he keeps doing what he does and calls me out of my name and says that im worthless and just another B#### in his phone and that he can mess with me when he wants. I love this guy and your probebly thinking why? But i do and he also doesint see that he has told me you dont love me and i tell him are you serious i have forgave you for cheating on me disrespecting me that should show you that i love you a lot that im letting my guard down for you..I dont know what to do im so confused and lost, hurt, Every time he disrespects me and does thing to me he calls me back and says baby im sorry and that he needs me in his life and that im the reason why he acts crazy and disrespectful. I really dont see that I dont feel that im the reason of his wrong doings i feel that thats jsut what he wants to do..But i end up feeling sorry for him and take him back because i love him a lot. what should i do?
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i know exactly how you feel. you see this guy, i think hes taking advantage of you in some way, i dont know what but if hes saying all this stuff to you then why is he still with you? i think you should get over him...try the hardest, this guy aint worth it. he treats you like something to play with, its not right. he should appreciate the fact that he has a girlfriend that loves him to the end of earth and will forgive him no matter what. love is like that. you really need to get over him because a good girlfriend like you should not have to go through this. he isnt worth it. if hes calling you names, them y dont he just go find someone HE THINKS is better? you get what im saying?
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Something must be in the water!!! I just answered someone else who is going through something like this, heck, it may be the same guy! LOL
I know it's not funny, but what else can you do? laugh about his immaturity, put yourself first and move forward. Actually go to my advice column and you will see what I advised her. I am advising the same thing to you too. It's rather long - but it helped me. It starts off with me advising her that I know the place that she is in right now...here's a website to check out
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If you would rather me send it directly to you, just send an email to me and I will send it via email. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
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This guy is scum. Period. End of story.
He blames you for his cheating. That is wrong in every possible way. It also means he'll keep doing it, and keep saying it's your fault.
He bullies you about things that don't matter to keep you nervous and scared of him. He makes sure you feel sorry all the time, regardless of the fact that he is one who was wrong.
He tries to make you 'prove' your love and refuses to give him the slightest evidence of his.
He has made this entire relationship YOUR job. So when it goes wrong, it's YOUR fault.
You can't possibly, ever, be happy with him.
What should you do?
You should dump him obiviously.
You should develope a spine and dump his sorry ass and not take him back.
If you can't dump a guy who has treated you as horrible as this one has, and who goes on treating you this horribly, then frankly, you deserve the misery you are getting.
At some point you have to decide you have had enough and be strong enough to love yourself and take care of yourself. Only when that happens will you be able to move on. Until then, you are stuck in the same shitty cycle.
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you won't like my advice but seriously he treats you so badly b/c you let him do it. he clearly knows that he's made mistakes and does not care or feel bad about it. you have even told him how much he hurt you and still he has done it numerous times, it's ridiculous, and you need to put an end to it all. it's not fair to you, he disrespects you,and should never call you a B****. that's so wrong on so many levels. and you deserve someone who will make you happy most of the time, not feel weaker and like you are worthless. break up with him. see if he tries to change his error of ways, and if he does, take him back one last time. and if he still keeps messing things up, move on girl. a smart one like you knows better. i always say this ' fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me' .. he's already cheated three times, how much more are you willing to take? he needs to learn, and isn't. good luck dear!
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